Your sis is fucked up
When you say ex how long ago did you date? And obviously they have 2 kids so they have been together least 2 years you need to suck it up love your sister and her kids and live a happy life for yourself and let the man go
Fuck that !!! She’s a grimy bitch !!! Anybody that says that she’s not wrong for getting with your ex , is also a grimy bitch !!!
If he was your ex then I don’t see the problem. Obviously y’all weren’t together so why can’t she date/marry him
If they have two kids than they been together for a while! Get over it! If you don’t wanna go to wedding then don’t go. But they’re gonna know your bitter and mad (after all these years) 
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If they’ve got two kids together you should probably have got over it by now
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I think you’re being silly. He is your EX, get over it
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Loves blind, she im sure didnt have any feeling when you were together as time passed im sure whatever happened to have them collide they just got feelings at that point. If you dont have feelings and its an ex why not just be happy yes its funny dinner convo haha you married my ex. If she started dating him right after you no feelings considered then id be like ok dont go be petty or wear white to the wedding. Otherwise move on
He’s an ex. I get you may still have some type of feelings for him. But have you tried expressing that to your sister before she got involved with him? I mean they got two kids together now. I feel like it’s a little late to be getting upset personally. You don’t have to go to the wedding and that is between you and your sister. But I would wish them well. I mean they are a family and obviously really want to be one. I am not trying to sound crappy. So, I apologize if I do. But I just really think this is something that should have been talked about way before the kids and stood firmly on it.
I can completely understand your feelings, but I think after all this time you need to let it go and wish them happiness. Bitterness isn’t attractive on anyone.
I can see it from her perspective a bit. I became best friends with my college roommate, like lifelong best friends. A while after we met she ran into an ex boyfriend that she still cared about (not romantically but they were friendly) and invited him to our shared apartment. When I met him I fell HARD for him and we ended up dating for a couple of years and having a baby together. It took my friend a little while to wrap her head around it but she did and we’re still great friends (my son is almost 17 so you can see how long our friendship has lasted). We had a couple of tough conversations in the beginning but I never felt like I wronged her bc he was her ex. The only real difference is that I never knew them as a couple. I met them both after they broke up. A sister can’t really say the same, so there’s another layer to your story, and I understand that. But it’s been a long time, and they are a family. Even if you didn’t like that they started, you can still be happy they’re happy together, and wish them, and your nieces/nephews, the very best moving forward. Go to the wedding, be happy for them, let go of the bitterness, and go be happy yourself.
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They have 2 kids together, you had to have known marriage was a strong possibly.
Your feelings are valid, but it’s definitely time to move forward with your life. Sounds like you have at least a 2 year span to collect yourself.
Don’t let her finding love where you didn’t, ruin your love between y’all (if you have/had any)
You said he’s your “ex”… so wish them well…!!
Work to get past this and so many doors will open for you. Please heal yourself sis!
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Ask someone ur sister has dated to go to her wedding with you haha
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Why because she could not get her own but no you should not be mad your not with him any longer .
Are you related to the person who posted about being her seeing her sister’s ex? Lol
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Buuut… He’s your ex though? If you really love him and her, you would just be happy that they found happiness.
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Your sister is weird AF for that:woozy_face:
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This seems to be a theme on this page.
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Idk what type of families y’all come from but this would NEVER fly in my family. I agree with letting it go but that’s for you ONLY. I wouldn’t attend the wedding and I wouldn’t have a sister anymore as far as I’m concerned she destroyed the relationship not u. You don’t owe her anything.
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Sorry sweetie. It happens. Ur sister is more important than the hate in ur heart. Let it go and be there 4 her
Never in a million years would I go to that wedding.
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Sometimes you cant help who you fall in love with, it just happens hun and im so sorry your hurting over this…but now you gotta be the bigger person, wish them well, be happy for your sister and support her and start to work on yourself and getting over the feelings you still have for him(if you do) and about there relationship. It will be okay 
just give it time! YOU will also be okay!
So is your sister an Ex too. I guess I don’t get it.
I have been through some gigantic hurtful personal injustices in my lifetime. The examples of my parents led me to believe being the bigger person , moving on leaves us sleeping peaceful and our hearts in a better place.
My sister married my husband’s ex-wifes brother so know its still his brother in law 
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So. Just do not go. But, if you were not going with him when she started dating him, grow up and get over it. You only want him now because she has him.
Nope I wouldn’t be going how disgusting that your sister has over stepped the line by dating your ex morally disgusting
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Yes Go hold your head up and let him go,Your sister is still your family take time and it will work out
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Oh come on prince Charles married his ex girlfriends sister too. Come on honey, your over that wish them the best and go to the wedding
He’s an ex for a reason. As long as he’s not toxic for her and she’s happy, be happy for your sister 
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I think it depends on how long you guys were together and how long you were exs before she started dating him. If you guys were together for years and she started dating him right away, then hell no dont go, but if you didnt date too long and it was a good while(id say years) before they got together then be there for your sister, if you guys do have a good relationship
Err. If yall are broken up and they met by chance/got romantic much later on, your feelings matter zilch. 
how about get over yourself and stop thinking you can control someone else’s life.
Go to therapy, grow up, and support your sister being happy.
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Go and get the free meal.
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Wow. Some of these answers are so mean. She asked for advice. She did not ask to be insulted. SMH
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Honestly you don’t have to go if it makes you uncomfortable still. I’m not sure if you had a talk with your sis before all that happened. Someone posted a while ago she married her sisters ex too and was beat up about her sister not wanting to talk to her. I hope you have a convo with her and let her know how you feel, your feelings are valid and I wouldn’t want to be some where, I’m not truly happy.
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They deserve each other. Family doesn’t ways equate to loyalty so keep that toxicity at arm’s length and go do something else on their wedding day.
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Its very hurtful. My sister had a fling with an Ex boyfriend of mine and told the whole family I would probably be mad at her before I even knew. It has been 30 years and it’s still tense in our sister relationship. It mostly hurtful because she has told EVERYONE.
Nope, I have a ex that I still love more than anything. If one of my family members did that to me I’d ( you know what) them.
Wierd wasn’t there just a post not long ago about a lady who said she married her sisters ex? And everyone was saying how gross and disrespectful she was for doing that. Yet here everyone is saying get over it???
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You’re not silly!! Don’t go to the wedding! Your feelings are important and valid. Your sister should have NEVER done this to you especially knowing how you felt about him. To the women asking for more information and a timeline, there doesn’t need to be one. You don’t do this to your siblings, you don’t do this to someone you’re supposed to love and have their back.
He isn’t worth losing your sister over. Besides, she has kids with him. Get over him, it’s been years!
A sister doesn’t date another sisters ex. And those who do simply don’t have respect.
I’ve known of sisters taking each other’s husband and destroying their relationship due to that. It just blows my mind families do this. Such disrespect!
Depends on the circumstances how long was you broken up for before they got together for 1? his your ex for a reason? They have 2 kids together surely it’s been long enough to get over him or use to that they are together. Weirdly enough my mum married 2 brothers separately obviously and everyone gets on fine. It can be done put your big girl knickers on and move on or 100% remove yourself from all of it.
I don’t know what advice to give you, all I can say is I am so sorry that this happened to you. If you don’t want to go that is understandable but if you do, that is also understandable. Just do what feels right for you xx
Has he got a brother? If so go to the wedding support your sister then sleep with his brother yeah childish I know but might make you feel better obviously you know he’s always going to be around they’ve got 2 kids so it’s obviously been going on at the very least 2 years with a small age gap so why only now do you have a problem?
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Go to the wedding ENJOY THE FREE BAR! move on with.your life… when you look back you will be happier with.how you handled the situation than how she did! Xxxxx MAKE SURE YOU GET A PLUS ONE! TAKW THE MOST DIVINE MAN!
OR… TAKE ONE OF US! 
Thats not a sister, absolute shitty behaviour on both parts hes your ex he should know better and shes your sister defo a line ya dont cross. Id get a yummy toyboy to take as my plus one to the wedding hahaha hold ya head high girl.
Do what makes you happy,you will know what to do or not do when the time comes.
I think it’s very silly and you should just be happy for your sister… Grow up and be mature about it, she’s obviously happy with him. Sounds like a selfish reason not to attend your sister’s wedding if she wants you there.
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No. If u were close to ur sister then she would not have went there to begin with. Don’t go.
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This is so sad. Family ain’t shit. If it hurts you don’t let people tell you because she’s family…
That’s bullshit! If being around them hurts then protect yourself! Don’t go and wish them well and move on even that means you distance yourself. Who know maybe down the road when your spirit your soul is fully healed you can have a relationship with her and your nieces or nephews. Don’t let people tell you what they think is best for you. Jmho
Think you need to work out why you feel so strongly. Don’t think there is enough information here to determine rights and wrongs.
Are you upset because they have found a happiness that you didn’t find with him? Separate yourself entirely and work out your own feelings and happiness. He is an ex for a reason, would you be so upset if he was marrying someone else or if your sister was?
If you feel you can’t attend then don’t but it would be good to try and work out your negative feelings as they are not healthy for you. Someone else will not make you happy, you will be happy when you accept where you are and choose where you are going xxx
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nah if it’s uneasy for you i wouldn’t attend. no reason to make yourself uncomfortable and appear uncomfortable. rather just let them have their joyful day.
seems like sister doesn’t hear you or your feelings very well.
while communicating them thoroughly, as you should, it is her choice to respect you as her sister.
now is time to respect yourself and your own energy. let them be them, it’s not your fault. i’m sorry. the situation seems very insensitive on their end and that’s not fair to you.
if you can accept the relationship, kudos to you.
but you are not in the wrong to be upset and not attend.
if you aren’t acknowledged fully, and you should have been because sister + ex just common sense like there’s a conversation that needs to be had on all ends of the party. they didn’t respect you.
my take on it. i hope you find peace with your decision and your sister
Get over it already. They must love each other other and they have two kids so enough time has passed for you to get on with your life.
this happened to me!!! I swear! My little sister and my ex ! And I was in the wedding! They have been together for like 13 years or so. They have 4 beautiful babies! If they are happy then I’m happy for them!!
You’re totally entitled to your heartache and feeling. My advice is you should go get therapy and find the way to overcome the heartache. Honestly sometimes some people aren’t meant for each other. I’ve learned that when one door closes a better entrance is ahead. Trust that there is someone meant for you around the corner and will be all you’ve always wanted and more.
Probably th most hurtful thing is tht neither came to you first and explained their attraction towards each other. It felt sneaky and pull th rug out from under u. Very unsettling for sure. In th right time, express this to thm. Try and clear th air so ALL involved can walk into being their best selves where living is good. Forgiveness is not saying that someone is right. It is for your own heart and healthy emotions.
I wouldn’t be upset she’s happy with him all I’d have is fear they’d be to her how they were to me. But my exes stomped on my heart like it was floor mat in front of a front door and they had really filthy boots on. I’d tell her my concerns and everything she needs to know but if she decides to still go thru with it I’d be happy she’s happy.
Not knowing the whole story I can’t say go or stay home. I married my sister ex. 20yrs later. She cheated on him and took his daughter away from him. So not knowing the whole story matters when asking for advice
It’s a tough situation but the best thing you can do is be happy for them Life’s too short to have the feeling of hate towards anybody they are your family it runs thicker than blood because tomorrow’s not promised! So live the best of today and sometimes when you love someone you have to let them go and be happy for them . I dont know you but I do know most people are stronger then they look !god only gives us what we can handle best wishes for you and I hope you find peace
Your sister is a snake. PERIOD! And you are not obligated to go to their wedding
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She crossed the line!!! You have the right to feel the way you feel! She stabbed you in the back as a sister! I wouldn’t even include her in my life anymore, more less go to their sham of a wedding… smfh… screw them! 
Hey life happens, he wasn’t caged to you. People need to get over this way of thinking that someone is off limits because they date or whatever just because it didn’t work for them. Move on and find your self love first and heal
He’s your ex for a reason and sure you’re upset and have animosity towards your sister, then don’t go to the wedding. However, you need to get over it bc she already has kids with the guy and that’s not going to change. You need to forgive and forget and be an aunt and a sister…the sister in law portion yea that’s a no go lol 
Im confused how this hurts you now but they had 2 kids together and your just bringing this up now? Its sound like you might be jealous. And that’s ok because its a sticky situation but you should be happy for her that she’s completing her family. It didn’t work out with you and him for a reason.
1 of the reasons I’m glad not to have a sister . I would not attend that’s , cold hearted for her to do that
That’s hard. It’s messed up any sibling would do that to another sibling. Same with ex’s going after their partners siblings. I’d just let it go. If u eventually rekindle a friendship with your sister great. But take time to heal yourself from this. You obviously have a right to be pissed. But don’t let it take over everything in your life. It’s not worth you not living your best life. Go and “support “ them at the wedding and you don’t gotta talk to them or see them until your ready. But I’d go and and “be the bigger person” and then vanish until my mind is cleared and I could say I was fully over the situation
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My boyfriend of 2 years used to mess around with my sister years ago… We now have been raising my first daughter together since she was 6 months old and im 9 months pregnant with OUR first…
My sister was really mad at first but now we all hang out all the time and they are like family…
Some of these comments are gross. Move on and grow up? Her sister should have had some loyalty and respect for her.
Weather you go or not they are still getting married. There will be no impact on them if you go or don’t go. They clearly made the decision to be together regardless of your feelings. The best thing you can do for yourself is do what makes you happy. Do whatever is good for your mental health. Grow from this experience and become the better person. Remember you can’t expect people to treat you they way you treat them. We all sadly forget about. What’s done is done & it’s time to move forward and do what’s best for you.
Your feelings are so valid! You don’t want to go then don’t go. Don’t worry about upsetting her as she clearly wasn’t worried about upsetting you. Xx
Since you’re asking for opinions, I say get over it. That’s your sister and nieces or nephews.
I think it really depends. How long was between the relationships, how long has each relationship been
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1 they have 2 kids together it’s time to grow up it obviously been a long time, and u broke up for a reason time to move on it should have been hard for maybe 5 months then it’s time to pick yourself up and move on your sister is obviously in love with him and he loves her
If the shoe was on the other foot 
& your sister didn’t come to your wedding 
how do you think you would react or feel ask your self … then make your decision whether you go and bite your tongue or just don’t go .
She has 2 children with him so I assume some time has past …
I wouldn’t go. I can relate. You have every right to be hurt. Feel your feelings. Some day you’ll hopefully move beyond it. Take space. Don’t force yourself to feel a way you don’t feel.
I mean, I have dated brothers before lol I know that’s not necessarily the same as what’s going on here. But what I can tell you is that I dated someone I grew up with. Him and his siblings were mine and my brothers best friends. When we got older I dated one of the brothers. It didn’t work out. A few years later, I got asked out by the older brother and I ended up being with him for almost a year. It didn’t work out with either one of them but it did cause some trouble between the two (even tho brother 1 was married by the time I was dating brother 2) I was young and wasn’t thinking about the fact that it could cause a rift between the two. Looking back, I’m not sure if I would have made the same decision. But I also know that I wasn’t treated well by brother 1 and he moved on. So I did too. And never with any intention of purposefully trying to date his brother. We were all friends our whole lives and it just sort of happened. Did your sister and your ex know each other in that sort of way? I mean, were they friends before? There is a lot that’s missing here. But I mean, if you’re still upset, don’t go. But this is something you should bring up with your sister as the reason why you’re not going to go. Have you brought this up before now? I mean, they have two kids together so if it was this much of a problem for you then maybe you should have brought it up sooner?
Did you ever give your sister hand me downs? Cause she must like having sloppy seconds as well as living in your shadow. I don’t understand how siblings can wanna date someone thier sibling has dated. To me that’s just stepping to far, you should have spoke up and told your sister how you were feeling when she started dating ur ex. If you didn’t speak up that’s on you. So you can either suck it up and go to the wedding. Or don’t go and do something else with your time.
She wouldn’t be my sister anymore. Thats disrespectful, hurtful and shows she can’t be trusted. Set some boundaries bc she obviously has none.
I would go, I know it’s a sticky situation… but JUST know not to fuck with your sis on that level … and BOSS UP 
. When people do you like that, they will eventually feel bad 
I’m one to try to see a positive in things. I personally would be pissed. I would also be happy for them. It hurts but there is somebody out there that’s right for you.
I’d have a thrown down with my sister’s if they tried that!
There’s like an unspoken rule about that shit.
I’m so sorry she did that too you. Rude as fuck in my opinion
I would wear a fancy ass white dress to my sisters wedding if she pulled some shit like this. Wait for the “does anyone object” line and start with the “I just think it’s funny how…” no way,
Gosh, Idk if I could forgive that for a very long time and probably wouldn’t be able to go to the wedding. I’d be crushed! Her sister is just ridiculous! All the fish in the sea !
Whats your relationship been like with your sister since shes been with him? If you have accepted it over the years then you dont really have any reason to not attend the wedding… but if you never forgave her, dont have anything to do with their kids or them, then i think you shouldnt go to the wedding. People want others love and support on their wedding day,if you cant give that then best stay away.
Wear white to the wedding. 
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Thats bad, I wouldn’t go to the wedding either.
U still gotnfeeling for him if it’s bothering u that bad… Bc I can’t think of one x that it would bother me if my sis was with…
I wouldn’t want to go either honestly. Clearly some people even the ones that are family don’t have boundaries.
I wouldn’t go to the wedding and I would forget my toxic sister
Not enough information to give you any advice. I can clearly tell you still have feelings for him though.
These days people have no respect anymore but hey, if they had kids those kids were meant to be. Just think about the kids. That’s all the good to come from a situation like that
They have two kids already and your complaining now??
Did you not say anything to her before they had kids?? Like kids don’t just pop up one day
Never let a man come between you?
If you’re invited, go . Wish them well & move on.
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Go. It’ll take time to get over it but you might regret not going in a few years
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I can never go to such a wedding
For Haven sakes grow up
You must not have wanted him
Fuck no I wouldn’t. I also would never do that to family