I would sit down with him and tell him that while you love his kids, you need to make them a priority for you. In terms of the financials, I would tell him that while you respect and understand his need to relax and blow off steam, that you need to be able to do those things too and are unable to due to the financial burden all falling on you. Get the family bills out and explain that he needs to pay half of everything. If he cant make those changes then you need to give yourself some space and decide if you want to continue to be in this relationship
I’m praying for you to have the strength to tell him to leave. Hes not going to miraculously change with no motivation. You need to protect your child and your self. Immediately.
Do not stay with someone who doesnt help and bonus called you names.
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You should have never allowed that behavior toward your child. I do not see things working out if you don’t get him to understand your son and your are his top priority and he is supposed to be at the very least as contributing as you to his family life and expenses.
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If you’re “S.O.” can’t love your child then he shouldnt be in your bed. That’s first and foremost. Your child should come before any man!!! I had to come back and edit because I read the rest.
Giiiiirrrllll, kick the mofo out your house. He is using you for a place to see his kids. Now he think because your currently pregnant with his new child, he can control the situation. Get him TF out now. His kids will still call you, even though yall aren’t together. But your kids come first, even the one inside you.
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Your kids come first. The heartbreaking look on your kids face when he pushes him away when he goes in for a hug should be it. His behavior won’t change. No child should feel rejected. When a man is with YOU, he takes on your children as well. If he can’t accept that, then move on. No child deserves that. Why is this even a question?
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He is mentally abusing you and your kid… Trust me when I say this (from past experience) get out of it now because when your son gets older he will be angry at you for it. It has taking yrs of therapy for me to forgive my mom just a little bit and I still have issues today.
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Please kick him to the curb, you and your children deserve better! If anything do it for your son otherwise you will regret it later in life because your son will always be scared for life!
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Nobody can take advantage of you without your permission. BUT your boys depend on you you protect them. Doing the right thing isn’t always the easy thing.
Those scars from the damage he is doing to them will NEVER leave! It sounds like you are supporting all of you anyway! This is abuse and I hope you have the strength to leave! A real man will love you AND your children, contribute to household bills, and build up and encourage the family unit! Best wishes with this horrible situation!
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Children always come first.Protect your child.Please.
Sweetie, get out of that situation. If he truly loved you the way he should, this would never be an issue. Your children will be the ones to suffer the most. God bless.
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I’m praying he sees his behavior, but I can tell you from experience, he probably won’t. I understand you love him and you are having his child, but my question is, do you want your son to believe that is what a man is? Would you want your daughter in a similar situation? I pray that you do what is best for you AND your children.
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Your kids should come before this man. I don’t care how great he treats you and his children. Plus, some of that behavior is really damaging to children. You don’t need advice. You know exactly what to do…it’s just hard to it.
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Sweetie cut the strings he’s not worth it!! You need someone that will be there for you and your son!! Not put his needs ahead of your own and shove yours aside! Prayers for you and your little family.
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Doesn’t sound healthy for you, your son or your child on the way. Much better to struggle, be alone and safe then to be in an abusive relationship…he is clearly not worth it.
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Better yet…have the locks changed and put his things outside the door. No contribute to the house you live in…go find another.
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You should have already thrown him to the curve. Make sure he pays child support for the one you are carrying. He doesn’t care about you or your children.
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Uhh…this is a no brainer! Shape up or get out! Simple! What kinda man chooses to not support his family!? And treat your kids badly oh hell no! Seriously.
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Think about your kids and what is a better environment for them. A relationship cannot be one sided, period!
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He gots to go . Not to judge but why get in a relationship to a man who shows no love for your children? .
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I believe you are a very smart woman. You know what to do. He’s using you and treating your son badly. I don’t understand having a boyfriend live in the same house as your son, it’s too confusing for him. The son should always come 1st.
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You and your son deserve better. That’s complete bullshit. If you decide to be with someone who has kids, those are your kids now. My husband has a son from a previous relationship. I treat him exactly like I treat our daughter. As far as I’m concerned he is my son. Don’t accept less than you deserve, and stand up for your son. You both deserve better.
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Does not sound like its healthy for you or your children. I would suggest space and at least counseling. If he isn’t game, don’t let him keep treating your family like this.
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I’m going to go out on a limb and say it’s hard to leave when she’s pregnant with his child. If you choose to stay, I would suggest counseling to find out why he is having a hard time connecting with your son. It’s not healthy for your son to feel the way he is. Prayers to you.
And you are with this person WHY? I would fight a freight train for my babies and they are grown! Priorities!
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hunny - don’t take all your energy to stay - take your energy, pack his crap and tell him to get out.
He DOESN"T care. he’s using you to take care of his kids, and to take care of him.
and when you stand up to him - he’s going to offer ALL the pretty words of “i’m sorry” “I’ll be better” “I’ll Change” and in a week - MAYBE a month it will be right back where you’re at now.
tell his kids that you love them… but that he’s not treating you well, he’s not treating your son well - and as much as you wish you could be a family - HE is not acting like all of you are a family and that it is not THEIR fault.
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Definitely a no brainers boot his ass out . He cant contribute . And the way he treats your kids BOOT HIM
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If you don’t put your kids first years from now you will feel so guilty and your kids will also leave the house as soon as they can and will resent you for not putting them first. Do not put your kids through this It will. You want them to have good memories to look back on.
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Freeloader!! He was looking for someone to take care of him and his… your son is just an obstacle to that…
You already know the answer, stop posting and start packing!!!
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It’s only going to get worse. Your child does not deserve that. Think of him - no one else!
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Prayers for you hun, I’ve been there many times and that is exactly what hat u need to do it took me awhile myself to realize that letting go is easier than u think when it comes to your children 
keep your head up do what’s right with u and your son
I believe you answered your own question towards the end… good luck only you know what you can deal/put up with
You need to leave. He isn’t doing anything for you or your son. He needs to go.
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i wouldn’t have been in a relationship with him in the first place and sure as hell wouldn’t be having a kid with him
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Kick his ass to the Curb!!! You & your children deserve so much better, If not you’ll regret it later on
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He is a loser if he loves u he would treat your kids like if they were his your and your kids deserve better you kids come first your son is after love and affection and he pushes him away it will affect your son find someone else u deserve it
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That would be the day anyone treated my child that way…Wake up…
What Purpose Is He Serving?
Why do you even think you need someone like that. Your paying all the bills .He treats you and your child like shit. He will continue treating y’all like that if you let him. I wonder how many nights your son cry’s himself to sleep wondering why he’s not good enough. Sounds like you know what to do, so just do it. Why would you want a man that treats your son like that. Smdh. Just got to get rid of his ass. If you think it’s bad now wait until you have his baby. Your son should be the most important person in your life.
Girl, you already know what you need to do! It’s only going to get worse when the baby comes and your sons are going to be even more hurt with the affection he’s going to give your child your pregnant with. You have to give him an ultimatum now. Many prayers for you and this difficult decision!
Id get my kids and get out of there… His kids sound to grown for him to be making you coddle them when he doesnt show the same to yours…he sounds selfish and self centered. Dont show your son thats how a man is supposed to be. Have some respect for yourself and your kids…honestly i hope he didnt show these signs before you got pregnant.
It can’t be easy, but if you don’t lose him now, you will lose your son over time.
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Why are you putting a man above and before your kids. I’m sorry but maybe give your son to someone who will put him first since you wont.
You should leave. He’s being a bully . Not only to the children but to you
Run and run now b4 it’s too later bc otherwise ur child will grow up resenting u for this
Toxic relationship you need to take your son and leave his behavior can affect your son in the future you can do bad by yourself
Get out if this situation because once you have yall child it will get worse for you and your kids…he incapable of.loving
That is seriously toxic. I dated a guy like this. Run for the hills honey!
Are you serious, you already know what needs to be done,smdh,why would you put a man before your child, that’s just absolutely ridiculous plus he’s not even respectful to you 
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Really there’s a question here? Show him the door is and say hit it buddy ,get out!
Leave… not only for your sake but your children…
You already feel the red flags 
waving at you or you wouldn’t be here sharing everything you did and asking for advice. If this was someone else’s post you were reading what would you be thinking and wanting to say for advice?
Do not let your son suffer for another minute. It will only get worse with time. And, have your child support taken from his check instead of waiting for him to pay you for the new baby, or you will be fighting it forever.
Leave. Your boys will always remember if you leave to protect them…or not.
Get out now he isn’t going to change, been there done that and didn’t want the t-shirt.
What are you waiting for the writing is on the wall. If you stay it will get worse not better.
Kick his a** to the curb. Because if you are the sole bread winner what do you need him for.
Kick his ass out you is a mom first you got to stand up for your baby Cause nobody else will like you
He sounds abusive, controlling and cold… watch your boys around him, sounds like he’ll be trying to smack them around in no time, he probably treats them like crap when your not around. I wouldn’t build a life with someone like that…
Change the locks pack his crap and tell him to hit it. You say your paying the Bill’s so why should you disrupt your son’s life to move or yours? Get a restraining order and move on with your life. Get some counseling for your son AND you. To help have better self esteem and know you will make better choices for your family when you Feel better about yourself. You will have higher standards and Dont except less than those standards your worth it. You have a rough road ahead of you. Bet with family friends counseling you got this. You CANT CHANGE THIS MAN. Sloppy seconds dont just never fuel the soul. Just breeds discontents. Bring inner peace to your family. Prayers
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I’m sorry but if you have to ask facebook for advice, you need some serious help. No Mother would allow this. Your job is to protect your childs wellbeing. Are you doing that? Your Son deserves better.
Please don’t let him treat your children like that . My mom married an ass hat who treated me like shit . Don’t do that to your children !
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Seriously though, it’ll only get worse after the baby comes. Leave now.
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My husband treats his kids like princesses and treats my oldest son like crap
YOUR KIDS come first!!!
You have to…your kids come first
I will leave. No man will treat my kids like shit
Kick Him to the curb… Your son deserves to be treated with love and respect too… So sad 
Uummm… why are you still with him? Common sense lady
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Tell him to hit the road…
The heart that’s meant to love you will love all of y’all.
Please take a stand for yourself and your boys.
Choose your children, everytime over anyone…
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You answered your own question!!!
Honey you need to go on with your life. Being a single parent is nothing new. You deserve better and so does your son. God bless you.
You need to show him the door. You and your son deserve better.
Dead weight!!! If you’re paying for EVERYTHING, then why even have him around? Clearly you can do what you need without him!! Kick that P.O.S. to the curb!!!
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It doesn’t sound like a healthy relationship.
I had one of those and I kicked him to the curb
Your children are your number one priority…end of!!!
Get out of there now for you and son he is using u
You took the words out of my mouth yourself! Tell him to kick rocks!
Leave him. Your son is being hurt by this.
Pack his things, change the locks and send him on his way.
You need to tell him to get out, it’s not going to get better, this isn’t the right guy
If a man ever did that go my kid I would leave and sorry but if u DNT u crazy
You already know the answer, you came here for validation. You don’t need us to tell you. You already know.
You already know the answer to your problem. By by man. Hello kids.
break up with him. This man is abusing your son.
No man no father babe let him go you and yours are worth more!!!
Do it say goodbye he’s a user
Poor thing this isn’t a relationship its abuse.
Tell him to hit the road he don’t deserve you
Get rid of the dead weight
Kick him to the curb!!! He sounds like an Ass!!
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Even if you don’t feel like you deserve better your son does
Run and don’t look back
Come on now, kick him to the curb. At least you know he will be good to the child you share. But let him go!
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He needs to be gone!
Let him go ASAP NO IF AND OR BUTS🤷🏾♀️
End this relationship ASAP
Send his ass packing