A daughter is a daughter for life…A Son is a Son until he takes a wife! Nuttin you can do…but don’t worry about it…dont buy anything. Don’t change yourself to please her…
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Looking at it from a slightly different angle… Whats your sons wife’s relationship with her own mother? Just asking because this sounds like how my mother was with my nan… She wouldn’t like to accept any help from my dad’s mum, and that because her mother disowned her and left her with huge anxiety issues… Just a thought. I wouldn’t say I was exactly the same when it came to my partner and his mother, I would accept gifts when bought for our unborn children and what not, but there would be times where I felt like she was kind of stepping on our toes a bit and trying to be a bit controlling/interfering… Maybe she just sees it that way? I think your son needs to talk with his wife/gf and just ask her nicely if everything’s okay etc…?
Absolute no respect from the sons wife, that’s his mother, she gave birth to him, nurtured and cared for him and he and the wife need to remember that! This wont end nice if your sons wife keeps this up and the son will have to make a decision at some point, grow some balls young man, show your mum love and respect… it’s like aul mrs Brown says, “I brought you into this world, and I can still take you out of it” 
I’d quit buying them stuff. Y’all are getting them stuff out of the kindness of your hearts. A gift does not have to be what they asked for. It’s not like they’re paying for it
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Your wife is acting like a spoiled brat and I feel sorry for your parents and most of all I feel sorry for you to be caught in the middle All she’s doing is causing a lot of hardship and when the babies comes it will be twice is bad if you don’t try to take care of it
I understand both sides. A lot of people have a certain theme or colors of outfits already picked for their parties. Not everyone has the same taste in clothing and things they like and there is nothing wrong with that. I never liked what my moms taste was and my daughter doesn’t always care for mine. So now I take her with me & let her pick out her own gifts & everyone is happy. If the daughter in law was rude then that isn’t okay but if she was honest and said she didn’t like them then I think I would be great full that she was an honest and open person because being genuine is a great quality
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As much as it hurts, if I was your wife, I would explain her feelings to the son, and refrain from giving them anything except gift cards for a while.
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Dont buy anything else it wouldnt hurt them to wear the shirts one day just to be decent. She could have asked to exchange the gift she could have said thank you and put in the closet and never used the gift but she just wants to be rude instead. I wouldnt buy anything else.
20$ gift cards no more …they will learn beggers can’t be choosers and one day they will respect hopefully
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Honestly. I would just give her gift cards for now on. Amazon. So she can buy what she wants. She is childish. And i would have said alot worse back. So ima give her a hand clap because your wife could have went way worse. So ppl are just rude. And the gf sounds like a rude prude. So give her gift cards. Btw every single thing my kids or i ever got i said THANK YOU. if she couldn’t form those words. Dont buy her shit.
Sounds like MIL and DIL need to bond so that MIL can better purchase things to DIL taste and DIL can appreciate a gift given by MIL instead of assuming it’s a territory move. These women are simply not on the same page.
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I wouldn’t bother to buy her anything personal gift cards if you must but I wouldn’t bother with additional gifts or just a card
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I would open an savings account for the baby and put money in the account. Then when the grandbaby gets a bit older get them (baby) a gift since you know what toys they like…
Ask what they want or provide a receipt with the gift, so they can exchange it, if they have double ups or dont like it, thats what I did.
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My ex husbands mom got pissed when she couldn’t name my first child. Tell your wife to back off. She doesn’t need to have a say on everything in your sons life…
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It is good to be grateful… Maybe the mother in law could tell her daughter in law to choose what she likes and then mother in law can offer to pay for it instead
Not good but I wouldn’t buy her nothing ever again appreciate what you get even if you don’t like it
Gift cards are always safe territory!
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It sounds like there’s a deeper issue, some sort of resentment toward your wife and she’s using the denial of gifts to try to say it.
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This could be as simple as two people with vastly different tastes. It’s not rude to not like what someone else picked out. Asking what they’d like before buying isn’t unreasonable. You could also go with gift cards.
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Sounds ungrateful and selfish to me. I wish I had a MIL that I was close with.
I wouldn’t sugar coat it and tell them how it is straight up.
Idc but fuck her. I would never do that to my MIL even if I didn’t like something. If you don’t like you significant others parents then don’t join the family plain and simple.
It is a gift! She should say thank you and carry on! WTH is this ungrateful BS!
Do not buy them anything if it is a birthday or Christmas get a gift card but she may mot like that either
She’s a super insecure tart , eh?
You’re poor wife. No matter what she does, it won’t be “ right”. Until his gf matures , it won’t change. She will need to learn coping methods when dealing with the toxic tart so it doesn’t tear her apart.
Don’t get any gifts at all and see how she likes that
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Don’t give them shit until they learn to show some daggone respect.
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Sounds like they are ungrateful, entitled brats. I would say if you need something let me know. Stop wasting your money.
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She should accept gifts with appreciation. She sounds like a witch
In my personal life, I’m a finance to a lovely man. But I think he can be a push over, and is kind of brain washed over his parents. When I got pregnant, me and him didn’t know what we wanted to do. We thought about lots of options. We just didn’t plan to be parents that early in life, but we decided to have our baby boy. But when his mom found out I was pregnant, she tried to control everything. My baby shower, how I wanted to do the gender reveal, how we were gonna raise him on our beliefs and not force him into Christianity like his parents wanted. Me and my mother-inlaw got into it. She would call me disrespectful because of the things I wanted for my child and how I didn’t really come from a family of hugs or affection so I wouldn’t accept her hugs and she would take it as a sign of disrespect. So in my point of view, that Daughter in law maybe seem disrespectful but maybe it’s how she was raised or maybe she and the mother got into it. Maybe it’s a way to control the family I have no clue. But they should talk things out. To each other and not just talk to the son. Talk to the daughter in law.
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A Thank you or I appreciate you goes a long way.
The son needs to have a talk with his disrespectful wife !
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Just give them money and tell them to get what they want with it.
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My son’s wife is the same way, so I just stopped doing things for them, and told them both why.
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Sounds like your sons soon to be wife is a ungrateful bitch.
I didn’t like everything my mother inlaw got but I appreciated the gesture and would never in a million years disrespect her.
I wouldn’t give her a damn thing anymore since she dont appreciate it and as for your son, he should have a back bone and stick up for his mom.
Just my opinion 
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Don’t buy the ungrateful cow anything!
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Step back and get her a voucher
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say no at their wedding ina!!@@@
Maybe it’s not even about the gifts… Maybe there is a deeper issue that needs to be addressed and it’s coming out in that way…
Maybe have a sit down with the 4 of you and try and figure it out and a way forward… You are all family now and don’t want to isolate your son and grandkids…
Maybe you should sit down and talk it out.
Tell her to kick rocks
Don’t buy them shit! Not even a gift card. Ungrateful asses!
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There is more to the story. Lets have it
ungrateful disrespectful
i had a meddling mother in law
who refused to let go of unfaithful ex wife…I jst refused to have any part of her…
i also have rude disrespectful daughter in law
i refuse to have her be a kill joy in my life …
my son…his wife…his life…
their children
grown man…has chosen …
this generation is nothing like ours my son LISTENS TO HIS UNFAITHFUL WIFE FOR THE SAKE OF THE 6 BOYS HE DONT WANT TO LEAVE WITH OUT A FATHER nothing is sacred in these days
the norm is not the normal
disrespectful ,disloyal,having no natural affection,not open to any agreement,…2 Timothy 3:1-6
it helps to understand the why
old-school is jst that:
we were taught to respect our elders…that disaproving look was all that was needed in public
Dont let it bother you …
let it be
let it go
enjoy an cherish the memories
grandchildren grow up an they will visit with their children HAVE SEEN IT WITH MY MOM…
my motto::
you can’t change people
don’t let them change you
i got bitter now im better
LIVE LOVE LAUGH
ENJOY YOUR GOLDEN YEARS
BUY FOR YOURSELF
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I feel bad for your son being stuck in the middle
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The way my tongue is set up she would have definitely heard my mouth. And then I wouldn’t even bother with her from that point on.
Let gest buy something from baby your wife quit being a bich
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Well used to buy gifts for every occasion for my grandies, got to where they didnt seem like they, or their parents, appreciated much so now just throw a few bucks in their accounts I have for them and call it good. Maybe some day they’ll get it. Not like when I was young, i wrote thank you letters for every dollar or 3 dollars i got as a gift from my grandparents.
I agree get her nothing
Stop buying her stuff lol
Wish them the best and let them have space
It sounds like the sons wife disrespected his mom very much. If it were me I wouldn’t buy his wife anything for anything.
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It’s hard for me to grasp what’s going on… but it sounds like the mother inlaw picked out shirts for a gender reveal and the wife dont like them? If so why would the mother inlaw purchase without the wives input anyway? I would be mad if someone was trying to tell us what to wear for a gender reveal, I would want to pick things out myself to.
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N:clap:t3: C U:clap:t3: R:clap:t3:I T:clap:t3: I:clap:t3: E:clap:t3:S Sorry but that girl is insecure of her bfs mama and it’s actually a common thing. if you don’t take care of your own self worth esteem issues. It’s sad and sucks. They have to want to work on it though or they won’t.
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Though I appreciate a gift, a lot of times I don’t like it and it sits in my closet. Then I feel bad that the person wasted their money. I agree that people should be asked what they want as we all have different taste. I also believe people should follow a registry for baby items. As much as I appreciated everything I got at my baby shower I didn’t need 3 bathtubs. That money could’ve been spent on something I actually needed. She should’ve told her she wanted to purchase them shirts for the gender reveal and asked her what she wanted. It was her day. She has every right to wear what she wanted. I’m sure she’s had a vision in her mind for a while. I always ask people what they want because I work too hard for my money for it to be sitting in someone’s closet.
She should be thankful for what she gets… this is the problem with todays kids… they think they are entitled, and don’t appreciate anything
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It sounds like two different people wrote this. Or the son wrote it trying to sound like his mom’s husband??
If it were me I would have just kept my mouth shut, said thank you. If I didn’t like it I would have sold it for something I did like, or just donated it to someone else who could have used it.
Next time get her a gift card for and leave it at that. If she asks for your help in the wedding I would tell her NO.
Your son’s fiance just sounds ungrateful. But then again your wife could be a control freak and try to co trol every aspect of things and your son’s fiance has just had enough.
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Sounds like your son is marrying a cunt lol. Ask him if this is really how he wants to spend the rest of his life?. Lol
My MIL has a bad habit of buying things she wants us to have instead of what we want to have… I am grateful for everything she does for us BC she doesn’t have to do anything, she chooses to because she loves us and our kids… But people DO have different taste… She knows I don’t like the way she dresses my kids, but she keeps those clothes at her house for when she has them and sends them back home in what they wear there.
I hope the wife isn’t being overbearing or trying to take control over the special time the parents to be are supposed to be enjoying… That would be the only issue I’d see with what the grandmother to be is doing… If she’s not then I’d say stop wasting your money… If you want to give her a gift, let it be a gift card; that’s the easiest thing for people who are hard to shop for. Don’t let this ruin a happy time and effect the relationship she will get to have with her grandchild.
Sounds like there is an underlying issue that needs to be resolved. I can’t stand my MIL but even I would simply say thank you and donate said gift. What is every day life like?
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I’d stop buying them things. Not going to waste my money on ungrateful people.
Maybe your wife needs to confront her (not in a mean way) but ask her if she has done anything to offend her. That can open up a conversation for your wife to vent her feelings as well and hopefully make the relationship better. My ex mother in law HATED me and there was no moving past it so it may just be one of those things where she just has to remain civil but maybe they can mend some hurt feelings! Best of luck
I wouldn’t help them anymore or buy them things. Disrespectful
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Seems like a lot of adults that just need to be respectful.
Grandma should know her place (I am a grandma I get it)
Wife should simply smile and say thank you.
Or oh wife my apologies but I have one already could we return it for something I need for the baby?
Did something happen between them in the past? My bf’s father threatened me drunk while I was 8 months pregnant with our first. Now ANYTHING he gives us goes in the trash immediately. Bf had a situation and we reached out to his oldest brother for help. He turned his back cuz “I’m in the middle of cooking” so same with him. Bf brings home stuff and tells me honestly who sent it and I throw it. I make a point not to b around them or take my kids by. They 2 can rot in hell for all i care. Dont get me wrong i like the brothers wife and I love bf’s mom. They’ve never done anything to us so I not mad at them. We try to meet mom for lunch often it’s just that the old coot invites himself. I can forgive alot but these 2. No. There is no forgive and forget what they’ve done.
Tell ur son and wife to quit acting like spoiled ass children and don’t buy them another thing if that’s how they want to act they grown
I’d buy nothing let them buy it for them self that way your wife wont feel insulted … ungrateful witch x
Sounds like he has to talk to his girlfriend and tell her to stop being so mean
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Tell your mother in law thank and when she doesn’t see the item then say can we be honest as a mother I would rather be told how you feel instead of getting upset Rember your gonna be a mother in law someday treat your how you want to be treated after she your husband mother as you are to your son
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The girl sounds like a b*tch and needs to go. Like honestly your wife is trying to do what’s best and this girl is rude. Your son needs to man up and say something to his girlfriend and be like look my mom is trying to help us. Can you please be a little nicer and just say thank you. We can return it later, but be nice
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She is so ungrateful! She doesn’t know how hard it is to have an opposite kind in-laws…
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Any female who is negative about a gift from another female means they dislike that person so since your son’s girlfriend wants to be rude instead of appreciating the gifts, tell your wife DO NOT buy anything else for her!
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Wow all these comments about her being ungrateful when she in fact has every right to not like something and be honest about it. I’d much rather have someone tell me the truth than lie to my face saying “oh I love it” and then it goes in the trash.
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Never let wife disrespect mom sounds like mom can be a great mother in law, and friend to wife
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Make it generic from now on… gift card etc… and leave them alone. If they want her to be involved then jump right in with only what they are requesting. Otherwise keep a safe distance for personal safety (protect your own feelings)
I’m formally a Susie sensitive and literally everything hurt my feelings. Through a series of devastating events over the years… I’ve keep a safe distance from ALOT of people and situations to spare myself hardships. I’m in self preservation mode. And my new motto: F*** it! Let it be…
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Well she overstepped on the shirt issue if she wasn’t asked. IDK the ins and outs of everyones relationships but that def stood out as an overstep. Unless someone is asked to buy special stuff you leave it to that family to manage. And never buy people what you want, ask what they need or like first or you’re just wasting your own money when it goes unused. You should be having conversations with your son about yalls relationship with his family.
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Sounds like more is going on. Maybe ur wife is overstepping her boundaries.
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Your wife is well within her right to stop buying for them. You don’t look a gift horse in the mouth. The son’s wife sounds like she is a spoiled high maintenance brat. Give your wife some extra loving because this hurts her heart.
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Get that uptight woman a gift card and be done with it.
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Is it really that hard to be like “Oh thank you! I appreciate it!” And move on? Why do you have to hurt someone else’s feelings. Now the shirts, she didn’t have to use them but she could have gone about it a better way than being rude about it. She needs to learn some manners.
It isn’t all about her, she’s gonna learn that rather quickly when the baby gets here.
But I bet the second she needs a break she’s gonna want grandma & grandpa to help.
She doesn’t understand that even if this woman is overstepping a bit, she’s doing it out of love for her son and new grand baby. She doesn’t understand how lucky she is to have a MIL that cares so much. 
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This does not sound like the whole story 
I’m sure you’re leaving a lot out so your wife looks like the victim. It’s just common sense
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More communication , ask her to communicate with you or your wife before buying as vice versa because your wife seems picky and precise on what she wants, it is rude to say that tho simply asking for the gift receipt to exchange it in a nice manner is more polite then responding simply she doesn’t want it or like it
I would love to know the outcome…
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I don’t think that will be a marriage made in heaven.
Heck I wouldn’t buy anything thing eles
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She sounds like an ungrateful, entitled, brat!! I wouldn’t buy them anything else!! I’d speak with my son, and let him know that my feelings were hurt and it’s his job to speak with the wife/ girlfriend about her behavior!!!
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I think the son is old enough to buy his own shirts. If the soon to be wife has an idea how she wants the nursery decorated and has picked out the theme the gift probably does not go with it. Wait to buy those things until the mom and dad are registered. I have been a situation where another woman would buy things for us that she thought we should have. Lamps, figurines etc. I am not the kind of person who likes a lot of do dad’s around my living space. I was quite happy with the rugs, lamps, curtains, colors, etc that we has picked out together. When I suggested maybe she could use these things in her home because they did not match our home I was being rude and a witch.
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Eh I mean I get the “dont want the stuff you’ll never use/wear” mentality. However; on the wifes end, she is acting rude and disrespectful.
Someone took the time to think of a gift(s) and order them and pay for them.
Just smile, take the gift, say thank you. I mean ifnit was a bag of used baby clothes, who cares!? If it gets worn it gets worn. Babies literally outgrow everything in a few months.
Your soon to be wifes ungrateful attitude needs to take a backseat from here on out. Be humble for a change.
Your wife is literally setting your family up to not want to come around down the road. You’ll become “those” family members people literally hate buying things for you or your kid because it isnt appreciated.
So eh…its alot of changes, but the rudeness needs to be checked at the door. You raise your kid with her mentality you’ll have a total asshole when theyre a teenager and not appreciative for the things they’re given.
I think your wife is gonna lose this round.
Three sides to all stories. I hope you all had a great Thanksgiving. 
First question because MIL and DIL relations are often strained. Is the girlfriend telling this to your wife directly? Or are you hearing it from your son? Sometimes my husband says I said something and it comes across differently than how I would say it. Another thing that happens is that sometimes my husband doesn’t want something and his mom will blame me thinking it’s because of my influence. So first I would make sure that you are hearing these things directly from the girlfriend and not your son.
Next is, if they don’t like the gifts, then don’t buy them. Tell them straight up that it’s rude to tell someone you don’t like their gift and you won’t be doing anything else for them unless there’s an apology. Also, the four of you should sit down and have a serious discussion about things to clear the air.
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Just stop getting things for them !! If you can not say thank you and be grateful then yes buy it yourself!!!
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Classic case of looking a gift horse in the mouth
Get the mother to ask her what she would like and see what her response is .
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She sounds ungrateful
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Remind her that if not for your wife, your son wouldn’t be here. She chose to have your son, so that’s something the girl likes. Respect is a two way street. Sometimes having those tough conversations is the only way to not make the situation worse. You may have to sit her down, and straight ask the question. Also, what seems rude to us may not be truly intended to be. I dated someone who grew up very poor, and was simply embarrassed to accept gifts. Always give them the benefit of the doubt, and talk it out. Good luck 
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Mama just back off-let them do their thing!! No matter what you do it won’t be right -so save yourself a ton of hurt!!
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She should have at least been grateful for the thought, and the effort that was put into the gift. If she had another plan in mind, then she should have explained that to your wife, and just said " Thanks, I appreciate what you did for us, but I have a plan already in the works for the gender reveal". Very simple…Thankyou , but no thankyou. Absolutely no reason for your son’s girlfriend to be rude, ungrateful, or upset.
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Honestly I take this to heart. This would hurt my. Feelings a lot! I would end up sitting down with them and ask what can she do? Can they make a Amazon wish list and she pick from that?
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He needs to be having a talk with his soon to be wife and his mom at the same time so everything can get figured out. Then they can go from there and see where it all leads to
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Stop buying them gifts then and merely send a card.
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