So I send my son to a babysitter 3 days a week as I work from home on those days and need complete silence…I pay the sitter $40/day and 5 hours. Yesterday, they decided to go out to eat for their childs birthday and they had my child so they had to take him (he is 5)…she asked me to venmo her money to pay for my childs half of the meal but our deal is she provides meals when my child is in her care. I feel like I am already paying her enough for only 5 hours a day and i am kinda offended she even asked when i didint ask her to take my son out and she could have taken her child out the next day as she would not have my son anymore…she then texted me sayin she didnt want to watch my son anymore…“didnt have the time” but i really feel like its because i refused to venmo her money…am i wrong here?
I babysit and for one kid 5 hours it would be $20… nd I have one weekend kid that I take to the zoo, out to eat, to get toy, etc I’ve never charged parent more.
Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. My sons sitter asked me to venmo her money for his food: Thoughts?
You only pay $40 for the day for 5 hours? That’s amazing! She’s provides meals on that? you got a really good deal.
I would just pay her the money. I don’t feel like $40 a day is enough money for her and she has to provide food. You should be packing him food!
Sounds like she just wanted more money then got shitty when you didn’t do it
You’re not even paying her 10$ an hour. Why would you refuse to pay for food that your son ate? Pay the lady smh you’re being petty
No, you’re not wrong. If she didn’t ask ahead of time then it’s not your fault. Also, not sure your location but $40 for 5 hrs is fantastic I used to charge $30 for 8 hrs. If she provides meals while she has your child then she needs to cut her loses.
So you pay her $8/hr and she has to buy food to feed him? Girl please🤣. I would have gladly sent her money to take my child out and have an outing.
$40/day for 5 hours that’s really generous of you! In missouri $25-30/day (8,9) hours.
She should have talked to you before hand not after the fact,
I’ve been nannying and babysitting for 15 years. I’ve NEVER had a parent tell ME I had to pay for food ESPECIALLY being under paid at $10 an hour.
I agree you should be sending his food and paying for his food if they go out. but she should have given u a notice of the planned trip out.
In my opinion, it wouldn’t have hurt for you to send the money… considering it was their child’s birthday, I’m sure they bought he or she a gift and couldn’t have had the extra money… but that’s just me… I would have sent it to her considering how high everything is these days.
Nobody is “wrong”
Your entitled to your opinion. Find someone to babysit that agrees with you.
It was her childs bday and you wanted her to take her child out the next day instead of on his bday? Umm 
Yeah you are in the wrong. That’s less than $10 an hr and she has been providing his meals.
just give her $10…if she’s that hard up on money…shes going out to eat…not feeding them at home…
I don’t feel like $40 a day is enough to begin with. That’s like $8 an hour. I’d venmo her the half of your sons meal.
I would’ve just sent the money. Now you gotta find a new sitter 
$8 an hour to take care of your precious child AND provide food is enoug?!
Lady, $40/ 5 hours isn’t crap. AND she feeds him normally? Give her the $10 for going out to eat and count your blessings she is settling for less than $10/hour to begin with…
You think she should have not taken her kid out for his birthday because she had yours? You pay her not even $10 an hour and expect her to feed your son? You should be sending him with snacks and packed lunch! Just pay her the money.
the entitlement is so strong here.
Youre paying her 8 dollars an hour. That hardly covers food and her expense for helping you out. The least you could do is send some cash for his dinner. Id also ask you for a raise or walk. 40 dollars for 5 hours? No way.
Im astounded at what babysitters are making. Im an early childhood educator and I babysit aswell part time. Noone would babysit for $40 for 5 hours here .
You are lucky to have this person helping you, I wouldn’t let my grand kids babysit for that amount, even 10 is kinda cheap, ppl pay cpl thousand a month for daycare!!!
I think she was being nice by not bailing on babysitting on her kid’s bday & instead making your life easier + taking your kid so you could work. You think she should have delayed HER son’s bday celebration so she could babysit for you for $8/hour? AND she should have covered his meal? Girl, I kinda feel like you had a good thing goin’ & you just blew it. Can’t bite the hand that feeds you, or your kid I guess.
How dare she celebrate her child’s birthday when she wanted to… sheeeesh.
No you are not wrong. I am here for you if you need anything
You pay her $8 an hour and expect her to provide meals?
Um, you’re already paying her quite generously. Sure did not ask if she could take him out to eat and if you’d pay. Or if she took him with them, would you pay her back. So no, you’re not in the wrong. I would tell her that. Sure needs to ask before assuming or assume that you may not reimburse her.
So you’re basically paying this woman $8/hour to watch your child and that includes his meals. Chile please. You’re gonna miss her - TRUST. Now I do think that she should’ve notified you prior to going out that she would need you to cover his food at the the birthday outing, but if somebody responsible was taking care of my child for such a small fee, I would’ve asked her the total and sent her money to cover the entire bill!
She was wrong for not asking you, beforehand. And only asking afterwards. However it’s also not a big deal considering her wages are low and its an outing… But me being me, if I’d been asked before hand I’d of had no issue, being told afterwards then no… On principle.
You’re wrong and good luck finding someone who watches your kid for that price l
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$40 a day. That is not even $10 an hour. You should be paying her$10 an hour.
40 dollars a day for 5 hours a day is only 8 an hour… that is not much at all, that’s beyond cheap! Now she should have mentioned wanting to go to dinner before going, however it is not too much to ask to pay for that extra meal when you are getting one heck of a bargain on childcare. If you are unhappy about it, try a licensed facility, then you will see just how good you got it, especially if that is your only complaint with the sitter. 
I’m sorry but I’m blown away you find $40 to be a sufficient amount for 5hrs with meals included.
You are completely wrong you are underpaying ! By a lot ! And she provides food ! You’re taking complete advantage of her !
$40 for 5 hours is cheap especially when you aren’t paying for food
I would have done it in a minute. It’s your kid $40 ain’t jack
Are you really mad because she gets paid $40 a day and doesn’t want to spend almost half on your kids food?
Wayyyyyyyyyyy wrong
What the actual f*ck???
Dang. One kid over four hours I only charge $20 and I provide everything to include outings!
I can understand her asking about you paying for the food at an outing, IF she had Asked PRIOR to the outing.
Not after the fact
So no you’re not wrong
She should have told you in advance but also, you should think… The meal she provides in her care and the meal at the resturant are two different things. Be considerate because I’m sure your son enjoyed himself.
You are barely compensating her for her time at $40/day. You certainly don’t cover the cost of food.
I wouldn’t watch your kid anymore either get what you pay for… don’t pay you don’t get it anymore
Are you really mad because she gets paid $40 a day and doesn’t want to spend almost half on your kids food?
We pay $625 a week for three kids in daycare 9-4. That also includes the food there. $40 a day isn’t nothing. Just pay her the money. I will gladly pay our babysitter extra money if she’s taking my kids out when I can’t because of work
Pay - or be prepared to find someone who will look after him for the same money…. Hint…. You won’t. Most people know their worth.
I stopped reading at $40 a day . You are already getting over
Pay for your kids food.
I feel like you’re not paying nearly enough for 5 hours
Just pay her the money ! And discuss about the future not happening again
40$ a day is nothing
When you break it down, you’re paying her $8/hr. That’s a great deal on childcare. In my honest opinion, her child shouldn’t have to wait for a birthday dinner simply because your child is there. I would have just paid her the $6-$12 it would have cost for my child to eat.
Pay her the money. It’s worth it. She shouldn’t have to use her money she’d EARNED to feed your child.
She should have mentioned it to you prior thats what the game plan was.
She should have asked you first. Not just expect you have the money for them to go out.
Good luck finding a babysitter that cheap again that’s actually decent at their job
It was $10. You’re arguing over $10.
She should have mentioned it beforehand however how are people saying she’s paid generously?
This is why more and more people are leaving the childcare profession 
we are underpaid and deffo under appreciated
$40 a day is not much at all. I don’t think she’s wrong at all. She could of asked you to pick up your child early so she can celebrate with her child.
Yes you are, I think you should have given her the money. I have a friend who sits and makes good money and they also give her money if she brings them on outings.
Yes you are COMPLETELY worng. I don’t blame her for not watching your child anymore
$40/day for 5 hours wouldn’t be worth my time period. Pay it
Now your out a sitter, good luck on finding a new one
if I could find someone to watch my kiddo for that rate aaaand feed my kid? Deal! An extra $10 for my son to eat out? Should have been no question. And now you’ve lost out on the girl who was willing to work for you for such a low rate.
My daughter babysits and she gets paid $20 an hour plus they provide the food, or leave $ for pizza etc.
Let’s see what you pay now that you won’t have her as a stepping stone
Wow! I pay me sitter $18 an hour and provide my child with food.
40 for 5 hours is not a lot . Please pay for his meal
Would you take your son out the day after his birthday for his birthday? This is so petty.
She could’ve let you down completely that day to spend time with her own family.
I would of sent it what’s the harm
I feel you are in the right
She should be getting the minimum 10_an hour and you need to be giving her extra for food cost.
Respectfully that’s 8/hr. Venmo her $20 bucks for your kid to eat.
We pay $625 a week for 3 kids. I would just send her the money and say thank you for taking my child out to celebrate her sons birthday
Holy S! Is this even real?
$40 for 5 hours?! Stop complaining & pay fir the food!
People over here saying $8 an hr is generous 
Find a different sitter
Not worth it to ruin a babysitting relationship over a few bucks. It’s not like she took him to a steak and lobster dinner and you owe her $25.
I’m kind of offended you said no
You should have Venmo her the money for your child to eat.
Yes. You are wrong. Good luck finding someone else to babysit for 8/hr.
I would have paid her… how much was your kids meal? What at most like $10-13?
I pay 1k/wk for two kids. Not including food.
I would have paid for that field trip
You should’ve offered to pay the whole meal. Sounds like you need her, more than she needs you. Remember, it takes a village. Be there for her too. 
Question is can you take care of yourself and child on 8 and hr you are wrong and 8 a hr is not nearly enough let alone to provide food for a child
Well your both in the wrong really. She should have cleared it with you before taking him but paying a little extra for an outing should not have been a big thing for you to do. Now of course you have shot yourself in the foot. Seems very silly and petty on both sides
I get paid $35 an hour to be a nanny for one child ! $8 an hour to have to entertain a 5yr old hell no
Karma is going to hit your bank account when you’re Scrooge self has to pay regular daycare rates
no if she already agreed she took care of the meals it’s her job to pay for him as well if SHE decides to go out to eat. & 40 a day for only 5 hours? that’s more than the average pay most babysitters make $20 a day for a full 8 hours.
Dude 40 a day isn’t much at all. Shit i would’ve sent the money for my kids meal plus some extra as a happy birthday to her little one
Really… That’s a big deal to you? Your lucky you have a great babysitter. Just pay for YOUR child’s food lol
She should have asked you BEFORE she took your kid out to eat to pay for his meal not after! I ran a daycare and if we had a McDonald’s day I asked for the money ahead of time. What she did was tacky but you should have just paid for his meal.
you should have just kept her happy…what’s a few dollars…now you have no sitter…
When meals are included that doesn’t necessarily mean eating out too. It was her son birthday, she keeps your son so he had to be included. $40 a day Is not a lot of money plus having meals included. With the way prices are going up on everything. You owe her an apology and money. She was doing you a favor by keeping kid for only $40 a day. I say how about you sit down. Add up all food and drinks he use in that 5 hours. Is she really in wrong on being upset.
Why should her kid have to wait to be taken on for their birthday because they are watching your child. Venmo the lady 10$ and call it a day.
Only $40 for 5 hours! Oh my!