Eh it was a special occasion and your son got to go do something
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Yes, you’re definitely in the wrong here.
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Lol. You are way wrong. She doing you a huge favor at that cheap ass rate. You should be greatful. Good for her.
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Yes you are wrong. She’s doing you a favor and not even making minimum wage. You should have said thank you for including my child and sent the money.
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Wtf 40 a day for 5 hours? A babysitter in California is 12 and that’s considered cheap. You should be happy she doesn’t generally have you pay for your kids food when she has them. And you’re offended lol I’m offended you’re complaining of paying $8 an hour like come on be grateful for what you have there’s so many people who would be grateful.
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This is a joke right?!
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You’re paying $40 for 5 hours… That’s $8/hr… that’s less than a teen babysitting someone’s baby they don’t even know makes
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$40 a day isn’t much if you break it down. If you expect her to not take your child with her she could have just not taken him for the day and you wouldn’t have gotten any work done. It’s fair for you to pay your child’s half of a meal outside the home especially if it isn’t a regular request. Sounds like you lost a good deal to me
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Yes you are definitely wrong . You’ve undervalued your carer and it will result in upheaval for your child now having to change to a new carer .
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My thoughts. You are wrong for only paying what you pay and expect her to provide meals/snacks. That is definitely not enough… now if this was her normal day of caring for your child and it happened to be her child’s birthday she shouldn’t have to postpone her child’s day. She should have been like hey I know I watch your child on this day but it is my child birthday and we are doing this and gave you the option to keep your child home.
You are note even paying minimum wage really depending where you live… She should get an hourly rate (at least minimum wage) plus money for expenses for your child.
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Im shocked you found someone so cheap. I charge $25.00 a hour and they feed themselves. My clients are elderly and not children but still. You won’t find another babysitter so cheap but good luck trying.
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Wow I charge $25 a day to babysit for 6 hours and above, if it’s less that 6 hours it’s considered a half day rate. I get that this is people’s jobs ,but why break the bank of other parents who have to work as well. I also provide all meals I ask parents to bring like a box of goldfish once a month or something like that to help with the snacks . If the kids and I are going on special outings I tell the parents a fee weeks in advance so they know what is expected of them. I definitely agree that lack of communication was the problem here. I’m sorry that you lost your banysitter hopefully you will find another one that can communicate with you better.
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Maybe she didn’t have the extra cash to feed your child…you are only paying her 8$ an hr after all. I’d rather the sitter ask me for money than my child go hungry…
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Now look at you, about to have to find a new babysitter,and you’re probably going to have to pay them more 
, all over a couple of dollars
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As a person who has been in the industry for 12+ years. Be thankful she only charges $40 a day because I charge $20 an hour. $450 a week.
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I pay my babysitter $25 and supply her food lol. Your unreasonable.
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WOW how much could a five year old possibly eat
FIND SOMEONE ELSE RIGHT AWAY
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She is GROSSLY underpaid for her childcare services alone. Ontop of that she is also expected to cover the cost of feeding your child while in her care, at her own expense???
Oh, hell no.
Nope.
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As a childcare provider all I can say is wow…
Yes you are wrong. $8 an hour to watch a younger child is a super great deal and she only asked for half of the money for his meal? You know you are wrong and just looking for redemption here when you should be apologizing to her man up lady!
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I pay my own mother to babysit my kids $100 per day.
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I would have dropped you too. $40 for 5 hours and I have to provide food,snacks and drinks. That’s my whole pay right. You could have easily gave her a couple extra dollars and said thank you for including your child instead of feeling entitled and thinking she should put her child’s birthday on the back burner because she has your son
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You work from home your child should be with you unless they are in school
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Sorry but you don’t pay her enough!
How much you pay aside because its something y’all agree too and it depends on your area (my area is $90 for a 40 hour week) I think she should of told you that she was taking your child out and gave you the option to either pay for his meal or keep him home. I would be mad if I wasn’t told about this in advance or even day of.
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$40 a day for 5 hours isn’t enough 
like at all
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Okay so in my area of $40 a day is about average. Food included andThat is all day so people can chill. Also she should have given you a heads up beforehand if she expected you to pay extra. Did she even have permission to take ur child somewhere? I would be pissed off. You want me to pay extra, you give me no heads up nothing. Plus he is there 5hrs more than likely daytime hours… So if she couldn’t of afford to take one more kid out she could of planned it for dinner time.
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I pay the daycare $73.00 a day, more if they go on excursions, you should have paid what she asked, you were paying very little as it is.
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Her acting like that and saying she didn’t want to watch him anymore I would have ran over there and got my child. That’s not a caring person.
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Except if she is a good sitter they can be hard to find. Yes, it would have been better if she talked to you about it in the beginning so you could have opted out if you didn’t want to pay but in the end you may have lost a reliable person that you trust to watch your kid.
You really should have just gave her money. World an expensive place food expensive she might not have had cash. You don’t even pay her min wage you won’t find many cheap like that. All over a meal. Forty bucks don’t even cover simple gas or food a day anymore
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I take my niece with me almost everywhere. When she’s with me if we eat out, I pay for her too. I’m not going to ask for money to feed her when it was my idea to go out to eat.
Same goes with my daughters friends, if we go out to eat while they’re with me, then I pay for them.
That’s ridiculous and she is in the wrong. I hope you can find you another sitter.
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I would pay her but remind her to let you know in advance next time.
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She should have told you she was taking them out the next day. You don’t want that kind of person caring for your child, her true colors came out.
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I babysat someone’s child for $30 a day and I had to pay for food. By the time I was done getting everything he ate the money I was paid was gone. So she paid me to feed her kid basically and I saw none of the money for my own kids. It didn’t last long because I asked for more and was told no. $40 a day for 5 hours is not enough, they’re watching your child. Don’t you think their care is worth more than $40 a day? Her child birthday shouldn’t take a back seat either, you could have said “sorry I can’t do that today I’ll come get him”
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She should have talked to you about it prior to taking him 
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Yes ! I would sended her the money !!! You have to care about ppl that help you! My personal thoughts!!
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That’s not even $10/hr… yeah you should have sent her money for his meal.
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I think the fact that you’re barely paying her minimum wage screams you should have had no problem giving her the money…$40 for 5 hours is $8 an hour and then she’s feeding him too… so technically she’s making less than minimum wage….
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Is this a joke lol…can you not pay for your kids food, you want her to come out of pocket just because you pay her?? Clown.
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You pay her $8 an hour. That is NOTHING. She should of given you notice but I don’t think she’s wrong asking for you to pay for his meal. 
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So I pay this registered at home daycare $200 a week for both of my kids. 40 a day, for 5 days. But I see how expensive food is… she’s not making much. She does it because she loves kids. (She has 3 others for 100 a week) so 500 a week for 5 kids. I bring food, lunches, breakfast, snacks. Because I want her be able to relax with how much inflation is. I don’t want her to raise prices but will help her out when needed.
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She should’ve talked to you before taking him. That being said you should’ve just paid for his food. $40 a day is a pretty good deal
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Field trips ain’t free. As if your child would have been in school you would have still had to pay. I would have given her the money. Take my child out for a good time. Plus here’s a little extra take them to buy a gift.
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Okay so in my life as a babysitter I always ask beforehand if I can take the child somewhere and abide by that decision but for example I had two boys a few years ago that usually I only has before and after school for a few hours. When there was no school however I had them all day. I asked if they were allowed fast food which they were so I took us to Wendy’s. I didn’t ask to be reimbursed because I could have fed them at the house. That was my choice. However you pay her very little. For that particular family I mentioned I was getting $15 an hour
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no disrespect, this seems a little entitled
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She should have asked you ahead of time if you would pay for your kid and if not she should have told you she’s not watching him for the day. I also can understand her asking for you to cover his meal as it probably cost her one or 2 hours of work because she’s so underpaid doing you a favor and maybe your son wanted to be included in the birthday celebration. Is she a friend? I would’ve just paid her and if I had a problem with it I would ask that before she takes my kid out to eat or do an activity that costs money in the future to please check with me to make sure I’m okay with covering the cost. You just lost yourself a good babysitter that wanted to include your child in a special event for her kids birthday, a babysitter that was willing to be stuck with your kid for less than 1/2 of what a lot of us would work for. And she was willing to provide the regular meals saving you money on your groceries for at least 3 meals a week for your child. You might want to apologize and offer her a little raise because you’re not likely going to find anyone else like her.
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I think you shot yourself in the foot, losing an affordable babysitter over paying for a dinner.
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Ahhh. You pay her to feed your child when he is in her home… she should have given you some type of notice that they were going out because you aren’t paying for them to eat out at restaurants.
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Yeah you wrong. She wanted to do something for her own child and you expected her to not on a work day. She could have easily called off n handled her child’s birthday. You’re a sh*tty employer.
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Yes you’re wrong.
$8/hr is cheap as hell. & if you’re not providing snacks during those hours the least you could do was send $ for your kids meal during the outing. Like a field trip.
Im glad she’s not watching your kid no more. & now you get no silence while working from home.
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40$ is cheap woman wym?
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She shouldn’t ask you to pay for a meal that she decided to do.
BUT no you are not paying her enough. Yikes.
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Prices of everything going up, plus she’s not getting paid that much to do all that. Yeah you should have no questions asked. Take care of the people who take care of you!
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Your not paying her emough
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Nope the agreement was she provides meals in her care you did what you should have she was taking advantage
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No she’s silly asking you she’ll never have that easy babysitting just 5 hrs a day
This lady could literally be making $11.00-12.00 and you all want her to pay that much if not more? This is why nobody wants to work… They can’t afford it. Obviously the $40.00 for 5hrs isn’t the problem, or the babysitter wouldn’t of agreed. The problem is that she didn’t give the mom an option or even a heads up. I don’t like to be told what I have to do. What if the mom doesn’t have the money?
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You should def compensate her back for the cost of your child’s meal in her pay. She should have spoke to you about it first to make things clear. But still.
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I once did a friend a favor and babysat for $20 a day while she got on her feet. I can say out of that $20, feeding her child 3 meals a day left me with slim to nothing!
I had to tell her if she wants me to keep up with it, she needed to send cereal and make sure she leaves work on time to pick them up (I had her second child in the afternoon) before dinner time.
Hourly rates, the sitter isn’t making much.
But…. She should have mentioned first if she expected you to pay for the meal.
I’m assuming both of you are more than likely on a budget. This needed to have been discussed.
She can’t do it and ask afterwards. But I would have offered anyways 
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40$ for 5 hours?? Oh hell no. That’s way too cheap. You should be packing his meals/snacks and paying for anything extra. You’re lucky she doesn’t charge you more than 40$ damn.
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Yes you’re wrong provide food for your child and $40 a day/8 hours? I’m surprised you found someone to work for that little. Not even minimum wage unless this is a daycare but you said babysitter. I hope she has another job because she can’t survive off what your paying her.
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Depends a lot on location . 40 tax free for 5 hours for just keeping him with her other kids is a good amount here but other places it wouldn’t be. Our minimum wage is 7.25 tho .
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Fucking pay for your own kids food. Damn…hope she never comes back to your greedy cheap ass self!!!
Find another sitter!
Honestly. I feel you should send his own food and snacks bc 40 doesn’t cover that. Your basically payin her to feed your child. And going out somewhere extra is not her responsibility to pay for your child. If your a babysitter like I am I like to take them to do things instead of sit inside all day… go swimming go to the park plan stuff. And I let the parents know ahead of time hey we are doing this it costs this much. You have to cover it. Food is going up. Gas is going up.
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I think that you should have complied and gave your babysitter the extra money ,it like a field trip and most of the time you do pay something extra .where I live it it is 20.00 hr.for babysitting or more.
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If she is that petty do you really want her watching your child
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I don’t think your particularly in the wrong. If she wanted you to pay and knew she was taking her son out she should have given you notice and asked in advance. Any daycare would have had permission forms and notice of an occasion like that. Same for schools. Also if part of the deal for $40 a day was her providing food then that also should have been on her. I don’t think you paying her $40 a day is underpaying her either. Childcare rates are different because they make their money from watching multiple kids Instead of minimum wage.
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You guys had a deal. So no your right. Plus now you know you can’t trust her. Rate her on her babysitter site 0*
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You aren’t even paying her enough to begin with. So the fact you are even asking this question is absolutely absurd. You’re taking advantage. Pay her what she deserves and send YOUR CHILD with food.
I’d even advise her telling you not to come back.
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I get paid $25 dollars for 8 hours a day too babysit and when I go out I pay for everything for the child and don’t ever ask her mom for anything extra as far as money for food. I treat her kid just as my own when I have her. I don’t think you were wrong.
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So, you’re essentially paying her $8. Which isn’t terrible, but not when you factor in food. That is an extremely low amount, if she is expected to provide meals and snacks. I don’t necessarily think she should have just taken him without asking and making sure you were okay with that first. But… what was the alternative, honestly? Would you have went and picked him up? Probably not.
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$40 for 5 hours = $8 per hour. It’s one thing to feed him in her home, it’s another to pay for his meal out. I mean he’s 5, his meal couldn’t be that expensive. For you to expect her to take it out of the lousy $40 you pay her is ridiculous! Especially because have you seen prices of food, gas, pretty much anything these days?!
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It’s no longer an argument. I wouldn’t trust her with the kid as soon as she said she doesn’t wanna watch him any more.
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I agree! She should’ve told you she was unavailable to babysit that day if she couldn’t have covered your sons cost. That’s just weird to me she should’ve just paid for him and left it alone.
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She should of told you ahead of time to go over the situation with you
Perhaps the lady wanted a reason to not babysit for that cheap anymore… you should been happy as hell with that. Have fun finding one that cheap now. 
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Nah. Pay her. 40 ain’t much.
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Consider your self blessed! I have 3 grand babies my daughter pays 190 a week, food not included. That’s for Monday-Friday 8 hours a day for babysitting and we have to supply all the food.
You’re paying her $8 per hour. I don’t know where you live, but that isn’t much more than the federal minimum wage
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If you want to keep that babysitter, who is already working for a rate beyond reasonable, then I would just pay her
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She should’ve asked before spending on him, and you didn’t pay her enough in the first place.
The bit that has gotten me is that you would expect her to take her own child a day later for his birthday, to benefit you. Her child is her priority.
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You definitely are the AH here
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You expected her to move around her childs party for your child? So shes getting paid $120 a week and still has to provide your child food? Yes you are wrong and i don’t blame her for not wanting to make $120 a week losing 15 hours of her own time making less than $10 an hour doing you a solid…
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Wait only 40.00 dollars a day? That’s not enough enough money for a half tank of gas now days…
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Give her the money for extra activities cost. Also give her daily food allowance or provide the snacks
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$40 per day for 5 hours is a great price! That’s $8/hour. She should’ve told u she was taking everyone on a trip that day and that u would need to pay for his food while out. So she did make a mistake there. But if u don’t fix the issue by just paying for his food, u are gonna lose out on babysitting. Just pay for his food and have a talk with her that u want her to let u know when she makes plans like that.
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Jeeze some of you all are just rude as heck! If I am to take out the children I am babysitting I don’t expect the parent to pay for them. That is my decision on my time. It would blow you all away to know that I just charge $5/hour or $25-$30/ full day to babysit. I’m not trying to rip anybody off or take advantage of them. Most people don’t make $20/hr themselves so how the heck can you expect them to pay you that?? If they do make more than more power to them, but dang… This is why I stay home and babysit rather than looking for childcare where I would have to work just to pay someone to watch my children. I’ll be watching 2 sisters this summer and only ask $30/day for BOTH of them…
Good luck finding a sitter for the same price, you should’ve just payed her it was for your son anyways.
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Yeah, no.
She didn’t have to take him & could’ve capped his cost. She chose not to do that.
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You are paying the woman $8 an hour. Can you survive on $8 an hour?
The least you can do is send your child with food. Yes, you should pay that $.
It’s unbelievable that you should even write this. Pay that woman looking after your child for you a dignified hourly rate.
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I think you should have just paid. It’s not that serious. And honestly, I don’t feel as tho she should be paying for your child’s food out of the $40 she gets daily. That’s a bit much. You need to send food with the child and not be so petty about having to pay for lunch for a special occasion. It’s like going on a field trip, you would being responsible for paying for it sooooo
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40$ for 5 hours of work…Goodluck finding another sitter who would get paid less than minimum wage to watch your kid PLUS supply his meals .
You screwed yourself over by being greedy
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Send her 10$ and move on.
Where are y’all finding sisters this cheap?!
My sitter use to charge $17 an hour! (Bay Area)
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I feel like first of all how much does a 5 year old eat, she chose to visit the restaurant while she was sitting this is absolutely not an expense you should cover and in my opinion it’s not appropriate for her to ask you for repayment. What’s wrong with people? I’d say good riddens to her 
sorry you have to find another sitter but sounds like it’s for the best, this would have happened in some other way eventually because obviously she’s a petty person.
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