40 bucks for 5 hours…first of all pay for your child’s food you just cheap…what is wrong with you
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That’s less than $10 an hour, you should absolutely be paying for his food. As a childcare provider myself, well first that pay is ridiculous. I’m not surprised she doesn’t wanna work for you anymore, that’s five dollars less than minimum wage. The food thing was probably the last nail in the coffin. 
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Yes you are wrong. She wasn’t asking for too much and you lost a good sitter at an amazing price because of it.
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Seriously, she could make more working at a fast food place. You’re selfish and cheap.
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Wow… people like this actually walk among us?
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I think you’re under paying especially if you expect her to provide meals.
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$8 bucks an hour is nothing for the care of a child. Everything in life is pricier now. I would send him with a lunch box, it’s only 5 hours. Pack him something.
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I would’ve just pay my sons meal if I were you. You were definitely wrong here. Now you lost a good sitter at a good cheap price. You know how much day cares are lately? 
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Yea no girl, you are definitely right. I watch a little boy about 5 hours a day for less, which I don’t do it for the money, more to help out. But, if I decide to go out for lunch or breakfast, I don’t expect the parents to pay. I pay for him & we enjoy our time together. She could’ve given you the heads up on the plan so you could try to find someone else for the day tho!
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I’d given her the money ! I got paid way more than 40$ a day and food was provided ! And because I didn’t drive at the time they picked me up and took me home
On a special occasion, I believe that you should have sent the $$… kids always need a little Xtra $ for things… the right thing was to send his $.
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Your not wrong at all mama
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I charged $20 a day and provided food. No you are not wrong! If she wanted to go out & you pay she should have talked to you ahead of time & given you the choice to pay or find a different sitter for the day.
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Take care of your son then…which job insists on absolute silence 
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yeah you’re absolutely in the wrong! A daycare would charge you an arm&leg lmao. $8 an she provides the food, with the cost of food going so high…smh. and I don’t blame her for not wanting to watch him anymore, not worth the time put in. 
My dad would say you’ve sh;t in your own nest, now you gotta lay in it. 
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You get what you pay for.
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Lol you funny .you feel offended cause of what you pay. Check out child care prices she was doing you a favor and yes she had your child and needed more money for your child not to feel left out. Did you think of her circumstances at the time maybe she needed the cash but not the drama that came with it .
So basically you wanted her to put her child’s birthday on the back burner instead of you paying for your child to eat. That’s extremely selfish. That’s crazy and you’re not even paying her enough. She really did herself a favor by dropping you!
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Lmaooooooo $40 a day and she has to feed your child……SMH! If you don’t bring food for your child! You are lucky she is even taking him out and enjoying the world
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Oh man, 5 hours for 40 bucks, that’s a deal stingy mom
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be glad someone with no morals is watching your son. that is ridiculous.
Also, 40$ a day for 5 hours is a lot. Where I live it, it’s about half that for a full day.
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I pay 140 a week for my 5 year old to be watched 3 days a week, 6 hours each day. She could have brought it up in advance, but ultimately just give her the money. Unless its some outrageously expensive place they went to, how much could a 5 year olds kids meal cost?
Wow, yep your wrong, forty bucks?? The average carer gets way more and this is your child so don’t be tight with your money.
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I would never babysit for you ever. You are CHEAP. Everything you typed is insulting.
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Can I have her number 
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Ma’am you pay her 8 dollars an hour to watch your son that is a steal. Also since she’s not a regular daycare she doesn’t get funded by the state to feed your child, so what she’s doing is nice. She doesn’t need to pay for your child’s meal if they go out. You are wrong and owe her money for his food and should be paying her 50 a day at least and if you’re not then you should be sending food with him and inform her if there will be future outings to either let you know so you can find future arrangements for him or keep him home.
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You’re not wrong. It’s not right of someone to do something and expect to be paid without asking first. For all those going after her about cheapness. That’s what the babysitter set, that’s between the parents and babysitter. You all are so quick to jump down throats, but show me where you’re perfect?! Gtfo Karen’s.
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No I totally agree with you on this. If she had plans to do that, she should have brought it up BEFORE going out to eat and made you aware of the situation. I’m sorry but, that’s not okay. And for anyone to not see that, just boggles my mind more. I can understand her not wanting to pay for your sons meal, but that is something she should have brought up with you BEFORE GOING OUT TO EAT. And if you didn’t agree then she could have waited until after dropping your child off and then went out to eat with her child. So many other ways to have handled this. She is not a good babysitter if you ask me. I’m sorry to be that petty, over something like that…. No she’s not a good babysitter. I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this. 
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Wow, she could be getting that basically per hour here.
You were totally in the wrong and not a very compassionate boss.
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I would’ve given her the money for him, things aren’t cheap these days and you’re getting a steal at $40 a day. I understand she took him but some days you gotta do more than others.
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No I totally agree with you on this. If she had plans to do that, she should have brought it up BEFORE going out to eat and made you aware of the situation. I’m sorry but, that’s not okay. And for anyone to not see that, just boggles my mind more. I can understand her not wanting to pay for your sons meal, but that is something she should have brought up with you BEFORE GOING OUT TO EAT. And if you didn’t agree then she could have waited until after dropping your child off and then went out to eat with her child. So many other ways to have handled this. She is not a good babysitter if you ask me. I’m sorry to be that petty, over something like that…. No she’s not a good babysitter. I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this.
She may be a single mom on a fixed income so I can see how this could put her in a tough spot. But in the end I think the meal should have been covered. We dont know the entire situation, but I think it would have only been fair to pay for the child’s meal out.
$40 for 5 hours AND she feeds your child?
Maybe if you paid her a decent amount she wouldn’t have to ask? Lol
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That’s like $20 you could’ve sent her and everything would’ve been good…. You’re worried more about $20 than your child being taken out to eat and having a good time?? And $40 a day for 5 hours is peanuts. Can’t believe she even agreed to that in the first place! But she must be super nice!
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Wow 8.00 a hour n u upset bc she ask for $10. for food , u r wrong ! I would want my child to have fun n enjoy their day . It doesn’t matter if it was 2 hours or 10 hours if u think 40.00 is enough have fun finding someone else
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You’re paying her less than minimum wage and you’re upset about paying for half your kids meal!? Yikes. You do realize she didn’t have to take your kid with her right? She could’ve told you it’s her kids birthday and she’s not gonna take your kid! Jesus.
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You aren’t wrong. For what you’re paying her she should be happy having your son along and provide him the treat of going out with them. Doesn’t sound like she bonded with your son and that she was strictly providing child care and that’s all.
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I don’t think it was wrong for her to ask. Shes probably done watching him cause of other issues and this was the last straw
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Sounds to me like its a done deal and it doesnt matter at this point.
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I would’ve sent the money.
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Would you put your sons birthday on hold? For 40 dollars a day for 5 hours…
Didn’t think so
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40 dollars for 5 hours people in my area pay that for 3 if they are lucky child care per day in my area is 10 an hr
Yes. You’re in the wrong here.
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You’re not paying her enough to do what she’s already doing
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Wrongggg quit being cheap. Good child care with someone you trust is hard to find these days.
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I would have given her the money…For one it’s a special occasion…and 40 a day for 5 hours? You’re lucky to have gotten that deal…you should help to provide the food during his stay. Groceries are expensive.
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Um it’s def a parents job to provide meals or money for them. Groceries aren’t cheap, neither is takeout. The verry little you pay her should not include providing meals. She would end up making like 5 bucks an hour. Maybe even less. In my opinion your lucky you found someone willing to accept 8 dollars an hour.
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You should be paying for the meals in the first place. You pay her to watch him & also that is a cheap rate for babysitting. I pay a lot more than that. Groceries are expensive nowadays
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Would you put your sons birthday on hold? For 40 dollars a day for 5 hours…
Didn’t think so
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Yes you should have sent her the money.
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I wonder to myself, how do ppl take these reactions . If they read 100 “your wrong” do they understand that they ARE WRONG? 
Everything cannot possibly be planned out. Sometimes spur of the moment things sound like fun, like hey 
we’re doing absolutely nothing here, let’s go get some grub for timmys birthday sounds fun! Oh no… I’m short on cash for little tommy that I watch for NEXT TO NOTHING so that his mommy can enjoy the benefits of having an OUTSIDE JOB AWAY FROM HER KIDS. Maybe I’ll just hit her up and ask for some cash so he can enjoy this fun time too!
-I’d of told you to come get your kid immediately at whatever restaurant we were attending. After I filled his tummy with my own money. Poor kid …
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You lost me at she needed to postpone her child’s bday celebration for your convenience.
40÷5=8. You pay her $8/hour (minimum wage) to take care of one of the most important people in your life AND FEED HIM.
Girl…
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Would it really have hurt you to have paid no cause it wouldn’t don’t be tight l.o.l .xx seriously she could have said to you can’t have him that day as it was her son’s birthday .
I agree she makes enough and if she wants to go out to eat that’s on her.
In all honesty I think either of you are wrong, it was more of a disagreement on both sides, the person that was babysitting had their price and you have yours if that makes since. In her mind she gets $40 and doesn’t want to spend it on your child.
She definitely should have ran it by you first. But I would pick my battles. It’s going to be hard to find anyone else to babysit your kid for $8 an hour. Daycares and schools don’t provide food and definitely charge the parents for field trips. The only difference is that they give you a heads up first.
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She’s already underpaid. Its not wrong of her to ask, but she could have asked ahead of time.
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You’re only paying $8 an hour… That’s fairly cheap. As a nanny, I charge $15 an hour, AND that’s cheap. Many nannies with my experience (over 20 years in childcare) get $25-35 an hour…
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$40 for 5 hours of care is $8/hr, barely above minimum wage, plus she provides food… give her the $$ for the meal. Smh 
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Girl, good luck finding anyone else willing to watch your child that long for only $40 plus meals! You had a good thing going & honestly messed it up; she probably got an offer to watch someone else’s kid for more $ to be honest 
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She deff had enough. $40 for 5 hours? I charge $20 for 12 hours and provide food. But I mean I’d still give her the $.
$40 isn’t that much, and I always send money for my kids if their sitter wants to take them out.
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I’m assuming you’re in another country because that’s crazy to be paying so little and have additional expenses paid by the sitter too. Def not normal in my part of the world, regardless, I think you’re over reacting and I can understand why the sitter feels uncomfortable enough to pull out of your arrangement.
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That’s a cheap rate for baby sitting I would Have paid the extra
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That’s double what my sitter asks for, that’s insane. I can’t even imagine them asking me to do this.
Come Aus. Day care is only $171.05 a day. My kid was only in from 10 - 2! They did feed her though
I live in the poorest town in the United States and I looked into rates for a babysitter for my 2 year old it’s 12 to 16 dollars a HOUR so u need to ask urself some questions
40 dollars a day thats kind of cheap around here its 10 an hour and they have to provide the childs food so yea you should be paying more plus food
A good sitter wouldn’t ask for extra when it’s something she chose to do. If she really cared about your child she wouldn’t have let something like this stop her from watching them. Move on girl, find a better sitter.
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You are so in the wrong it’s not even funny you should certainly be paying for your child’s food since you are way underpaying your sitter
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Just give her the money she’s watching for cheap. Especially providing meal not take out for eating out.
I run a Dayhome and have ordered the kids lunch when getting a heat pump installed (my power was disconnected for a few hours) or just as a treat and I am to provide food when they’re in my care so doesn’t matter if we order pizza or whatever the parents don’t need to pay extra nor would I ask
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I would’ve sent her the $. You need her, she doesn’t need you.
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It’s your kid, and she’s asking for half!
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You are very much in the wrong. First off, do you not see how expensive everything is rn? Gas, food, etc. It’s likely she has to pick him up and bring him home as well. With that, and buying his food, this poor woman is not making anything from watching your child. I don’t blame her for quitting. You’re a jerk for even expecting that of her.
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I think you’re both wrong if that’s possible haha if I was the babysitter I would not have asked for it, but if I was the mother and I was asked by the babysitter then I would have paid it no questions asked. For all she’s done for your son, did you buy her kid a birthday present?
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I get what you’re saying, but i also feel like if i knew she was willing to still watch your son even though it was her child’s birthday that i woulda sent her money to pay for your child’s food. At home is a different story bc its not much to make him a sandwich or give him snacks, but if they are going on an outing of some sort where she has to use the money she is being paid for watching the child, to pay for his meal too, then i kinda feel like I wouldn’t wanna work anymore either. When she is having to pay for your child, i feel that is unfair to her that not only did she have to look after an extra kid on her sons birthday, (something that was a get together for family) she had to take him with her, and pay for his meal also. $40 a day, isnt alot to begin with, and taking him out to eat, will probably cost her $10 or more, so now thats $30 to watch him per day day, (if you’re expecting her to buy your childs food too)
I do think she could have done this in a better way, by maybe bringing up the party beforehand. In that case I would have offered to pay for his food on my own, bc he is my child, and i would know she would be spending her own money on my child. And i woulda felt bad that she was having to watch my child on one of her own childs birthdays, & i woulda assumed that she had plans with her own kid. although i do get what u are saying, i understand the girls frustration too. I would have paid her though. And then maybe had a talk with her about these kinds of situations for the future. I dont think something like this shoulda been a big deal on ur end.
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I would have sent the money, now you won’t be working in complete silence. Sending the money would have prevented you for having to fund another sitter
Nope. Meals are included!!
Yes, you’re wrong. You don’t even pay her a living wage but talk about it like you’re paying her great money and then you expect her to feed your son out of that money and to top it all off, you won’t pay for his food the one time they go out to eat. You’re not gonna find that deal again.
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BIG WRONG you need a smack into reality please … people like you smh
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i watched my best friends son for 2 years… $20 a day 4 days a week and i’d have him from 7am-4pm… and i provided all meals cause she never sent him with snacks or food money (he’s 2). AND i rarely got paid on time… guess i shoulda been told her i was done cus she was definitely being cheap and inconsiderate… in fact i’m watching him today 
i didn’t because i consider him my nephew and i love him so much… an because i know how hard it is and how expensive it can get… but i’ll be damned if i didn’t get taken advantage of.
Yes. You are wrong here. Send her the money to cover your kids meal.
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I get 15 a kid a day and provide food and have them all day. I do ask the parents for money when we go out to eat or to do an activity that cost and they always are willing to give it.
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I get what you’re saying, but i also feel like if i knew she was willing to still watch your son even though it was her child’s birthday that i woulda sent her money to pay for your child’s food. At home is a different story bc its not much to make him a sandwich or give him snacks, but if they are going on an outing of some sort where she has to use the money she is being paid for watching the child, to pay for his meal too, then i kinda feel like I wouldn’t wanna work anymore either. When she is having to pay for your child, i feel that is unfair to her that not only did she have to look after an extra kid on her sons birthday, (something that was a get together for family) she had to take him with her, and pay for his meal also. $40 a day, isnt alot to begin with, and taking him out to eat, will probably cost her $10 or more, so now thats $30 to watch him per day day, (if you’re expecting her to buy your childs food too)
I do think she could have done this in a better way, by maybe bringing up the party beforehand. In that case I would have offered to pay for his food on my own, bc he is my child, and i would know she would be spending her own money on my child. And i woulda felt bad that she was having to watch my child on one of her own childs birthdays, & i woulda assumed that she had plans with her own kid. although i do get what u are saying, i understand the girls frustration too. I would have paid her though. And then maybe had a talk with her about these kinds of situations for the future. I dont think something like this shoulda been a big deal on ur end.
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You pay her next to nothing for 5 hours of care. While I agree, it would have been nice of her to ask beforehand… I don’t disagree with her asking for additional compensation. You are the one being petty here, not her.
$40 for 5 hours + meals is cheap! Send her that money and be glad she included your child
Not even 10 bucks an hour , yikes. You get what you pay for
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I pay $28 a day and with the cost of food going up but my rates not changing she asked that we provide sack lunch on Monday only. I never thought twice about it because I Love our sitters. She gave me three weeks notice about bringing sack lunches. For her to randomly ask you to pay for his meal while she took him out is a bit out of line to me. As a mom I would have like the option for him to go then I can decide if I get a different sitter for the day or I pay for the meal.
Yes you should have paid
She’s only making 8$ an hour…. You should be sending him with lunch.
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The only problem I see is she didn’t even run it by you or ask if you could even cover the cost of him going out to eat before doing it she knows what day of the week she has your child she could’ve done it the day before or after she dropped her baby off that day or you pick your child up which ever way that happens but you just automatically assume hey I’m taking the kids out to eat without talking to mom about who’s going to pay that’s messed up
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$40 is extremely cheap for a sitter. Where I live they charge $20+ and hour! You’re not even paying her $10 an hour. Regardless of where you live that’s extremely cheap. Now it might have been a little tacky of her to ask you to send her money for his food, but if I were you I would have offered her money from the beginning.
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Where I’m from, in home care is 120/wk. I’m not sure where you’re at but 40/day for only 5 hours is a lot, and daycare rates are supposed to include food. She took him without asking, not even knowing if you had the ability to budget for something extra that SHE chose to do without your consent. She’s in the wrong, BUT I would have paid and then let her know that in the future you need to be made aware of her changing plans so that you can budget for it or find a different sitter for the day.
I dont understand why you think she should have to pay meals out of her own pocket, its your child.
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You should apologize. She is doing you a big favor
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That’s her sons birthday. How dare you say she should reschedule. You are so inconsiderate. I wouldn’t watch him anymore either.
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Please whatever you do…do not send your child to her.get some one reliable eith good reference. Too many red flags
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