My spouse said hurtful things to me

Let me get this straight
1- you asked and asked and he gave you an answer he believed you wanted to hear
2- now he has told you the truth and you are hurt
3- now you are doing exactly what he was afraid of now that’s he’s told the truth

Look up kegel exercise and pelvic floor exercises.

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He’s probably just small and wants to put the blame on you :unamused:

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Im self conscious about it too. But feck it. What can we do? Ive had 3 kids. You know? I guess we can do some exercises. But Ive also heard of this cream or something from Pure Romance called Like a Virgin. Ive heard it works well. Makes you feel tighter to him and makes him feel bigger to you. Worth trying. Ima look into it too.

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Well, it seems like he was right. You shouldnt have asked. Cause now you’re upset and dont wanna have sex.:woman_shrugging:t3:

You told him to be honest with you. They sale tightening gel, us as women have it a little hard… I mean we have gave birth to our children. But if your concerned about your sex life there are plenty of things out there and certain exercises you can do.

That’s not nice, maybe try doing kegels and see if that helps.

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It sounds like he meant it when he said he didn’t want to hurt your feelings before and also because he wanted to continue having sex with you so he apparently enjoys it. Nowadays there are vaginal tightening treatments, this is a fix, I know it hurt your feelings, but maybe it was the way the wording was executed? If you have an open and honest conversation about how he can tell you something honest more kindly next time if that’s the case, it can be worked out most definitely and you can both be happier with the result of some treatments :white_heart:

My boyfriend once told me he doesn’t eat my pussy because I’m not a virgin but he expects to get his dick sucked with 4 kids from 3 different girls. Men are fucking dumb

Vaginas relax with excitement, it’s actually natural. However, you can always do kegels…even during sex.

Never ask questions you don’t really want to know the answer to. Kegels, my babe.

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Tell him hes just to small for the toy box

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U sure it’s not u, that maybe hes just small?

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I would suggest getting a bullet though. You can use it while y’all have sex and it makes your vagina contract so it squeezes his penis. So you’re working out your kegels and pleasing your man at the same time.

Perhaps the two of you can figure out a solution? First step is to determine if you have a actual medical issue going on with a visit to your gyno and next find out how to remedy the issue. Ask him for his emotional support and if he’s willing to help you financially if it’s a surgery type repair. Im sorry it hurt your feelings and he probably didn’t want to hurt you, either. Just have a honest conversation :purple_heart:

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It’s his cut circumcised dick that’s the problem girlfriend. A third of his dick has been chopped off.

I’d be done having sex with him. Whether that is true or not, it’s a very hurtful thing to say. Do you have children with him? Because if you do, that makes that comment even more disgusting.

Yeah I’d feel the same way , I literally have no advice on how to cope with that , I’d probably get vaginal rejuvenation :upside_down_face: and never have sex with him again :joy: I might be a bit dramatic tho

But if you’ve asked him multiple times I don’t think you can be offended. You are pushing him to tell you the truth.
Start doing exercises or go see a physio who will help you tighten up.

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The more excited u are, the more it tightens up. He was boring I guess.

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Do some kegals or however u spell it. Do it for 5 minutes 3 times a day and u should feel the difference yourself. Come on now we all internet grown lol

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You shouldn’t of not asked.

Start doing kegels and leave him.

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He’s just small babe

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He told u now u upset If he still up in it he gotta be too small or something

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So, you tell him you want him to be open and honest with you… and he does… and now you are hurt and upset?? :thinking:

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It’s a lie to keep you insecure. I promise you that.

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So you ask for the truth and he tells you the truth and now you’re upset he told you the truth!

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Did he recently experience a tighter pussy to all of a sudden start telling you the truth now? That’s where my head would go anyways.

I’m with the comment that stated to do kegels and leave him :raised_hands:t2:

You can always give him the option of door #2

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It could just be that you have a deeper cervix and thats just the way God made ya! There’s ways to tighten up medically but very expensive.

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Tell him you’re not loose, he’s small.

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Being tight means your not turned on. The “looser” a woman is, the more turned on she is

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26 years with my wife 3 kids later feels the same to me because I love it. What a Dick or lack there of. Sorry but that is just well I’m not saying any more

Do kegals and stay or leave his ass. It is a lie

He’s doing something!! That’s cuz his d*ck little . He’s his own problem.

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Maybe it’s not you so much as the size of his dick. Just saying :slightly_smiling_face: :upside_down_face:

Well hmm?Lets see what will happen when he gets a little older and wants sex and can’t get a woodie w/o his blue pill ?He has major issues to be so ignorant to say that period true or not !

Perhaps he’s too small :thinking::thinking:

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tell him his dick is small. that’s why you feel loose. :slight_smile:

I think you yourself would know if you were. There’s a very good chance he’s just small. If you do believe you are, do some kegals! They are great for this!

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Okay y’all are so mean acting like she cannot have feeling her feeling are VAILD …she asked him but he could of worded it different…obviously something like this would hurt a women make them question and doubt them self …I hope y’all work it out and I’m pretty sure there is exercise or something you can do love to help that out …good luck mama :sparkles:

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Kegel and those p$^&$@ weights…then throw the whole man away

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Don’t feel hurt about this,just tell him he’s small that’s why he feels that you are loose…and it’s not something he’s been holding back because he didn’t want to hurt he’s lying he’s sleeping with someone else,if he finds you loose back then he wouldn’t marry you knowing it’s for the rest of his life… don’t loose yourself over this no vagina is "loose’ enough not to hold a penis it could be that you are getting too wet when he penetrates you

First of all if you have kids of course it’s going to loosen up. You did tell him to be honest and he did and now you’re crying over it I get it. But don’t hold it against him he still loves you he still making love to you. There’s just some things in life that you have to deal with. That makes you really that uncomfortable I know there’s surgeries that can be done to tighten up that area.

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are you loose or is he just teeny tiny?

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Wow… he could have said it in a way less hurtful way. Ask yourself if you’re satisfied. Maybe he has a shortcoming on his part. Don’t cry or feel bad lady. You are beautiful no matter what and if he cannot be happy with that then bye!

P.S. kegals don’t always work. Yeah I’m small but it does nothing for my pee when I sneeze. Our ladies are all different and respond differently. Be happy with yourself first. Don’t seek happiness from others.

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Do kegels, try diff positions… idk can you feel him? Maybe he’s just small? :rofl::rofl::rofl: jk idk just saying, life is more then just sex, weight, looks… people are so shallow nowadays but now that you have the answer, fix it. Stay married. Get counseling :pray::pray::heart::heart::heart:

I have 4 kids & 1. Never heard that.
2. I’m still has tight as I was before I had kids & no not bragging nor had work done. Getting older so his is probably shrinking. We lose inches on height the older we get (5’8, now 5’6), so it does start shrinkng on men & the balls sag alot lol

Girl he’s probably just sad cuz he knows he has a micro peepee :woman_shrugging:t2: throw him away

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Move on to bigger and better things

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Kind of odd if he’s just now bringing it up. I’m not sure how long yall have been together but that’s weird.

He’s cheating. He’s trying to make you get mad and break up with him so he doesn’t have to do it.
Love doesn’t hurt. Get rid of him and get a real man

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Tell him you aren’t loose his thing is just to small.:laughing:

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Tell him his dick ain’t fit for size no more! Honey fck him and fco the hurtful comments! Men everywhere be like I want a tight vagina yeah well I want a man that knows how to use his dick! We don’t get everything we want in life! And call me cynical but if he can lie about that what else Isla that MF lying about? Trust me the only thing that is reliable is a rechargeable vibrator :wink: hits the spot every time and never lets you down! Just remember to keep it charged! Hope your ok though! X

You’re not loose, your husband dick has shrunk.

Best tip I’ve gotten was from Cameron Diaz on a talk show. She said you must squeeze and hold the squeeze for 10 seconds, rest a few seconds and then again and again, but only on an empty bladder. That and keggles works wonders. After doing it so much you have so much tight muscle down there that he might complain it’s too tight. That’s why some women say they can crack a nut down there​:roll_eyes::sweat_smile:
Not only that, there’s different positions you can do that’s still really nice like :dog2:
Don’t take IT personal, we are women, he might be small, mighty not be, doesn’t matter. He was honest and now you know.
I would’ve wondered how come he says it now, makes one think he had someone “tighter” recently?
Where ever we go we must take the negatives and turn them in to positive.
:cherry_blossom:

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Loose/tight or big/small… if you don’t turn your partner on in some way then they are gonna focus on why they think its not right and may have never had the proper channels to communicate in previous or present relationships… its a learning and bonding opportunity and yea its a set back but also you can now feel more open to voicing your concerns eventually. But main thing is what can I do to get the result. “What makes you want it to start/go on/end that I can help you with?” Once a bond is formed the pleasure increases.

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Did you actually know when a women is tight it means she’s not turned on, when she’s turned on she’s loose due to the mussels relaxing! Tell him to do his research🤣

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Uhh I hate the “you’re loose” statement bc a Virginia when NOT READY AND EXCITED is TIGHT and looser vagina literally means you are comfortable and your walls relax :woman_shrugging:t2: this mf just don’t know the female body and is not any type of MAN he’s a little boy who had a lot of growing up to do

It was a ittsy bittsy tenny wennie :eggplant::eggplant::eggplant::eggplant::eggplant:tell him to :smoking::smoking::smoking::smoking:on that ###LEAVE THAT LOSER###noone intentionally hurt someone that they love run girl run better knm than later SHAME ON HIM​:pleading_face::pleading_face::pleading_face:

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Tell him his dick is too small!! The cheeky little shit!! Hope you are ok

:pencil2: :pencil2: I bet it’s him, not you. Maybe you need to be honest with him about him too. I swear who raises these dumba** men.

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I wouldn’t even stick around long enough to be mad. :v:

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Bye bye baby dick. Move on to BIGGER better things

Woman are not loose…the vagina is a thing of wonders…children come from it …Being loose depends on how turned on the woman is.moral of the story is he’s small and your gorgeous…

Thats what all micro penis say. Really, your going to stay with that man after that. Im sorry but there are plenty of fishes in the sea and most know that sex is not all about the vagina. When you find a man that can make love to you the right way, you know you’ve found a man. Not another micro dick

Bahahahahahahha that’s the best one I’ve heard yet.

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Kegals girl!! My kids were c-sections, not vaginal births but I have been doing them daily for years. Also, look into a yoni egg or a weighted kegal ball, I love mine. This happens to women after vaginal births, it’s normal…but you can get it back. I remember talking to my ob/gyn about it before I decided to go with c-sections and she said that the vagina never goes completely back to what it was like before kids, but that kegals help strengthen your pelvic floor and can help tighten things back up.

Rejuvenation Mama… I’m 43 with the pussy of a 20 year old. I promise you it’s the only thing you need.

Tell him he’s micro sized and dump his ass. Go get yourself some real man :ok_hand:t2:

The more aroused a woman is the more relaxed the vaginal walls get. Tell him it’s a compliment.

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Wth… u could have reply his not so strong like he usually is…

Would he rather a bum hole :flushed:

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i mean… you did ask for the truth right? with full, open honesty you have to be ready for the answers you don’t want or like. i’ve been told i’m too tight and most can’t last long in there because it is tight always, it gets on my nerves cause i love sex, but it can’t always happen because the tightness makes them cum very fast. give him your ass, anal is amazing!

and maybe you are abit loose, but so what? if he doesn’t like it then fuck him off and find someone who does.

Then tell him you wish he was bigger and say the reason why you keep asking if he’s satisfied is because your not from him. It’ll massively hurt his ego

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In all fairness you DID ask. See this is why sometimes our S.O don’t tell us stuff like this cause they know what our reaction are going to be. You ask for honesty and get upset with honesty. My spouse and I tell the truth to each other regardless if it hurts and I’m glad

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If he wasn’t getting satisfied, because he said you were loose ,why was he worried about you not wanting sex ,Beautiful women his maybe lieing to you ,do not let his words affect you ,your better then that. If you feel maybe you are ,there are things that you or doctors can do,go talk to a doctor

Girl why are YOU crying lol level up HIS :eggplant: is too small for you queen. Here’s your crown :crown:

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I think way too much importance is placed on whether men fee happy or satisfied.

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Tell him that maybe if he were somewhat big you wouldn’t seem loose to him

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I would confirm that it did hurt your feelings, but thank him for being honest.
There are pelvic exercises you can look into!

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When you say he can be open and honest, what did you expect?

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Hes obviously got a small :eggplant:

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Why ask for the truth if you can’t handle it

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Nah sis. You’re perfect. He’s the problem. Don’t cry over him. He’s not worth it.

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Sound like it’s not u it’s him with his small man :grin::smirk:

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Tell him his dicks to little

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Never ask a question you don’t want to hear the brutal truth to.

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Maybe you’re not loose…. Maybe he just has a really small :eggplant:

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A woman can’t really be loose unless it’s been a constantly used situation. The vagina is like a rubber band. It’ll go back to its original shape :slightly_smiling_face: so don’t worry. You’re not loose. He’s probably a bit small.

Sounds like to me his got a small cock complex. Your perfect it’s him that’s not

I mean, you DID tell him to be open and honest about whether or not he was satisfied. He could be small or totally full of crap. But if not, being “loose” isn’t your fault. Some women are looser naturally, and if you have pelvic floor issues, that could make it worse. There are exercises for that. There is also tigthening lube, but idk how well it works. And different positions make you feel tighter. You can be upset that he hurt your feelings, but don’t be mad at him for being honest or he won’t ever tell you the truth about anything.

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I’d tell that mf to educate himself bc we can push babies out of that hole and it goes back to the same exact size it was before. Loose?? No such thing. Sounds like a him problem

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Umm you are supposed to be some what loose as a woman gets aroused her vulva and pelvic floor relax to accommodate for breeding its perfectly natural well if you are into it

He probably has a small penis. A woman’s vagina is supposed to get bigger when they are turned on. So are penises, he’s just small.

Doesn’t hurt to do some Kegels girl! Even if he has a small dick!!

Sounds like his :eggplant: too small

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Y’all in these comments and your S/O really need to educate your selves on the female body and how it works being “loose” is actually a GOOD THING! the fact that men now days are still uneducated and using it as an insult baffles me.

Women when they become AROUSED their vaginal walls loosen. The more aroused she becomes the wider the canal to basically “invite” him in and not cause tearing to the tissue . If your woman is constantly tight you’re NOT DOING SOMETHING RIGHT !! Or she’s just not into you!

Also we birth babies it is made to expand and return to original shape. It’s a muscle!

Please please Pleaseeeeeee start educating yourself because reading these comments is just baffling honestly!

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Vaginas don’t get “loose” … his dick is just small. What an uneducated loser.

Loose= happy V
A woman who is properly being satisfied is suppose to be “loose”. Tight means he’s not doing something right.

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