And you havent snatched him up yet and tore his ass up for him??
Tell your husband to watch him.Keep him away from the small kids. Or else.
Leave. Don’t wait until he accidentally goes too far. This is a small child, but he is growing and getting stronger. I get that splitting up your family is hard, but you need to protect your children.
I had a step brother like this, but a little older. He was down right mean. He drew a picture of lighting my mom, brother and I on fire while we sleeping. It got to the point that my mom actually got scared and threatened to leave my step dad if he didnt get his son some help. He did. He had to send him away for awhile, but he did get some help.
No one should have to live in fear. What if he seriously hurts your newborn? You need to stand your ground and give your husband an ultimatum!
I would tell your husband that you understand that his relationship with his son is important but until the young man can keep to your rules as it’s your home them he will have to have his access outside of the family home you built. I would also explain to him that his son’s behaviour isn’t normal and that maybe he should look into having him assessed. Your reasons for this is his constant aggressive behaviour towards the other children and yourself and that you would be in fear in case he causes severe Injury to one of them and that if he can’t handle what you are saying then maybe you should assess whether your marriage is worth the trauma caused to your other children. Children always come first
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Your husband is in denial. You might want to lay some ground rules for your husband and stick to them. And let him know you will not stand around and allow your children to be abused by their sibling. There is no way I would allow anyone to treat my children like that. It’s time to step up and protect them.
Torturing small animals is a good sign he’s got sociopathic tendencies. You need to speak with his mother about this issue if your husband refuses to listen to you. Get video evidence of it. And if it continues going on without anyone intervening, take it to CPS and tell them that a step-child that comes into your home on a regular basis is a danger to your children and that his parents aren’t doing anything about it. They can help better than someone on facebook can.
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This behavior is unacceptable. He needs help.
But most importantly, you need to stand by your kids. They don’t deserve this. In my opinion, you need to leave with your children in order to protect them. If it’s this bad now, it’ll get worse when your newborn comes home.
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Oh honey… I know this is a child but I’ve watched enough ID to know that those are serious signs of a psychological issue. Most serial killers start off like that. Not saying that’s the case but I would be VERY concerned.
I’d give an ultimatum to your husband. Either the child gets help or you & the other children are gone.
You need to protect your babies no matter what the cost is.
Sending you love momma 
Either your husband will let you put your foot down, or I’d divorce. No way, screw that. My ex had a sons that were out of control. He held them on a pedestal, they could do no wrong, and he didn’t like to discipline them because he didn’t want them to not want to come over. I got sick of it. You’re to protect your children, and I would’ve already left if I were you. Put your babies before anyone. No way in hell would I allow this to continue.
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If his parents can’t discipline him he needs someone that can. If you’re his step mom and plan on staying his step mom then you just need to talk to his ex about how he’s acting and tell her you’d like to be more involved in disciplining him. If you’re expected to watch this kid multiple times a week you should have a say in things.
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Okay and if hes torturing animals and his parents are doing anything you need to freakin leave and call CPS. Asap. That’s like Ted Bundy shit and would not be around my kids.
You could contact Dr. Phil.
Write him as many times as you can. He may help.
Why are you not allowed to discipline him?? No discipline created unruly children who think they can do anything. Granted it sounds like this child needs more help than a spanking such as therapy or something, but I’m sure it contributes. But yes, keep track of each incident. Your children’s safety needs to be #1 priority in all situations no matter how hard. Leave before your babies get seriously hurt
First off to protect yourself - get cameras in every room so you have proof of the boy doing these horrible things. If someone outside of your family sees marks or god forbid one of the babies needs to go to the hospital for a serious injury, you have proof as to who did it and you cannot be blamed for any marks or injuries.
That boy needs serious help and will end up seriously hurting one of your babies (especially a newborn)real soon.
In addition to strongly enforcing that they get him evaluated I would install cameras & tell his bio parents that he can not be left in your care. If dad isn’t there than nope he can’t be here. If dad has to run to the store or wherever he needs to go with him until things improve
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I don’t mean no harm but him an his crazy as kid will be gone bye protect your children let the mom an dad deal with an I would be out sorry not sorry an I’m jus keeping it 
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Counseling for the child if the dad doesn’t agree to that then 
that’s not ok at all and will get worse. Also you should be able to discipline him he’s living under your roof.
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Oh he’ll no if your step son is going to be in your house that many times in 1 week you dam sure do have a right to discipline him especially being his step mom you are entitled to scold him and teach him. That kid needs a fucking beat down. Also he’s going to end up hurting one of your kids and your new baby. And the dad you need to send that mother fucker to he’ll how dare he put excuses and tell you that you can’t scold him and gets angry with you who the fuck he thinks he is. You need to be strong you have a big decision to make DO YOU REALLY WANT TO BE IN YOUR OWN HOME WORRIED ALL THE TIME THAT HE WILL HURT ONE OF YOUR KIDS??? YOU NEED TO BE IN PEACE IN YOUR OWN HOME. TALK TO YOUR HUSBAND BE STRONG PUT YOUR FOOT DOWN IF NOT HE HAS TO GO THE HE’LL WITH THAT. ONE OF THESE DAYS GOD FORBID THAT KID IS GONNA HURT ONE OF YOUR KIDS AND YOU HAVE A NEW BABY COMING IN WHO KNOW WHAT ELSE HE WILL DO TO THAT NEW BORN… THAT KID NEEDS A BEAT DOWN AND HE NEEDS HELP ITS CLEAR HIS PARENT ARE SPO,ILING HIM WAY TO MUCH AND NOT PUTTING THERE FOOT DOWN AND PUTTING EXCUSES!!! THAT KIDS WILL GROW UP TO BE A RAPIST MURDER PEDIFIOLE ETC IF HIS PARENTS DON’T PUT A STOP TO IT. I SEEN CASES ON DATELINE KIDS BECOME MURDERS AND IT STARTS WITH HURTING CATS LIKE YOU DAY HE’S DOING… WOMAN BE STRONG AND GET READY CAUSE IT SEEMS LIKE YOU NEED TO PUT IN DIVORCE PAPERS… I COULD SEE THIS NOT REVOLVING AND GETTING WORSE AND YOUR HUSBAND IS A PIECE OF SHIT PUTTING EXCUSES. WHAT ABOUT HIS OTHER KIDS. IT SEEMS LIKE HE DOESN’T GIVE A FUCK AND HE’S ONLY WORRIED ABOUT HIS ONE SON!!! I would have been put hands on that kid!!! get this resolved for your kids cause you will regret it in the long run… You need to be at peace in your own home.
Oh he’ll no if your step son is going to be in your house that many times in 1 week you dam sure do have a right to discipline him especially being his step mom you are entitled to scold him and teach him. That kid needs a fucking beat down. Also he’s going to end up hurting one of your kids and your new baby. And the dad you need to send that mother fucker to he’ll how dare he put excuses and tell you that you can’t scold him and gets angry with you who the fuck he thinks he is. You need to be strong you have a big decision to make DO YOU REALLY WANT TO BE IN YOUR OWN HOME WORRIED ALL THE TIME THAT HE WILL HURT ONE OF YOUR KIDS??? YOU NEED TO BE IN PEACE IN YOUR OWN HOME. TALK TO YOUR HUSBAND BE STRONG PUT YOUR FOOT DOWN IF NOT HE HAS TO GO THE HE’LL WITH THAT. ONE OF THESE DAYS GOD FORBID THAT KID IS GONNA HURT ONE OF YOUR KIDS AND YOU HAVE A NEW BABY COMING IN WHO KNOW WHAT ELSE HE WILL DO TO THAT NEW BORN… THAT KID NEEDS A BEAT DOWN AND HE NEEDS HELP ITS CLEAR HIS PARENT ARE SPO,ILING HIM WAY TO MUCH AND NOT PUTTING THERE FOOT DOWN AND PUTTING EXCUSES!!! THAT KIDS WILL GROW UP TO BE A RAPIST MURDER PEDIFIOLE ETC IF HIS PARENTS DON’T PUT A STOP TO IT. I SEEN CASES ON DATELINE KIDS BECOME MURDERS AND IT STARTS WITH HURTING CATS LIKE YOU DAY HE’S DOING… WOMAN BE STRONG AND GET READY CAUSE IT SEEMS LIKE YOU NEED TO PUT IN DIVORCE PAPERS… I COULD SEE THIS NOT REVOLVING AND GETTING WORSE AND YOUR HUSBAND IS A PIECE OF SHIT PUTTING EXCUSES. WHAT ABOUT HIS OTHER KIDS. IT SEEMS LIKE HE DOESN’T GIVE A FUCK AND HE’S ONLY WORRIED ABOUT HIS ONE SON!!! I would have been put hands on that kid!!! get this resolved for your kids cause you will regret it in the long run… You need to be at peace in your own home.
I would not let someone like him around the kids. Go spend time elsewhere with him.
Please leave before your babies get really hurt you need to protect your kids if your husband doesn’t care than leave
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If you’re not allowed to discipline a child that’s in your home and you’re responsible for, then he shouldn’t be allowed in your home. I’ve never watched/taken care of I child that I couldn’t discipline. He could be a danger to others and that’s just a simple truth. His parents need to seek help for him asap
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Until the dad stops being in denial then you cant do anything other then try and keep your kids safe or leave
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Put. Your. Foot. Down.
Take your kids and stay with family and tell your husband you’re not coming back until he gets that boy some help. It doesn’t matter if he’s your step son or biological son, you have to protect your other kids.
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Please do not take this the wrong way, but you not leaving, or attempting to do something about it is going to cause you to be blamed for keeping your kids in that kind of situation and will backfire on you. So either he can’t come over until something is resolved, or you have to leave to keep your kids safe, or something. Refuse to watch him and deal with him. Yell at him if you have to. His dad needs to give a damn and make a move. It’s your job at this point to keep your children safe. You can call and ask social services for advice on what you can do without giving your personal info. His dad doesn’t have to know you asked
Sounds like you and your spouse need to get on the same page
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Do not allow him in your home if the father leaves the kid goes with him or stays at the mothers
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If his behaviour isn’t checked by the time the baby comes, I fear for the worst… A cat and a small child have at least a little bit of defense, but a baby is a sitting duck. This situation terrifies me. If husband can’t change his mind on discipline, and you can’t get him to watch his son closely and keep him away from the other kids, I’d leave real quick.
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Is this a joke? Your kids are being tortured and made to not feel safe in their own home. This kid needs help because he will only get worse as he gets older and you and your husband should be very scared.
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I am confused why you are being gentle and respectful with a grown man who is not protecting your children.
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maybe it’s time to teach your kids they have to stand up to bullies he does it on purpose cuz he knows he can get away with it what a shame your husband doesn’t do anything but I have a question did you know about this before you married him
You need to protect your kids and forget your husband if hes not willing to listen to you then its time to go. Your kids should be more important then him I would not risk this child causing serious bodily harm to the other kids in the house. This child needs real help hurting animals is NEVER a good sign
Hes 4??? If you’re not allowed to discipline him, tell your husband you will no longer watch him. He needs help. I would get some type of camera for your own protection
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I would tell your husband. The man that is supposed to love and protect you and your kids that if he doesnt get his son some help that you’ll be gone. You cant put your kids physical health and mental health on the line. Do what you need to do to protect your kids, even if that means leaving
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Yeah this is real life serial killer stuff. If unchecked now it will turn for the worst when he gets older. I’d whoop him a good one no matter what my SO said, and if he wouldn’t allow me to discipline him then he’d have to go with the demon child. HELL. NO.
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You should be allowed to punish him. That’s your home and if behaving in a dangerous way, you have every right!
Just a little back story, I have an uncle who’s the youngest of all his brothers and has a different dad than the rest of my uncles. My gma had a fling when her and my gpa split up and his real dad was not in his life at all. When my gma remarried, she told my new gpa that he was never allowed to discipline him. Long story short, she babied him and let him get away with everything! He’s now serving life in prison for attempted murder. Maybe if she allowed my gpa to step up and play the father roll and discipline him like he should have been, could have been a different outcome…
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This is behavior that needs intervention now! While he’s still young! You need to have a firm talk about getting him help or I strongly advise you get your kids away from him because one time he’s going to do something that is irreversible and eventually there will be scared kids that don’t feel protected in their own home. I’m sorry if that’s hard to hear but these things are not to be taken lightly. Good luck mama I’m sorry you’re going through this
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Your children come first, im just saying if that child hurts one of your children and you go to dr for treatment then they will say you are neglecting your own children by not keeping them safe. Put him in timeout and take things from him as punishment. Something anything.
I’d be disciplining that child and if my husband didn’t like it, I’d get rid of the husband !!!It doesn’t matter that that child is from a previous marriage, if he is at your house often and around your children when you have a right to say something
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Your husband needs a reality check, that kid needs major help and discipline… sorry but he sounds like an entitled spoiled brat…if your husband doesn’t do something now I hope he has a lot of bail money for the future because that kid is only going to get worse…I feel so sorry for your kids, they can’t even feel safe in their own home… shame on your husband for allowing him to abuse your children…
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Havs you tried to video tape your step son so your husband can see for himself what is going on. You havd a right to discipline this little boy. Have you talk to the bio mom to see whats going on in her house? He need to get this 4 yr. Old under controll now. I dont understand why your husband doesnt wake up and helps you with this. There is something wrong with this little boy.
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This kind of behavior at a very early age is extremely alarming. Behavior like this is usually followed by being a sexual predator when older. He needs help asap or your whole family will be the ones to pay!
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If they are allowing a 4 year old to run all over them, then you should be able to take control cause obviously they have no backbone. If this continues he wont be allowed in school, what will they do then?
You wanna explain why you thought it was appropriate to bring a new baby into that environment with a man who has made it clear that his son is more important than anyone or anything else? 
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first an foremost if he is a child under your roof, you need to be able to discipline him the same as you do your own kids. there needs to be boundaries, rules, and punishments. That child is not displaying normal behavior, and if it continues to go unchecked it is going to get a lot worse. sounds to me as though the child could use some counseling
That type of behavior is not funny and he should not be near your kids. Seriously, get him away before he harms your kids; he is doing it already!
You need to protect your children. End of story. If your husband does nothing about the 4 year old torturing the other kids in the home then you need to leave him before something terrible happens. You have seen what the boy is capable of. If you stay and allow it to happen in your home then it falls on you for not being protective. I have step sons who are significantly older then my daughter I share with my husband. And I won’t allow them to pick at her at all. When they bully her I shut it down and there is nothing my husband can say or do to stop me.
I would discipline him regardless and if your husband has an issue with it, you can let him know that if he’s not going to do it you will. He needs some serious evaluation because that behavior is not normal and will continue and progress further. I work at a juvenile SO facility and 85% of the time, this is how that behavior starts as well. Not throwing shade or trying to predict the future.
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Tell your kids to stand up to him and if you’re not allowed to discipline the child tell your husband not to leave him with you and he needs to deal with him the whole time he has him and if that don’t work report the little boy for torturing animals I bet that would scare him alittle… I tell everyone if you don’t want me to discipline you kids like I do mine don’t leave them with me… Hope you find the help and voice you need to straighten this little boy out before it’s to late
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Get your kids and leave untill the dad sees that your right! That boy needs help that is not good for a 4 yo at all. Its not fair to stay there and let him beat on them babys. It will only get worse if he dont get help
PUT up security cameras all over the house.
Have a talk with your husband. He needs to give you some discipline rights. Both of you need to talk to this child together. Become a United front that you wont tolerate it. Consistency with discipline.
I suggest your husband may need a psychologist as well…
Husband needs to do something
You should be allowed to discipline your stepchild especially if you’re married AND have other kids. Fuck no. I would tell your husband either he disciplines him the next time or you’ll be sending him to a psychiatrist the next day. End of discussion.
Are you making him feel included ? Maybe his acting out because you show no affection or involve him ? But i would definately tell your husband, have some proof because he could really hurt someone.
This is really alarming. Sounds like a psychopath in the making. Something needs to be done now.
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Have you tried talking to the mom?
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He is wanting attention, give him one on one time just you guys same for dad, he is ONLY 4 he is still a baby
That boy needs help. In the meantime I wouldn’t have the other children in the home while he’s there. Especially when you have a newborn. That’s serious what you’ve described. That’s not normal child development. Something may be happening to him elsewhere and he’s lashing out. Whatever the case is you need to keep your children safe.
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Honestly, I would tell your husband that you will disipline him the same way you discipline your own children or you are moving out. And I would follow through. The end. Its your responsibility to keep all kids safe in the home.
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Protect your children. His behavior is not normal. Your husband needs to open his eyes! If he is tourtouring animals you should tutn him in so he can get some help or else you are helping to promote that behavior
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Wow. Hell no you need to discipline that child. You all rights to if your watching him. Or dont watch him
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Take your children and leave. Tell your husband you love him but the safety of your children come first. His son needs a therapist asap. Been there done that.
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Tell your husband he needs to do a better job but disappointing him and get him into play therapy. Or your out the door. Hurting kids and animals are big red flags.
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I would have spanked him… If you can’t discipline him then he needs to not come over or you need to take your children and get out of there. Period. This is NOT normal and NOT okay!
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If your watching him there’s no reason you shouldn’t be able to discipline him. Time outs and all that. Especially if dad isn’t going to step up and parent. It seems like both bio parents want to be the fun one but he needs structure before something even more terrible happens. Get him included when he’s doing good, have dad spend one on one time with him, talk to the mom if you can. But he needs help before the baby comes. If it doesn’t happen, document this and leave.
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He is jealous of the other kids
Bust that kids ass and his mothers.
Less getting on to him and more praise and time with him just you and him alone and him and his dad alone
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Tell him the kid sees a doctor or you are going to see a lawyer to protect your children
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He needs to see someone. If your husband isn’t wanting to discipline him or getting mad when you say something than it needs to be the end of y’all. But if I was you I would start saying something to him & putting him in a corner and he if tries to move tell him if he moves you’ll whoop him. I know you can’t discipline him but just say you will
Okay this where the family did wrong no discipline of the child and getting away from this kind behavior, this what happened to child who have more of power than adult do. Personally I wouldn’t have it in my house and he ain’t gonna like me one bit. if I ever see him doing that guess what his game is gone, no treat, no tv shows, cook the food he don’t like, put him in bed early, put him in time out. He ain’t getting nothing back til he earned the respect in my home.
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Weather you help raise that child or not if he’s abusing YOUR children in YOUR home your damn right you can discipline him. Put the child on time out, take away his toys or stop taking him for fun outings. That’s not acceptable behaviour at all, talk to your husband and if he is against disciplining him I’d take your things and the kids and leave for a while when your step child is there until he gets the hint.
What’s dad gonna say the first time he hurts the baby?? No way is this ok!
Video him, cannot argue with that. Nanny cams
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And that’s when I’d be leaving. No one is going to hurt my babies. If I can’t discipline the child then the child wont be staying in my house.
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I’m curious what you mean by torturing the neighbors cats… i don’t mean to jump to any conclusions or accusations but there’s so many stories of people who are cruel to animals and younger children who then grow up to be (I’m trying to put this as nice as i can) bad people. Get him some help before the situation escalated to uncontrollable
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Install cameras, record his behavior and confront dad! That is unacceptable
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If your husband won’t acknowledge the obvious issue and help his son get the help he needs to live a successful and healthy life, then I would do whatever it takes to protect my children.
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Terrorize his little ass back until he gets the point.
You are those babies protector, if you do not take action, you will have a very bad situation on your hands. Either move you Nd your kids out or demand that that child gets help. He will end up bad injuring or killing one of them.
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That poor kid. The house he spends time in besides yours (his mom?) must be awful and abusive to have a kid his age behave this way
A rough personality? Why are you putting up with this. Put your foot down before he really hurts someone. Any body that hurts kids and animals need professional help I don’t care how old they are. Someone should call CPS on him!!!
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I am going to suggest time in if he misbehaves he has to sit beside you and he can learn to read or write your kids can join in if they wish
Rough housing vs mental illness. Even if it were just rough housing, if the other kids don’t like it, he should be made understand and taught respect for other people. That’s goes for any age!
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When your hubby is at work or whatever and you’re solely responsible for child, put your foot down! Don’t be physical, but utilizes the activities or whatever he loves the most as consequences. Tell your husband the child needs to learn boundries. If he doesn’t like you discipling him, there’s the door, otherwise, y’all need to be a TEAM! If it’s the mom that doesn’t allow it, well, she can get over it.
Maybe try to find the problem. Reward any good behaviour with his likes. Same for other kids. Get a treasure chest of their favorite snacks, little toys, maybe homemade coupons to redeem for a surprise outting. Try to encourage good behaviour. If he knows his negativity will get attention or get on your nerves, he’s going to do it. Any attention is better than none, good or bad.
I would put my foot down and if he didn’t agree then I would get my kids away from that without some time of treatment he is going to seriously injury ur child or someone else’s good luck
Ummm remove yourself and protect your kids…
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Demand the kid gets help or take your babies and leave.
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He MUST GET HELP NOW. For everyone’s safety. He is only going to get worse, otherwise.
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Sometimes it doesn’t work out with mixing kids from previous relationships. My husbands daughter hurt my son so bad she is never allowed to see him again or me. My husband is still in her life but he’s nervous around her. Your husband and you have to be on the same page to protect all the kids not just one.
That little boy needs his butt beat my daughter is 25 yrs old and never once did she act that way because she knew i would tear her butt up and because of discipline she is a positive member of society and a awesome mom to my 2yr old granddaughter
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You need to tell your husband to act like a parent or fuck off. Sorry, but you need to protect your children. He can’t be taught that he can get away with everything.
Only going to get worse.If husband does not help.with the problem.I would think.about leaving.Quickly!
If he was torturing a cat thats a SERIOUS problem. One of the first signs of a sociopath. Please find a way to get evidence and show your husband ot something. Call and get him bakeracted. Ig youre legally married to his father you can.
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I had a situation like this happen. It was my MIL kids she was fostering for her granddaughter. And the 4 year old was awful. She would do horrid things. Hurt others threaten and everything. I would tell my MIL th3st something was seriously wrong with her. It came down to one incident where i had enough. I was the babysitter for this 4 year old girl and her 1.5 year old brother. And this 4 year old girl would tell me she was gonns kill me. Said she hated all of us. Now mind you ive known this girl since she was born. She was my angel. Her mother let her do whatever whenever and never disciplined her. Well this 4 year old girl did the most scariest thing ever. I was cooking dinner for my 4 children. I was 7 months pregnant. And I heard my 2 year old scream bloody murder. I turn around and my daughter was bleeding. The 4 year old had attacked my 4 year old her 1.5 year old brother and my 2 yesr old got in her way and was smashed on her knee by a hammer toy thing the 4 year old had gotten aho,ld of. This is when I called the child’s cps workers and demanded they get that girl help. She had to be removed from the hime. And got intensive counseling.
This is just an example of what could happen. Tell your husband get his son help or get out. That the safety of other chidlren and even the welfare of that 4 yr old boy come before your husbands feelings. That kid is clearly ill. And he needs help.
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Sounds like he lacks discipline and doesn’t know theres consequences to his actions…i would beat his a$$ if it were me and will get neg. remarks I’m sure for saying that…buuut that’s what he needs…would not be in my home till it changed
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If your husband can’t agree and see that there is a problem and this boy can be dangerous to the smaller baby’s I would leave him and take my baby’s until he gets him some help, to keep them safe. He’s really gonna hurt one of your little one’s!
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This kid needs professional help!
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If you’re married hes your kid too, punish him. If hubby has a problem leave 
Record evidence of the child doing this so when he wants unsupervised visits you can take it to courts and show hes unfit and unsafe environment! Protect your kids.
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