Step son or not, sorry. I wouldn’t be putting up with ANY of that. Those are his kids, too, why isn’t he protecting them? And as far as not disciplining him, that’d be a no go for me. I’d take my kids out of that situation if dad/mom refuses to get the boy help. He’s only 4 and it’s scary that he’s acting that way. I have two step sons who are out of control sometimes (only when they’re with their mother and for a short time after she drops them off). I discipline them because I have them all the time. There’s no way I’d be putting up with his behavior. That boy needs help.
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That child needs help, like yesterday, i i would be telling my husband either you get him help or you both can get to stepping! Your children come first! Point blank!!
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He needs help. I would not let him alone ever with your children, again.
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I would not watch a child that I could t discipline in some way ,this child is acting out of jealousy ,I mean I’m not a dr ,there may be more too it ,but these people aren’t either .I have raised 4 kids and now have 4 grand kids .Not saying he doesn’t get attention because I’m sure he does He is looking for attention even if it’s bad attention.He is testing you
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Your a stronger woman than me to put up with a husband like that. The kid needs help bad and he’s doing nothing about it and is ultimately putting your kids in very real danger. I could see myself in a divorce in this case because I would not be a victim in my own house
Leave. Now. It does not get better. I promise.
Tell your kids… Same age… To fight back… He doesn’t know biting hurts until he’s been bit…
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Torturing animals is a big indicator somethings up. Thats a big fuck no from me. That kid needs professional help, and if your husband doesnt see it then PACK your bags up and leave with your kids. Idgaf if this kid is 4 or going on 40. He has the potential to do some serious damage. If no physically then MENTALLY.
Sorry but something needs to be done. Get a nanny can and show them his behavior isn’t normal and unprovoked. That’s a baby psychopath. They can’t ignore that. Pull your kids to safety. Leave if they refuse to address it. That’s neglect and someone will get hurt at some point.
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I’d be leaving with my children.
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That child needs counseling and his father to actually parent him
It’s so not easy for a step mom in your position. Watched my best friend deal with similar situation. Kids weren’t that bad but she couldn’t say one word to them ever. They are both very manipulative boys now and they do not look at my friend or speak to her. She’s less than furniture to them. Your stepson is going to seriously hurt your babies. You need to tell your husband and record anything you can. Get hidden cameras for proof. If he doesnt listen kick him out or go elsewhere for the safety of your kids
Torturing cats 
kid would be at the shrink so fast his feet wouldn’t touch the ground if that was either of my boys!! Sorry but you need too grow a back bone tell ur husband sort the kid out or live else where! Screw letting a four year old terriose you or your kids step child or not! And no I’m not saying it’s the child’s fault God knows what’s going on in the kids head but it’s definitely ur job too protect your children!
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Sad as I’d sounds I’d remove him from the situation. No way I’m he’ll id put up with that and not be able to spank him 
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Well I would definitely talk to your husband and tell him this is not acceptable and you’re not putting up with it and if nothings going to change I wouldn’t allow him in the house and if that doesn’t go over well you may have to leave your husband. The first thing I would do is tell your kids to fight back I know two wrongs don’t make a right but they need to be able to defend themselves
I’m petty so I wouldn’t be watching a kid I had no say over, no picking up from school, etc. If dad wants to be the sole parent let him but the kid can’t be over unless dad is home. Also talk to his mom about concerns if she’s open to it.
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Did this not happen before you married or got pregnant?
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Your job is to protect your children… Even if it is protecting them from another child as for your husband record what his child is doing and then let him know if he can’t defend your children your gone
That child needs HELP first off. And your babies are #1. If your husband cant support ALL his childrens safety, boy bye.
I could not stay in that home. That child is a serial killer in the making and your husband not only enabling it but actively preventing you from protecting your children.
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Kids not having compassion for animals is a huge personality red flag.
Agreed. He needs help ASAP. If a child that young is torturing animals, I’d be looking into the mother, and what happens at her house! If nothing is going on such as emotional abuse or physical, I would take him to be evaluated. Serial killers start off killing and/or torturing animals. If husband doesn’t get on board…you have some serious decisions to make to keep your own children safe!
I would tell the hubby to either watch u and ur kids leave or he does something about his son… maybe when he gets his son he should go elsewhere for visit or maybe u should call cas on ur husband for his child to get help he needs if ur husband won’t fix issue then something need be done and if u fear ur husband than I’m sure u no answer to that
Bust his ass! Good and proper.
Sounds like ur kids need to learn how to fight back and fight their own battles🤷 my daughter bullies her brother. He needs to learn that he needs to fight back or she’s gonna walk all over him. I let them handle it.
I’m sorry but you have to discipline him. He is pretty much abusing your children and that’s not ok. What’s your husband going to do if you discipline the child? Whatever it is will be no worse than that little boy abusing your other kids. He needs time outs. You should watch super nanny.
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Also start video taping his actions to and ur husband’s reactions when u say something then report it because only way help will get threw to both them is hard way
That is terriable and very unfair to your children I would never put upp with that I would tell my husband he has to get that kid help or the kid can’t be there unless he’s there with him
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No man is worth that.
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I dont care what nobody says, that kid needs a good ass whopping!
He would have been terrified at the thought of me when I’m done with him.
Time to stop talking so gently. Screw that. This kid is hurting babies, animals and anyone else he can??? That’s NOT good. Something needs to be done NOW. If theres a new baby on the way, and this child is that violent, I would tell my husband kid needs help or isnt welcome in the home. If he tries to argue…GET LOUD. Your children’s safety comes first. I get hes only 4, but agression that bad at 4 will 150% only get worse. And hes HURTING ANIMALS. that’s what psychopaths do…those are one of the biggest early signs of it. Time to discipline regardless on what ur husband says. No way would I allow that behaviour in my home. Either it gets corrected or the kid isnt to come to the house. Period.
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Uh this a big hard no… something needs to be done. Hitting, biting, pinching like that isnt justa phase. Stand up for your childeren. It sounds like this little boy might benefit from counseling.
I’m sorry but he sounds like a Michael Myers movie where at a young age he tortured animals and soon killed his family. That kid needs help ASAP b4 he really hurts ur kids and leads to relationship issues
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Sounds like he definitely has some mental issues that need evaluated immediately. My youngest was like this. She has Oppositional Defiant Disorder, Asperger’s, and ADHD. Luckily she’s not near as bad as she used to be. She’s still mouthy and has trouble gauging emotions and sarcasm but now that we know we explain things more for her.
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If hubby won’t support you on this I would leave with my children when the abusing child visits. There’s no need for anyone to be beating on kids even other kids it’s not ok
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If your not allowed to say anything or discipline him then you shouldn’t take care of him by yourself. And if my kid was messing with animals like that I would put him in therapy. If
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He needs a diagnosis for sure!!
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Personally. I don’t know how you do it. You can’t discipline him but he can discipline your children at the age of four?! Fuck. Naw. Get a divorce. Period. Let that husband of yours find someone else to put up with that stupid shit.
Get that child help, right now!!
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Behavior needs addressing before he starts school
Terrorize your step son. Give him his own medicine
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really sounds like psychopath in the making. he needs to learn boundaries and rules regardless if you’re his step mum or not!
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At 1st I was thinking, well at 4 they are still considered a toddle and my toddle can be a bully, I just dont leave him alone with the baby. But hurting animals on purpose is a red flag. Does this child wet the bed? And what kind of hurting animals are we talking about? Like petting them hard or hugging them too tight… or throwing rock and kicking them?
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He may be jealous of your children.Try doing some one on one time with just him but still enforce the same discipline your children get.
all I say is .REALLY
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I would just leave his blind ass! Take my kids with my child support and provide a safe home for them! It’s not fair to your kids to be fearful whenever the devil is around!
Give him an ultimatum. Sounds extreme but naybe it’ll kick into his head that his son is severely affecting the relationship and thus, has been affecting your kids… or just request extra help from cps and try and have them there on the days that your step son is ghere3and get tnem to see how he is. Then get them to talk to your husband… or even just tell them.
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Sounds very familiar…the little boy needs serious help he had all the signs they warn you about you have a right to speak up when your concerns are about the safety of your child and your unborn child have you told the mom
That’s a future sociopath
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An 
for an eye usually works for any and all human relationship, regardless of other human feelings.
I would give him the same treatment he dishes out. If his father can’t do anything about the child’s behavior, tell the dad to step up and get tough with the little tyrant, get him some help or get the hell out, take his insane son with him. That boy has some deep down anger issues neither of you can help. I wonder how he treats his mom.
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U need to put ur foot down with ur husband and tell him he either gets that boy under control or u will otherwise the both of them can go. No one should have to live like that all because his parents dont wanna do their jobs and wont allow u to protect ur child. And sorry but fuck that shit. Ur his stepparent u have a right to protect ur children from a child that is showing very serious signs of being a psychopath.
Get nanny cams and show him what he is doing and tell him to stop enabling him!! He has sever behavior issues!!
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Your husband needs to wake up. This child needs some serious help an disipline. Perhaps speak to his mom if not then another family member about his behavior. I would be concerned too about your own kids especially a new baby coming. Good luck.
Your husband and the mother need a wake up call. I’m not usually one to throw out a “leave” but you might want to consider taking a time away from the house so that your husband realizes this is a huge issue
I’m sorry but your husband is to blame here for allowing this to continue he needs to deal with this instead of burying his head in the sand , I wouldn’t blame the child he is only four and has been allowed to get away with this so it’s all he knows but your husband knows it’s wrong and I’m sorry he needs to take the blame for this if it was me I would be telling him if he doesn’t start to deal with it then his child can not come to visit anymore your children need to feel safe in there own home which by the sounds of it they don’t feel when he is around but defo be pointing the blame at the father and mother for allowing this to continue
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Protect your children at all costs. Whatever it takes. How long are you going to tolerate this? Your husband does nothing? That would be a deal breaker for me.
Nanny cam is a great idea!
I promise you if I seen a kid and idc who’s kid …doing things as you have described to my child I would give him a Taste of his own medicine and he would be running in to some wall and stepping on loose boards if you know what I mean… every time his daddy turned his back lol no seriously though ain’t NOWAY in hell I would put up with any of that you are your children voice and protection if you don’t speak up and help protect them who will? Either the father deal with his child or you need to get the hell out of there.
Fuck that, I’m the type mom I’ll hit other kids if they hit mine. Beat his ass and if dad and mom say anything kick him out and beat her ass too for creating a bad ass bay bay kid.
It only gets worse!! If dad isn’t willing to see it, and you’re “not allowed” to discipline him, it will get worse and your kids will end up physically hurt. Tell the kids to stand up to him, allow them to do whatever he does to them. You have every right, in your house or anywhere else, to protect your children… No matter who it comes from!!!
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Teach ur kids to hit back sometimes it works
I think if this child is staying in your home you should be able to discipline him. Especially if it comes into play with the safety of your children.
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I’d whoop that ass. He sounds like a sociopath. Js
Do you have a decent relationship with his mom? I would just bypass dad all together cause he’s obviously in denial that his son is a future psychopath. You’re definitely better than me cause I would tan his hide.
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Fuck that smack that boys ass he needs it this is whats wtong with people today no damn discipline fuck that
Have him move out till he address his sons mental state and gets help
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Take your kids and leave. This will only get worse and considering your husband won’t protect your kids, its gonna get dangerous as he grows.
Seems like dad is excusing the behaviour. Also sounds like he doesn’t care about the well being of your kids or the well being of the family unit. Maybe he will care about the newborn since it will be his child as well. If Dad doesn’t do anything, Id make sure my kids and I weren’t home when the little boy was.
Your kids come first if husband doesn’t won’t to do anything then kick them out you and your kids need to be safe because if this keeps up something bads gonna happen
I already commented before but was thinking about this. If something seriously happened to your children you would also be help responsible for letting it happen. I know your are trying your best but he’s 4 now but wait until he is bigger and stronger
If hubby wont do something you do something…pack your bags and leave. As someone mentioned no man is worth that. You willing to keep your kids in harms way? Your hubby allows the abuse of youre children and by staying there you too are allowing the abuse to continue. Flee! Run! Fast and far away from that mess. The boy needs help and if his mum and dad wont help him, thats not your or your kids problem, thats all on them. You willing to risk the lives of your children and unborn? Nah man forget that…id be out of there in no time. Aint no one worth the lives of my kids.
It’s attention seeking behavior, he feels left out and dismissed! He may miss his bio mom as well. You and Dad may need to get him into counseling so he can learn to cope with his feelings and adjust to his new siblings and environment.
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If the father isnt going to do anything about it then I would suggest to your husband to either find a baby sitter to go with for him when he is not at home to deal with him. I get it is extreme but if your not allowed to discipline him and it is putting your other children in danger and with a baby on the way I would tell him you are not minding him when he is not home. Maybe he can go with his mother when his Dad is gone out or working.
Well first of tell your husband to start looking after him and chastising the child. You have your hands full with your own children right now. Let him know that if things don’t change u will discipline him your way. And if he doesn’t like it tell him to get his own place and do it. You are his wife not his babysitter. Love u for who u r not what I can do for him.
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He needs medical help. Psychopath… torturing animals and your kids?? He needs SERIOUS help asap! And your husband needs to wake the fuck up! You need to do what’s best for you and your kids…
See, here’s the thing… I wouldnt have any child in my home that I couldnt discipline, idc if it’s a step child, a friends child or a younger family member 
I have children of my own and we have rules in my house. I will not have a child running through my house doing as they please, while my own children get in trouble for the same thing. I dont treat my kids as if they’re better than anyone or play favoritism with them over other children, nor will I play favoritism with other children over mine. Letting my step daughter come to my house and do whatever she wants simply because I’m not her bio mom would probably at first make my son feel like shit and that I was just being mean to him since the rules only apply to him, and it would also teach him to do whatever it is that she would be doing that shes not supposed to like it’s ok. It’s not. Luckily I sont have that issue, her mom, dad, step dad, and I are all always on the same page and we all discipline her if need be, but we rarely need to, shes actually thankfully a great kid
My first thought was that this sounds like the childhood tendencies of every serial killer in the book holy
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Get him help it could lead to a very dangerous situation. Might be because he has no boundaries might be a mental health issue.
I would remove yourself and the children being harmed from the house or have him leave and the kid go with him till he gets the kid help!!
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If his parents won’t address the behaviour call the authorities. If you can film his behaviour and document Everything that he says and does again them(date, time and photographic evidence of injuries he causes). Do not continue to allow your own children to suffer this abuse any longer. It will have a life long devastating effect in them.
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He needs a lot of love. Give him more attention, he’s just begging for it. Be with them all the time when he is with the other children, help him to be a leader with the other children, praise his efforts, Make him feel special. He feels your anxiety as soon as he comes into your home. Give him special attention and one on one with him alone. Build your relationship with him, positively.
Kid needs therapy before it gets worse with age.
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Id be telling the husband and other mother that your guna call child services if they cant sort him out. Otherwise u must put your foot down amd say no more visits unless he can be condemned for his actions
You need to tell your husband to get him into counseling now or you are taking your children away from him as it is child neglect to allow this to happen and your can be arrested and have your kids taken away over a spoiled brat that needs disaplin
Maybe remember he is 4 and try and find the reason hes acting out maybe something is going on at home. Or maybe he can feel the difference how he is treated at your house like you stated he is terrorizing Your kids but forgive me if I’m wrong but the moment you decided to be with his dad he also became YOUR kid . Sorry but a 4 year old doesn’t understand his emotions yet
The violent behavior is a huge red flag. Torturing animals can be a warning sign that he developing criminal behavior. He most likely has a lack of empathy. If his dad won’t acknowledge it is a problem the behavior will get worse and someone will get seriously injured. Try and discuss it once more with him and make it clear you are worried about the safety of the other kids and if necessary will have to put their safety above your relationship with him. Hopefully he hears you.
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I would take the kids to your mom house whenever he is there.
That is NOT normal behavior.
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Pack your bags, take your kids, and fking leave. If he gets mad about it, tell him you and your children will be returning when something is done for “Denis the menace”, and until then, you won’t be back because you fear for the safety and well being of not only your children, but yourself. If you can’t correct him, and your husband won’t listen, do what you need to do before one of your babies are seriously hurt.
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This this boy help NOW!!! Sounds like there is deeper issues with him, that only a psychiatrist or a good disciplining will do!! Its NOT normal for a child that young to be so violent and to animals… thats really scary! Keep your eyes on those little ones when hes around! If he’s that violent and making threats at almost 4 years old… somethings going on with that boy… and you may wanna address it to the biological mother! Whether daddy approves or not! Take this very seriously!!
Screw that! Your REAL problem is with your husband! If that little terror is in YOUR home, hurting YOUR children, you damn well have every right to discipline him. And I suggest you put your foot down to your husband with that “hands off approach” nonsense. Either that kids gets disciplined by EVERY parent in this equation AND gets psychological help or he will no longer be allowed in your home or around your other children. Let that inner momma bear out already, protect your babies! Letting this continue, you’re no better than that little tyrant.
Ohhh… I’d spank the shit out of that kid every single time he touches or harassed my kids. On the flip, I’d do the same if my kids did that to anyone else. If that was my husband, “you’re clearly not doing shit to protect my kids. So you believe in hands off, I believe in hands on, if you dont like it then I suggest you start correcting his behavior before I do…because trust me…I will!”
Idc if it’s a friend, stranger or family member, my job is to protect my children. The feelings of the other person always comes last before my children. And yes, this is a divorce-able offense, IMO. I’ll be damned if my children feel unsafe because this bratty ass kid comes around every so often. Can you imagine the mental anguish those children go through? My heart would break.
That abuse could have life long affects😔 please put your kids before this man.
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Sounds like O.D.D maybe. Him not getting disciplined for it is making his behavior worse. He needs help before he hurts someone seriously and DHS comes in and takes all the kids away. Reminds me of my brother growing up
What the hell is wrong with your husband. He is doing nothing to protect the children being abused and they are being abused by this child… this isn’t sibling rivalry. If a child at school was doing those things you would do everything to protect your children… get those kids out of there before it gets worse and it will get worse. You have to protect them and that new baby that’s your job, not pacifying your husband’s in ability to see his child is screaming for help. !
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If I couldn’t discipline him, he wouldn’t be coming over. So it’s okay for him to terrorize your kids and put them in danger. And you can’t discipline him or spank him because he is not your biological child. Girl please he would get disciplined or he would stay his bad ass at home with his mother. But there is no way he would be running or terrorizing my home.
If he’s not going to listen then leave for their safety and maybe he will take you serious.
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Divorce. your husband should be doing something about it. That kid isn’t right in the head. It’s too much. Fuck your husband, your kids are the only people that matter