There needs to be repri.ands (whatever works best for yall and him as a family) but if he gets to continue his behavior with no thought of punishment then he will go through life thinking that applies to everything. Stop it now
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Bust his little butt and stick him in the corner! And explain to him he can not be going around doing that to your kids or the neighbors cats! And tell your husband to step up and be a dad and discipline him! That’s what is wrong with kids today! Not enough taps on the ass!
I get you’re his step-mother but that shouldn’t make you any less of a mother to your husbands son. So the fact that he tells you that you can’t discipline him is wrong. Maybe he needs discipline! He sees that he’s getting away with everything so he’s gonna continue to do it! and a child that young definitely shouldn’t be acting out that way. If your husband doesn’t wanna help you and your children or his son then I’d tell him you can’t take it and you’re gonna take some time away from him until he does the right thing
That’s not rough, that’s psycho!
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He needs help NOW b4 it’s too late. U have to do whatever I have to to protect ur children. Not to be mean but it doesn’t seem like ur hubby is on board with protecting the other children. If it was me if he refused to help his son him and his son would b out the door. I have told my friend this numerous times. Prayers for u and ur babies
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He needs to see a child therapist. There’s something underlying going on for him to act out like he is. Possible abuse in the other home? If it is affecting you and your children’s safety then you need to think about leaving. They have therapists who work with children through drawing and could help with diagnosis. A lot of things for toddlers are learned so maybe he is being treated this way in a different environment that you are unaware of.
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He needs a good hiding and some home punishment little shit!
Don’t look after him anymore. If your husband isn’t home he can go to a sitter. I wouldn’t be looking after him
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If your man wont let you be a parent and discipline and keep your kids safe then he just doesn’t sound like he has the kind of love and trust for any kind of relationship…
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You need to have a VERY SERIOUS discussion with your husband and the child’s mother. If your husband cant see that his child is being cool and dangerous, he too needs help. You are the advocate for the other children in the home
Seek help now. He will hurt your new baby and he will continue to torture the children in your home. But hurting animals too ??? Alarm Bells, loud ones !
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If you are his stepmother there should be some sort of discipline allowed.
Talk with your partner about possible consequences you both agree on when such actions occur. I would say if your not allowed to parent him the same as you would your other children, you need to sit down with your husband and tell him how you feel and try to come up with possible solutions between the both of you, so you dont feel burdened with anxiety. Partnership is key, and you both should be on the same page when it comes down to the safety of your other children. Good luck
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I’m praying for you.
Anger management needed. He’s sounds strange. Definately has problems psychologically.
I think parenting classes should be your first priority. You SHOULD have some way of discipline that’s EXACTLY why hes out of control, in your presence. When a kiddo knows they will have zero repercussions they litterally do what any 4 years old will do.
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Put your foot down, mama. Your husband cant continue to enable to enable his bad behavior by doing nothing and expect it to get better. If your husband wont do anything about it, then clearly something here needs to change. Bottom line, there needs to be a discussion about a healthy way to release and show feelings and emotions. But it should NEVER be ok to take out our feelings on those around us, muchless on helpless creatures or innocent children. If you dont discipline now, good luck when hes in his teens. Today’s out of control toddlers are tomorrow’s terrorist teenagers. At some point you need to relentlessly be the advocate for your children and this one that is causing problems. These behaviors dont just happen overnight.
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Leave NOW RIGHT NOW !! YOUR IN A NO WIN SITUATION.
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You will not like to know what it feels like for a,step child to take even harsher aggressive moves. I will never step parent again n I beg my kids to not. It was a 9 acting very injurious and inappropriate to my 2 y.o. heartbreaking. If he can’t get serious at parenting his child as my spouse was not able to either…it might be time for cameras. I wish I had just left.
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Child therapist, you don’t even have to recommend medicine. Just having him talk with someone and get whatever it is off his chest. Or even karate maybe? Sports could help a bunch.
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Take a video of him doing these things to your children and put it in front of hubby, give him proof and tell him to fix it.
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Therapist for the child. ASAP!!
Therapy and classes for you and your husband. And honestly… therapy for the kids enduring the torture.
Wow that’s horrible I’m so sorry. I wish your husband would listen. But I believe for the sake of all kids I tell him we will have to agree on how you want me to disapline him or you have to be here 24/7 when he’s here to do it or I’m sorry but for the safety of the other kids we won’t be home when he’s here unless he gets help
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Cameras are a great idea to show your husband and tell him I know it’s hard when it’s your child but your soon to have another do you trust this with an infant that punch to the head would kill him
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It sounds like he’s acting out… I would absolutely get him help so his LIFE is better 
Problem number 1 Is you two need to be a team and on the same page . Number 2 my boys fight constantly . I teach through example how to act , play , speak etc. but #1 u guys needs to be a team
This is not ok. He needs counseling! This behavior only progresses if not cared for correctly. Maybe I’ve watched to many Serial killer movies but this is how their childhood behaviors start out .
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I wouldn’t give a fuck who his parents are or what his relation is to me. That kid WOULD NOT be allowed in my house unless it stops indefinitely. Mild child’s play fighting is one thing but that’s unnecessary…almost like the parents need to get as much of a smack as the kid does 
I would leave for the safety of the other children.
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Very Very Serious issue, he’s got a lot of pain, needs r not met. Talk to principal, he’s extremely dangerous to self & Others.
to All of you.Get Immediate Help!!!
Coming from a step momma here 🙋 if his mom lets him abuse her, and the dad does nothing and refuses to nut up and do something, you might need rethink for the safety of your children. I understand, you love that boy like he is yours, but if the mom won’t do anything for that boy and your husband doesn’t listen to you, disregards everything and won’t give some obvious help to his son for the safety of his other children, then you need to do what’s right for your other children.
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Kids who torture animals sometimes turn into serial killers. Give hubby some ultimatums on therapy. Get cameras too.
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Sorry but hubby would be gone if he didnt concent to getting some discipline or something!! Little ones acting out for some reason better to find out now when hes 4 rather than when hes 8 or 9 and kills someone!
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stop being gentle and respectful telling your husband. be a bitch! stand your ground
Not to be insensitive but I say this with all seriousness. That’s the sort of behavior that develops into domestic batteries and homicides. It needs to be addressed right now.
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Leave leave leave. If you cannot discipline him, LEAVE
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He needs punishment for the actions. He has to be parented if the father isn’t around. Video him show him how he acts.
Show him the correct way to act.
Also just a hug. Try hugging him and asking what is wrong. He may be needing some extra one on one attention. All of this sounds corny im sure, but sometimes you need to get down to the basics. Bullying is a result of a internal struggle
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I hear that cause I would be ready to bust the kids ass
i would pack my kids up and leave till hes bought into line
Can you say psychopath? I’d be pressing charges on behalf of the other kids & outta there. Not a situation you need to bring that baby home to.
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You need to take your kids and disappear…
End of discussion.
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I would be leaving for the safety of my own kids.
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Thats a serial killer in the making. Start doing all these things to your hubby and tell him you are mimicking his son.
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My son tortured my older son. They are two years apart. I was at my wits end on what to do. Bite, scratch, hit,pinch, kicking, screaming, yelling, massive tantrums. We couldn’t go ANYWHERE with him. He RULED the house and anywhere we went. When he was 3 years old I had him evaluated by Keiser (my doctor) and they said he was close to being on the spectrum. That he needed to enter school immediately. We went to our school district and had an IAP evaluation done and they agreed on early intervention for him. They put him in Preschool for 4 hours and special Ed for another 4 hours. A year after that he went into TK (full day) and then after that he is now in kindergarten. The transformation is AMAZING! But know… it WAS NOT EASY! He HATED SCHOOL… and there was ALLOT of meetings regarding his behavior. There was a TON of things my husband and I needed to do with him OUTSIDE school to get him under a structured mentality . We cried ourselves to sleep most nights because we felt like f,ailures. Years of prayer to the Lord for strength and staying CONSTANT with the rules and teachings the phycologist gave us. My husband and I mad a choice that we were not going to allow our youngest son to disrupt the family and hold us hostage to his tantrums. He’s come a LONG way and We are proud of him. He now knows to respect his peers, to keep his hands to himself and to ask for things Using the word please.
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That little boy really needs some therapy and actual parenting. He’s been severely neglected and likely abused if he’s acting out to such a degree. He is screaming for help, boundaries and love. He should not be around other children until he’s gotten help and should never be left alone.
Staying in a relationship where the father allows his child to abuse the other children is beyond toxic and harmful to those poor children.
You already know the right thing to do, but I understand needing someone to tell you. Think about your children, and for the sake of that 4 year old little boy, report the father/mother to CPS asap. He is going to do some serious harm to himself/others if he doesn’t get help, love and proper parenting asap.
With his behaviors, I’d be concerned of my children being killed. Genuinely. Move out, get away for your own children. They only have you to protect them. That is your job, they need you, I wasn’t protected when I was there age, and I’m still broken/dysfu,nctional because of my abuse.
Save those children and yourself from an awful life. You’re better than this, and you all deserve better than this.
There are better fathers out there, that love and protect their children.
This man is not a loving or caring father. He’s a monster that shouldn’t have children.
He’d have to get help and my husband would have to be understanding and do something to help protect our other kids or id have to leave. Sounds drastic but no adult or other kid should make you feel threatened or be harming you or your children!
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If he is hitting your child, bust his ass. If the dad doesn’t like it oh well, you have told him how the boy is torturing everyone. That child needs mental help or an ass whooping.
This kind of behaviour needs to stop ASAP…!!
His parents and yourself really need to sit down together and come up with a solution for him. Even if you have camera around the house when he’s there for evidence. If he’s not pulled up real soon. This behaviour will continue not only at home but at school or any social events. He needs to know and understand that he doesn’t do that bcos it hurts and it’s wrong. You don’t want this to continue well into his teens or adulthood
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Sounds like a priority issue for your husband. One that you’ll need to stand up to if he wants your marriage to thrive.
He needs to respect and fear you the same way he fears and respects his father, since the father will not back you on this. If that means disciplining him and you and your husband hashing it out later, so be it, but your husband is wrong for placing his son above you and your other children. Family is family. He should be holding his son accountable
Find out who terrorized him. Help him talk about his feelings sounds like he feels you love the other kids more
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My question is who the hell would make their kids stay in an abusive situation?
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Watch the episode of Evil Lives Here titled “I Raised a Sociopath” bc that’s gonna be this kid. I’d leave. Hurting animals is the first sign and hes only FOUR usually that doesn’t happen till later in childhood that kid needs serious help. Leave before he ends up killing your newborn 
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You need to sort him the fuck out if he is like that your husband needs to pull him the hell up before he does something realky wrong to one of your kids you should be aloud to pull him up and put him in his bedroom i have been with my partner 5 yrs he cand pull him up on things his doing wrong and tell him to go to his bedroom thats it
Definitely talk to your husband. If the boy is being harmful to the other kids and your husband does nothing. Maybe you should remove yourself and the children from the situation. To keep them safe. Especially if you’re not allowed to do anything to try to help keep them safe in the home from him. That’s insane. A serious talk should happen. In my opinion.
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I’d give my husband an ultimatum. If he’s torturing cats and younger children, he could potentially kill a baby. I’d get recordings of his behavior as well and I’d tell you s.o. that if he doesn’t get your stepson help, you’re taking the info to CPS and leaving. You ever see Dr.Phil… or Making a Murderer?
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Omg! U poor thing. What a horrible situation. He definitely needs to be held accountable in some way. That’s very troublesome behaviour. Although I feel deeply sorry for ur children, I feel for that boy too, whats going on in his life n head for him to be behaving that way. Does he behave like this a pre school?
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I’m old school
If you can’t discipline him then don’t have him around your kids. His dad needs to be there at all times he is there. I personally think he needs a good swat on his behind! Protect you little ones at all cost.
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The child is young and looking for attention…especially since you obv don’t like him and make it known. You’d be surprised what giving him extra love and attention will do…especially if hes not there often he doesn’t feel welcome…the father knows best and you need to calm down… You’re a new person and shouldn’t want to be the one disciplining anyways…hes angry and child therapy could def help
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Side note my boys are 4 yrs apart and still do this to each other…know what is vicious and what is child’s play…I feel bad for the child he doesn’t know better and is acting out
Just like previous comments, that kid needs antipsychotic medication and serious in patient therapy. This isn’t normal behavior for a 4 year old and the dad saying he has a “rough” personality is bullshit. For the safety of my children, I’d leave when he was there with the babies.
Shes says " her kids" … Pry just wants the son gone so she doesn’t have to deal with him…
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Maybe the boy is hurting ur kids because he sees that the kids are fully loved by you, maybe he needs a love too from a mother. Try to show some love to him because that’s might he needs at all.
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Not allowed to discipline him??? What type of marriage doesn’t allow parenting TOGETHER!?
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a group where we just tell you to dump him
Tear his ass up with a spoon. Problem solved!
I would start keeping a log or even get a nanny cam to cover your butt just in case. No matter how “rough and tough” he is it’s still considered abuse in the states eyes. (Been there. My daughter was doing it to my other 2) As for the animal abuse… Most serial killers start off abusing pets. Not trying to be harsh but this is reality!! As far as you not being able to discipline him. I get not physically but those kids need to be taught to not only respect you but your children. If you can’t do something about it, then your husband needs to
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OMG that child is a sociopath. Oh hell no.
Sounds like that little boy has some serious psychological problems. I wouldn’t be able to stay knowing he is dangerous & mean. You need to think about the safety of your other children ma’am. The older he gets, the more violent he’ll get.
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Start video taping him show your husband if he still refuse to do something tell him you will leave
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Kick your husband to the curb. That’s probably the reason why his ex left him. Cause he cant be a man and discipline his kid.
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Sounds like a psycho path, this is how all serial killer documentary’s start out it was always children and animals and it ALWAYS progresses. I’m sorry I would usually never give this kind of advice but if you truly feel that your children’s lives or well being is at risk then you need to pack and leave or tell your husband that his son is no longer welcome in your house until he gets help. You need to put your babies first. If he doesn’t get his son help then you have to leave. Better safe than sorry
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Nope… someone NEEDS to discipline that child. Your husband either needs to step up or step back and let you. I never spanked my stepchildren but they were older when they came to live with us. I did discipline in other ways… time out, taking away privileges, extra chores. In my house I have every right to make rules and enforce them. My husband has always backed me up.
If your not protecting your little ones who is?
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If your husband doesn’t discipline him and support you in doing the same, what type of marriage/partnership is that?
As a mom, I would never allow my children around that type of disturbance
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Girl , this Little boy Needs Help . Someone’s gotta help him . But I’d definitely leave I understand you love your husband ,but your Children should come first. I hope everything works out for you !
He is no baby.he knows what he is doing.he would not be allowed in my home.I think you need to put your kids first.this is your kids home and it should be a safe and happy place for them to grow up in.no man is worth your baby’s being picked on or bullied.put it this way.what if his kid ends up killing one of yours.put your foot down bless the boy gets bigger it will be worse than it is now.please don’t have any regerts .I would not want this boy around my babies .
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Put your foot down .when this boy gets bigger it will be worse.better to be safe then sorry.
That kid needs to be checked out 
thats some killer type moves to be harming things at such a young age, also you’re a step parent you should be allowed to discipline
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Some kids have a hard time adjusting. I agree, this behavior is not okay. The father has to address it… (No offense here meant at all but you are just the “Stepmom” and it seems like this child is struggling because his parents are not together anymore)
All that aside, good luck and I’m sorry.
He’s not on the spectrum is he?
Your a mom first So tell your husband there are 2 option: 1 is you are all Going to help this kid properly and with help from specialistes OR 2. You are leaving. You have to protect your kids!
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Your husband should know better… Really…
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Put camera that record around. Then let your husband watch it. If he doesn’t stop up and fix the problem.then honestly you have to put your mommy underwear on and protect your kids. Even if that means leaving
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I understand he’s your husbands kid, but if he’s in your house he has to respect your rules! You need to be the voice of your babies and tell that man if he don’t sort his damn child out when he needs to then his said child isn’t welcomed round to terrorise your children !
I’d start disciplining him regardless… If your husband has a problem with it, both sorry to say will have to go… you as mom can’t just sit around and wait for things to change… that 4 year old has a wrap sheet a mile long… he needs help and so does your husband. Protect your unborn baby and your other kids before it’s too late…
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Pack your stuff and your kids stuff and haul ass until the step kids father wakes up and realizes he’s part of the problem and gets help
Picking on step siblings and torturing animals… That’s got to be telling you something 
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That child needs a padded room. My son intentionally does shit like this to his sisters and always trying to intentionally piss off everyone around him. There is no peace which is why I had to have him live with my brother because that’s he only person he listens to. He’s a psychotic pos. I love him dearly being my son but I don’t like him and I have taken him to multiple Drs, counselors, specialists, psychs, etc you name it and they say, “he’s fine” and I want to shake them and say, “NO! you’ve seen him 30 min to an hour. You don’t live with him!” He is almost 12 now but he’s been hell on wheels since he was born honestly. He will act like a perfect angel and then a psychotic mental case. If he wants something he can pretend to be so nice but then he can be a complete opposite. I have tried to even have him committed which unfortunately was told he has to be at least 13 which I think is complete bs! Also threatened to call the cops, on him and he just says, “Do it, I know you won’t.” He always tries breaking shit and says things like what you gonna do about it, why don’t you slam my head into a wall or come beat me and all else. He’s mental AF!
He needs to be take to the doctors. He clearly has something going on with him.
Could he be getting abused at his mothers? So he thinks ot’s just the normal. Has he always been this way since able to walk?
Does he show any empathy or remorse?
There’s a few areas which may need looking into. Such as his mental health, if he has any special needs and the last one is quute drastic but some that show no empathy, compassion or remorse can have a psycopath gene, which can be tested. Your husband needs to snap out of it and realise that as well as this needing to be sorted out for your poor children. It needs sorting out for this little boy also. He may not be able to help it and if checked, maybe it could be easily sorted if medical. If not, he needs to start putting his foot down, and seeing his son at a contact centre, or staying at another family members when he is meant to have him till this matter has calmed down or been solved. I mean it could just be jealousy for anyone knows. They, have my daddy all the time and i just want to have my time alone with him is what he might be thinking. Could he just be craving more love from him?
As for you not being able to discipline him, maybe he doesn’t like the way you do it. Could try starting with the time out corner or step. Don’t call it naughty corner or step as that gives it a negative effect and labels him as naughry. When childrens actions are usually connected to their emotions which they can’t understand so act out. After he comes out of the cornwr or step, give him a cuddle, ask if he is okay, then explain why he can’t do what he did in a gentle tone. Maybe tell him you love him as he will hear you saying it to yours and feel left out and unwanted.
If nothing improves and your husband refuses to make changes and get his son checked out etc. Then it maybe time for a separation. Hopefully they will be the kick up the butt he needs to realise and make changes. Then when you have seen improvements of wanting to start working on getting your marriage back on track.
It sounds like o.d.d he needs help and if u didnt see it before now get u and your family help father needs wake up call its not the little boys fault he probably doesnt know why he doing it he is 4 still learn right and wrongs so its a family problem not just husband child it urs too you both married each other and everything tgat came with it call in help whether husband wants it not if you are with kids more and see it wake his eyes up now
Get him to a artisitic center to be tested and treatment with phycoholist and therpist
Absolutely not acceptable. He needs to be disciplined before he causes a very serious injury.
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Sorry to say this. Torturing people & animals are not normal. So I would tell your SO either he gets help for his son. Or you are leaving & taking your kids & baby with you. Video tape his kid doing this for court. Just in case you do leave & dad fights you to let him have your newborn for visits alone. You need to protect your kids from this child.
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Ultimatum Get him evaluated have your husband help he needs medication and/or therapy get cameras or leave start calling family and friends to see if you can stay with them.
I personally would tell his not allowed over until hes calm out. Idk how you handle it I’d lose it if anyone put hands on my babies, kid or not.
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Sleep with one eye open. It’s just a matter of time when he picks up a heavy object to use as a weapon. and hurt your child or you knew born if your husband don’t believe you and argue with you he is just an abusive as the kid . No questions get out while you can
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Wow, wtf?! Your kids come first. Period. If your kids are living in fear every time your stepson is there then YOU need to out your foot down. YOU are your kids advocate, YOU are there protector. You CANNOT let them be tormented no matter how pissed the dad gets! And if he wants to turn a blind eye to the OBVIOUS red flags then he will have to face the consequences of his son being a psychopath. Your poor babies, I would NEVER allow that to happen. Good luck
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There’s no way! I would beat his little ass, and if the husband don’t like it illl have to leave. Who’s to say as he gets older he may seriously hurt or killl one of your kids?!?
At the end of the day you have to protect your children that are still too little to defend themselves…you have no choice but to tell your husband that you cannot stand for this anymore…at the end of the day someone could get seriously injured! You must be living under so must stress, I cannot imagine! I would print out the clinical definition of a sociopath and show it to your husband! Hurting animals isn’t a good sign at all! Good luck and keep us updated!
Your first priority is your children. You can not let this continue. Tell your husband step up and get the boy help and discipline him or you and your children are leaving until he does.
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Leave and protect those babies before he hurts or kills one of them.
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I went through this with a ex of mine his oldest and youngest did it to me and my child I am 4 ft 9 1/2 95lbs his old picked me up and body slammed me to the ground bc I told him no to getting on the 4 wheeler his youngest would beat on my child get angry go diliberately pull her pants down and pee on my daughters bed they was horrible and we had them 24/7 he had custody and worked all hrs of the day and night chicken farmer
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Tell your hubby that you’re gonna stay at your moms with your kids when his kid is there for visits. Ultimatum time. That’s bs. His child needs therapy
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