Yea he needs help asap. Him being only 4 and this sort of behavior isn’t normal. Best thing you could do at this point , keep you’re children away from him. They come first before anyone .
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Talk to the child’s mother about it. Maybe she can take him to see someone.
It says a lot about your marriage if your husband tolerates it. I would look into counseling for the whole family
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Slap the shit out him, & let him know, that shit aint flying anymore!!
I’ve been here.
You should not be left with a child in your care that you can not discipline. Period
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Leave that man! Your kids should come first.its not fair to them.this child has bad problems.so does dad it sounds like.
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That is not normal at all for a toddler. He has serious problems. And definitely needs to be taken to a doctor, psychologist, whatever. But I would not tolerate that at all. I’d take my kids and leave. Let the daddy deal with him then
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Nope CYA. Don’t tell me I can’t protect my children, please please do something asap … I know it will be a struggle mama but it will be worth it please… I have a close family member who experienced this growing up and it had effected that person in horrible ways even as an adult! You guys deserve better, if he won’t allow you to discipline he doesn’t see you as equals or your children as equals and that’s a huge no no too! My heart hurts for you mama, I pray you get some stress relief soon and free of this issue:revolving_hearts:
Perhaps the “lack of discipline” is the reason his behavior continues to spiral… children ‘need’ structure, limitations and ‘believe it or not’ consequences… at this point, it seems that all of you need therapy and the adults should probably look into parenting classes as well
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The whole family needs to be in counciling and in the mean time you should not be there when the child is there. It’s up to YOU to protect your children. Why stay somewhere where you’re children are being abused?
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Time to leave dad. How is it even an option to stay in a situation where your children are physically in danger damn near every day of the week…?
That boy needs to be disciplined and sounds like your husband does to. Hell no would I be letting his kid torment my kids! I’d tell your husband your putting your foot down or your gone. It’s not fair to your kids and your husband needs to understand that
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I’m just gonna say we have a 14 year old grandson that bullies and hits his mom; even broke her nose. It doesn’t get better by itself, get help. Btw, he’s not allowed at my home because we can’t discipline him. Big NO!
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He needs to be evaluated. If he’s torturing animals, it will get worse if not looked into.
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This would be enough for me to leave with my kids. No bullshit. Ur kids aee ur FIRST priority. U keep them safe
I’m polynesian. We are very disciplined and had I done that to another kid, I would’ve gotten my ass BEAT. Not only by my parents, but also the other child’s parent. I’m not saying it’s okay to whoop some ass, but maybe a lil discipline would do him good. I have a 3 year old and I teach her to hit back, not only because it’s self defense but to show that no one is gonna physically hurt her without getting hurt back.
Your kids should come FIRST! Always. You stick up for your kids. And if your husband has an issue with it 
byeeeeeeee no one is about to do that stuff to my child!! If you can’t protect your children, then who will???
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Remember your in it together weather its kids that are step or blood you should be able to discipline them me i wouldnt be putting up with it. Id discipline him like really is it worth you hubby being mad or the kid physically hurting your babies me id set rules i wouldnt care who got mad if he cant listen and be nice then he can sit by himself and read books or play toys i would not tolerate that! Where do u think this boy will be in 10 years probably not good place if somethings not done.
“Allowed” or not, this kid needs discipline. If he is harming your children, you have every right to do something. That kid needs some serious help, I mean like SERIOUS HELP, if he’s torturing animals. That makes me afraid for everyone involved. (Insert swear words hear)
It sounds like your husband is very much at fault. Kids will get MAJOR assholes if they know they wont get in trouble. I’d be furious with your husband and I’d leave 
. Even watching kids I hardly know the parents will tell me to discipline bad behavior and how they like to discipline. This is your step child you should be just like another parent and if your husband wants to put that divide on your family I’d pack up and leave.
Well it seems like you guys have been together for a long time and I think you have every right to discipline a kid and if your husband thinks otherwise and he’s not the right one. He needs to tell his son to knock it off and beat his ass
This is not normal. Neither is your husband putting that child first. All children matter on an equal level.
That little one needs professional help.
Before something happens that can’t be taken back or explained away.
AND both parents need to be allowed to discipline. Step or otherwise.
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That boy don’t need therapy he needs a good old fashion butt whipping and if the daddy don’t like it ship his ass and then leave him. For the record that little boy probably watched somebody do that to his mom or other kids
I’ve seen that on the show Evil Lives Here. If you keep your kids in that situation a lot worse things could happen and your kids could need a psychologist.
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If you spare the rod you spoil the child… if you live in my house under my rule in the state of Texas you can physically punish them to a reasonable extent to get them under control and if the father has a problem I turn to him with the belt next … Bend over … Bc it ain’t happening with me … Now I have a stepson and we have full custody and I have never had to spank him … But he isn’t a bad child and he doesn’t treat his brother … My son… Meanly or anything like that … he has a smart mouth but I can look at him a certain way and he is like. . yes mam …
You need to protect your kids I would go stay with family and tell my husband I’m not coming back until he opened his, eyes to what’s going on
This kid will end up on some serial killer documentary in 10/15 years
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Leave while you can, protect your own kids and let this asshole of a father look after him!
If your good enough to watch him, feed him, take care of him while he’s in your house than you should be able to discipline him… your husband is in some shyt… he needs to get his azz up and be a father n take his kids to get help. And to also discipline his son… it is not safe for your kids to be around him., it will only get worse as the kid gets older.
My nephew is like this doesn’t hurt animals but he’s very rough with all the kids (I have two daughters and he has two sisters) hes literally hurt them before hit them with baseball bats , bit them ,thrown stuff at them. Everyone says it’s just him being a boy. He’s been doing better lately I just never know when he will do it.
Well he sure as fuck wouldnt be coming anywhere near my kids . I’d be taking my kids and leaving. The fact that your married and his kid comes over so much and you’re not allowed to correct him is bullshit.
Does he have mental illness ? At the age kids can start to develope behavior problems
If you choose to stay I recommend that you get a security camera. Your husband can’t deny video proof. There are really inexpensive indoor cameras on Amazon.
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give your SO an ultimatum. Let you disiplain the kid or your leaving to protect your own kids. He obviously don’t care about your kids and would continue to let his son treat them that way. and will probably fav his child from you too and still won’t care about your older babies if they aren’t his. Leave with your babies and let him deal with his unruled child. maybe when the child is an adult in jail the father would see how stupid he was. that kid sounds like a psychopath in the making.
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YOUR KIDS COME FIRST ALWAYS BEFORE ANYONE!!! Do not let them live in fear… either make your husband deal with his child or take your kids and leave then put it in the divorce that he is NOT ALLOWED to be around your child on visitation. if you dont protect your kids who will??? surely not your husband…
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I wouldn’t allow that child near my children. I’d put my foot down that’s just bulls***
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My best friends step son did that for years to her boys and one day when he was around 11 or 12 he snapped and killed his dad
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I would video his behavior and show his parents why you can no longer have him in your home
leave his Dad if he wont discipline him been there it wont get better
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Say goodbye to the dad and get your kids out… it will never change…
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This is a tough situation for sure. I understand your husband’s point of view but if you are seeing this go down and he says nothing that is not ok. Try to capture it on video and show if. If he does nothing go stay with family.
It’s his son so he cannot and should not abandon him but it sounds like this boy needs help.
But if I saw any child punch a baby I would for sure discipline.
Maybe keep him occupied. Have him with you while cooking. Ask him to help or “wash” dishes. Even if it’s a pan and a sponge. Keep him in your sights.
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Sounds like you have the beginning of a psychopath. I would not let my children to be abused by anyone
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If the husband refuses the wife discipline of the children, it will only stay that way. Points to deeper marriage problems.
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Ok this is outrageous !! NEVER allow any other step kid or biological beat on your kids this kid needs to be disciplined!! And the fact that you having a kid with this man and you are not allowed to correct this behaviour is ridiculous!! You are a parental figure in his life he should be showing respect not just to you but everyone siblings included kids are gonna bicker and hitting happens but constantly oh hell no and let me tell you no child is gonna come in my house and show me disrespect ! I have two children one of which is not biologically my husbands and let me tell you she shows respect to both of us and he will set a punishment same as I would
No no no!!! You discipline. Even if you were told not to. You do! DO NOT let your children be abused, by child or adult.
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Also HES ABUSING ANIMALS !!! LIKE RED FLAG !! Get this kid some HELP ASAP!! or you will be at his trial when he has abused and killed another human
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If it were me I’d make your husband stay in the same room with him the entire time the child is visiting. If ur husband doesn’t or comes up with an excuse about “he’s a kid let him be a kid. Then leave. Do not go home till he does something about his kid and I know it’s going to be a fight between the two of you but don’t take no for an answer. Don’t let him sweet talk you or sugar coat anything! Bottom line he needs to step up and be a responsible parent and take responsibility for his kids bad behavior. If he won’t then I would think that’s probably one of the reasons he’s got an ex wife. It sounds like the ex wife can’t get the kid to listen or mind her either…
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Protect your children at all costs mama bear. Period.
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Why aren’t you allowed to discipline your step son if your taking care of him while hes in your house then it’s your rules he needs to follow I definitely feel there some serious underlying issues at play and if your husband doesnt step up your gonna have to either kick him amd his son out and say the dad can go to moms house for visit to protect your kids or your gonna have to take your kids and keep them safe if it’s as bad as your d
Saying then I would be seriously concerned for my kids safety and would be putting my foot down this may sound harsh but your dont want to have to Bury one of your children because he pushed them down stairs or put a pillow over the babys face I wish you good luck your strong enough to handle this just stand your ground those are your babies you have to protect and if you really care for your step son I’d suggest pushing for therapy and assessments because it’s not fun of healthy to be living with so much anger and hatred or to be living in a, house part time where his siblings are afraid of him
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Thats bullshit. What is wrong with your husband to allow this crap to go on? Seems like the little punk and his father both need a psychologist. 
I don’t know how you’re keeping it together. But I know for myself that kid would not be around my kids at all.
Those are not good signs 
he really does need to go to a good doctor so you guys can figure out what’s causing him to do this… maybe try being the one the steps up and loves on him… he probably needs it. But that unfortunately sounds like something psychological that needs to be addressed before hes too old I’m sorry, you’re going through this and in this position…
Nope… either he learns and u are allowed to dicipline or kid and dad goes too
Protect your babies!
This has got to be fake, no way in hell do you allow anyone,let alone a 4 year old to terrorize your children.!
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Get videos, multiple videos, of this behavior, show your husband, and if he doesn’t want to start disciplining him, then I’d ask him to leave along with the boy until they can both come back and start acting right. You need to stand up for your kids.
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Torturing animals is usually a sign of a psychological disorder, it sounds like this kid really needs help. You are right to suggest a visit to a psychologist.
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Leave his ass… Protect your children. If he can’t be disciplined then there’s nothing you can do so why stay and suffer?
I would be concerned somethings wrong with him
He either needs his was whooped, or needs a psych evaluation, because hurting animals for one is a sign of future problems, and he’s hurting those other babies, not acceptable. And if your husband doesn’t agree, then you may really need to walk away from him and go be safe with your babies
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Get rid of husband u do not need this or your kids
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Get a nanny cam set up in all the rooms to record that shit, obviously don’t leave that child alone around your kids but if by some chance he does manage to get alone with them those cameras will record everthing and you’ll have proof the kid has issues, if they still refuse to address those issues then get out before your kids are dead, children abusing other kids and animals like that is normally a sure sign this child has SERIOUS psychological issues that WILL lead to him killing something or someone in the near future
You are the mom and you need to protect your own children and have husband watch him 24/7 when he goes over if he doesn’t want you to correct him. My ex brother in law called cps on my sister for my 12 yr old son and my 12 yr old nephew for fighting verbally and CPS told us that they aren’t allowed to be unsupervised at all and this kids are almost teenagers is hard to be on top of them and still having little ones but my sister and I just end up doing that before something else happens is hard but be strong mom
Horrific situation. Hubs needs to get a reality check. Child needs therapy immediately and he can’t be allowed to do this shit. He could seriously injure an infant and his father is making excuses. A tough personality- stfu. U are his parents and u need to discipline him, his father can not say u can’t that is why this continues
Oh nooo. No step down would be treating MY babies that way and I would throw him and the husband out. Do not allow this! I’d throw the whole useless man away because clearly he can’t control his brat.
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There is a whole law and order SVU episode about a boy who acted like this, the kid was crazy and by the end of the episode he’d killed the neighbors dog, tied up his sister locked her in a room and set it on fire and held another child a gunpoint, yes that was just a tv show but there ARE kids like that in real life and if you don’t put your foot down now you will end up with a dead or hospitalized child
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Don’t stand for it , I wouldn’t
Idc who’s kid it was, let them hurt my baby the gloves are off and your husband is ridiculous for letting him be cruel and pass it off… I would be furious and that kid would NOT be at my house, unpopular opinion but nobody is treating my kid like that, regardless if it’s my husbands other child or mine
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Don’t allow it to cont. Demand change or leave.
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Where does he sleep? Send to that room. Don’t put up with it. Husband thinks you are wrong? He can go somewhere with him or maybe you and daughter leave when he is there. Animal abuse is a red flag and probably not the first time. Mother is weak to not curb this immediately. Maybe you and mother can work together to make changes? Maybe he wants Daddy all to himself and hates that he married you. The 3’s are hard BUT my son didn’t do this. Crack down on him now even if husband doesn’t. Hubby and his son can leave if they chose.
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Why are you allowing this kid around yours?
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All 6 of my children are mine however they have while one had tried this. It’s not about step son or bio son. His your child he is a sibling to your children. No less then the others. He needs help and boundaries. And your husband needs to help you.or he isn’t aloud around unless your husband is around. I’ve told my children I dont hurt you so I’ll be damned if I let someone else including a sibling hurt them . When we have STEP KIDS THEY ARE YOUR KIDS LADIES. Some of these comments are why I stayed in a bad marriage to long because I may not hit a child but have mercy on the woman that would treat my child like a burden when they were there first. It’s not there fault their family broke up.
Discipline him and when he tattles, say you didn’t do anything but move your child away. Turn it back on him! I’m sorry, but if he’s staying in your house that much of the time, he needs to follow your rules and dad needs to speak up for you and yours!
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Keep him away from your children if your husband can’t understand how much of a threat he is to your other children he’s irresponsible. Tell him that you are not allowing his son to come over until his behaviour improves and gets professional help, put your foot down in this don’t let your husband get away without disciplining his son
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Lil bastard wouldn’t be in my house…especially if i cant bust his ass…
Get mad a my comment, i don’t give a shit…if your asshole of a child does this to my child…ima beat his ass…and if you got a issue with it, I’ll beat yo ass too …
in front of yo kid …
because if my child did that to you kid…
I’d beat his ass just the same
Is very clear were your kids and you stand in your husbands life in other words you’re kids r not his priority his crazy son comes first so yeah is time to find a new husband sorry to be such a bitch about it but a mother will never let another child or anyone hurt there kids like that I would of been gone …
its early signs of a physopathology children as young as 3 and 4 can have signs as a psychopath or DSM-5 its a mental illness for children under the age of 18 because they cannot be labeled a pyscopath until the age of 12 here is some questions you need to ask yourself does the child have socially irreponsible behavior? Does the child have disregardinv or violating the rights of others? Does the child have inability to distinguish between right and wrong? Does the child have difficulty showing empathy or remorse? Does the child have a tendecy to lie often? Does the child manipulte and or hurting others?Does the child have recurring problems breaking rules? If you say yes to these questions find a therapist right away or find a out patient care facility to give the child help it may be aattention matter or the child needs a mild medication but get the child medical care asap if you dont then it may be case for Child Protective Service
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I would introduce him to the back of my hand. Back of hand, meet abusive step child’s cheek. After I would put him under my thumb so he would be under constant watch ( nanny cams anyone)
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Whoop. His. Ass. I normally wouldn’t condone this, however you have every right to protect and stand for your children. In this particular case, I wouldn’t allow him back in my children’s home until he is seen by a psychiatrist. Honestly, if it were me, and MY children were being bullied, beaten, and terrorized by this brat, I’d whoop his ass, his mama’s ass, and his daddy’s ass. I’d also whoop his ass for torturing cats.
I’d rather scold that kid for doing those bad things and leave that house if husband will get angry. I won’t let anyone hurt my children. Not even his. 
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Put cameras up so he can see it
Tell your husband to handle it or you’re going to. Unacceptable. I would have snatched him up.
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You need to see a family counselor immediately. This is not a Facebook user issue to ask. You need assistance from a professional. Urge everyone to go. Family counseling. They won’t? You go at least and leave the home until dad is willing to help his family too.
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A child shouldn’t be acting like this, regardless of a tough personality or not. he needs help.
Your husband need to wake up and smell the coffee your step son needs to be in therapy and your husband needs awake up call before something bad happens
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Counceling, if your not allowed to do anything that’s a problem the bio parents need to step up, it will only get worse without help. You need to have a say since your in this child’s life. Get counceling for him or you need to leave to protect your other child.
Nope… Protect your kids however you have to, be prepared to leave to keep them safe because that’s how it’s gonna be since your hubs is like that
In my opinion the child and the Father both need some type of therapy. Men more so than women take offense if anyone mentions “your child needs help”. They see it as an attack on them. The shame is only if your child needs help and he doesn’t get it. Please tell your husband you can’t allow your children to be hurt any longer. If someone calls CPS they could take your children away. Explain to him if he doesn’t take his 0son to get help you’ll have to leave until he does. Get your family in church. The Lord can work on his heart.
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Get rid of your husband , he’s the problem second to his demon son !!! Don’t put your kids thru his torture!!! You need to turn into momma bear 
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No way in hell I’d just sit there while any child tortures my kids. If your husband won’t do anything. Talk to your step mom’s mom. If she also doesn’t do anything if it happens again I’d sit his ass on the corner or send him to his room. If your husband gets mad let him get mad. But that b.s is not okay. And you have another baby on the way oh no. F that.
Sounds like he for sure needs a liscenced therapist and psychologist, to be so young and be like that is very scary…he could end up way more dangerous in the future I’d he isn’t corrected and showed the correct way now. He could have a personality disorder, or he could be being abused and doing to others what is done to him😥
Protect your children first even if it means leaving your husband a father who takes no notice of the mother is not a good father make home listen! Make him go to therapy leave him to make him listen and act on your word your children have/must be protected.
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There is something wrong with him tell your husband if he doesn’t do something then you don’t want him around your children ever single serial killer started by torchering animals and there siblings put your foot down if you SO won’t protect your children you need to period tell your neighbor what you cought him doing so they can try to protect there animals DO SOMETHING if his parents won’t
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Some people are so terrible, the child is 4 years old come on… The stepmom knew what she was getting into marrying a guy with a child. You people are Commenting asif you talking about an adult and not a 4 year old, show the kid some love lady instead of making out asif the kid is the spawn of Satan!! Imagine what emotional trauma a child that age endures living through his parents separation. There is a reason behind a child acting out…I know this Comment will proberly upset most of u here by the looks of most of the comments but it’s how I see it.
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What in the hell??? This needs to be put to a stop immediately . I don’t give a rats ass what my husband would say I could and could not do , I would be disciplining that child immediately ! He literally could kill your baby or seriously / permanently harm her!! Those little babies require YOU to be their voice and their protection !! Stop being worried about stepping on peoples toes and protect your baby for goodness sake !!! What is gonna happen when this kid is 14 is not stopped ???
Why r u asking for help. You had sex u gave birth so kick his make them behave duh
Major red flags showing. This child needs therapy yesterday. Do not leave children or pets alone with him and take your kids to a safe location if your husband will not act
Give that man an ultimatum! You have a duty as a mother to protect your babies.
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Take your babies and leave your husband with his kid. That child will only get worse and someday kill another child. Bs on the father and the kids mother. Refuse to be around him.
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Your children and their safety come first. If your husband won’t do anything about this, it’s time to take your children and leave.
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Sounds real bad if he’s doing it to animals that boy is going to become a killer if you dont put him in therapy or do something.
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