Why are you sounding like such a doormat. You are not doing your daughter any favors. If you don’t necessarily need the money put it in a savings account for her future. Seems you’re more concerned with pleasing or not angering him dancing after your own daughter’s well-being
Yes, do it for your daughter. Put it in a college fund if you don’t need it now.
Yes make as it takes two to .make a baby. He owes you half of the essences. When you get it put it in a trust fund for your daughter if you want to.
I was happy that I could tell my children both grown, hi something good about their fathers…neither one requested visitation but I was able to tell my children that their father paid his CHILD SUPPORT. One more thing since he is not in her life that much…NEVER tell your child that he is coming to visit…the disappointment on their face was so hard to take…just broke my heart…if he shows up it was so much nicet for them to be surprised…instead of disappointed AGAIN…good luck…make him pay for his child’s sake.
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Child support is money to support the child wether u take that money buy clothes or whatever if she’s needing it or u take that money and pay bills bc it’s reimbursement for u as I have spent all the money on the child or paying bills bc she’s gotta have a roof over her head food in her stomach electric
Make him.pay. its for your kid. Movies, ice cream, entertainment, nicer othe and shoes. Why should your kid be suffering. Make him pay the full amount.
Of course it would. Support is for the child no one else. Don’t be stupid.
Is it fair to your daughter, that he doesn’t pay the full amount, is the real question.
Get the money. You’re daughter will resent you for not getting what’s hers when she’s older.
Yes… if you don’t even use the money now you can put the Money in an account for later let it gather Interest so she can use it later on
Why r u sparing him? He’s the child’s father too
Ahhhhh…YES !! Cause he most likely give you less…use it to take out a plan for college for her…its HERs.
Why should he get off so easy?
My question is why wouldn’t you?
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Get the full amount take half of it and put it in a savings account just for her. And use the the half for her needs.
Absolutely! Get as much as you can! It is for your daughter!
I notice these are all women’s point of view. Here’s a mans. It’s not yours, it’s the child’s money. Collect it and bank it and you will have it if you need it .
If he lived there wouldn’t he be paying it?
You are a fool not to make him pay child support. Stop letting him off the hook
If I were you I think the first thing I’d ask myself is do I want her visits with him to increase. He may decide to increase his visits big time if you decide to increase his support. He could increase visits because he really wants a relationship with her or do it out of spite. You know him best. And, you know her best. Would this be upsetting to her? How old is she? She may would have to start staying the whole weekend, 2 weeks at Christmas and share other holidays. You’ve had her in a very calm lifestyle. That could all change. Some children are scarred for life by the back and forth between parents. Some children never spend a full week in the same bed. Two brothers I know switched every 3-4 nights. Different parents responsible for homework, reports, projects, being on time for school, parent-teacher conference meetings. Also, there’s the issue of girlfriends and the potential new wife. There is a lot to consider. If you are doing fine financially, I’d think long and hard about possibly upsetting her life. It would be hard to put this cat back in the box. He may be a very nice man and do what’s best for her. I don’t know him but I do know many horror stories that would break your heart. I wish you the best!!
Put it in a college/first home fund for your daughter.
Your therapist is correct, your daughter is untitled to it and her father got off cheap.
Are you kidding me?!! This is his child too he is obligated to financially support her. Go after full child support. Your ex is a dead beat. His financial status is not your problem. Time to pay up and it’s time for you to quit being worried about him … you are truly ridiculous
Why wouldn’t u. I don’t understand??
My ex was like the same. He was told by his lawyer before our divorce was final to give money for child support or he would have back pay in the future. He did once in a while. I had to take him to court to help pay for braces that were medically needed, I had to take my ex to court because he wouldn’t put insurance on our child. Hes a piece of work. So yes up his child support to the max.
Would he require you to pay if the shoe was on the other foot? Probably.
Put it in a college fund so she can go same as other daughter
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Yes duh, its good for him to be responsible
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Of course. Expect him to cover the full child support, put it away for her future educational needs.
Why do you feel the need to ask??? You know the answer.
Yes both of you should care for her. Not one sided.
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Girl ya should have gone full from the start!! Thats his burden to bear, not yours.
Yes, your child deserves every penny. Apply for modification…
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He needs to be responsible. If you don’t need the money, put it away for her college
Yes…believe me hes only worried about himself its time…you can be proud of what you have done alone.GOD BLESS
He is her father and he is equally responsible for her.
Oh Hell no, he needs to pat full support. The money is for the child
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Yes, bottom line he should be supporting his child -
Yes! If you don’t need it, save it for her education.
Umm yes… do it! He does not sound like a good guy and you need help!
Absolutely! His child ! Put it back for her education!
Hell yes It’s his child also
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Yes, very fair. It’s time for him to bear his fair part of his responsibility to his child.
He’s her father, he should pay.
Take him to Court. The money he could be paying could be saved for her to go to college one day.
Yes! Simple and straight to the point! It’s fair that he pay his share for his daughter
He should pay full support medical and help with college
Full amount, your daughter deserves that much from her father
Yes, yes yes, your daughter deserves the support
Yes it’s fair every child deserves it…
Yes, he absolutely should pay!
Hell yeah its his child too so he is responsible for her as much as you are. So get all u can for ur duagther.
yes, even if you dont need it, put it in savings for her college or car or what have you
Hell yes. If for no other reason, but to put it in a bank account for her for her future.
Yes. Your daughter deserves the money. You can save it for if you do not need it.
Yes this is his child too
Yes. He is just as responsible for her as you are.
YES and necessary. Your daughter deserves it.
Get the support. Your kid deserves it
Yes she is her child too
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I did the same thing. So dumb on my part. Yes make him pay.
“Material circumstances” change and with that so does child support. It can always be increase or decreased. For instance if he lost his job because of covid and couldn’t find a similar job he would likely have his support lowered. Honesty is the best method. There are child support guidelines in every state.
Make him pay or get full custody and be done with him.
Yes, yes and yes! Full support!
Yes it is his child too
Sorry for saying this but i have been there done that, your a fool
Ge absolutely should be paying the full amount! It should be for her.
he should pay his share! if you need it or not, if not put it in the bank for her education!
Your daughter deserves it
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YES!!! It’s his duty!!!
The money is for your daughter. Make him pay the full amount!
Yup reevaluate. With costs going up for kids now it’s going to be more on you
You betcha!!! Go for it!! The little girl also belongs to him
Seriously, you didn’t want to financially burden him, isn’t it his child, stop being stupid
Your child deserves it
They are correct he needs to pay the fullest
I would say be careful what you wish for. There’s a reason you’re questioning yourself on it and taking strangers opinions that don’t have to live with it isn’t a good idea. I think it’s a double edged sword, if he’s paying the full amount he may want his full time visits which is his right to get. I would be careful rocking that boat because right now you have all the physical control and sometimes extra money isn’t worth it. Real talk.
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Yes! It’s for the child and her needs.
Been there done that never got a penny
I think you answered your own question! Yes
Yes take his sorry ass back to court.
It’s fair go for it for your daughter
It’s for her not you.
Yes please do it not for you its for your daughter !
Get the full amount and start a college fund/ savings account
Absolutely the full amount
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Wow. I would have gotten the full amount a loooooooooong time ago
Um… Yes … Its for your daughter. She deserves the extra
more than fair…and then some…
Why the hell would you care what he thinks or not it’s his child he should be paying the full amount go back and get it all.
I waived my ex child support when I married again.
Take the full amount. It is the least he can do for your daughter
100% yes! No matter how much you make.
On the child support side, I would talk to your ex first. Its always good to try and do it that way before involving the courts. If he doesnt agree, than seek a mediator or request it through the courts. If you dont need the money, than put it away for your daughters college fund.
On a side note, why is your counselor, who you are seeing for personal help getting involved in your child support issues? That seems a little weird to me personally. That is a financial issue not a mental health issue, especially if the lack of funds isnt hurting you which from your post (and I am interpreting which is subjective) it doesnt appear that it is.
I think it’s very kind of the OP to consider the other child that is now grown. Is he still helping her? I’m guessing he isn’t from the interaction time with OP’s daughter. Yes, ask for more. I’m guessing the OP’s daughter has more expenses now than 5 years ago. School computer/ tablet, increased clothing cost, feminine hygiene needs, $ for sports, music classes (instrument), etc.
If he doesn’t want to be involved in person or financially then I would just ask him to sign over his rights and be done. Of course getting child support would be amazing but it sounds like you can handle everything just fine on your own. Leave him in the past if thats where he wants to be and you and your daughter live happily ever after! Also that way if he comes back wanting your daughter you can say nope, and the fact that he hadn’t paid anything will only help your case. This is just my opinion from my personal situation. I hope everything works out for the best for you and your daughter!
Girl. You need help. He should have been paying full child support since your divorce!
It is his responsibility to pay for her living expenses.
Absolutely yes, without a doubt! Yes!!!
How does your state work with that? If she is grown and there wasnt a Agreement then can it be retroactive? Or would he pay her for her college. How does it work if she is grown