It’s going to happen again, and again and again. If he truly learnt from his mistakes you wouldn’t be catching him repeating the same shit. He wants his cake and to eat it to. Do better girl! You can and will without the dead weight. You didn’t wanna leave him because of everything that happened but it doesn’t sound like he has considered your feelings at all!
No. No you can’t forgive this. So many times people have said it. When someone shows you how they are, believe them. I lost a daughter at 5 months to SIDS and while me and him weren’t together, if we had been, no way would’ve been able to forgive it. While she was in the hospital?!? Gross. I’m so sorry 
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Nope there isn’t enough good history to make it worth staying if it was a one time mistake in 5 years of absolutely perfect relationship and he was dealing with grief and then owned up maybe you could but he is just trash waiting to be taken out because his actions have not at all supported you in any way you deserve betwr
Maybe losing your baby was gods way of telling you, that this man is not for u. U do not need a man like that in your life. Not now, not for 18 yrs while that child would have grown. B thankful that u have your son. Not taking anything away from the love u obviously feel. But that guy is not a man.a man would not treat u that way. Thank God u have the opportunity to change things… u could have been stuck with him n a very unhappy life for not only u but the child u may have brought into the world with him. Please don’t get it twisted, I feel your pain about loosing your baby. But know that things happen for a reason. Not because u have done something wrong, but maybe god knew something u did not…
Pack up your love n move on. That man is never goin to change or he already would have. Find a better roll model for your son. Not a man but you. Show your son that u know your worth n he in turn may see that in his women some day n not turn out like that worthless price of crap that can’t tell u the truth. I apoligize if this seems to harsh. It’s not meant to b… I wish u all the best.
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Cheating starts with sneaky conversations. Whether they are sexual or not. If he is messaging other women and not telling you about it, it’s cheating. He is sending and receiving sexual messages, giving other women his attention in sexual ways, it’s cheating. Would he say it was cheating if you did it? You went through the hardest thing a mother can go through and in that time he set his attention elsewhere. So that bag you packed, unpack it in your own place far away from him.
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Run, he’s a liar and a cheat. Won’t change. You will be better off without him…
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You really have to ask what to do? Come on
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Leave his ass! Build your life for you and your son, and the rest will fall into place! Chin up, you’re worth it!
Run and don’t stop!! Once a cheater always a cheater. My ex was just the same and thats why he is my ex!!
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So sorry about your loss! He was never committed to you in the first place! You got pregnant 5 months into knowing him! That is not enough time to even know who he really is, let alone make a lifelong commitment to him. Cut your losses, leave, he has demonstrated that he is not into you or committed to you. Love yourself and your child, move on! Choose better partners and protect yourself from pregnancy until both of you have committed to doing life together!
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Stay gone…that’s is a dog
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Speaking from experience…id leave him…when ur ready…the most important thing is your happiness and in such a short time u guys have already delt with alot…bc ive made the mistake of staying and trying to forgive…but forgiving and forgetting are two different things…also i cant speak for anyone else but for me once i loose trust its usually gone forever for me…maybe u both need ur space for several reasons…and u both need to also deal with a loss of a child…thats alot of stress as individuals let alone as a couple…u know deep down in ur heart what to do…hun…who inows if its meant to be you. Could always get back together but he needs to prove himself because he has already broke your trust…and im deeply sry for your loss:disappointed_relieved:
Get out of there now!
Love yourself enough to stop it!!! He doesn’t respect you let alone love you… you DESERVE better!!!
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You been with him a little over a year be glad it isn’t any longer leave NOW
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I have one question. I don’t really care who I piss off with this question either because it needs asked. ARE YOU STUPID???
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He’s cheated multiple times. Can u put up with being cheated on your whole life and probably even actually left for someone else?
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Run as fast as you can!
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He is trying to gaslight you. Just leave, you’ll be better off for it.
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Sorry for your loss. Even with a tragic event , there is no justification for his behavior. It’s not going to change or get better. If you’re able to leave, take your son and go.
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Why would you EVER want to forgive that PIG!
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Sorry for your loss
Next min he using your daughter death to get into different panties
Run he slip his dick in them
Just run
Leave him he won’t change find a place and go
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Stop forgiving him and leave. Why do you continuously forgive him after he’s disrespected you and your relationship? He has so little respect for you that he’s done this at least 3 times in a year?? Hell no
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Stop looking and start walking!!
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Don’t let a man tell you more than once that he doesn’t want you.
That’s a lot of nope. Move on before you waste more of your life on him.
Leave and don’t come back. He’s a dog!!!
Leave him. He knows he did wrong and is trying to put the blame on you. Very manipulative. You AND your son deserve way better than that. I know it’s hard, but when my relationships weren’t healthy, I thought long and hard about whether that is the type of relationship I want my daughter to be in when they’re older. So would you be okay with some girl manipulating your son like this man does to you? Sticking with this man gives your son the image that this is normal healthy relationship. I feel if some girl did this to your son you’d whoop some a*s. Give yourself the respect you deserve and move on. Prayers girl!
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Come on once is a mistake twice is a choice
If you have to question it, you need to leave!
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Take the way out. I am so sorry you lost a child. Make a better life for you and the child you have. Don’t feed in to any of his excuses. You deserve peace of mind
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You need to learn how to respect yourself and take your child and get out now and don’t have another child and be tied to this poor excuse of a man! You really don’t need anyone to tell you what choice to make, you already know what you need to do! Leave and never look back he’s not worth living miserable 
and your child definitely don’t need to be in this type of atmosphere it’s hard enough just being in the world we live in today! So stop 
staying where you are not wanted find a place of your own and stop being a doormat and used!
RUN! Don’t walk, full speed run from him. He’s gas lighting you. It’ll just get worse and he’s definitely cheated on you. There is no excuse for any of his actions and he’s not going to change. You and your child deserve better. It’ll be worth it in the long run that you rebuilt your life even from the ground up than to stay with someone that doesn’t respect you or your guys relationship.
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He’s straight up gaslighting you with that “you never loved me” bs, honey. I would be very, VERY surprised if he didn’t sleep with them but honestly sending that kind of content is cheating enough and I’d leave over the texts alone nvmnd actually having a topless girl in our bed! He is a cheater plain and simple and you deserve better girl.
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RUN & RUN FAST
He ain’t worth this mess girl.
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if you have to hide anything from your partner that you don’t want them to see, you’re already cheating. Getting those pictures and taking them is cheating. Leave he’s not worth it. Let him try to make you the guilty party when he’s the cheating scum bag no sweat off your back.
I’d def leave for a lot less then all of this !
Leave him and do not let him back into your life.
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I read this and as I’m reading it, I’m wondering why you have to even ask this question? You probably already know in your heart what the answer is. He doesn’t respect you because if he did, he wouldn’t be doing this stuff to you or while your child are in his home. You deserve a lot more, get yourself together and know your worth, which is a hell of a lot more than how he’s treating you
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Please spare yourself more pain - get out of this relationship
Don’t go baccccckkkkk
I think you know the answer.So many women in here ask same thing with partner cheating multiple times and are still thinking of staying.Very sad
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I’m sorry you lost a child. He’s playing you, he doesn’t respect you, you know it. You should leave, don’t use the death of your child to stay with a worthless man. What would you tell an adult child of yours if he/she told you this same story? I would think you would say, don’t lose your self respect, worth, esteem in this BS of a man. Honestly, he didn’t care about you or the child, his behavior is indicative of such. Actions override words when the two don’t align. Period!
When someone shows you who they are believe them!
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They all cheat so pick the one you want to stay with.
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Leave & don’t look back
You are seeing the future. Why do you continue to punish yourself. Not a way to raise a child
Leopards never change their spots. He will never change! Do you want to put up with this the rest of your life??? You are worth more than that!
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I think you know the answer. He has shown you more than once he is just not for you. Cut ties and leave so you can be free to find your true partner
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Gross. He sounds like a disrespectful mess. No one wants or deserves that. MOVE ON.
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Taking a picture of a girl in your room with her top off is cheating. Texting and receiving texts secretly is cheating. This is all cheating. Leave or kick him out, whichever, just be done! This guy is never going to change, and he sees nothing wrong with what he’s doing!
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Why would this even be a question? Girl know your worth. One of those situations I’d have been gone.
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Go back and read your post…the answer is right there.
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What do you need our advice in this? Seriously?? SMH
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It would be easier to leave job than wait years when the same things keep happening. It sounds like he wasn’t ready to settle down. with everything you guys have been through, don’t use that as the reason for staying. If he had girls over while you were In the hospital he has 0 respect for you. Good luck momma, follow your gut on this, not your heart
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Honey go find an adult to do life with and in the meantime use birth control
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Be gone. Stay gone. Unfortunately it sounds like your pregnancy and her passing is the only reason he was with you…all those other things wouldn’t have happened if he was really “with you.”
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Leave fast… these are all red flags… he’s blaming you for not wanting to be walked all over.
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First let me say
I’m so very sorry for your loss
Forever in your mind
Forever in your heart
Forever alive
As for your hubby
Its time to eventually find someone who you can trust and who can love you
Its time to be kind to you now
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Get. Out. Now. Good luck.
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No advice needed. You already know the answer!!!
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Apparently you want to be stuck in this continuous cycle. Its up to you to change things…
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you can find a man you cannot live without,the one is not that man…
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If it doesn’t work, it doesn’t work. Leave.
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Girl. You already know. Go live a life you can be proud of and you don’t have to 2nd guess.
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Are you serious
Be self caring
A leopard doesn’t loose its spots
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Seriously???
RUN … RUN AWAY AS FAST AS U CAN… that male is going to destroy u… he has zero respect for u… go find someone who has some morals …
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You need a soulmate. And as always, love and trust go hand in hand.
He’s already checked out of the relationship. Don’t stay around and be disrespected. Leave and don’t look back.
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You need to leave now!
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Keep going, don’t look back.
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You’ve done the hardest thing! Don’t go back.
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You lost your baby too and the disrespect is unbelievable im so sorry for your loss my dear and you and your son deserve better move on when someone shows you who they are believe them
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Pretty sure you already know the answer to this. Run.
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No leave it won’t stop
When someone shows you who they are, believe them. So far he got you pregnant because he wasn’t using protection (were you?), or he lied about it, he’s cheated at least emotionally and maybe physically MULTIPLE times, he’s gone behind your back and had half naked women over in YOUR bedroom, he’s lied to you, he’s disrespected your feelings and ignored your requests.
Saying he was drunk is either another lie or he’s an alcoholic or both, plus he’s trying to gaslight you. Was he excited about the child? Did he grieve the loss or just go about his life?
Personally I feel he has so many strikes against him the relationship is not salvageable and he only serves as a bad example to your son and you. Get grief counseling, join a support group, contact a women’s center and the county to see what benefits you may have (unemployment? Food stamps? Subsidized housing? Training/education? Job assistance?).
You can’t get child support or alimony from him, but since you’re not married you don’t need to pay for a lawyer and can just leave. Assume you’re not on the lease, title or mortgage, since you’re unemployed, so no penalty or liability when you make your exit.
I’d find a new place to live as soon as you can, maybe get on housing wait lists now. Can you and your son stay with family or friends until you’re back to equilibrium and back on your feet? If not, just put up with the a-hole until you can get out.
If you are eligible, get Medicaid for you and your son. Get therapy for both of you. He is probably sad about the baby too, and sees how the BF disrespects you and wishes he could defend you.
I realize you had extenuating circumstances, but next time know someone 6 months minimum before you introduce any man to your kids, and do your due diligence. Google him, read his social media if he gives you access, meet his friends and family, talk to him about love, death, politics, sex, religion, and money.
What does money represent for him: security, control, success or its lack, a useful tool, or easy come, easy go? How does he budget his money (if at all)? Is he stingy, frugal, somewhere in the middle, or a spendthrift? Does he have savings, investments, an IRA? Does he want to own a home if he doesn’t already? Does he gamble? Even poker with “the boys” once a week can sap money from household expenses; does he have a limit on his spending? How much debt is he carrying? Is it from schooling or fancy cars? Or maybe he has no idea where his money goes.
Does he ever take vacations, and if so, what kind? Staycations, fancy resorts, B&Bs, cruises or camping? Nearby or around the world?
Does he buy presents or does he think holidays, birthdays and other celebrations are stupid? What sorts of presents has he gotten previous girlfriends? How does he handle anger, fear, anxiety, sadness, jealousy and other emotions?
When it gets serious , ask his views on having children and child-rearing if he has or wants children. You want to be on the same side of everything BEFORE you move in together. Any rules on naming kids? Discipline, food, activities,
And PLEASE use birth control until you are certain you’ve found “the one” you can’t imagine living without. You’re young enough to find a GOOD man who will communicate with you honestly and work with you to compromise and find solutions. But take a break while you get therapy to see where things went wrong, to build back your self-worth, to find better paths. And work through your grief with a counselor too. Perhaps the pain will never go away, but it won’t loom as large in your life as time goes on.
Don’t even consider dating until you and your son reach equilibrium with your grief. Make sure your son knows he had NOTHING to do with the miscarriage, that something went wrong with the baby that no one could control, so she/he went back to God if you have a religion. He might be blaming himself for the loss, for your arguments, or anything else. Make sure he knows it’s NOTHING he did.
Good luck with your grieving, recovery, rearing your son and staying healthy.
First of all I’m so sorry for your loss! Hun, please run and don’t walk!!! He definitely has cheated on you!! You and your son deserve so much more!! Enjoy life, work on yourself and you will do great!! Keep your head up high!
Get out now before you end up pregnant again and stick with a cheater your whole life. If he finds any excuse to cheat he will do it again and again.
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And why are you with him? Don’t you deserve better?
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That’s his guilt talking. Putting it back on you. Move on.
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Leave him he is a cheater
Narcissistic let her have him
Run run as fast as you can
Girl!! Run!! Do not have a child with this man, do not marry this man, do not buy property with this man. Get away from him. That behavior will never stop
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Run girl run to a women’s shelter and get help.
I’m sorry for the loss of your daughter. 
That guy is not worth it. He will not stop talking to other women. He’s proven that to you. Leave and stay away!
Get you and your son out of there
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He sounds like a douche. You deserve a man who respects you.
Do not go back…he isn’t loyal…you don’t deal with the loss of a child like this…I am really sorry for you and please do not go back to that guy…he doesn’t deserve you or any woman who wants a long term relationship
Run he aint gonna change
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He knows what he has done to deserve the ending of the relationship and he’s gaslighting you because of it. Run honey, run as fast and as far as you can
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He’s a narcissist a hole. An individual with narcissistic personality disorder issues will never ever change . Go read Tina Swithin books, blogs, website, YouTube videos, and so on. You will get the crystal clear picture of what you’re in for if you should remain in the picture. It’s nothing but heartache and crazy making madness of abuse cycle. You are in one of those stages now and will continue to be. Please choose yourself and your child. Focus on healing yourself and learn to spot narcs and why he targeted you in the first place (not shaming you just sharing a part of the self-examination one has to do in these situations, I was married to a narc 17 yrs, had 3 kids, divorce was hell and my kids still suffering the ripple effects of having a narc father) get therapy, get strong and you will and can build a good life with a real man. Hugs to you. Leaving is hard but staying will be 1000x harder to live with in the long run.
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Why do you even have to ask what to do? If he doesn’t respect you and treat you with respect why would you want him? Girls today lower their standards and setting for mediocre. Set standards and stick to them. Don’t settle for abuse
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Do not stay with this man over your trauma bond. Get out do not force your son and yourself to live this way with him. You are better without him!
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You and your son deserve so much more than what this cheater has to offer. Leave and don’t look back.
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Run don’t walk to the nearest exit!!! Sorry for you loss!
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I would end it hes gonna continue doing it
Move on (run)he is no good for your life.
Sweetie- no no no - you got to go!!! Get your lil’ ducks in a row - and get out asap. He doesn’t love you, respect you . The 4 corners of the foundation of a good relationship is loyalty, responsibility, accountability and trust. This is made stronger through communication.
He can’t admit his mistakes even when he has been caught out definitely RUN…