I clean my car off myself. We go outside and shovel together. If I get done cleaning my car off and he is still cleaning off his work truck and his car, then I have no problem turning around and helping him. The other day I had to go to the doctor with double pneumonia…he cleaned my car off for me because I was too sick to do it. We help each other. If he is out before me and I need to leave then he might clean my car off but I am capable, I do not expect it. This post screams entitlement and no appreciation for him. You have a voice, if you wanted him to clean your windshield then ask, don’t expect.
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The fact that he asked you if you wanted to ask him anything shows that he knew what your need was and decided he wanted to purposely withhold helping so that you would humble yourself for him. His passive-aggressive behavior would have irritated me too.
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You either do it for yourself or ask for help. That’s the normal way of doing things in a home.
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Well I don’t know how you where raised. In my family there was no boy jobs or girl jobs. We where taught to do everything. My brother could cook wash clothes etc. Girl’s knew how to shovel wash wax car’s change tire’s check fluids in a car now the grass ect. We where taught to work and earn our own money then we would not have to be dependent on anyone. Best lesson I ever learned.
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You cant put salt down or shovel out a car? Like seriously. 
If I want my husband to do something. Yes I ask. I dont expect him to read my mind. Even if its something he normally does like take the a.c…'s out in winter. I ask. Its not hard.
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As a WOMAN you are capable of doing it yourself, put your big girl panties on. It’s not a man’s job.
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I mean I usually don’t have to ask anything if its plain and obvious he needs to do something or need his help. That’s said sometimes I do need to ask. Sometimes what we as women think is obvious isn’t for men. Sometimes they need clear instructions. Just ask sometimes it ain’t gonna hurt you and it will cause less problems. Like seriously what is wrong g with going up to you husband and saying “hey, the walkway is covered in snow. Can you shovel?” Not that hard. Women and men are wired differently.
Just be thankful that you have someone to ask some of us don’t anymore 
You sound exhausting tbh. He sounds tired that you just expect him to do it. Be polite and ask for help. Nobody owes you anything, not even your husband.
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You’re right you shouldn’t have to aske because you are capable of doing it. If you’d like him to do it you would have to ask. It’s called respect. He as your husband didn’t not sign up to be a mind reader or personal maid.
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Equal rights you can’t be independent and expect to not have to work honestly how hard is to do something to help yourself
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If my hubby goes outside before me I do expect him to turn on my SUV, including my set warmer, front & rear defrost. To be honest I have windshield & mirror covers that keeps them frost/ frozen free, that my hubby puts on everynight. If the windows need scraping, whoever get outside 1st & extra time does it.
I dont know if its how youve worded it or ive picked it up wrong, but to me he sounds like asshole, being a smart prick.
Like i said, i could of red it wrong and picked up the whole situation wrong
ummm you could do this your self it’s your car … I would not expect this…i take care of my own this … I mowed the lawn in the summer too … glad I don’t NEED him to do all that
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Yes, you are acting ridiculous with that attitude and those expectations. Have some respect. It’s clear you have slim to none at the moment.
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Have you ever lived alone?
Have you ever been in bad weather on your own?
Does he just expect you to do the cooking and cleaning etc with out being told/asked?
Yes it is nice when it is just done for you but if its YOUR car then YOU should do it.
All marriages/ relationships are different.
There was a time when men did do things like open doors, fill the gas tank, wash the car, scrap the snow/ ice off cars. Routine maintenance cars. Without being asked.
Unfortunately those days are long gone because the shift in society. Gentleman are few and far between. Talk to him about these expectations. If you have a son teach him these things.
It’s not unrealistic, it’s just an old soul way of thinking. Its called chivalry. It’s very rare these days.
Why is it his job to clean off your car? Are you disabled?
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Tell him you shouldn’t have to ask you he should see for himself it has to done …sorry …sounds like a dink to me .
Learn to do those things yourself instead of being a manholes. Just do it don’t ask. Then maybe he will see how independent you are and take the initiative out of fear of losing you. It is a great self confidence builder I wish more women had.
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Like… you can’t do it yourself? I get doing something sweet for your spouse, trust me I’m all about making your honeys life easier; but are you incapable?
Also, do you do things like that for him? I guess what I’m saying is are you doing kind things for him, or just expecting him to do them for you because you’re the wife?
Because the way you said it sounds super spoiled.
I do for myself, if I truly need help I will ask. Don’t be so absurd and entitled 
Your car, your job, you aren’t a helpless child.
What century are you living in? Wow
I usually go to do stuff and he jumps in to help me 
I do for him too. It 100/100 around my house.
Don’t be ridiculous. If you need help or want him to do something, ask. Otherwise, do it yourself, assuming you’re capable. I’ve been with my hubby for almost 14 years and still “have” to ask him to do simple things at times, it’s not a big deal.
Is he your slave? That’s the only scenario I can think of that would warrant your annoyance with him over this…
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Hahahahahahahahahahahahahaha wow! You know, you have hands too, you know. You can do it too. Hell, i sometimes do stuff like that for my husband. Just cuz hes a guy it doesn’t means he needs to do every single thing around me.
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I don’t see why he’s the only one that can clear the window off…before you got with him did you just hope for a stranger to come clean off your window…
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My boyfriend does little things without me asking. But not a lot of men do. I am perfectly capable of doing those things and I don’t mind doing it myself. I don’t expect him to do everything. It’s about teamwork. Some things he just doesn’t want me doing and that’s ok. I appreciate everything he does.
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Just do it yourself and stop expecting a man to do it for you… i own 3 cars and my boyfriend took it upon himself to clean off one yesterday and I went right out and did the other. Girl get it together you sound so needy
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Unless they do the cooking and cleaning at your home- then you should scrape the ice yourself- lol!
I have to ask my husband to put his dirty clothes in the hamper or pick up his towel after a shower. I don’t expect him to just do things I want done on his own lmaoooo
I could see why you’re annoyed. My husband always has the same house hold choirs assigned to him and I get annoyed that I have to remind him. But at the end of the day, if it gets done, you really shouldn’t be too hard on him.
Why can’t you do it yourself
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My husband would never let me drive a car with an icy windshield. He goes out to my car on cold mornings and starts it and turns the heater on and scrapes the windshield so that it’s clear. I always thought that there were just certain things that men did as acts of love for their women and to make sure that they are safe 
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Men are not mind readers.
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Umm yeah if you want him to do that you should ask because he doesn’t HAVE TO just because he’s a man. If you lived alone would you just randomly state out loud that the wipers are stuck? No, you would just fix it.
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I have very old fashioned values and in my home we have mens jobs and womens jobs, however if we need help we will ask… if you can’t communicate with asking for help, how are you meant to communicate other things? Why is it ok for you to just expect these things? If you respect someone, you ask them to help and you ask with manners…
I lived with this kind of a**hole for 46 years, yes we were married. My question is, why didn’t you drive your own car home!
Having a clear windshield, and free wipers is your responsibility as the driver. It is not his responsibility just because he’s a man.
Is it your responsibility to cook, clean, rear children, etc just because your a woman? Hell no.
Hes a human being, treat him like one.
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If you have to ask your man to do any of this common knowledge respect for your wife life issues hes not in any way a man … poor training on his parents part
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My husband is amazing and does so much… With that being said, they aren’t mind readers. If you want something, if you feel something, if you need something… COMMUNICATE. Communication is important for a healthy relationship.
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I dont ask. My man just does them bcuz he wouldnt want me out in the cold. For example, he always fills up my gas without me asking. Its not bcuz hes my slave, its bcuz thats his way of showing he cares about me 
VICE VERSA
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Not sure why you expect him to do it for you. Donit yourself, or ask him to do it. Dont expect him to. Be independent or ask for help!
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The battle between feminism and a gentleman. Women expect to have equal rights but don’t want to follow through on all levels.
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Wait what lol Ok so it sounds like you expect him to do it. Who knows how much you expect him to do. Why can’t you do it? Or why is it so hard to ask for him to help? Too much pride there. He sounds like he would like respect and maybe likes being asked for help. While yes some guys just do it but there needs needs to be respect. Like someone else said men aren’t mind readers.
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Girl, if you don’t quit crying closed mouths don’t get fed. If you need help, ask. Don’t assume and create problems in your head cause YOU FEEL he should be doing things the way YOU want them. Ask or do it yourself.
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How would you feel if your husband assumed as the women you should do x,y,z? This is your partner I would say it’s simple treat him how you would expect to be treated. If he doesn’t something without being asked that is great thank him but do not put expectations on him that have not been agreed to by both of you as part of that partnership.
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wow! Clean your own car window. His job is to love, support, be there for you, and help you through life. His job is not scraping your car off or reading your mind. My husband personally does scrap my windows off, puts gas in my car every week, changes my oil, opens doors, and will pretty much help me with anything I ASK. But the difference is, I don’t expect him to cater to me. He just does because I cater to him too. My rule of thumb is that a person will always do more for you if you show true appreciation and don’t expect so much especially if you don’t even ask for help. Do you think just maybe if you would have said “baby it’s cold, can you scrap the window for me?” That maybe he would have been like sure babe. I’m not trying to bust your girl balls but sometimes communication goes along way. And if he’s scraping your window off that’s when you offer to stop and get him a hot coffee. Women 100% deserve to be treated right but so do men. It may not be a popular opinion but you get what you give sometimes.
My man when it comes to issues that could be dangerous always goes and checks things out such as ice on my car if it snows or ices out. He wants to make sure I am safe as possible when I go out.
Why not grow the fuck up and do it yourself… why you putting yourself in a position where you are dependent on someone else.
I only ask my hubs for help when I need it. I’m not helpless and prefer to learn things on my own. Men can be gentlemen, yes, but some of you women act helpless. Deforst the car. Get some de-icer windshield wiper fluid. Hell, I start my hubs truck if need be, if I leave before him. I unclog pipes, I take trash out, etc.
Damn, either ask for help or don’t. They aint mind readers. And don’t get mad if they don’t. maybe look into a remote start, if you don’t wanna go out in the damn cold, but he shouldn’t have too either.
I mean it’s YOUR car. YOUR responsibility. 
be glad he even helps you with things you think should automatically be done without asking.
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I cannot believe this is a legitimate question. If this is all you have to worry about, you are doing alright.
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To add to that, if your husband says “I’m getting hungry”, will you automatically go make him food? Or would you ask him if he’s hungry? Same thing, opposite roles. Women want equal rights, without everything else that comes with it.
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I clean my own vehicle off
Stop with the stereotyping. Just bc he is man has nothing to do with anything. Women want equal rights as men, but don’t want to do the things that men are “expected” of them. Plus, quit playing a game, he wanted you to ask him not just assume he was going to do it. Isn’t it nice to be asked to do something instead of just assuming it is your duty just bc of gender roles?
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You are one entitled female… what in the actual fuck? Didn’t your parents teach you to take care of your own things or I DONT FREAKING KNOW… actually ask your spouse instead of implying shit…
I clean my own vehicles windshields off. But yes if you can’t and don’t want to do it yourself. Yes ask him for help. Men can not read our minds. Even if it’s a small thing Ask if you need help. Makes them feel needed.
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I snowblowed the entire driveway while my husband was at work yesterday and I got a snow day. If ya want your wipers unstuck-get a car starter. What would you do if something happened to him tomorrow?
If you don’t NEED a man to do it, do it yourself. I’m divorced and 54 and I’m glad I didn’t ask my husband to do things like this for me. I would be screwed now.
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I would never expect my husband to do it, and not every time either. Take turns, it takes team work to run a home.
Shit I could ask mine all day and he still wouldn’t
I find it interesting that you expect him to do it. You are a woman and there is no reson you can’t do it. Just do it.
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I ALWAYS ask my guy for help! I don’t expect him to do something because I make a statement. Being independent is one thing but expecting him to do something because you make a statement is something else entirely.
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He should know to do these things but he cannot read your mind but no I don’t have that problem with mine
But always remember you don’t know what you’re thinking he don’t know so tell him sometimes but he should of sat there with u while ur car warmed straight from my husband mouth
He’s not a mind reader. It’s your car. Just ask for help.
Does he put the toilet seat down or u have 2 keep it up 4 him
I think he will feel appreciated if u ask him
Men like to feel needed
I wouldn’t do it yourself if the goal was him to do it for u
Ask nicely
Yes he should’ve have common sense…I get that but that hoe men act when the wife has been doing everything fir a long time acting like they are super independent creates no bond
So u have to train urself to back off on the manly tasks
Ask him
Appreciate him
Praise him for the helpful things
Positive reinforcement does more than any degrading treatment
Then that will create bonding and instill the proactive initiative that u truly desire
Maybe it’s just me, but I can defrost and scrape my own window. 
Not trying to sound insensitive, but you sound like an entitled brat who’s never done anything for herself.
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I just ask my man for help. He needs to hear that he’s needed and the least I can do is give that to him. With that said he earns all the money and works to support us. I fix almost everything in the house and am a woodworker so I like to give him that when he truly is needed. If you can’t ask him and CAN actually DO IT then DO IT! No games. We’re all adults here, right?
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When a man loves a woman he will always do those extra things to make her life easier he will make sure that she knows how to If the day came when he wasn’t there and a woman who loves a man will do the same it’s not about who does what it’s about the love you have for one another
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Wow you’re a freaking princess. Clean the ice off. It’s not that hard
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This isn’t bench pressing 300 lbs, this is cleaning ice off a window. You can do it! Put on your big girl pants.
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Women want equality but still want everything done for them, I don’t ask my husband to do anything I can unless I can’t reach it 
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remember. a thank you. even for. the small things. talk to him. maybe he is dealing with somethings. you dont know.especially. in these. times.
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You saw it why couldn’t you do it? Men aren’t mind readers. I learned a long time ago if I wanted my husband to do something I just had to ask him. No hints, no he should have just done it. Just a simple “babe can you please…” makes life a lot easier when you just communicate
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I start my own car 20 minutes before i leave for work but if its snowed really bad he will clean it off and start it without me asking
Unless you have health issues there is no reason you shouldn’t be able to do this stuff yourself This is 2020, do it yourself or ask him to do it for you as a favor, it shouldn’t be EXPECTED of him to clean off YOUR car.
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My husband passed away. I wish I could ask for his help but instead of help I ask for a hug because I’ve learned I can do most things by myself. I never knew this as I had learned to depend on my sweetheart for help all the time till he got sick
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You could just woman up and do it yourself.
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I usually can the car off myself, sometimes my hubby just cones out and helps so it gets don’t faster. But, you should speak up if u want the help, he can’t read ur mind. Also being an adult means doing things like this on ur own!
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You asked for those responses though🤷🏼♀️ Stating “I need this done” is not ASKING him to do it. He wanted a “honey, will you clean the windshield off, please?” Would that have been so hard to do? Don’t be stupid.
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Are your arms broke?
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If your arms are not broken why can’t you clean off your own car , do you clean off his if you leave before he does … just because his “your man” don’t mean he should automatically do it … do you have him wipe your butt too … wow
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No coz I can do that shit myself
I mean or not be entitled just because he’s your man …
There a lot of things I do for myself because I am a very independent woman. I don’t dump everything on my husband. I love the look on his face when he sees that I have done this or that on my own without his help, and then I smile. If I need for him to do something for me I just ask him and that is that, and then I say thank you very much. In marriage there should always be a balance. He is my husband, not my servant or my slave, he is my partner and he is always willing to help without complaining when I need help. As I said before, I am a very independent woman.
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Generally speaking, women don’t ask if their guys want their underwear washed, want dinner, change the sheets on the bed, etc. In a partnership, there should be things that are done without having to ask if someone wants. Of course, there are times we all need help. If I see someone on the floor, I go and ask if they need help; sometimes you have to call for helping, but we all should have enough sense if someone mentions a problem and is not the type of person always asking you to take over their responsibilities, if I ask what I can do to help.
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You sound like you are a high maintenance wife!
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No I don’t have to ask
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I agree with you! Just do it…like if clothes need to wash, dinner fixed ect…Just do whatever needs to be done, shouldn’t have to be asked…
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Men are idiots you have to spell everything. Just like kids.
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Lmfao me and my toddler cleaned my car off today. She had a blast and I always do it myself.
Do it yourself. Your able. You know how. Be independent an take care of yourself. If you want help that’s fine just ask him. If you need help ask. Don’t just expect him to do it. That’s not fair to him, because then ur mad at him for something he didn’t know. U might as well have a dream about him cheating, not tell him but be mad all day. If u want him to make an empty gesture offer to make u feel better tell him. I have physical disabilities, limitations, struggles how ever u want to look at it. I still clean off my vehicle, carry my own groceries, open doors for myself. I don’t expect anyone to do it for me, but if they offer and I genuinely need help I MIGHT consider it.
This sounds like you have internalized misogyny
Pathetic, do it yourself.
Most men aren’t mind readers and walk a fine line between trampling on our independence and being a gentleman as well as not wanting to be taken for granted same as us (though often won’t express it as quickly). They ask us for things all the time without asking, like " What’s for dinner?" Is like asking “will you cook for us tonight”