Yes. My sons father and I split when our sons was two years old. I’ve always invited him to our sons parties. He also always attends my families Christmas brunch.
We are now both happily in relationships and all of us attend everything for our son. It’s about the child.
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Doesn’t matter how boyfriend feels, he’s temporary until proven otherwise. Your child’s feelings however are not. So if you could give your child a childhood of peaceful co-parenting; A United team from day 1 then do that, the right person would want to join that team. The wrong person will destroy it.
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Is your ex rude to your boyfriend?
tell your new b/f to get over himself its important that your ex and you can get along for your child and being nice and doing things like parties is a part of your shared life
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Invite him. It’s about the kid
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I know parents who share custudy but have seperate parties. Like the father has s party with the kids every year and the mom never invited. And the mom only have a party every 5 years and dad never invited but mom bf is always their whoever she dating that year.
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Yes if you can… no if it is too stressful on your child.
Tell the bf you understand he doesn’t like it but that its your childs father and he has every right to be included. Coparenting needs to be kept civil. When people let their petty jealousy get in the way (like the bf’s) the child is the only one to suffer.
My ex and I have been to parties for our daughter, he’s remarried and I am too now. My husband has never really understood why we get along and are civil but we are for her. He didn’t have kids before me so I think that has a lot to do with it, he hasn’t been in the situation before. You have to do what’s best for your kid.
It doesn’t matter what your boyfriend wants-it’s not his kid. The child’s father has every right to be there for his kid’s birthday.
Easier said than done
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You’re new bf should be understanding and secure in ur relationship so that ur child’s father can attend
It’s between you and your child father hun and if your current partner doesn’t like it then either he can get over him self or he can go somewhere else. It’s not about your current partner it’s about the child, if your child wants dad there then let dad be there
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Its his child he should be there and your new partner should support you and trust you to have him there
Invite him if there will be no drama. If boyfriend is going to be an ass boyfriend should not come.
If you’ve always invited him then absolutely, don’t be the girl who shuts the dad out just because of the new boyfriend
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If your bf has a problem with it, he needs to get to stepping. A happy co-parenting relationship does wonders for kids. If you and your ex can be friendly and still do things as a “family” even with new significant others involved and present, that’s a parenting win!
If your bf doesn’t understand how important it is for you both to be involved then I would bet he has no kids or he doesn’t co-parent with his ex. It is fantastic you & dad get along! You’re lucky & so is your child.
Explain to bf how important it is for your kiddo.
Both me and my fiance have been around each other’s ex’s for kids parties it’s called maturity
I go to all my step daughters parties with their father. I know a little different scenario. It’s called coparenting. He needs to get with it thats the childs parent he should be there and kids deserve to have everyone they love together for their birthday party!
What does the child want… (If there is no abuse, or risk of harm to you, which by your story there is none disclosed) then ask the child… That’s what should matter most!
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Invite your ex. If he’s civil then he deserves to be there. Your boyfriend doesn’t really get a say as it’s not he’s biological child.
It’s his child if he has a right to be their just like your. Your boyfriend needs to support that
Bf needs to get over himself. Your ex will be in your life no matter what thanks to your son. He is being selfish as it’s your son’s birthday with is a mile stone in his life and has the right to have his mom and dad there. Why have 2 parto2s or worse yet or have his dad around d of his ig day just because a new bf is insecure its very selfish of your bf if you ask me
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Tell him it’s not about him getting upset or not . It’s about the child . He is being selfish . If he can’t handle it dump him
As a mother to 3 children, my exhusband and I have had birthday parties and graduation parties together. Know matter what we will be in our kids’ lives forever, so we make the best of it. My current husband has been understanding for the most part. He actually talks to my ex and they get along as well. It’s about doing what’s best for our kids.
If you want to invite him, invite him. It’s his child too. Even if you like the newer boyfriend, a year of dating doesn’t mean he gets to make parenting decisions. He doesn’t, and he needs to know to stay in his lane. He can’t keep your daughter’s father from her at her important events 
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He’s insecure and not interested in what is best for the child in my opinion… my sons bonus mom and I have become good friends as well as my sons dad and his step dad. We do birthdays and holidays together, my husband has no children of his own and he thought it was weird at first but I explained my feelings on wanting what was best for my son and he respected that… 7 years later and we’re one big family with one happy boy that knows he can’t play both sides against one another because we parent together
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Sounds like you need a new boyfriend.
He deserves both of his parents at his birthday party! I agree with the other ladies, the boyfriend is gonna need to coparent and have a cohesive relationship for the sake of nurturing the kiddo and raising him in the best environment. I hope your boyfriend understands!
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It’s really depends on where your having this party? If your having it at a park or something then there really shouldn’t be a problem talk to your boyfriend and tell him to settle down. Now if your having the party at your home where you live with your boyfriend then absolutely not. Besides this thing about wanting daddy there, your son won’t even remember.
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This issue needs to be dealt with yesterday. If he’s not comfortable with you guys coparenting, this isn’t going to turn out well. Your child deserves to have both parents active in his life and if you two can put aside your differences and do that, you shouldn’t have to fight your SO to do it.
I have a stepdaughter in her 20s. Her mom and stepdad refused to coparent and instead did quite the opposite. My Husband and I were all for it, I was never jealous at the idea. As long as you and your ex don’t have any feelings between you, there’s no healthy reason your SO should have an issue.
Until you deal with that, this is going to be an ongoing issue and I hate to think that your child will miss out because of some guy’s insecurities.
My ex was invited to everything. He’s my boy’s dad no matter what. BF needs to get on the same maturity level.
You should understand that it is an uncomfortable situation for anyone in your Boyfriends shoes. Especially if there’s a child involved and it can also be for your ex. It brings out a lot of doubt and insecurities.
It may be a bit soon to have both of them in the same location at the same time as your relationship is pretty new and tensions could rise. Possibly wait until they know each other a bit better before putting them in a situation like this
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Bf can F off. It’s your kid that matters and if he cant understand you and the dad getting along and participating together for your child’s events than he has issues and needs to get over that.
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My ex, his gf and I have been doing our daughters bday parties together for the last 3 or 4 years…
His gf does the planning with me… your boyfriend is being immature and/or insecure
U can if ur want if u guys get along my husband wpkt with his ex wife but I have gone with out him
Invite him
Your current boyfriend needs to learn this place
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Yes invite the child’s dad, sounds like bf should grow up. It’s about the child. You’re all adults be the adults! Plenty of love to go around for your 3 year old.
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I beg your pardon
Your current partner has no say.
Sounds toxic already
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If that’s the child’s father yes. Bf can grow up and be okay with it or not. It’s your child that matters
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I have an 8 year old with my ex and I get on that well with him and his fiancé that I actually look after there baby when they go to work and my partner also gets on really well with them too , your boyfriend is the one who has the problem and if it where me I would be saying he needs to get over it and that you are inviting your child’s father to the party and if he feels he can’t deal with it then tell him not to go
He is here father and should be there it’s nice her parents are still sociable . .
I dont think it should matter
My ex and my current SO participate in everything when it comes to my daughter. It ain’t about pleasing your partner. It’s about that little baby seeing her parents coexist and supporting her. That’s all that you need to focus on mama. Do what’s best for your baby. She will love and adore you for it later on. No man should ever take priority over your babies happiness. Sending you love and hope you do what’s right mama
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If your bf has an issue with the father then get a new bf the father isn’t going anywhere …
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invite the ex you only have one father
It’s your babies dad he should be there uncomfortable or not for your partner I’m sure there will be other times and places they will have to be together it’s for the child and he needs to understand that
Tell your boyfriend to get tf over it. That’s your childs father. He doesn’t like it then he ain’t the one
Tell your current boyfriend your daughters happiness is more important. And coparenting is part of making her happy. He can’t handle that then he can move along. That child has a father. And no matter what that boyfriend can’t just up and get rid of him. That’s y’alls child not his so stop letting him make you second guess yourself.
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That’s so nice to here
Do what your heart tells you. All said he his the father of your child so think on.
It’s whatever you want really.
Not the same but similar, my daughters second birthday last year, it was my nieces dads weekend with her so he was also invited to the party
Invite him. Your child should ABSOLUTELY see you guys get along. If the new guy can’t accept that, then hope he doesn’t let the door hit him in the ass on the way out.
It seems you already know what to do. Invite dad. He should be involved in your child’s life events. Any new man needs to respect a child’s need for both parents and a respectful co-parenting situation. Happy birthday to your little!
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Tell your bf to suck it up, cause your ex is gonna be there whether he wants him too or not.
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Your child comes first. You should invite the dad for sure.
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Uninvite your boyfriend…
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It your new relationahip is going to have much of a future, your bf will need to grow up a little. But since its still new, i say have the party somewhere like a park or other less personal spot but definately invite your ex. It is all about your child. Bf will feel more comfortable and maybe after seeing you and your ex intetact with your child he will be feeling less threatened.
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To me it seems you only want to invite him so he can see you are in a new relationship and to show it off. Maybe that’s what hes objecting too.
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He’s the child’s father, of course he should be invited if he wants to come. He cheated on you but if you’re still friends and there’s no animosity then I don’t see the problem.
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Your ex is still your child’s father so thinking your child would want him there
If he was a real man he would be fine with it but obv he’s insecure and dramatic . Invite the ex and don’t invite your new bf. Her dad deserves to be there more than a man you’re dating
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Yes better to be nice as you can be for the sake of your child
My son’s father and I do things together like his birthday party or other special events/sports and things like that. Our son shouldn’t feel like he has to choose just because we aren’t together anymore and we haven’t been together in 8 years. Whatever issues we may have had we put aside because our love for our son is more important. And I’ve always made all this very clear to anyone I’ve dated.
It’s about the child not your new man, he needs to be more mature and put the child’s feelings first or you need to find a new man that can
I always invited my kids bio dad to every birthday, every school event…everything. Even when he refused to see the kids, if I could contact him, I invited him. He never showed for any, over the course of a decade, but he knew he was welcome to come at least and it showed my kids that I wasnt the bad guy. You need to invite him, and tell your bf that this is part of coparenting and being civil
Invite your childs dad. Who cares if your boyfriend likes it or not. It’s your CHILDS father
If you guys are on good terms then yes. It’s for your child not your boyfriend. But if it’s gonna be a problem it’s not worth the head ache
Every person that had a problem with me and my ex being friends and being able to be mature and there for our children together has been removed from our lives. My ex is now married to an amazing woman that i love having be step mother to my kids, and can talk and joke and and be friends with me. It is amazing to have an extra persn around to be part of the team raising the kids, and showing them that as a parent you are their for them and u treat the other parent with respect. If this man has a problem with you being able to get along then he is not the right person to be with.
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I think it depends on the seriousness of your relationship. If you’ve been together for a while I say no. We have our own bday parties for my stepson cause his mama not welcome here periodt. My stepdaughter on the other hand, her mother and I have an awesome relationship. I’d invite her in a heartbeat but still I think it’s good to keep the parties seperate. You and your ex are not together. He doesn’t have to be invited to events you and your boyfriend are paying for. Your child needs to get used to the separation of events/holidays. Are you also supposed to invite him to your home Christmas morning to be present for the gifts? Thats a big no from me.
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Tell boyfriend to get over it. Even when me and my daughter’s dad were split up or going through the divorce we spent every birthday and holiday together. We did it cause we love our girl’s, and they are what’s the most important.
Invite you’re ex as he is you’re child’s father. You’re partner should understand that even though he doesn’t like you’re ex he should put his personal things aside for you’re child’s sake. If the tables were turned and you’re ex didn’t want to invite you to you’re baby’s birthday because of his gf how would you feel
You have your boyfriend stay away since he’s uncomfortable with coparenting and you invite the father. If you are with anyone who doesn’t like you coparenting peacefully, get out. That child is in your life till you die, not just 18 years which means so is the other parent. Tell the boyfriend to grow TF up or kick rocks. Your child’s feelings and needs come first.
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Tell your current that he needs to man up and your child comes first. If it’s going to make your child happy do it!!
Like my daddy says “ship shape up or ship out.” Leave boyfriend at home. Your child comes before your love life and your partners 100% of the time. Doesn’t matter what your boyfriend wants. This is between that boys mom and dad. Not the boyfriend.
Your child comes first.
Your child has a dad, the new boyfriend don’t need to play that role.
He doesn’t even have a say when it comes to this stuff! Hell, you need to put your boyfriend in his place he is not your husband.
And a real man would man up and befriend his girlfriends ex and show the child there is a thing like a family!
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If hes civil and not being a jerk then I would say yes
I wouldn. ‘Friends’ or not, he wants to be at a party for the kid he can have his own lil party forbher himself. I been with my husband 5.5 years and weve always done seperate parties for his kids bday
We do it one weekend. Her mom does it another
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Why does your partner have a problem with a kid having both parents at their birthday party? Id be telling your other half that if he has an issue then he needs to get over it. Your child is more important than your partner’s ego.
I have 2 kids by my ex and 2 by my husband. We do birthdays together. We all go to the party’s together. Tell boyfriend he needs to to suck it up cause you guys are coparenting
It depends. In a perfect world both sets of parents would get along and would be able to work together to teach the child how to be a healthy adult. Unfortunately, often times one or both parents aren’t able to act their age when gathered together. Therefore, are better off doing things separately.
We’ll take what you can cause not all of us are good will the our kids dad’s likethay my x and I can’t stand each other (he cheated and is on drugs now) so my kids go to his family’s for a party and they have one with me and my hubby as well I say all the time I wish my x and I could Co parent better but he is just mean Everytime we talk he’s rude and makes hateful remarked toward me. So I’d say if you co parent that well do It let your daughter/son see that just bc mommy and daddy are split up doesn’t mean they don’t love and that they can’t get along for her/him! That day is about that baby it’s not about anybody else and he/she may want both mommy and daddy there for his/her party!
Your current boyfriend is irrelevant on his feelings… That’s your exes childs 3rd birthday party too and he needs to accept that he is clearly a part of the child’s life and will be in yours for years to come.
Think about how amazing that will be for your child, to see mum and dad at a point where she/he can have both there, even though they’re not together!
Invite him.
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Thats he baby too, he will always be apart of your life, due to the child you share together, grow up Mr. Second man … But you should ask him to have a party for at his family for her that might help to.
If it was your birthday do not invite him, but it’s your kids birthday, hes the father and has a right to be there and you be partner will just have to accept that. Your daughter would love to have her dad present and denying that is unfair of your new partner. He needs to deal with it.
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If your partner is sup insecure that he begrudges co-parenting, you need to find a new partner. Dick is abundant and of low value
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I am 25 and my parents still both come to my house fpr xmas party everything and there divorced with new partners both are there it’s amazing i say yes
Tell new bf to tuck in his insecurities, they’re showing.
If you and ur ex are good … then be good . It’s not about any of you but the child . Imo
Why would you let a step father control the relationship between your son and his BIOLOGICAL father.
If your ex is man enough to be able to come and be civil I think it’s your new partner who needs to reassess his actions.
Your child should always come first. If your new partner cant learn to co parent then it’s only going to effect your son later on.
What is he worried about??
Ask yourself, how would you feel if the roles were reversed?
Your ex meets a new women and you get left out of your own child’s party because she’s an immature cow.
If you would be mad, then you already know the answer.
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If your fella has a problem with it tell him not to be there. Simple!
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In my opinion: Your boy friend has a problem with it because you want him to come for the wrong reasons. If y’all are still friends and everything is fine between y’all then you would want him to come for your baby.
Not to show off your boyfriend. Sounds to me like your trying to make him jealous and I’m sure your boy friend is picking up on things.
Tell your boyfriend not to go. You as parents are number 1. That’s both of you regardless if u together… boyfriend needs to skip out on party if he doesn’t like your child’s father there
If your current boyfriend doesnt luke it then he should stay home. Its good that you still have a friendship with your ex for your childs sake and he is his dad so he should be there
In my opinion putting it bluntly, too damn bad for your boyfriend. My ex has ALWAYS been invited to our twins birthdays, including everyone the boys are close with it his family. The party is for the kids, not for anyone else so if everyone can’t get together peacefully and enjoy parenthood together FOR THEM, then it’s really a shame.
That’s the child’s father
Is he still your child’s father? Yes? Then yes he should be there for your child sake
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If your boyfriend is serious he has to understand that your ex will always be in your life. It sets a great example for the child when they see that their parents can effectively coparent. My boyfriend’s ex wife and I get along great. We even go to her other kids (by a different man) birthday parties. When parents split and the child can see them getting along and co parenting it is a much healthier environment for the child.
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Having been in the boyfriend’s shoes, my thought: no, do not invite the father. He can have a party for your daughter on his time. If you are serious with your boyfriend, his feelings and opinions matter as well. If he is the man you’re going to have a future, a life with, he matters. It’s not just “telling him to get over it because he’s not her father”. In my opinion, that’s a way to lose someone you love pretty quickly. My advice: discuss it with your boyfriend and try to find a compromise - but do not completely disregard his feelings. If you don’t want to consider another person’s feelings outside of yours and your daughter’s father, don’t be in a relationship. I hope everything goes well. 
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Tell your BF bad luck.
As long as you’re ok with it and it makes your child happy, it’s a no brainer.