It’s not about you
. It’s about him…
Do what’s best for the child. Your boyfriend needs to accept the fathers place in your child’s life
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I invite my Ex who cheated to all of our daughters parties. My husband is fine with it. He understands that we are both her parents. It took both of you to create your baby. Co parenting is soooooooo important at that age. They need to see that even though mommy and daddy aren’t together that they can come together for their special events. No one but you should be making this decision. She needs her dad.
Talk to bf about it. Make him understand that ex will always be in your lives cause he’s the daddy. And it’s much better for all of you to have a friendly relationship than a hateful one
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Boy friend needs to get over it. The ex will be in your life if he likes it or not. That comes with being involved with someone who has children.
Do what is in the best interest of the child and invite his father. There will eventually be graduations, weddings that you will all have to interact at. And is this new guy going to be there for these milestones? Stay friends with your ex for the sake of your child and tell your man to grow up.
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Your boyfriend knew you had a child with someone else before you got into a relationship? Then he must just get over it for every birthday, New Year, Christmas, Easter, First school day, last school day and aby other special event for the rest of your lives
yes invite the father
My ex is invited to everything that has to do with my son, my husband 100% encourages it. I find it important for him to have his father there as well.
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I was stern on not inviting the other side I did one year it wasnt a disaster I could hear the whispers your dads been to my house your dad…never again
why is this even a question . stop being selfish your kid should matter more than that boyfriend of yours.
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Invite him. That is the parent of your child. You need to learn to co-parent, for the sake of the baby!
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It’s his kid he should be involved
There is no reason not to invite him if you are still friends!
Invite him it’s called co parenting and keeping your child’s feelings in mind. Your child didnt choose to be here or for their parents to be apart be a strong forefront for your child so they feel safe and secure no matter what.
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My ex and I do things together with my son often…he is 8, my ex and I stayed friends, I’m remarried with 2 more kids. My ex loves my other 2 kids, we invite him to things, he invites us. I’m from a divorced family were my parents absolutely despise each other and couldn’t even be in the same room having combined birthday parties and any other type of events very stressful for me from the time I was born until my wedding day honestly… I knew I never wanted that for my son he can tell that his dad and me our friends he knows that my husband and his dad are friends my son is never stressed he likes that all of us can do things together. you have to do what’s comfortable for you and what’s right by your child.
Your current needs to civil with the ex. The child is common ground which means coparenting. Invite the ex and tell your current to man up
Keep the communication open with the boyfriend. Ask him why he is against it. Your child won’t care either way at this point. My kids love seeing us all together, but also love having two birthday parties so my focus would be on why he’s feeling insecure about this
Absolutely invite him
Invite your ex, that’s his kid too. If you guys are friends and mutual and all that theres no reason he shouldnt be invited
Your current boyfriend … Yikes.
My s/o of 3 years would never tell me not to invite my childrens father to a birthday party for them. In fact we all spend holidays together. My ex and I take our kids on trips TOGETHER.
My ex and my s/o dont even speak to one another, but my
s/o knows his place and his roll in my life and he’s secure in the fact that I am with him & my ex can’t change that. He is also well aware that the kids come first. It’s not about what a man or a woman wants - it’s about putting your kids first and doing what is best for them.
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Invite him!! My partner was hesitant at first, and 4 years later they are friends and my kids dad and his partner come weekly for Sunday dinner, and I were all going on holiday together xx
He should be invited to everything and Vice versa
No way…he stuffed up…
Invite him,if you two can get along then the kids should see that
Invite him fuck you current bf his isn’t his father me an my ex don’t even get along but never once have I stopped him from coming his daughters party it’s for your child’s sake not your bfs
Invite your ex to the party. Your child deserves to have special moments with mom & dad. Not to be negative against your current boyfriend but if he can’t put your baby’s feelings ahead of his own then you need to consider if he is really the best for you & your kiddo.
I’m sorry he’s asking you to choose. You will never regret putting your child first but you may deeply regret if you don’t.
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Co parenting isn’t easy but it’s worth it. I hope your boyfriend understands that this is bigger than him and whatever problems he has with your ex. Your baby is way more important and your child deserves to have both parents involved in his life especially on his birthday and Holidays. Do it for your baby. I’m sure your boyfriend can put his difference’s aside for your baby.
If he has an issue with it then that worries me when it comes to co parenting.
I personally don’t see an issue considering that you’re just friends and coparenting. We’ve invited my SO ex and her boyfriend to events with the kids. As long as your ex is respectful towards your current relationship.
It’s not your party or your bf party, it is your CHILD’S party. If your bf has an issue with it then he doesn’t have your child’s best interest and his feelings shouldn’t supersede your child’s feelings.
Your bf needs to accept the fact that your ex is always going to be in your life because of your child! Its probably not that easy for him I understand that but he knew about your child and ex when you guys got together right? Your child should be allowed to have their father with them for their birthday
It’s about the child in my opinion…but everyone has an opinion… good luck
Reassure your boyfriend that you are inviting him because you want your child to grow up knowing that HE, your child, is more important than the past & any mistakes your ex has ever made. You want to show your child what mature co-parenting, with the child as priority, looks like. This is not about you, or your ex, or your current boyfriend… It is about that precious child that you all love. Put petty jealousies, insecurities & suspicion aside for the child’s sake.
My husband and I did this for my step son for many years. My step son is now 24 and appreciates that we did this for him.
Invite him. Boyfriend will have to deal with it. My Ex and I were best friends after divorce same reason.
It’s your son’s birthday, not your boyfriends. Hard yes.
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Invite him. It’s about the child. Not you. Not him. Not the new boyfriend. When my ex and I got a long, I invited him and hia girlfriend to things with our kids. We did a few joint parties. My husband hates my ex, for good reason. But whenever it comes to something with the kids, he puts his feelings aside. If your new boyfriend can’t be okay with that, you need to have a talk with him. You guys have a child together. My kids as myself and their step mom getting a long and talking all the time. They don’t see it much with their dad or step dad and they hate it. Because they love them both. But when they do see it they’re happy lol
I had an ex once that would flip when I talked to my kids dad or was alone with him when he came to get the kids for a minute or anything like that. Needless to say we didn’t last long at all. And I let him know, that no matter what he was gonna be in my life. We had kids. I was stuck dealing with him even if I didn’t want too lol
No. Don’t invite him. He can celebrate on his own time.
Its his child. Cheater or not. Unless you plan to take his rights, he has a right to be there. Your new guy better get you prgnant if he wants to control who sees yo kids 🙅💁
Invite him. I wouldn’t want to miss out on those parts of my children’s life. If I didn’t even have the option to I would be furious so beware if you don’t invite him that he may get mad. Your current boyfriend is going to have to grow up and realize that your ex will always be in your life since you have a child together. Maybe have him read some stuff on being a step-parent. The ex and the current bf don’t need to go shopping together or go to the park but they should be respectful of their parts in the relationship. She current bf should be able to handle the child’s father for a few hours while he spends time with his child. If he had such a problem with it he can stay at home for the day.
My mom left my dad to get clean and sober. She ended up moving to Kentucky with my stepdad. My mom had to sneak and leave or else my dad would act like a psychopath and not let her leave. Us kids could do whatever we wanted but my mom had to be sitting at the house not ,allowed to leave unless she was getting them drugs. Anyways when she left she didn’t tell anyone because she didn’t want the drama. My dad had us thinking she just up and left us. Any letter she would send, he’d throw away. Answer calls and tell her that we didn’t want to talk to her. We missed our mom so much and he was hiding us from her. At the time we didn’t know what was going on because we weren’t even 10 years old yet.
One day there was a hurricane. It wasn’t bad but it wasn’t good. We didn’t have electricity for around a week. Next thing I know my mom is at the house! We weren’t answering our house phone and she was worried about us so she drove from Kentucky to Florida and basically stole us. I never wanted to go to Kentucky but I’m glad my mom made me stay with her. My dad got worse over the years and you could tell he just wasn’t the same guy anymore. He always seemed sad. Now that I’m an adult I understand why he was so sad he went from having a family to nothing in just a few hours. If we would of stayed in Florida we’d be exactly like him. Since we had to move up here two out of three kids are in college. One is going to be a nurse! Our mom kept us straight. Anytime our dad wanted to visit he was allowed.
When my mom went to Kentucky, my stepdad took her and got her sobered up with a great job. The relationship he had with my dad was they,’d say hello and then bye. No small talk or pretending to be friends. They manned up and acted the way they needed for the kids.
Jesus that’s long I’m sorry 
Of course you should
Your ex is the parent and if your boyfriend has your kid’s best interest in mind he’ll be supportive. If he doesn’t have your kid’s best interest in mind he shouldn’t be your boyfriend.
Your boyfriend is not the child’s father. He can learn to coparent and coexist with your ex or he can get out.
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Boyfriend has no say in this. That’s your child’s father. Your child would want their dad there so their dad should be there. Tell the boyfriend not to come if he has an issue with it.
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THE BABY DADDY SHOULD BE AT the baby’s birthday party that’s his right. If you’re new boyfriend has a problem maybe he should go somewhere else for the day.
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…its about the child. If he isnt a danger to his own kid… Invite him. The boyfriend knee you had a lid with another man when he came in the picture. Dont let the real father miss out on his own childs party just so insecure boyfriend can feel ok. Invite the dad.
It depends on the relationship the co parents have with each other. Not all exes are automatically invited to birthday parties, etc. The other parent can have their own celebration too.
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If boyfriend has an issue tell him to go somewhere else that day. It is NOT his child. Not even his step child. Let the dad see his kid. He will never be able to get the 3rd birthday back. Dont make him miss it.
Ur bf needs to get over it…ur ex is ur child’s dad end of discussion…as long as the dad is having a part in ur child’s life and doin as he should ur bf is just gna have to deal with or be gone. I get the whole he’s ur ex thing in general can b an issue but wem it comes to the kid he needs to grow up. It’s not as if u are inviting him for your benefit
I think its wonderful that you are putting your child’s needs/wants first. I would invite him. To me, it is a red flag that your current boyfriend isnt supportive. You should ALWAYS want what’s best for your child. <3
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That’s your child’s father. Of course he should be invited. Your BF can suck it up for the child’s sake or he can go.
For my oldest we do a joint bday party. That way our son has his 4 parents there. My middle childs we invite bios family. It’s their choice to come or not.
I know that i loved it when my dad would come to my birthday parties and all of them would get along even if they didnt really like each other. I think that the child would love to have all of you there i hope he will change his mind or at least suck it up and realize whats best for your child
I’m honestly baffled that this is even a question. It’s your child’s birthday party… you should absolutely invite your child’s father. The fact that you’re even questioning whether to chose your boyfriends happiness over your child’s is messed up.
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That’s your child’s father. Invite him and the new bf can suck it up. It’s not his child not his choice
Would you be okay if your ex partner doesn’t want you at yours child’s party?
I think this answers the question x
Everyone saying your boyfriend doesn’t have a say are kinda selfish. You guys have been together for a year. Yes his feelings matter. Yes you had a child with your ex. Yes that ex deserves to spend time with their child on their birthday. But you are starting a new family and if you look at it as “well my boyfriend doesn’t have a say”. What happens when that boyfriend turns to a husband? Does he still not have a say? Feelings of everyone matter.
I was uncomfortable hanging around my husbands ex wife at first too. But it’s not about us. It’s for the kids. Talk to your boyfriend. Tell him that “its for the child. I understand that it makes you uncomfortable. I don’t have feelings for my ex anymore. I think it’s important for our child to see us all get along” He May come around. If not then have your child’s father come get your child after the party so he can still spend the birthday day with his child.
Don’t make yo,ur boyfriends feeling invalid. They are very much valid. You don’t want to set that tone for the relationship if you plan on him sticking around for a while.
It may not always be like this. Your boyfriend is probably still trying to get over the fact that your ex is gonna be in your life for a long time. It’s a hard concept. Trust me. I’m a stepmom of 2. But he will get over it if he wants a future with you.
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It’s your child’s father. Invite him
I say yes. It’s very important that your children can see that the two of you can still be there for him or her together. Just bc yall split doesnt mean your child should suffer
Invite your child’s father. Period.
Why is this even a question???the child should come before your boyfriend
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Invite him. Thats between you and your ex and has nothing to do with your bf. Thats not his kid nor his place to make that decision
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Invite him. It is your ex’s kid not your bf’s kid
I’d invite him! I wish my mom invited my dad to my parties
idk how i landed on this page but the way u are wording it is probably the reason ur new guy dnt like it
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Choose your child 100% of the time. PERIOD.
Invite the father. No questions asked. You’re new guy doesn’t like it? Oh, well! How would you feel if the roles were reversed?
I’d be pissed if I didn’t get invited to my kids party. I have a friend who’s dad hosted her baby shower at his house and didn’t invite her mom, his ex wife. I wouldn’t have went to my own shower if one of my parents weren’t invited out of spite from the other.
Invite him!!! You need to be able to get along! Whether your new boyfriend likes it or not that’s the child’s father and you are doing it for your child! If you’re new boyfriend can’t understand that and respect that THAT’s an issue!
Sounds like you might need to uninvite the boyfriend. If he can’t understand that your child’s father is a part of your child’s life maybe he needs to be the one not around your kid.
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Never put a man above your child , invite him , he’s there for your daughter not you 
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Do you have shared custody? If so I’d say Dad can have his own celebration with his side of the family. Even though you are with someone else at 3 years old you don’t want to give false hope to your kid that you’ll get back together and him asking afterwards when his dad is coming over again. Just my opinion from a divorced Mom of 2
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Invite him no matter what it’s for your child
Invite him as long as good with your kids and new guy, your kids will love it. And as long as no negative vibes there then it’ll be a good time!
Your current boyfriend isn’t the parent. Invite the ex if you feel comfortable. He is going to have to get over it if he wants to be with you. It’s part of co-parenting.
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Tell your current bf to get the eff over it its not about him its about your child !
invite him… your bf dont have shit to say THATS YOUR DAUGHTERS BIRTHDAY AND HER FATHER!!!
You and your ex share a child your child loves you both and should not be punished because you didn’t make it if you and the child’s father can get alone and he is not disrespectful towards the new boyfriend then there is no reason to not let that baby have both /all three of his parents in one room for him this is not about the parents this is about his one day tell the news bf to stuck it up buttercup if he wanna be a baby go to his mama cause you need to make your son happy period you was a mama before you was his gir
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If boyfriend has an issue with that, find a new boyfriend. Insecurity isn’t good. At end of the day, it should be about the kid.
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I would invite him it’s for your child and if he can’t understand that idk
The best thing we ever did for my children was love them more than we disliked each other. We always celebrated them together…right up until they went to college. They are grown and speak of how grateful they are that we did things together.
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Invite the child’s father- your new boyfriend is going to have to mature, this won’t be the last time that you two have to get together for the sake of your child.
You should want what is best for the child, and the child only.
Anyone new is going to have to understand
I’ve always included my kids fathers in their bday party’s, Christmas etc I didn’t let my new bf decide that. I told them from day one that their fathers would be included every holiday. It worked out just fine. My kids were happier having us all together at one party
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Invite him for sure, he may or may not show up 
I have a deceased daughter and I invite my ex to her celebration of life every year and my boyfriend has no issue with it, I mean he hasn’t shown up but family has . You have a child together you’re in each others lives forever
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I always invite my ex and his girlfriend! It’s not about me. It’s about our child. If he shows up then great. If not, well I did my part.
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Ex is going to be in your life for a long time. Tell the current idiot to get used to it.
Invite him! Just make sure your boyfriend is comfortable with it.
That’s the father of your child. If he is indeed active and a good father, coparenting is a must! At the end of the day it’s about the child nobody else
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That’s what’s wrong with this world though. Kids are put on a pedestal. Wow big deal mom and dad had a separate birthday party. My kids don’t even get parties. Just a cake and presents from me and my boyfriend. The same boyfriend who helps raise them, pay the bills, feeds them, takes them places and loves them like his own. So yes his opinion does matter.
It’s your childs dad of course you should invite him.
If it’s his child and he wants to be there he has the right to be there I feel like (as long as he’s not one of those people who always causes a scene or drama) cause for your daughter - it’ll be healthy for her to see him and get that experience with him at a young age rather than way later in life
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Your kid deserves to have both parents there. I couldn’t be with someone that had an issue with involving the other parent in stuff.
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Ex deserves to be at HIS child’s party. If boyfriend had beef you guys need a serious convo
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Assuming your ex isn’t toxic Invite him and let him decide whether to come. Let the adult men figure their issues out and get over their own egos. Now if your ex brings a toxic element then I wouldn’t invite him. You are trying to promote happiness and positive memories for your child.
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It’s a great thing when parents that are no longer together can remain cordial for kiddos! I say invite him. Your current guy needs to let go of the jealousy and just know YOU ARE WITH HIM and not your ex.
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In Viet the ex and I be telling me boyfriend to shove it y’all do have a child to get her and it’s there birthday the desirve both parents there and. If you and ex get along all the more power to us
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Absolutely. That’s how you co parent. Party ain’t for the bf is for the child. We invite ppl the child would want at its party.
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My kids father will always be welcomed where his kids are. As long as there is no abuse the child should never have to go without both parents…especially for holidays and special occasions
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