Yes its the babies father ex has to be xcept that he is with you now thats should only matter ! And you said its wrong you and your ex arent happy n together baby needs to see only that you both put ur differents to the side for the child being you moved on so the man with you is step dad and needs to except that!
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Invite him. The party is for your son. Not your boyfriend.
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Invite him, your boyfriend needs to grow up. That is your sons FATHER
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your son is three, there are going to be many events like this and your boyfriend has to learn to be polite and not make a big deal about it. His comfort level is not more important then your sonâs happiness. \
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Thatâs the father of your child if you and the father are on good terms invite him I would tell the new bf if he donât like it he donât have to be there
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Why does your current bf have a problem with it? Are his insecurities justified? If you are able to successfully co-parent, then absolutely invite him! He is the father and if you have a good relationship that isnât toxic, then I say go for it. It is your SONâs birthday party, not your boyfriend.
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You have a child together. The current bf needs to understand that the child still needs his father in his life. If he canât get it then I personally donât think he should be around 
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he has a right to be there itâs his child too
Invite him. Heâs your childâs father. Itâs childish that your boyfriend would even have an issue with this lol thatâs how you co parent. He new when he got in a relationship with you that your ex would have to be in your life for your child. The party is for your child not your bf the point of a party is to have who your child would want there .
Well you should invite him because he is your childs dad not for your own personal gain of making jealous. Co parenting should be something to try first. Because your parents. Your boyfriend will have to get over the fact that your son has a dad that should be involved as long as he wants to. Its about the kid not you guys.
Let the kid father have him for a day. But no donât mess up what you have!! Because the ex is never gone to wife you!
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If you and the ex are on good enough terms to both have a good time, then I vote yes, because it would be amazing for your baby to see you two interact civilly. As for the bf, I agree, itâs not really his call, since you have to co parent with someone else. Plus, heâll be there too, so itâs not like he can be worried about cheating or anything 
This isnât about you!!!
Is the father usually in the childâs life? Has he been absent and this is the opportunity to bring him back around? What did you do when the baby turned 1? 2? You broke up âa few years agoâ, but the baby is just turning 3⌠itâs possible that your current boyfriends reservations arenât because of insecurity, but being mindful of the childâs feelings. Popping in for special occasions isnât always beneficial if the connection isnât consistent⌠just offering another way to look at the situation
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YES! As long as you can co-parent peacefully and are all mutually able to put the child (ren) first then allowing them to see mom and dad respecting each other and loving them, hell yes invite your ex. Your bf needs to get onvoard if he plans on being around.
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Invite him co parenting is amazing <3
Howâs the farther⌠Invite him⌠Tell the boy friend to shut up
Always put ur Child first.
Honestly I would , it shows your child no matter what family comes first , as far as your boyfriend goes sorry to say your child comes first .
Co parenting is best for child. If your boyfriend is being immature and childish about inviting father then you need a new boyfriend
I co parent with my ex but we keep our own space private. The kids enjoy the best of both. I personally understand that your current partner must be feeling delicate and not wanting your ex at the party doesnât make him a bad person I personally wouldnât want my ex there. We get on but thatâs it I do my party time he does his
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Boyfriend can kick rocks if he doesnât like it! Invite your childâs father he should be there
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My ex and I did co bdays when the kids where younger. Now they are teens and just have friend parties. And are oldest is graduating this year and plan on doing a co grad party. We are the parents so we decide what we feel is best.we are both happily married to others and they understand
Dump the current boyfriend for being insecure about the biological father who has rights to their child
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Invite him thatâs your daughters dad if your boyfriend has an issue with that then either donât go or suck it up for your daughter itâs her day and her dad should enjoy it with her.
How serious are you and your current boyfriend? If you both are serious talk it out, invite your ex but make sure your new boyfriend does not feel uncomfortable.
Itâs not up to the boyfriend and he should be mature enough to know that. If he wants to start problems cause the actual father wants to be there, thatâs a red flag. Boyfriend is not as important as a childâs relationship with their father.
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The babyâs happiness comes first and if that means pissing off your boyfriend then do it
Only if heâs a present father yes.
I wouldnt invite him. Start as you mean to go on. Your child is young and will get used to it.
I have an amazing co parent routines. My ex of my two kids is remarried and has two step kids.
He does his thing with the kids and I do my thing with them.
Two parties, two of everything. I hate that in new relationships the partner is always pushed aside. They are equally part of the family.
I wouldnt want an ex hanging about a party, someone you have had intimacy with, sex with, a relationship with.
Your ex is no longer personally important to you. He is an ex. The kids are their own people, they can celebrate with him. He could do a party with his family and friends.
So much love.
Me and my ex will discuss the wellbeing of the c,hildren and we have our new partners. But the line is drawn in respect of the partners. Doesnt mean there is less love. Xx
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I think it would be a great thing for your child. A lesson in that though mom and dad arenât together, they can still be friends and be there for the child!
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Yes, you guys have a child together and co-parenting is best.
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If itâs the childâs father then yes of course if that father is involved with the childâs life. If not no.
Once I was over my ex cheating I started inviting them to my kids parties. But now im kinda leaning towards not to cause I want my past life and current life separate. I get my kids are part of my past but they are my future as well. My ex isnât my future. If they want to celebrate thatâs on them. They only show up to some stuff they are invited to so I donât want them expecting their dad every birthday and he not show up so I kinda just started not inviting them unless my kids ask to. I also stopped doing big family parties and we have a tiny family party and doors open to anyone that wants to stop by.
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Invite him!! Your boyfriends is childish. He is dating a woman with a kid .
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Donât let another man come inbetween your child seeing his/her parents civil. Ever. That will not only damage your childâs outlook on the situation but it will also make you hold resentment towards this new relationship. If your current boyfriend cannot see that this is in the best interest of the child than he has literally no business dating a single mother.
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Invite you childâs dad. Itâs you two who have a child together , itâs you two who will be bonded together for life⌠if your new guy has a issue now maybe rethink it.
How will be act at school functions, wedding, oh and donât forget grandbabies functionâŚ
Want to live like this forever? Talk to the bf reassure him your friends and everything is for your child âŚ
Have a party invite your ex. But tell your new boyfriend he needs to go. 
Umm itâs his childâŚhe should be invited to HIS childâs birthday if heâs involved in the childâs life and you want him at the birthday. Your boyfriend sounds like a jealous teenager tbh.
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Yes, invite him! More people who love the child the better, also good to show the child his parents can get along 
your boyfriend should understand
Yes of course you should invite the childs father. It is still is child as well.
Just because you got a new man doesnât mean your ex isnât your childâs father. Kind of ridiculous that he would expect for her own father not to come to her party honestly.
Sometimes the questions this page posts makes me scratch my head, cause like, what??
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Invite the childâs father. The boyfriend will have to compromise on family things that involve the child specifically if he canât then yall need to rethink being together
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We do shared birthdays. Itâs about the kid not the adults 
if your boyfriend is being an ass about it, your boyfriend shouldnât be a part of the birthday party.
I didnât see where the boyfriend was against the idea, so is he? Also, the child comes before the boyfriend, and boyfriend shouldnât have a say in whether the father of your child comes to HIS birthday party, after all that love happened before him, and will continue after him. I can understand being conflicted, however if you have a man amicable relationship with the childâs father, itâs best to carry on as normal as possible. That doesnât mean you go out with just dad & child all the time, but itâs healthier if you all can have that relationship with one another for the child. The âtogether & happyâ May have upset your boyfriend because in theory, youâre not together & happy. You are co-parents who are happy with the arrangement for their child, and there is a huge difference. Pick your man, have your kids birthday with their father; easy.
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Tell youâre boyfriend to grow up, and invite Iâm his dad
I invited my sons father the all events that involved our son specifically! The choice to come is his.
Invite him. That is your childâs father and if your boyfriend isnât able to accept that then he needs to move on somewhere else. My ex and my current husband are friends despite the fact that my ex is not a very good father but my husband tries to encourage communication and allow him to be a father however he is able and my ex is so appreciative of my husband for being a true daddy to our girls
Tell your boyfriend to get over it, if he canât deal with a civil co-parent relationship than he needs to go. But who I am to say right?
Yeaah umm your boyfriend need to back off on this one. Youâre not inviting your ex to a sexy dinner you are inviting your childâs father to his birthday.
Boyfriend needs to grow up or go out 
a kid needs their daddy.
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My ex and I have been separated since our son was 1 1/2. I invited him to our sons second birthday party as I was not dating anyone. I also invited him to our sons 3rd party even though I was sort of dating someone. However his 4th and 5th party we did separate. My current boyfriend didnât see the need to have him there and since we were the ones planning and paying for everything we figured his dad should be able to throw his own party and invite all his side of the family, thatâs how weâve done it. I didnât invite him the last 2 years out of respect for my current spouse my ex and I have a good co parenting relationship but thereâs no reason he canât throw our son his own party at his own house.
Answer would be do it, especially if youâre on good coparenting terms.
Thereâs a lot of things Iâd love to invite my sons dad to, but heâs not the easiest to deal with. But I still try to invite him even though I always know Iâll either get no answer, and the answer will be no. But I do it for my son, regardless of anything between us.
I think heâs saying that itâs too early in your relationship for this,you need to talk to him and assure him that itâs only a couple of hours and heâll be on his way. Iâve been through this one.
His child so there should be no debate.
Its your CHILDS birthday party. If yâall can both be there and get along and make the child happy, new bf has some insecurities that HE needs to deal with. đ¤ˇ
Itâs not about what your boyfriend wants. Itâs about whatâs in the best interest of your child. ALWAYS. Too many young ass, unprepared parents out here forgetting that.
And his best interest will ALWAYS be having ALL of his parents (bio or step) celebrating him at as many events and accomplishments as is humanly possible.
Do NOT forget this. #1 rule of being a parent: make no decisions regarding your child that donât prioritize the childâs best interest.
#2: Love your children above all else.
There are no other rules.
Itâs not hard. Itâs just like fight club if fight club had a second rule.
Maâam itâs your responsibility to set CLEAR parental boundaries with your current BOYFRIEND, this is the childâs FATHER and itâs in the childâs BEST interest to see thier parents co-parenting. If this guy is more concerned with HIS feelings before whatâs best for your child MAYBE you should reconsider your relationship with him.
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Invite him. Me and my ex are always at the parties of my daughter together.
Then your current bf needs to be dumped. Itâs not about him nor you nor your sons father. Itâs about your son at all times. I canât stress this enough.
Invite him. Its his and your child he has the right to be there.
Why would this even be a question. His father should be there, some of yâall ladies need to grow up lol. If your new guy has a problem with it you probably shouldnât be with the guy lol. Your child comes first, invite his dad because itâs his party!! It isnât about you or your new guy. Smh
If your current partner has an issue I would respect that it makes him uncomfortable. He is your new relationship. I think itâs awesome your still friends with your ex and it would be awesome if they were comfortable with each other but if thatâs not the case maybe side with him. Itâs hard to comment not knowing the whole situation/relationship lol
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Tell you boyfriend to get over it. Your child benefits from his extended family.
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I mean I think if it works then you should but if it is going to upset the household then maybe have separate celebrations.
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He needs to get over it. Thats his child too. We do seperate parties just because my exs family doesnt like me very much. We included him on trips, to the fair, family dinners etc. My fiance used to be this way and i told him hes gonna have to deal with it if he wants to stay around. My childs happiness comes first. Now my fiance tries his best to include my ex, but he always tells us no and gets mad cause we ask.
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Invite him, thatâs yâallâs baby. Itâs up to him to come or not but at least invite him. If he active in the childâs life let him be active donât hold him back because of anotherâs opinion. Thatâs his baby too. You and the current boyfriend need to sit down and talk about co-parenting.
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It would be best for the child if you invite the father. The child needs that. I hope the boyfriend can see how important that is. I wish you luck.
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Itâs HIS child0on the childâs BIRTHDAY?? Why wouldnât you invite him? Loose the current boyfriend, it has nothing to do with him or his feelings, or even you. Itâs about your child. ALWAYS.
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To be there for your son yes. But if you described it to him Like you did us, (âso my son can see me and his father happy togetherâ) that probably hurt him a little bitâŚ
I would do separate birthday parties and respect your partners feelings. That would make me uncomfortable too⌠besides the plus side to divorce is they can get not just one but TWO birthday parties every year and not to mention two Christmases. As a child myself from divorce I never minded doing things separately with both parents
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Why do you keep saying ex stop making this about you thatâs the father of the child you birthed & should be able to come to his childs birthday why are you letting your boyfriend have any say in that itâs a kids birthday not a date
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Of yall are both equal coparents and he is always in your kids life, INVITE HIM. Sure, he may be the Ex, but hes her DAD. The new boyfriend ainât got SHIT to do with that. If he doesnt want him in the picture, then he shouldnât be with you. He knew you had a kid with someone else. Tell him its time to grow the fuck up. Invite baby daddy 
Btw, Iâm going through this right now. I was with my ex for 11 yrs, 2 kids together. My current bf was with his ex for 9 yrs, 2 kids together. So we ALL have to make sure we are on good terms with eachother and we have a mutual understanding that the exâs are gonna be in our lives because of the kids. There comes a time when you have to be an adult about it and accept it, and trust the other.
Yes invite him due to your child has to know that even if yall arent together yall remain as friend co-parents
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That is your childâs father, I think you already know the answer to your question before you even asked it.
My sonâs dad and I were off and on for about 2 out of 7 years of our relationship. He promised to make changes when our son was born but unfortunately he never did and despite his words his actions proved time after time that he was incapable of leaving his drinking and gambling life behind. We split up when he was two months old and while I have primary custody I included him in everything bc I wouldâve wanted the same in return. I invited him to visit santa with us a couple weeks before Xmas and asked him if he had any plans for our sons first birthday coming up which he told me to my face he was just visiting his mom and then maybe having cake with immediate family. I found out the next evening (friday) that he had planned a giant birthday party at a golf club. Invitations went out weeks prior, deposits were put down and I wasnât even invited to my own sons first birthday party! I was devastated so my advice would be to extend the invitation to your ex. Maybe he will co,me maybe he wonât but if you are friends and want to show your son that, definitely invite him and let him decide from there. Your son will appreciate that you did that for him down the road! Happy early birthday to him!
If you guys coparent well and there arenât any issues then he should be there for your daughter
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Itâs his dad. If your new bf has a problem, than heâs not right for you.
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I mean the guy would be there for the kid- his kid. Not you. So your boyfriend should get over it
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Invite him. You can still coparent effectively doesnât mean you have to chat It up with him every second of the party. Me and my ex plan shared birthdays and heâs 3. Thing is my husband understands he knows our son needs his biological father in the picture.
Sounds like to me your boyfriend feels threatened and just reassure him he has nothing to worry about.
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Your current boyfriend needs to step back and know his place. He has nothing to say on this matter. Not his child, not his business.
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Then your current boyfriend needs to grow up.
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Screw the ex, he can have his own birthday party with his own money on his own time with his son. The way you explained it, sounds like you still want to be with the ex. Is the ex bringing his current girlfriend? Why sacrifice your relationship for a guy who cheated on you? Are you really going to invite him over for every event in your sonâs life? Would your ex do the same for you? I believe in keeping toxic people at a very long distance away from me.
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Invite him and tell your boyfriend to get over it
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Invite the x. aHe is the father
I think itâs great that you want to invite your ex. I wish my husbands ex was like that. Sheâs the complete opposite.
You need to tell your current boyfriend that whether he likes it or not, your ex is your childâs father and he deserves to be apart of her life. Itâs not about anyone other then the baby and whatâs best for her and having you both together and happy for her is all that matters.
There should be more mothers out there like you. Youâre a good one.
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I wouldnât. He can throw a birthday party and what not and it also would depend on where it was but as far as spending any time in my home. Na. Are you gonna invite him to all family gatherings? I mean If you want to I think itâs great. Just not something Iâd do
Kick the current boyfriend to the curb. If he canât support you coparenting and doing the right thing for the children then he isnât supporting you on the most important facet of life. Period.
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Your current boyfriend has no say over whether or not your child gets to see their father. None. If your boyfriend cant understand that a child needs their father than heâs a piece of shit.
Invite him. Heâs your childâs father, if your current boyfriend has an issue with it heâs going to have to get over it.
If this guy is gonna be here for the Long haul, he needs to get comfortable with your ex being in his childs life. I grew up in a divorced family with 2 step siblings who have different dadâs. My stepmomâs exes were always invited to functions for their kids. Hell, my brotherâs dad even hung out from time to time to watch a game or drink a beer.
Invite him. If youâre current boyfriend canât accept that youâre a mature adult that can coparent, maybe you need to question your new relationship.
All I ever wanted growing up was for my dad to come to one of my birthday parties. Donât let a boyfriend stop your baby from having that.
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Youâre really asking if you should allow your babyâs father to the kids birthday party?! OF COURSE YOU SHOULD! That kid deserves both parents there to smile at! If you boyfriend has a problem with it then tell him to grow up.
Invite him. My parents separated when I was 2, I would have killed to have both parents at any event of mine as a kid.
Invite him its for you kid not u or your ex
Do it at some other time,not at her birthday sends mixed message good luck
Yes you should invite your baby daddy itâs the right thing to do. Plus if youâre boyfriend youâre with now donât understand stand then there is something wrong with him
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Itâs what is best for the child, if you think it will be a positive experience then do it, if not, donât.
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Invited him it ur and his kids not ur boyfriend
Invite him. Hes the father of your child . Your other boyfriend will have to learn to accept that because yall gotta deal with each other forever
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Itâs about your child, not your boyfriend. Your child should see mom and dad coming together to celebrate their day and be able to see them be civil together.
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