You have a child together. You need to both share that child’s life together. It’s important that mom and dad are civil and want to be involved, even if they moved on with other partners. And those partners should understand that you two share a child. If they can’t understand that, then you shouldn’t be with them. It is not like you are just inviting a random ex.
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It sounds like your boyfriend is a boy and needs to grow up. It’s important for your childs father to be apart of every part if your childs life. If your boyfriend wants to do something separate and special that’s fine ( like a family birthday dinner) but a birthday party is for friends and family and the childs father should be invited. If your boyfriend is going to try and ruin the wonderful co-parenting thing you have going on you should consider a different boyfriend because it’s probably only going to get worse.
Invite him. I went through a similar situation with my husband. I am not dating anyone but even if I was, I don’t care if my new bf is uncomfortable I would be inviting my ex. My child’s happiness comes before anyone else.
If it wasn’t for the fact that my ex’s attachment can’t be civil with me for the sake of our (my ex and I’s) son, I would invite him and his family. I can’t stand him, but I would be civil for our son.
invite him he’s the father of your child. your bf can either come or be petty and not.
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Your boyfriend is just going to have to get over it. I WISH my husbands ex would invite him to things for his daughter. He is still your daughter’s father and has just as much of a right to attend as you do. Invite him for your child and screw everyone elses feelings.
My son is 3. We aren’t together and have celebrated every birthday with him together. As long as you guys aren’t toxic around each other I feel like it’s a good thing to do and show your child. Your boyfriend needs to get over it due to the fact that your sons father will be a part of your life until he’s atleast 18.
It is about the child
So both man just need to suck it up
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Tell him to get over himself that is your child’s father.
Tell him he got in a relationship where you had a child with someone else and y’all are parenting. If your comfortable inviting him and the child wants him there invite him.
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That’s your child’s father, invite him. If your new beau has an issue with that, then it’s a red flag.
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I’d say absolutely invite him. Co-parenting being split is hard enough. The child’s father will be a constant; the bf might not be…Do the right thing for your child. Children need as much unity as possible. Tell your bf politely and firmly that he needs to see the bigger picture and man up. Do not let him make the rules about how you choose to navigate your parenting relationship with your child’s dad. 
I’d say that’s a red flag…btw.
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Invite him.
I have 2 kids with my ex husband, and I am remarried. We do both of their birthday parties at our house with my parents, his parents, my husbands parents, my hubby and my ex and his girlfriend. He may drive me nuts half the time, but it’s good for all of us to be together and it teaches the kids too. It was a bit awkward for my hubby at first but he was never opposed to it, and it’s only a couple hours a year.
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If you and the father get along, invite him. It’s important for a child to see their parents actually get along. Your bf needs to learn to accept that.
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Invite him if he loves you and the child he will get over it
I would tell your boyfriend that you understand where he is coming from, but that you are still going to invite your ex anyways because the party is about your child, and your child deserves to see their dad on their birthday. This is about your child, not your current boyfriend or even your ex.
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Being in a similar situation, it is very awkward and uncomfortable if the other parent and current step parent don’t get alone or aren’t big fans of the other. My husband has a daughter with his ex girlfriend, and for whatever reason she’s not my biggest fan since the very beginning. So whenever there is a birthday party or anything like that, we just stay on separate sides and keep to ourselves.
Back to your post, if you and your ex have a good relationship, that’s amazing for your child, your boyfriend is going to have to learn to deal with the fact that your ex isn’t going anywhere.
Invite your ex and encourage your current boyfriend to be civil. We go to my sons, half sisters birthday who is no relation to us. We even keep her several times a year. It’s about being adults and being civil for the kids.
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It is your child’s father invite him only if you can get along. New guy might be unhappy but that is the life he signed up for when you got with him.
I recommend you wait. There will be more birthday parties. Respect your BF’s feelings & just hold off.
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Of course you invite him. Its your son’s special day and your boyfriend is ridiculous.
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I am in a similar situation but the other way around. I wish that my boyfriend and his ex (who cheated) could squash their shit and be able to co-parent amicably. My opinion, the new boyfriend should support any decision made to make the child/ren happy and easier with this transition. If inviting your ex to the party will make your child happy, then do it. They need to support that.
Your child should come before your boyfriend. If your child wants their dad at the party, invite him.
Invite him it’s not for you or your boyfriend but for your child and he has to understand that invite him just as you would still invite him if he had a girlfriend
If u think.he will behave then yes
If you coparent and stay in touch peacefully he has every right to be there. I’d invite him. And if the boyfriend is that against it he can go, I know it’s tough but it’ll just snowball if you give in and dont invite the father
Invite him he is the father!!
Invite him it’s for you child not your boyfriend if your kid knows you and dad can still be friends Believe me it helps your child when that child grows up it’s go to remember mom and dad even though they don’t live together has always been a part of that child’s life
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Invite him, if your current boyfriend has an issue with your child’s father being there, then you need to drop him like a hot potato! This is for your child not you and definitely not for your boyfriend!!
Ditch the current bf! It isnt about him at all! Its about your child!
It’s not about the current bf it’s about your child. If the bio dad isn’t a toxic person then he should be able to show your child the love and attention you do at his birthday party. Especially if the bio dad is willing to come. My daughters bio dad would have never shown up to anything and that made her upset and she saw he didn’t care about her like his other kids.
Your child is #1. If your boyfriend has a problem, he can just not show up.
It’s the child’s father of course invite him!!! It’s great you two are still civil. Many people cant/choose not to be. Dont let your new man ruin that.
Invite your ex. If your new boyfriend can’t understand you guys share a child he needs to grow up.
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Current BFs feeling should not trump the importance of your child seeing a healthy relationship between his/her parents.
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What issue does he have? Sounds a bit insecure n immature 2 me. My son’s dad’s both came 2 r house n my hubby chatted with them n never had a problem with them.
I think you know the answer to this. Invite the child’s Father! If your new man can’t accept that, then he’s not the one honey.
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Invite him. Your child seeing you guys get along and happy is the most important thing. Do everything you can do your child knows you tried your hardest to have a good life for them.
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Dont invite him unless you want to break up your relationship bc went against what your current boyfriend has asked you not to do!!!
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My ex and his family is included in anything that concerns my daughter 
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Yes…If y’all can co parent and be in the same room at the same time Def it will be good for her to see y’all getting along…As far as the bf he can either suck it up and learn how to be involved and communicate and deal w the fa t your child already has a father or miss the party…
Umm invite the father. Your new bf needs to learn you have to co parent
Invite him. That is your child’s father. Your new bf sounds immature and insecure. He either needs to out on his big boy underwear and get over it or not be there.
Do what best serves your child, not the men.
If your child has a good relationship with dad… invite him.
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He deserves to be there. It’s his child too. Your boyfriend is being a total ass. This is a warning sign. Just fyi.
Put your child first. Period. Dude could be gone in 6 months. But who your child’s father is never going to change. Your boyfriend has no choice but to accept he is going to. E apart of your life regardless of his feelings. If he is a good man he will swallow his pride and do what’s best for your child as well. If he tantrums out, he’s not going to be healthy for your child in the long run anyway.
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He needs go get over his insecurities because your child comes first my wife had a child with a previous marriage and we do stuff as a family all the time because its what’s best for our child.
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Invite him. The boyfriend is just jealous. He needs to realize that the father has more rights than him concerning his child. Maybe he is the one that needs to skip the party since he is apparently insecure.
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That’s your boyfriend’s own issues and insecurities coming out. He needs to do some work on himself!
Ofcourse invite him. Your baby doesn’t understand all that stuff he just wants the people he loves and lots of junk food and presents lol
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I can’t stand my ex but you better believe that he was the first to be invited to our sons graduation and celebration dinner afterwards…because of course my son wanted his dad there…not me. So I did that for my son and out my feelings aside and we had a wonderful time…not for us but for our wonderful son.
Definitely invite him ! It is in the best interest of the child . Y’all should do that every year . Your boyfriend needs to understand the baby comes first .
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I think you should invite the father of your child to his birthday it would be messed up not to just because your boyfriend said no hes a boyfriend hes not that child’s father hes not your husband and even if he was your husband I would hope you would marry someone who wanted what was best for your child.
I agree with Isabella there’s going to be lots of functions that you and your childs father are going to be a part of your boyfriend should have no say he new that you come with child package.if he cant understand that well sorry my childs well neimg is more important.
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If your intentions are to make your ex jealous and not for the sake of your child, don’t do it. You’re putting your current boyfriend in a awkward position and he is obviously uncomfortable with it. Your focus should be on your child not on proving something to your ex. Sorry he hurt you but this is seriously some HS drama you’re better off avoiding.
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Its his child too and you will have contact with him until she is at least 18.if bf has an issue he should leave during the party
Invite him. He is the father of your child. It is so so so good for our children to see their parents and co-parents getting along.
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Tell your current boyfriend to grow the fuck up and welcome your child father in your guys home with a hello and a hand shake. He don’t like it, tell him to leave
Your boyfriend needs to check himself and his insecurities. Y’all are over, and him and you is together? Why’s he mad? If he can’t accept you have a baby with another man maybe he really is t worth your time!!
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Tell your boyfriend that he should be more secure in your relationship and that the father will always be the father and in your kids life
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Never let another man come between a father and his child. Invite him his child deserves to see his parents get along and love him.
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Invite him. Your boyfriend needs to accept the fact that your ex will always be a part of your life.
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Try everything you can to keep that relationship good! If you can get along well enough to have birthdays and holidays together then do it! I had the opposite. My ex made everything hard and we couldn’t do anything together. It hurt my kids. I regret it now when my kids are grown.
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Definitely invite him. It is all about your child
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If your new man cant handle ot he needs to go else where the father of your child should be there for his child if he wants ! Your baby comes first and if you can get along with the ex you need to maybe ask the ex to bring a friend so your new bf want be so jelpus
Absolutely! My girls are now 26 and 28 and my ex still spends many birthdays and holidays with us. We divorced about 23 years ago and my husband of almost 18 years has no objection. It’s a lot easier than forcing the girls to decide who they are going to spend time with or having to split a holiday in half ex. Morning with mom/evening with dad). It may take a little while for your new beau to adjust but I think it is what’s best for our children. He may not even accept the invitation but you will have done the right thing.
If new bf has a problem, he needs to figure it out. If you have a good relationship with your child’s father, don’t allow outside issues to mess it up. I wish I could do things like that.
Dad is more important then your partner , your partner needs to realize that you have a child with this man an this man is attached to you an your child for the rest of your life , he can accept it or leave … children always come first an should always do what’s best for the child , my partner now (2nd baby daddy ) was severally jealous of my first baby’s father an hated me around / talkin to him … he realized that to love me an have me he needed to accept my child an her father into our lives , now we all do things as a family. Co-parent an get along amazing ! It’s so not worth the headache fighting or trying too pick . Do you & your baby ! He can accept it or not … if he don’t then he’s not worth your time or your child’s … who is he to say that your child should not have her daddy at her birthday party … that would be devastating for a child … jeepers 
. Idk momma you do what you feel is right , but this is just, my opinion 
Yea go ahead my ex and I are friends and my current bf and him hangout 🤷 nothing wrong with that plus that’s his child
Is inform my boyfriend that my child’s happiness wont be put aside because hes petty. Then I’d invite his daddy
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Ummmm too bad for the new boyfriend the ex isn’t going anywhere he is your baby’s father soooooo that’s your call and you need to put your foot down or he is going to think he has complete control over you…huge red flag. Use your voice and tell him how YOU feel. YOU want your ex there so too bad for the new boyfriend IMP
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Invite him who cares what your bf thinks baby first
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AMEN JANET:blush:
good solid answer.
Yup my sons dad and stepdad get along great. It’s a beautiful thing for your child.
Yes you should invite him! That’s what CO-PARENTING is!!! Your bf doesnt really have a say in this as he is NOT the father.
Invite him and let the boyfriend deal with it, it is about your child not your boyfriend!! It is critical to your child that he see his parents able to come together for them!! Your new boo will get over it, if not then maybe you don’t know him as well as you thought!!! Honestly that’s a little childish and insecure unless he knows something that your not saying!! Good luck do what makes your child happy💜
Tell him to get over it and do what’s in the best interest of your child. He needs to understand that your relationship with your ex needs to be a healthy one for your child
Invite yoir kids dad
Yes …thats for your baby …
It’s all about making peace to get along for the children. Y’all didn’t work but maybe as friends y’all can positively coparent
sounds like new bf is a bit insecure if the ex is content that you have moved on there should be no issue. its for the sake of the baby its not about you being around your ex. you split up for a reason you have a new man new man needs to grow up and act like one
You need to address this now. If you slack this time, it will continue. The new guy can either be there and be social and happy, or he can be somewhere else during that time. Honestly, if he can’t suck it up now, then he’s not going to end up working out.
My husband’s ex comes to our house for birthday parties, holiday parties, in the summer just to spend a day with the kids. We go do outings together with thier children and my children. you do what’s right for your children not your boyfriends.
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The celebration is for the child not SO, let him enjoy the day with all 3 of y’all!! Happy birthday!!!
Boyfriend has no say. It’s up to you to do what you feel is best for your child.
Your current guy needs to get over it. It’s his baby too.
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Yes most definitely invite him
Tell him get over it. He will always be your kid’s dad.
co parenting is amazing for the childs mental health (:
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Child comes first yes invite him
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Invite him. Boyfriend needs to just deal with it, he knew you guys were a package deal. So many parents are bitter and angry after a break up. The fact that you guys have remained friends and chose to embrace co-parenting is beautiful.
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You choose your child over a boyfriend. Doesn’t even need to be asked.
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You want him there so he can see that your happy? Is that what I read? So you wanna shove it in his face that u have moved on? And he cheated on you and that’s why things ended. Nope.
And ur current man doesnt want him there…nope.
If ur living with this new guy, he definently has a say.
Maybe have a smaller get together with your ex and some family…but no party. That will make some people awkward.
If y’all get along, I would.
It’s all about the child. Put the child at the forefront and everything will fall into place. Adults tend to overthink and overcomplicate things. Compromise is paramount in shared relationships especially when it comes to children.
My ex on the back right, my bf on the left, and we even had my ex’s ex gf’s daughter with us too 
Kids are innocent and deserve adults in their lives that will show them it’s okay to move on and be happy, and still be a team that will always love them!
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He’s the father of the child. Anything you can do to show your child healthy relationships within the family is a good thing. The boyfriend is going to be uncomfortable for a while but this is important for your child.
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Tell your BF he’s insecure and should be his friend since he isn’t going anywhere.
Explain to him your child and your child’s happiness comes first and he can be the one who is not invited if he has a problem. Why are questions like these still asked? Seriously my kids happiness, feeling, emotions come first that simple