I personally would never choose my husband over my child, no matter my child’s age. Faults and all, you have to love her. Help her do better. As long as she has a plan to get stable and out on her own that’s all you should be concerned with. Don’t throw her out, that’s not what a loving mother would do. This is just my opinion.
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She wasn’t following rules because she was a teenager…like most teenagers do. As far as her relationships go, it’s her business not yours. She’s an adult so it’s not up to you to play judge and jury.
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If you kick her out she will go to that exact guy. It sounds like your daughter needs to be thankful for you guys. Its hard to deal with. If you let her stay she will continue that if you kick her out she will go to that guy. With that being said she is a grown woman and should be able to take care of herself.
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You need to do whatever to be happy and make your marriage work. If your sister interferes thenask herto leave. She is a adult now and it is time she acts likeone
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You cannot help someone who doesn’t want to help themselves. No matter if they are related to you or not. Shes gotta figure out what it’s like to not have someone there for her then she will realize she needs to grow up and worry about herself and not worry about finding another man. Point blank period.
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Speaking from experience as a problem child, kicking her out won’t help her. Laying rules and sticking to them, letting her make her own mistakes outside the house, and LOVING her through it all will help her. Let her know you will always love and support her no matter her mistakes. If she feels like you will ignore her needs to side with your husband, it will only make her more hurt and act out more.
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Prayers go a long way.
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Butt TF out of her love life. It’s pretty gross that you’d kick her out over something like that
Her relationship(s) are HER business. You not agreeing with that isn’t really something you should base a rule off of. Micromanaging and the like is gonna ruin your relationships no matter who it’s with.
And if the situation is causing issues between you and your husband, that isn’t your daughter’s fault. It’s between you two like her marriage and extramarital affairs is between her and her husband
What is the best thing for your children and you?
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Who she dates isn’t your choice. You can set rules in your house but you can’t control her. For example, you can say that she can’t bring men over but you can’t control who she sees outside of your home. Even if she is making bad choices, they are hers to make. You can’t use a place to live as a way to control her. As a Mom, it is hard to let go but you have to treat her as someone renting a room from you not as her mother, when it comes to her living there. As far as your husband goes, if he loves you, he has to love every part, that includes your children. Set boundaries and be understanding. It can’t be easy for her to live there either.
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You put this toxicity out here and ask for no rude comments? Bold.
But when the husband is go and the daughter finally leaves the you are left alone
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Rules are rules no matter who you live with. You don’t abide by them, out you go. Her problems are not yours. You can still love your child but do not enable them. JMO!!
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I believe in helping out family, but it is really hard to live with them in these types of situations. Everyone has different values, beliefs & morals & when these things conflict, it tends to get tough. Your daughter is in a rough spot right now with littles & nowhere to go, I think it’s great you’ve opened your home. Some of my family would not do the same. She is paying rent, so it’s not like she’s entirely free-loading. So that’s something. Even though she’s in your home, she is an adult & I think it’s unfair to tell her who she can & can’t see… she has to live her life & make her choices, she’s not a child who should be told what to do. Maybe you could sit down with her & get a plan together for her to start trying to get her own place. You are her mother & she needs your guidance right now, not judgment.
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I feel like as a 23 year old adult, it’s not really your business who she’s seeing regardless of whether or not she’s married. No you don’t agree with it, I get that. So ask her not to bring him there to your home out of respect for your own personal values. And in the meantime support your child while she’s trying to move on in her life. If she’s already having marital problems the last thing she needs is an overbearing controlling parent who is only going to make her rebel just as she did when she was a teenager in order to try to gain some control over her life. It is your home, you are completely entitled to your opinion. If she agreed to your rules by living there and is assisting in paying her bills, then she is doing what she agreed to do. You sticking your nose in to the rest of her life is not what she needs in order to help her fix or move on from her marital problems. And if it’s going to cause issues between you and your husband, then I feel like that’s something you and your husband need to work out. Because that’s not your daughters fault either.
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Keep the kids and she can move
I’m not sure who sounds more ridiculous here. 1st off she is a grown woman. Putting rules on her is pathetic. Telling her who she can and can’t dare or what she can do is pathetic, again she is a grown woman. Im guessing husband is not her bio father because if he was I would assume he would be willing to help her and not be such an ass about you helping your own daughter. Sounds like a house full of children honestly. But if her living there causes stress on your marriage, maybe you can find another way to help her. But I also feel there is more to the story and why husband doesn’t want her there.
Be there for her and correct her. Don’t kick her out she’ll end up living with the guy. Tell your husband to be patient
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Just from my own experience - She is a grown woman, you can give her advice and suggestions but its no longer your job to tell her how to live. What difference does it make who she is seeing or what time she comes home? Give her your home with an open heart and open arms, she will figure out what she needs to do to make herself happy. I would suggest a sit down discussion with you, her and your husband, before the sit down let her and your husband know when you want to meet, what the agenda is and that they need to come with notes and an open mind. Its not her against you guys…this will help everyone be on the same page with clear expectations like chores, rent and what she needs to do to be part of the household, even the small things like where she can park her car and when she can do laundry and use the shower. I would also set a hard timeline of when she needs to move out. She needs your love and support but she also needs to do her part to make this work.
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I think it’s time she left. She’s an adult and needs to act like one. It was very hard for me to kick out my daughter, I couldnt do it. She ended up staying for 2 yrs. Is this what you want?
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I’d give that a time limit and a 3 strike policy. Hopefully soon she will get child support and ,if she didn’t opt out, like 600 a month for her kids. You can stay here for 3 or 6 months or 3 screw ups. Whichever comes first.
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I’d say as long as she isn’t bringing him to your home then its really none of your business. The time of teaching morals and values is somewhat passed as she’s an adult and though yiu can voice your opinion and concerns its really her choice. So long as she is following the rules you 3 initially agreed to than thats what matters and no you shouldn’t kick her out
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Yep. She’s grown- she should spend her time finding a job and making a life for herself and less worrying about dating.
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If she going to cause problems for your marriage yes. She is an adult she has made choice that you do not agree with but you tried to support her and it’s not working. It’s all about choices. My husband’s daughter comes to visit but every visit she always cause family problems. This time my husband and our youngest son got into it because of her and her choice that has gotten her into trouble and still making the wrong choices. I talked to my husband about this he was not happy so I said to him ok it’s about your choices that you make and you have to live with them. My choice is not going back home to you as your daughter is an adult making stupid choices that has gotten her into trouble and caused her to lose her daughter. The apple didn’t fall far from the tree monkey see monkey do. So my choice is you move to your mother place so our children and our grandchildren have a place to live IF not we do not come home. It’s all about the choices you make and you have to live with the good or bad. She is a bitch to my children treats them bad when I am not around and I told him this so I said your choice is your daughter I hope she makes you happy. My choice is my children and grandchildren they are my everything in life. He says ours. Umm no your choice is your daughter and a grandchildren she doesn’t have because of the choices she made to leave her alone to live her life. I said I wish you nothing but the best in life. As my life will be be the best because my choice is my children and grandchildren.
It all about choices you make you have to live with them. Good or bad you still have to live with them. Right or wrong you still have to live with them. She is an adult making all the wrong choices and in the end she will make you the bad person to make herself look good.
Shes a grown woman, you cant tell her who she can or cant see. If you kick her out youll probably loose your daughter and grandchildren for good. Talk to her but dont lay down laws on her adult life, its her choices
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She’s an adult. She needs to act like one. But you’re not going to make that happen for her … she has to do it for herself.
You’ve agreed to help her out as long as she abides by the house rules. As long as she abides by the house rules, her personal business and what she does away from the home is (sorry) none of your business. As long as she doesn’t bring it into your home, and as long as it doesn’t affect the rest of you in the home, then you need to stand by your arrangement to help her out.
But she needs to be helping herself out, too. She can’t stay stagnant where she is in life, and in your home. She needs to be making progress towards getting her own place, so that she can live her own life truly by her own rules without interfering in your lives. You need to let her know that this arrangement is temporary, and contingent on her making efforts to get out on her own.
You can’t control her life … she’s going to have to make her own choices, and her own mistakes (we’ve all been there) so that she can grow in life. As much as you can see a trainwreck in progress, you’re not the engineer. All you can do is sit back and watch, then help pick up the pieces when it’s over. Who knows, maybe this new guy will end up being the best experience for her … even if he’s not the right one.
God luck.
I would keep the kids and let her be on her own. If she has two small kids where would they go. She’s grown and if she’s seeing someone else and he really cares for her he will help her get on her feet.
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What ever the case she is your daughter.
Who is more important your daughter and husband ? Be logic and support your daughter, advice her accordingly.
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Give her a time limit to save money and move. Stand firm. Also, she gonna date who she wants.
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I’m a little confused
You and your husband have 2 young kids
Or she came home with her 2 young kids ?
Just my opinion
She was your daughter before him and she will be your daughter after him .
Which relationship means more to you ?
If it’s the mom ( which is how I’m reading it ) that has 2 young kids
Those are her siblings let them get to know each other
It doesn’t matter who she is seeing
As long as she isn’t bringing him into your home
And is paying rent and following the rules
Why does it matter ?
She IS a grown woman who needs HER MOM .
She is an adult and like it or not but what she does or who she sees outside of the home is none of your or your husband’s business ( unless she is coming in drunk ,high or endangering those kids).
The last thing she needs is judgement from her mom on morals .
She needs compassion, love and time to move on and heal from whatever caused her to leave her hubby .
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Set clear boundaries…if she can’t follow them…than send her packing.
I wouldn’t kick her out because she is dating someone new.
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No rude comments??? Lady your 23 year old daughter doesn’t need your input on who she dates or what she does with her life. You are her parent and she’s paying you rent so mind your own business. I get wanting what’s best for your child but that’s when you talk to her and let it go. You sound like a shitty mom. That’s not rude that’s just the truth. I feel sorry for your daughter.
In all fairness, you all need to sit down as calm adults and discuss boundaries. Then, if a suitable arrangement cannot be made, maybe a fair deadline of when she and her children will need to move can be arranged. It all can be done calmly and nicely. Just remember to breathe. God bless you all.
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Let it go… The new BF could be a rebound … she is an adult. Also she came before your now husband she is TRUE blood. How would you feel if you kicked her out and she went back to an abusive situation and was hurt or killed?
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Shes your daughter going through a rough time with your grandchildren. Who’s more important. Your child and grandchildren or your husband. I’m sorry but my blood comes before the a new or now husband would. You are her mother. You help her. But set boundaries and talk like adults
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Sometimes you just have to love them through it. I wouldn’t jump to kicking her out bc of the kids. You may not agree with who’s she dating, and that’s alright. As long as she isn’t bringing him to your home, or around the children I’d let her make her own mistakes. I just couldn’t put my grand babies out! Your husband should understand that. If he can’t than the problem should be with him.
She is your child first and that is what you should be more concerned about as she is facing a very difficult period in her life, your support especially is what she needs most at this point. I wonder why a mother would put a man before her own child
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She can do whatever she wants when she and new man pays her bills in the real world.
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she’s 23 , she should be gone already
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I’ve been in your shoes. Tell her she is not living up to her end of the deal. Be strong! Keep your grandkids and let her go. She needs to put them first, not the current husband or the new man.
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I supported a lazy stepdaughter with 2 kids for ten years.She moved out 10 days after her mom died.It was time to pay some bills. Sometimes adult children must handle their own problems.
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Tough love…I know it’s hard but it’s best.
If she’s separated from her husband then it’s up to her what she does. Divorce can take time. So long as she’s not bringing this man to your house it’s not really up to you who she sees in her spare time she’s an adult. She’s your daughter at the end of the day she’s blood to you. Sounds like your husband is the one with the issue with her not the other way around.
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Shes 23 time for her to stand on her own two feet
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She’s old enough to know what is right and wrong . If she is causing issues send her packing . If she agreed and has now changed her mind you also are allowed to change your mind
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Talk about it and tell her how you and your husband feel about the whole situation if she doesn’t listen then kick her to the curb
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If her dating was in the “contract” or “rules” you set up in the beginning, then by all means. But quite honestly you shot yourself in the foot the moment u made her pay rent. Now it’s a business deal. Not a parental deal. She is now a tenant.
Also as a mom, she’s going through a rough separation and divorce. Give her some damn slack. Her whole world is upside down right now and she has been forced to start her life over as a single mom living with her mother again. Think of it through her eyes.
I don’t know so no comment
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My comment got deleted, so I’ll say it again. I feel like she’s a adult and can date who she wants even if she does live in your house. You can’t dictate who she dates when she’s a grown adult. You had your chance to parent her now let her parent her kids.
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Bottom line, if she’s paying rent and adhering to reasonable house rules. Who she see’s in her personal life really isn’t your business.
I understand the moral concern but that’s not on you. Plus, if she’s getting divorced and is legally separated, I fail to see what the problem is. It sounds like you guys are still trying to control her and it’s not your place anymore. If you don’t want her living there, then make other arrangements and give her a chance to make accommodations.
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Mothers main job take care of your kids everything else Will take care of itself
I got nothing helpful
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Be there for her, she’s probably going through a lot rn.
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She’s your child so no ! Clearly tell toxic parents from not here she’s clearly going through somthing so be there for her sorry your children are your children regardless of how old they are e
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Tell her to give you her rent money when you have saved enough, help her find a place she can afford and give it back to her to pay for her apartment ( first last month rent) give it back to her…
Post on FB and Buy and Sell, to find a place people are always ready to help
Remember it’s a small world 
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She’s an adult. Time to grow up and get it together. She needs to go. It’s called tough love
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She follows your rules or she’s out. Not as simple as it seems but a fact.
Your house, your rules! Follow them or find somewhere else to live. She’s not a child. She should have enough sense to respect her mother and suck it up until she can afford her own place
tough love, tell her to go, She is an adult I feel for her children but even there it is not your responsibility. Damage to your marriage isn’t worth the hassle
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God you sound like a horrible selfish mother. You don’t get to tell her how to live her life, regardless of who’s roof she’s under.
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When I was her age I was in a similar situation, went thru a separation and moved home with 2 young kiddos… I respected the house rules, paid rent and saved money to move! I didn’t have time to do much else besides work and kids because I was focused on getting my own place. I was very thankful for the help and couldn’t of done it without their help! So if I were you I would sit down and explain your thoughts and concerns, make a game plan on getting her out on her own as quickly as possible but I wouldn’t just kick her out quite yet! Give it a solid chance and open communication, she is your child no matter her age. About the dating that you don’t approve of isn’t really your business if she doesn’t bring him around your house and if dating him doesn’t affect her game plan for saving and moving out! Just my thoughts from being in a similar situation at her age❤️
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Giving your child a place to live does not give you the right to dictate how she lives. She is an adult and she will do what she will. If you don’t think you can handle that, it would be better for everyone if she found a new place to live.
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She is a grown adult she can date and or see whomever she wants. Also yes she has 2 small kids and is making bad Choices in your eyes. But something tells me you knew what you were getting into before she moved back in with you and you still let her. If your having doubts because you cant control her and she is not doing what you want her to do then just tell her it’s time to move out or find someone else to take them in. You cant save everyone and cant make her so as you choose. Tough love is a B***h but sometimes it needs to be done
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You can tell from these comments who does and doesn’t have grown children. It’s so easy to look at your sweet littles and think oh I’d never kick my baby out. Lol. They grow up and become adults living rent free in your house and think you cant tell them what to do anymore because they are “grown” tough love sometimes has to happen. Yall will see.
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Honestly probably speaking or looking into her eyes shes well aware that guys a bad choice. But a divorce is hard its does horrible things to ones self esteem this guy is probably just someone to make her feel good about herself as harash as it sounds. Let me ask you this as a mother do you want to see your daughter blame herself or become depressed. Shes giving you rent correct two small children. As a mother herself. Nobody ever excepts to raise their children by themselves and have to go through court and visiting terms. Or deal with along the way stepparents. I suggest having an actual talk with her make sure shes actually alright. Because from what it sounds like is in your post. Basically look at me Imma toxic mom who cares more about upsetting my husband than caring why your own child who is young going through hurdles no mother ever wants their child to go through. Shes 23 barely an adult. Young kids no marriage anymore. Probably never fully enjoyed her twenties or if she has. Its about the principle of the situation. Treat people how you want to be treated.
Please, kindly, see yourself out
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I have grown children and if they moved home helped paid the bills, helped keep up on cleaning what they do outside of the house is their business just as long as it’s safe and they aren’t being criminals!
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Ok laidies… Im going to answer from the daughters stand point my mom wasnt married when i came back but had been in a fommited 10 uear relationship… I came in doing these same things… And cause countless problems in my mamas house… Mama put up with me and all my rude uncalled for shit… For many years reguardless of thr issues i caused in her own relationship… Her boyfriend even left her for a year before coming back… But… I sobered up and started getting on my feet and was respectful of mt mothers rules and wishes for me as a grown woman which led me to beconing very attached ans my mama asking me to stay… In 2018 when i was planning on moving out we found out she had stage 4 cancer at the time we didnt know why she wanted me to stay… But the week she went for a total hysterectomy to see if they could remove any or all of the cancer… Her boyfriend told her he was to young and didnt want to be a part of her recovery…her boyfriend always yell we was the problem and mama always thought so to because in the end he was the problem not me… So my advice is be there for her she. Need you i jad been with my husbamd 10 yeara the last 3 was abusive and i needed my mama… My mama… Is what saved me besides my kids ans wanting to be a better mother for them… Now my mamas gone ans i wish every day i could just talk to her… Don’t turn your back when she needs you the most… The shoe might be on the other foot sooner then later…
If she is doing what she agreed to when she moved back in, then why are you whining? You might see her being married and dating a problem but it is YOUR PROBLEM! Quit trying to control her life.
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My kids will come before my husband, I’ll let my kids live under my roof no matter what. She’s probably going through a lot and just needs someone to be there even if she’s not acting like it. Kicking her out could only make the issues worse.
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Give her a timeframe and don’t babysit just so she can party. She’s grown so it’s none of your business what she does in her life but you can set rules for your home. Trust me once she figures out your not a built in sitter and she has rules and a time limit, she’ll make every effort to get out of there. You have to stand firm or loose your marriage while she goes on with her life.
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Show her the door if she already agreed to your rules and she’s broke them she will continue to do it. You don’t want to ruin your marriage.
Family always comes first. Until family doesn’t put you first.
If she can’t abide by your house rules kick her ass out.
Your daughter needs your support … as a 23 year old female, if I was in her shoes, I would want/need my mother more than ever.
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Praying for you and your family
She’s 23. She CAN do whatever she wants. Only way to make her WANT to follow your rules is to put your foot down. Kick her out for the day and change the locks. Give her a few numbers for homeless shelters. She’s got you kids. She won’t be on the streets. Tough love wins the day.
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She’s an adult. She should follow the rules of the house in regard to not being disruptive in your home. That said, she’s an adult and she can see who she wants to see. It is literally none of your business. The fastest way to drive her into the arms of the guy you don’t approve of is to threaten to kick her out over him.
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No matter what you say they will make their own devisions. Kick her out. In your house your rules like them or leave
Your house, your rules. However, if it isn’t causing problems I wouldn’t kick her out just yet. If her marriage is already failed and she is separated I don’t see problem with her seeing another man.
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Just my take, but it seems like you offered help with one foot out the door already… almost as if you were ready to find any reason to put her out before even giving her a chance.
As a parent, even of a grown child, we need to offer solace and guidance for our kids. Not nitpicking, half a$$ed & begrudged “help”, being controlling, etc. You said it yourself- she has thus far followed the rules YOU initially sat forth. As long as she isn’t bringing said person under your roof, then why do you feel like somehow her choices are going to effect you and your husband?
Methinks someone is a control freak. Sorry not sorry. This just seems ignorant and a really petty reason to kick your own child out, if you ask me. Definitely sends the signal you are the type to put a man before your child. My love for my children are unconditional. I couldn’t imagine ever feeling otherwise. Whether they mess up 500x and end up sleeping on my couch at 40 years old, they will ALWAYS have a safe place to sleep and have food in their bellies. Not kicking them when they are down for the sake of “hubs”.
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She’s a grown woman who pays rent while going through a divorce.
Is this husband not her father?
Your children should come before any man. She acted out as a teen and didn’t follow rules? BFD, welcome to teenage-hood. Now you’re holding that against her? Wild.
Who are you to say she doesn’t have a good choice of men? She, from what’s said, sounds like a normal person. You’ve judged her so hard for what looks like no reason. Either give more details or wake up and put your child first.
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Your partner will be temporary , but your daughter will always be your daughter an your grandchildren will always remain your grandchildren
Ur children an grandchildren will always be your permanant family so hold on to them more than ever…
Never let an outside man to tell u kick ur daughter an grandchildren u will have a millions regret in time to come…
Look at this video link
Mother like u will only drive ur daughter away from u…
U are controlling her life u an ur husband …
A MOTHER is someone who JOURNEYS ALONG Good an Bad times in her children lifes an to bring Joy and Comfort …
A Mother is someone who is suppose to leave a LEGACY OF WHAT BEING A TRUE MOTHER AND GRANDMOTHER IS ALL ABOUT.
U are suppose to support ur daughter if she is dating someone get to know the guy be a friend to ur daughter an her boyfriend… She is divorce an trying to seek a companion in her life as a Mother be supportive
Your MAN IS THE PROBLEM not your daughter an her children…
NO WONDER she is desperately looking for companionship an she is willing to run in any man arms …
U dont want ur daughter to be happy u want cause her life misery…
u are out to destroy ur daughter life an grandchildren lifes…
You would put your kid out when she needs support most? No wonder she blows you off. You don’t respect her so why should she respect you?
One day to come ur one an only daughter will never want see ur face again…
Ur grandchildren will hate u forever.
Seems u are selfish mother who only cares about ur Man an not ur daughter…
U suppose to be ur daughter Best friend and support her not treat her an ur grandkids like crap…
A man will come an go but ur daughter is ur child…
The hardship an Unhapiness one mother can cause in her daughter life its a shame an disgrace …
U should decide to get a professional third party involved to help mend the damage you have likely already contributed to you & your daughters relationship.
But u care about ur man needs so u rather kick ur daughter out an keep ur man .Only a heartless mother would do such thing…Smhhhh.
A MOTHER IS SOMEONE who is suppose to bring comfort in her children lifes.
I know of someone who is in a situation like ur daughter an ur grandkids right now…
Try to make it work with ur daughter let her be ur friend an support emotionally
Mother like u will only drive ur daughter away from u…
U are controlling her life u an ur husband …
A MOTHER is someone who JOURNEYS ALONG Good an Bad times in her children lifes an to bring Joy and Comfort …
A Mother is someone who is suppose to leave a LEGACY OF WHAT BEING A TRUE MOTHER AND GRANDMOTHER IS ALL ABOUT.
U are suppose to support ur daughter if she is dating someone get to know the guy be a friend to ur daughter an her boyfriend… She is divorce an trying to seek a companion in her life as a Mother be supportive
Your MAN IS THE PROBLEM not your daughter an her children…
NO WONDER she is desperately looking for companionship an she is willing to run in any man arms …
U dont want ur daughter to be happy u want cause her life misery…
u are out to destroy ur daughter life an grandchildren lifes…
You would put your kid out when she needs support most? No wonder she blows you off. You don’t respect her so why should she respect you?
One day to come ur one an only daughter will never want see ur face again…
Ur grandchildren will hate u forever.
Seems u are selfish mother who only cares about ur Man an not ur daughter…
U suppose to be ur daughter Best friend and support her not treat her an ur grandkids like crap…
A man will come an go but ur daughter is ur child…
The hardship an Unhapiness one mother can cause in her daughter life its a shame an disgrace …
U should decide to get a professional third party involved to help mend the damage you have likely already contributed to you & your daughters relationship.
But u care about ur man needs so u rather kick ur daughter out an keep ur man .Only a heartless mother would do such thing…Smhhhh.
A MOTHER IS SOMEONE who is suppose to bring comfort in her children lifes.
I know of someone who is in a situation like ur daughter an ur grandkids right now…
Try to make it work with ur daughter let her be ur friend an support emotionally
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Your issues are not hers. You have the issue with her choices. This does not reflect on her. She’s an adult.
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Treat her the same as you would a tenant or a roommate. If she paying you rent, cleaning after herself, and taking care of her children or paying you to watch her children or you want to watch then for free cause they are your grandbabies sometimes, then like any other tenant or roommate you shouldn’t be trying to micromanage every aspect of her life such as who she is dating as long as her and her boyfriend are not intruding a your normal day to day, you dont need to control her.
You can help her out the best that you can and if she wants your help kids always needs their parents help even if they don’t want it
2 weeks isnt long enough to be jumping to kick her out, communicating with her might help.
But Going by the way this is worded im assuming the 2 younger kids are yours and your husbands children, that being said your daughter is an adult. She will pose an influence on the younger siblings and her actions can affect them also.
If her living in the home causes issues with your husband for valid reasons eg: rude, messy, lack of respect etc (not including as a teenager as thats part of raising a teenager) then understandably she needs to find somewhere else to go and maybe you need to sit and have a talk with her about it in a civil matter, issues with your husband will affect you but also the younger children and that is more important than her being your eldest daughter, the world doesnt evolve around just 1 child, the younger ones matter too and stain between yourself and your husband could leave them affected in the long run. Theres always a bigger picture than “picking a man over your child” if she is disruptive and causing greif in your home, shes made that choice to put in you in a position and you dont have to feel bad about doing whats best for you and your family just because youre her mother.
As for her personal relationships etc i Personally cant speak on experience for yourself and her situation, but my partners parents were very similar with dictating his relationships. Long story short, hes an adult. And can make his own choices.
We have 2 children, and besides 2 short meets with our first 3 years ago they havent been in our lives or even been told about the 2nd. And that was his choice to make based on the treatment he received. So just be prepared for that outcome if you want to step into her personal buisness.
Kick her out i have a daughter just like her it won’t get any better until uou kick her OUT believe me
Honestly, it’s not your business living in your house or not. Who she hangs out with or dates isn’t your concern. I understand curfews in your house because of young children, but as long as her private life doesn’t mess with your life id stay out of it. Not your circus.
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No that’s your daughter and grandkids the man should understand that is your blood
Is your husband her father?
“Should I kick her out even though she can’t afford to live on her own” “even though it will cause issues with my husband an i”
You’re kidding right? YOUR DAUGHTER, I don’t care how old ALWAYS should come before your Man. If your husband does like it then kick HIS sorry ass out.
What kind of question is this. SMH 
Nope…I would kick him out 1st.
Um why are you in her marriage business? Just cause she is staying with you and paying rent or not doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be in her business or love life for that matter. You can’t tell a 23year old woman who she can or can’t date because she is living under your roof. This is some Brittany Spears life. Not to mention you can’t evict her after 30days based off her love life that’s not legal. Atleast in the state of Louisiana. In Louisiana and most likely your state as well you would have to give her a 30 days notice to vacate the property but if she’s paying rent then I’m not sure you have just cause for that either and would probably owe her the rent she paid you. Don’t believe legally you can set a curfew either. After 30days of her living there ofcourse.
Please don’t listen to half of these ppl. Check with your state first as if she was smart enough she could turn around and sue you for the rent she pays you. Some states consider after so many days of her living there a tenant. You would have to legally evict her probably with some sort of just cause(some states have to have just cause some don’t). If I was your daughter I would definitely take you to court if u kicked me out cause I was dating. Also some of these responses state she’s an adulterer not the case if separated and she can’t lose her kids cause she is “dating”. Wow ppl
Um. I don’t think her marital problems are your business.
And your issues aren’t hers.
So no. Treat it as a roommate or tenant. As far that is concerned.
Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. Should I kick my daughter out if I think she will cause problems with my husband and I?
First off, shes an adult and can date whoever she wants. Secondly, you should love your child unconditionally.
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