I would! My daughter is 5 and I let her decide. Of course I tell her what I think will look nice and then she makes her own decision.
Let your child do what she wants with hair
I let my 4 year old daughter get a pixie cut 
her hair her choice who am I to tell her what her hair should be like? I even let her dye it pink! Some people wouldnāt agree but to me body autonomy starts as soon as they learn language, and part of that is teaching my kids that their bodies are theirs and only they can know what they want to touch it, what they want it to look like, etc. your child is old enough to have an opinion on their body, imo itās not your choice on what their hair looks like
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Hair grows ā¦ no matter what style you have will always be bullies teach her to stand up for herself grow self esteem but let her choose how she wants to be.
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Yep. Itās her hair let her decide, sheāll be happier if she choose what she wants
Haircuts are a way of expressing yourselfā¦. If itās what sheās feeling at the moment then allow it in my opinion. Like a lot are saying itāll grow backā¦ā¦ but do explain to her that with that style of haircut you will have to style it almost all the time ! (Personal experience lol) also to take in consideration the texture of her hair etc. oh and get somebody who specialized in that style of hair cut!!! Cuz believe me there is a lot of stylist that claim that they can do it and unfortunately doesnāt come out anywhere close 
. (Itāll look more like a long chili bowl haircut )
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I donāt think she will be bullied for a pixie cut? And if she wants it she should be able to. Itās just hair. Seems like you might be projecting your own feelings onto the situation.
Itās her body. My kiddo is 8 and has a pixie with an undercut because that is what my she wants.
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It tell her she allow to have a opinion think for herself and her like and dis like is important it
Let her make her own choice and be herself. Bullied or not. 12 is old enough
Try negotiating with her bring it up to her shoulders first. Then bring it up to her chin and then eventually let her go short. Everybodyās right itās only hair and it grows back if you donāt let her do it when she gets old enough sheās gonna have it short and then youāll be madā¦
I have let my child make her own hair choices since she was 7 I have not agreed with all of them and some scared me but every single one brought her joy and that was worth itā¤
My daughter has been chosing her own hair cuts since she was 6 and she is almost 11. She has had very short hair and bangs (which she hated and I got to say told u so lol). Pink hair blue hair res hair and had tinsel put in her hair
I would let my daughter do it, just means as a momma maybe help teach her how to style it and keep it simple and easy so she can do it 
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I think as they get older they need chances to make decisions for themselves.
Yup Iāve also let my 6 children decide how they want their hair.
Itās her hair so let her have it how she wants. Also itās a horrible injustice to teach her to change herself for bullies.
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Plus this I so wish he would get any type of hair cut
Itās just hair. Let her have fun while shes young! It will grow back
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Itās a good age to get a pixie cut. You can get longer versions if you donāt think sheād suit it short. It means she can wash and dry her hair quickly by herself too.
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With four girls and 3 granddaughters I have learned that you choose your battles and a haircut was never one I chose to fight about, I feel like as women our hair is one of the ways we express ourselves . And 12 is a good age to let them start making some simple choices . I would have her go over with the stylist what she would like and they can help her make a choice thatās right for hair type . That is what I had each of my daughters do . We have all cried over a bad haircut and learned from it . She will be ok mama
I would let her cut it before she cuts it herself. My daughter was about 11 when she told her if I didnāt cut it she was going too.
You are just being controlling. She is old enough to choose her cut. Itās just hair, it will grow back
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A pixie cut sounds cute. Just remember, hair grows! If she doesnāt like it, it will grow out in a few months.
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I let my kids choose their own haircuts. I was 
against the mullet but my son wanted it so I let him and it totally gave him a new level of self confidence. Just let them be who they want to be.
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Sheās old enough to make her own decisions about her hair, if anyone has anything to say just tell her to stick up for herself. And remind her that hair always grows back. She can even donate her hair if its long enough to do so.
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Itās hair, it grows back,
Itās her hair. It also grows out. Itās just your job to find a good stylist that will listen to her.
Itās hair it grows back
Honestly I had an issue when my girls was younger but honey it just hair itāll grow back or if they die it if she is 12 Iād let her do what she wants to sheās not asking to die it hot pink let her find herself her way( within reason)
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My son has picked all of his haircuts since his very first one when he was almost 4.
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Sheās 12, Sheās old enough to make her own choices (and mistakes) about her hair. It will grow backā¦.
I remember being 12 and hounding my Mom to let me get bangsā¦.My mom was hesitant but allowed it, Turns out I loved them and still rock them over 30yrs old lol
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I told my daughter no so she elected for a bob with neon red highlights. Sheās 13, I told her Ive seen too many girls with pixies that do not take care of them.
I canāt even believe a parent would question letting their kid make that decision for themselves, honestly .
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Maybe see if she likes something like this (sorta like a mix between a long pixie, and a short angled bob) so the front is a little longer and she can still style and do stuff with her hair
itās just hair. itāll grow back if she doesnāt like it
Let her do it!!! Itās just hair 
could be the BIGGEST confidence boost 
I was freaking out when my daughter wanted a pixie cut and I finally let her do it and she was 9
Hair is a good way for people to express themselves. I personally believe a child should be able to pick their haircut, it helps them feel like their opinion matters in a simple way. Itās hair, itāll always grow back. It helps build their confidence.
Itās her body. Why wouldnāt you?
My son asked me to curl and tease his hair thos morning as he was gng for this lookā¦I hate it but itās his hair lol
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I let my 8 year old pick her haircut and she got a pixieā¦not exactly my favorite look on her but she LOVED it and didnāt care about the comments that a few little jerk kids made.
Itās only hair it will grow back.
12 she shouldnāt be held back expressing her self her way.
Choose your battles.
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Mines 11 just let her get her long hair cut and colored. I feel sheās old enough to wear her hair how she wants. My hairdresser says itās just hair itāll grow back
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It will boost her up and self expression is always important
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My mom let me, I hate it now that Iām older but Iām glad she let me pick myself
Her hair her choice hair grows back
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Talk to her about your concerns
I let my kids 9 and 5 choose their own haircuts. Itās their hair.
Did you see the swing I IMāed a picture of , my niece put it up fo for Kylie
I would let her. She is old enough, thatās a cute look for tweens.
Sounds to me like a great opportunity for both of you to learn and grow. You - not teach her that she should look a certain way to avoid a bully. Her - her hair, her choice and her aftereffect.
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Yes. Let her express herself
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My daughter always chose hair styles, ranged from shaved off to half shaved one side. She loved expressing her self and wanted to be her own person. She got called a boy loads but she would just ignore it and got on with it. Let her be herself sod what others think. Sheās growing and wants to be own person x
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We started allowing them to pick their own hair style around 7&8.
Both of them went with a pixie,
my oldest keeps getting shorter and shorter and now carries a 1/2 in shave and my youngest prefers a bob. They both also like bright colors like their mama. Sadly only through the summer becasue silly outdated school dress codes.
Iām the same with clothing style as long as it coveres everything its supposed to.
Dude. Just let your kids experiment with their look. Kids will always remember how their parents wouldnāt let them do something and will go out and do it eventually any way. Thereās nothing wrong with letting a kid get a haircut. Even if they hate it in the endā¦ itāll grow back and theyāll be fine. Donāt be such a helicopter
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Iād just let her. I let my 5 yr old pick his own hair. I only really āforceā my 9 yr old bc he has mod/severe autism and his longer hair bothers him sensory wise. But if he says no I donāt. Itās literally just hair, itāll grow back. But youāre a good parent for wanting to protect her
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Let her do it. If thatās what she wants and itās will make her feel awesome about herselfā¦.help build her confidence. If she doesnāt like it then itās just hair and it will grow back. As for taking things out on mom and dadā¦ thatās what you guys are for. You guys are her home and safe place.
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Honestly itās just hair and if you build her up and hype her up she wonāt care but sheās growing up and coming into her own as a young woman and making formative decisions about her outward appearance that will ultimately have a profound impact on her inward view of herself. Also from a conservative parent stand point if you allow her to experiment now she may be over the wildest moments in hair exploration before her career years and not feel so boxed in by perimeters set by employers
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- its just hair 2) at that age shes just learning to express herself in her own style 3) eventually the haircut will seem so minor compared to more things she wants later on 4) hair takes forever to take care of, she might enjoy having it short. I started to keep mine short around her age
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My child has had control of her own hair since she 5, itās hairā¦. It grows back, how do you expect your child to ever be able to make any decisions for herself if you will give her no control over her own body. How will she ever be able to say no to somebody else because anytime she tried to take control of her own body her mother told her no
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Yes at twelve she has to have some say. Itās her hair and she needs to feel good about how she wears it
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Theres much bigger things to argue over than hair choices. It grows back. Itās not worth the battle.
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It is just hair and it grows! Pick your battles and this isnāt one of them.
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My daughter asked to buzz cut her hair last summer. She was 12. Best thing I did for her. She now likes to keep it short.
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I would let her. Itās just hair. There are many many more important battles to come. This shouldnāt be one of them. 
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I have always let my kids choose their haircuts. Itās how they express themselves. Itās just hair and will grow back
Yes, let her. This is the age she is starting to find her own style. Hair grows back. She may also be growing more comfortable ignoring bullies. Kids suck sometimes and will find anything to ridicule when they want to put another down. Let her grow.
Also if youāre really worried about her ātaking it outā on you guys thatās a whole other thing you need to address with her.
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Itās a hair cut. It will grow out. Likely quickly. Let her cut it. And if she tries to take it out on you, remind her that it was what SHE wanted and what SHE begged for. Sheās old enough to understand her own choices.
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After trying to pursued my 13 year old daughter who had very long beautiful hair not to have a pixie cut I finally gave in thinking she will have lots of time to regrow it when she realises it was a mistake and low and behold it worked she hated it and she has never had short hair again and she is now in her 40 S .
Her head, her choice. Itās just hair anyway. You know it grows back, right?
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Pixie hair cuts are greatā¦ I love mine. Teach her to feel better about herself and how to stick to her real friends. This is a very teachable moment. Being afraid of bullies sucks. Get involved in stuff outside of school , dance, sports, whatever and get a great haircut to go with itā¦
It will grow back. Sheās 12. Most definitely at that age she should be able to choose their own hair cut. Besides, pixie cuts are cute.
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I think you should this time to see if she likes to have her hair that way. I donāt think thereās any harm in it. I let one of my kids pick their hair cut. My kid loved it and I let my kid continue to get the hair cut. Itās just hair and itāll grow back. If she doesnāt like it let it grow out and they have it cut again so it could be the same length.
I wish I had the facial bone structure to wear a pixie cutā¦not a single sharp angle at all.
Yeah sheās 12 sheās old enough
So many problematic things here. I just. Cannot.
Let her cut her hair if itās what she wants or find a compromise.
My daughter is 8 and chose hers
Her wanting to cut her hair is ok. What about the previous bullying was it taken care of.She needs to feel safe or may consider she has had enoughā¦
My 5 year daughter picked hers sheās happy and thatās what she likes !
youāre her mom so no means no
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I just dealt with this with my daughterā¦ I finally let her do it and she loves it! Itās just hair, itās one thing about herself she can control.
Iād let my daughter cut her hair a little bit, but no way would I let her just chop it all off like that 
Let her choose, you may think you know her better but she knows herself best.
Yes. Itās her hair and it will grow back
If you donāt she will resent you for being overprotective. Your trying to protect her from the world. She needs to learn to stand up for herself. To learn how to handle confrontations. Iām a parent of a bullied child. Itās it easy to see them get beat down. I myself told the principal " when my child is sent to you know it is not her fault. She is defending herself.". He told me itās unacceptable to fight. I told him sheās not. She defending herself. If you punish her I will call CPS and police dept and file charges on the child and school. He said ok. He would cooperate. Donāt let yourself get bullied by teachers and principal. Our children Must learn to be strong on their own. It hurts,but itās life. Let her get the cut. God bless.
Sheās 12yo. Time to let her make decisions in her life.
Let her do what she wants with her hairā¦ sheās 12.
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Do it when school not in session
Going from my own personal experience.
12 is only like three years before I hit my āemoā phase and started chopping my hair up myself in the bathroom soā¦ It may be a phase and you may want to be encouraging otherwise she might risk doing it herself during a rebellious time and ruining it completely.
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Let her do it, just make sure itās done well.
When I was in grade 8 I wanted a pixie cut, my parents brought me to a cheap little salon (first choice) and they cut my hair horribly. It looked like a Beatles shag and I did get made fun of for it, I hated it so much. Sheās old enough to make her own decisions about her hair, but make sure itās a quality hair cut and it actually looks good lol
I mean yeah, she probably will be. Its just what happens. Nothing anyone can do stops bullying. Let her cut it. Sheāll either love it or will want to grow it back out.
Maybe even wait until school is out just incase she isnt a fan of it. I thought i would love it. I hated it as soon as I cut it off 
I let my 3, 5 and 7 year olds choose their hair cuts 
itās their hair their body and they should be Happy and comfortable with itā:woman_shrugging:
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Let her do it, sheās a pre teen, itās a haircut, not a face piercing or a tattoo for crying out loud
My kids have always chose thir own haircut since they were old enough to say. Its just hair it will grow back.
My 10 year old just cut her long beautiful curls to eat length. Itās hair. It grows back. And itās a healthy way for kids to express themself. It isnāt hurting anyone. At some point she will just do it herself or have a friend do it. With that being said I did make my daughter wait a couple months before I took her just so she was sure she wanted it before we made the chop
My daughter is nearly 6, if she said she wanted a pixie cut, cool letās do it. Itās hair, and if itās how she wants it just make her happy and let her feel confident.
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Yes sheās becoming her own person you donāt want her sneaking around and losing cause thatās what itāll lead to
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Its hair it will grow back