Time for you to let her grow it will grow back
Itâs JUST HAIR! It will grow back!
My daughter had me chop off her hair and she loves it.
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Itâs just hair. Let her cut it. You are more worried about her taking things out on you and her dad. Use it as a lesson. If she cuts it, and if she gets bullied, then when she tries to take it out on you, tell her, she has to deal with the consequences of her own choice.
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Yes let her choose⌠Let her be who she wants to be , not who you want her to be otherwise sheâll resent you and become rebellious .
kids actually bully other kids for pixie cuts? kids should be allowed to have their hair however they like as long as they take care of it, which short hair would not be a problem with. If bullying over hair is an actual problem discuss this with her and back her up with getting involved at the school to make sure she is not being bullied.
Itâs just hair.
If you never let her choose, sheâs going to resent you
Dude just let your daughter cut her hair its not that deep; itâll grow back
Yes , I would let her .
Sheâs 12 her hair her choice itâll grow back let her learn consequences of her choices
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My four year old wanted a pixie and she got it
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its her hair and not like shes a baby is it. at twelve she knows what she wants, let her have it done
Hair grows back. I donât understand some parents, itâs not your hair she wants to cut, let her be her own person!
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Controlling much? Itâs HER hair. Let her do what she wants with it. Their hair is one of the areas where a child should have control.
Itâs her hair. Let her do what she wants!
Her hair her choice, if someone bullies her about her hair it says everything you need to know about that person!
Hair grows back and quiet quickly!
If she wants it let her have itđ
My younger daughter gots a pixie haircut and yesterday was her first day at school. I am the one who chosen the hair cut for her. And her sister and I also had to cut our hair short. Itâs one of the ways I try and get rid of head lice. And it worked just in time for school. It might just be her way to express herself at school.
Sure itâs not for attention
Iâd say do it if itâs something she wants.
Let her do it and if she does get bullied, support her instead of saying " I told you so"
Of course, itâs her hair.
Let. Her. Cut. Her. Hair. It. Will. Male her. Feel. Good. About. Her. Self
Of course you should.
At this point YOU are bullying your daughter by telling her her hair wont fit YOUR beauty ideals
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My daughter has had a pixie cut since she was 8 her choice
No thatâs the fashion at the moment she will be okay see loads here I Galway with it
Absolutely! Let her express herself. Itâs just hair. It grows back. My 12 year old has had a pixie cut twice now. Looked super cute!
Let her do it 
itâs her hair
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Pixie cuts, kept maintained, are super cute on girls. Once they start to grow out they can become disastrous. Lol.
As for those asking you if youâre controlling⌠ignore them. It may be HER hair, but like you said, you know her. Good luck. 
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Heck ya let her get it then if she does get bullied sayâŚpunch em in the face poof problem solved p.s next time listen to your motha we know kids are dinks 
Iâd say, youâre the parent and she has to learn to live with your decisions.
Forget all this âitâs her hairâ b.s.
Sheâs 12. Youâre the mama. End of story.
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Let her do it. If itâs what she wants, itâll boost her confidence
Try it out with a wig first. This way she can know how it might look on her, without going through something irreversible first.
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âShe is only 12â
My 9yo chooses whether or not we cut her hair. I explain why I may want to trim it. A few times we even googled hair cuts for her to choose from. I explained the time and energy it would take for the ones she picked (because she gets impatient after so long) and went from there.
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Perhaps your daughter is looking for a way to feel more confident⌠this may be how she sees herself.
Her âtaking it put on you and dadâ is just a stressed, frustrated child, who doesnât know how to handle her emotions. Sheâd need to be very clear this would be her decision and she canât blame anyone else for a change of mind.
At the end of the day, itâs only hair, and it will grow back. Something else to considerâŚPixie cuts need alot of maintenance so thatâs something to consider too. I have one and have to have a trim every 3 weeks.
Perhaps a visit to a good hairdresser for an opinion would be helpful. Choose a good hairdresser for the cut too!
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Yes! Itâs just hair it grows back
When my daughter was 12 she begged me to let her get the sides of her hair cut off and her dad and I said no way, however she begged and begged me and I kept saying no because if you donât like it youâre going to say Iâm the mom and should have said no but when she told me that it would help with her self esteem I finally agreed. Iâm glad I did because it definitely made her more confident in being herself and not caring what others think or say about her. It came out really nice and she gets tons of compliments on the different ways that she wears it. She is an awesome 14 year old and is still rocking her shaved sides. At the end of the day itâs her hair and it will eventually grow back. Good luck:)
Itâs hair. Itâll grow back. Pick your battles
My 8 year old wanted pink and purple hair last year, guess what she got, the hair she wanted. Itâs only hair it will grow back, its not like shes asking for a tattoo
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My daughter wanted a pixie cut for her 9th birthday, so she got a pixie cut.
Itâs her hair, it will grow back.
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My daughter started talking to me about what she wanted done with her hair at 5. She is 6 and has her own style in clothes and I let her be herself. Same with her hair. Now I wouldnât let her cut it to short at her age, but she is only 6 and has her own style. I say let her give a try. It will grow back.
Let her. But tell her, she only will own the ripple effect here that may happen stemming from her decision. She wonât learn if you constantly protect her from every little thing. Hair grows back. If nothing else, itâll teach her patience.
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You do realize that at 12 years old your daughter can consent and receive medical treatment for STI and pregnancy testing without your consent? And if you call me- the office nurse, I am legally unable to confirm or deny her as a patient?? Or advise you of results/treatment. Trust me. You wanna let her cut her hair.
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Itâs her hair. Let her decide.
Absolutely!! Sheâs asserting her independence and expressing herself. After all, it is her hair. If she doesnât like it, than sheâll just have to wait for it to grow out. My daughter chopped all of her off last year at 13. She loved it, then hated it, then loved it again, and so on. It was a roller coaster, but hey now she knows what sheâs getting into if she decides to chop it off again.
WellâŚthe thing is, hair will always grow back. Her true friends wonât judge her or make fun of herâŚ
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Let her have some say on her appearance, sheâs got to figure who she is out, if you arenât giving her choices she will be lost.
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She is 12 yrs old n barely knows what is good for her. But I do believe she should start making some decisions for herself to learn from them. If sheâs very sure n yâall talk about it then u do wat yâall think is best. If u decided itâs only hair n itâll grow back just make sure to tell her u wonât put up with the blaming u n her dad. Wen she starts blaming then give her a punishment.
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Just let her. Sheâs at that age where she is learning to Express herself. Iâm sure once she gets it she may not like it which means she wonât do it again.
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Shes 12 absolutely she should have had a choice a while ago
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What? Her hairâŚwhich will grow again on no timeâŚsounds like you are encouraging anxiety in herâŚsheâs 12âŚapplaud her making her own decisionsâŚ
First, my child isnât going to take crap out on me. You need to nip it in the bud before it gets worse. Donât tolerate that behavior. Second if she wants the hair style, let her but with the full understanding the fall out if any is 
on her.
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I was afraid of the same thing, my daughter is 12 and she finally got the pixie cut she wanted. Her confidence is sooo much better. She gets a lot of compliments when we are out in public too.
Let her. If it doesnât work out, remind her of was her choice and you donât want to hear it.
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My mom never let me get my hair cut that short growing up and I thank her so much for it!!! I did have shorter hair for a little bit but never that short. So glad I didnt do it!!!
My daughter is 14 an i let her. Her hair was to her but now its to her shoulders
Love short hair in girls
I let my daughter choose and sheâs 11. Itâs that age where we have to give up control on things that are safe to let them decide on themselves. If you never let her make choices sheâll have a hard time doing so as an adult.
Itâs only hair it grows back, let her try it I grew up with a pixie cut, grew it out when I got older
100% yes. I hated that as a child i couldnât do anything with my hair. My mom was mad at me when i cut it at 17. My daughter wanted a hair cut when her brother got his first hair cut so we set up an appointment for her as well. She was 7. Its her hair and shes aloud to have whatever hairstyle she wants
Letâs be honest.
Itâs not your personal favorite hair style, and you are concerned about being seen with her or (God forbid) having family pictures taken, right?
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Yup⌠Itâs just hair⌠It will grow back⌠I remember begging as a child to get my long hair cut⌠I into a pixie⌠Lol. I hated it⌠But remember sheâs just asking to get a hair cut⌠Not to do drugs⌠Lol⌠Itâs independence⌠She will either love it or hate it⌠But either way⌠It grows back
I let my 5 year old pick out her haircut.
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Hair is the only thing my kid has really had a say in. They might as well have fun with it. Hair grows back.
yes. i let my 9 year old get a pixie cut. she wanted to shave her head but we compromised with the pixie cut. itâs just hair. it grows back.
Yes it build confidences and independent
Hair grows back. Let her do her thing.
Mine got a pixie at about 7. Sheâs now 10 and itâs past her shoulders. Let her get it. It can grow back if she doesnât like it.
Her body her choice⌠her consequence her lessson⌠take it out on parents ?? Geezus grow a thicker skin
Post her picture in the photoshop requests group and ask them to show you what it will look like.
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Yep. Maybe even talk her into letter the stylist do the pixie but slowly and show her every few mins to make sure the length is still good to go shorter. She may change her mind
SoâŚâŚ.youâre more worried about protecting your own peace rather than helping your daughter learn how to grow, live with her decisions and protect HER peace.
Interesting perspective on parenting.
Let us know in a few years how thatâs worked out.
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Hey how about let your daughter decide who she is and what she can handle? I know you want to protect her, you canât though. You can only give her the tools to deal with being bullied. Let her be herself. Let her decide what is too much.
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I wouldâve let her do it during the summer. That way she could try it out before school.
Her hair, her choice.
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Let her cut her hair how ever she wants to. Sheâs old enough to decide what she wants to look like. My son only gets a haircut when he asks for one. My son asked me for green hair. He got green hair. He wanted pink hair, he got pink hair, then purple, then red. It grows back and when they get older they have to look professional so let them be creative now.
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Hair is a non-issue to fight about. My son wore hair shoulder length. Weâd get addressed as âhow are you ladies today?â He never minded, but one day in high school when the hair cut for cancer fund raiser happened, he left for school with long hair and came home almost bald! That was 11 years ago and itâs been short ever since.
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Itâs just hair. Itâll grow back if she doesnât like it. Teach her to stick up for herselfđđź
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Itâs just hair! It grows back.
Yeah its hair it grows back
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Yes let her make choice. When she gets angry with you itâs important to also teach her how to manage those emotions in healthy ways. Sheâs going to have lots of hurts over her life and the big lesson is how to handle that and not hurt others.
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My 6 year old daughter grew her hair for 6 years. It was passed her butt. Her father and I loved her long, long hair. But she wanted to cut it above her shoulders. So I took her to the salon and thatâs what we did. She loves it, sheâs feeling herself. No regrets.
My son (10) has long hair and my daughter (12) has a half pink/half black almost pixie⌠So I vote you let her have that bit of autonomy. She is old enough to decide.
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If she is doing it for her than let her do it but if she is doing it to copy someone get her to think about it,
Like Iâve told both my boys & girls, itâs your hair on your head & if you want it cut or styled its up to them, if they donât like the final result, they are the oneâs who have to live with it, as I wonât be paying for another hair cut to fix the one they just got.
I let my girls choose their haircuts as soon as they were old enough to tell me.
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I see your point the bullying, but let her choose. Other than bullying hair will grow. Let her look in the Books and see if she finds something she likes. Let her and the hair stylist discuss it and pick it together. She is growing up, she will have to do this next year she will be 13.
Itâs her hair sheâs not getting a tattoo
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My 10-year-old is about to get a pixie. We already discussed with her some things that less friendly kids may say and she isnât fazed. She loves the style and itâs just hair. It will grow back.
PhewâŚmy kids have picked out theur own haircuts since they were 2/3. The only condition I ever had is âI donât wanna hear it if you donât like it in a week.â Honestly I doubt a pixie cut is gonna get her bulliedâŚlots of girls have them nowadays. HeckâŚmy now 9yo had the underneath of her head shaved in 1st grade and never got bullied for it.
Let her cut her hair. It grows back. And teach her how to sucker punch.
It is just hair that will grow back and 12 is pretty old enough to choose something like that. Iâd recommend having it cut short but not quite pixie maybe just above the shoulders or chin length bob and keep that for at least a week to see if the magic and newness fades and the itch to have long hair again sets in. Sheâll have a better idea for having short hair then without having it all completely gone with the initial cut. Also make sure she understands what a big commitment it will be if and when she wants to grow it out. All the awkward stages and mullet prevention trims sheâll have to get. The amount of time itâll take to grow out a pixie into a somewhat very short bob length is quite a while and to get it to about shoulder length will take a year. Just make sure sheâs prepared and then if she hates it and complains just ignore it and remind her how much you tried to warn her. Definitely wouldnât go short short pixie right at first. Try it in stages. Chin length, then maybe a pixie but still a little longer. Then go for the short buzz once sheâs sure
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If she is getting bullied you need to address that with her and the school. Her haircut is not going to matter. And why do you and her dad let her take things out on you? Who is the parent? Teach her safe ways to deal with anger and disappointmentâask your local librarian for book/article/DVD recommendations for good answers.
Are you going to make decisions for her until sheâs 50? Teach her how to do things and make decisions for herself, donât make them for her. When my kids were little (under 10) and complained about their clothes, I told them they had a set amount to spend each month and could buy what they needed and wanted with whatever was left. If they didnât like what theyâd bought, too bad. If there was no more money that month, then too bad, no more stuff. No advances.
Also taught them about valueâspend money on what you wear most or are hardest on. Buy good jeans if youâll wear them all the time, buy prom gowns at the thrift store for example as youâll probably only wear them once. To this day my son buys very few things, but theyâre of the highest quality. My daughter buys cheaper stuff because she likes to have the latest, but spends more on things she wears out quickly, like socks & underwear. She also would rather spend her money on travel vs. clothes. Tell your daughter to choose comfortable shoes that wonât ruin her feet.
Give your daughter freedom to choose and encourage her to safely go past her comfort zone. Let her pick her hairstyle, her clothes (even if she wears a school uniform), decide what she wants for lunch and teach her how to make a simple breakfast, lunch and dinner herself, and about good nutrition. Delegate this task to people who enjoy cooking and healthy living if itâs not your thing. Let her pick the menu or what to get for carry out/delivery once a week if possible.
Let her decide what family game/s to play, pick a family activity once in a while, let her read up on your vacation destination and pick two things to do or see. Have her choose the books she wants to read over the summer (unless thereâs a specific list for a reading contest she wants to enter or if the school provides a listâusually thereâs a fair amount of choice, though).
Give her a budget and let her plan a party. Resist the urge to butt in, just be available to ask and answer questions: âHave you thought aboutâŚ?â You can give her choices within parameters: do you want to do chores during the week or all at once on weekends? Tell her you can only manage X number of hobbies or after school activities but let her pick what she wants to do. My mom made me take violin lessons when I wanted to play piano, drums or electric guitar and it turned me off classical music for life.
Resist the urge to hover or micromanage. Ask her to tell you when sheâs halfway through homework, a chore, or some other project, when you can look it over to be sure sheâs on the right track. Otherwise leave her alone unless she asks for your help. Guide her rather than giving her answers, though I guess now kids just Google everything.
Aside from pierced ears, tell her she has to wait until 16, 18 or 20 to make permanent changes to her body, like tattoos, other piercings or a boob job, but can play with things that are temporary, like hair, clothes, makeup. You can set parameters like how short, low cut, tight or revealing clothes is too much (decide this in advance), what makeup she can use at what age if she has any interest.
The more control a person feels over their own life the happier and more successful they will be. You need to have a life separate from your child too. Youâll want to pick your battles and hair length is definitely not one of them. Cultivate your own interests and activities so you can handle when she pulls away as a teen and when she moves away as a young adult.
Make sure she learns about finances, car maintenance, safe sex, safety, how to handle first aid, good decision making, how to be safely adventurous, how to handle fear, failure, and success with graceânot just domestic tasks. Friends, relatives, scout groups, coaches can help here a lot if you donât have the knowledge or are squeamish.
Give her a spiritual grounding and let her choose her religious beliefs probably at age 16 and donât argue with her about them, but you can ask open-ended questions like, what attracted you to ____, belief system? What made you turn toward or away from your family religious beliefs? What do you think happens when we die? Why? More curious questions (not accusatory ones) work better than statements with kidsâand everyone else too.
Sheâs 12, not a baby! Let her do what she wants to with HER hair. If she doesnât like it, thatâs on her.
Sheâs 12. Not a little child who doesnât understand the consequences. Help her rather than giving her a flat no. Download an app that has all different styles that you can edit a picture of her and add the style to so she can see what style will suit her before she goes for the chop. That way she may find a different style she didnât thought of
Lol when I was like 9 my mom took me to the salon, I was looking through the book and I picked out a full blown Joe Dirt mullet. I got home and sat in the mirror for hours brushing the spiky top of my awesome new hairâ:joy_cat:
Let her do her hair her way. When she get hurt help her deal with it. Please teach her to do what she wants not what other want her to do.
Hair is hair and will grow. At that age kids are defining themselves and their style. You could always try one of those haircut generators so she and you get an idea of what it would look like before making such a big change. Kids are also very sensative to peer ridicule at that age.
My mom made me get a pixie cut at 11 because I have fine hair. I ran out of the salon crying. I hated it. It took a good year + to get it to my shoulders. I was teased a lot. Right in the middle of going through puberty so it was hard.
Pixie haircuts are very easy to maintain. Itâs just hair. It will grow back.
Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. Should I let my daughter choose her haircut?
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My daughter has had boy hair cuts since she had a voice to ask for the type of cut she wants. She currently is growing a mullet with faded sides and a lighting bolt shaved into the sides of her hair. She is 10 and she is her own person. Let your child express themselves. We color, cut, straighten and perm our hair to express ourselves. Good luck momma.
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Yes mine was 5 and wanted her long blonde hair cut short and I didnât really want to let her but she was adamant and was a relief when it was cut she was so happy she didnât have to deal with nots and no screaming to do hair
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