Boy I wish she submitted it herself instead of being a pansy, she know she’s wrong for even asking, that’s why didn’t didn’t post it herself.
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Wow! You are a control freak! “Last ones in the US” right… you know all 328 million peoples last names? Sure… it’s up to your daughter and her soon to be husband not up to you!
When you got married and had a child you basically gave up any right to that last name, you gave that child that last name to do what they want… if your child turned out to be a druggy or a hooker, would you make her get rid of that last name? NO! So let her give it to her husband.
I think it’s sweet. Part of me wishes my husband and I would have taken his moms last name, his dad is a dick and doesn’t deserve us having his last name
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So many women take men’s last names without being asked. I think its amazing he wants to be tied to her and not force her to loose that tie when he has none.
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There is no not letting lol you legally have no say
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t’s not your name. It’s your husband’s and if you got divorced you would revert back to your maiden name - losing your rare last name ! Let your daughter make her own decisions. If she is allowed?
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I say who cares he must love your family enough to want to do that. Or do you just want your daughter to have a different last name also?
I would be proud of him wanting to do that
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I think it should be the daughter and fiance’s choice. I have my husband’s last name and didn’t ask my Mil or my Fil for permission to take their last name.
My soon to be husband ( 2022 ) is taking my last name just because he doesn’t like his side of the family lol ( if he did like his name I’d change mine but i got lucky ) did he ask my dad for permission to change his name no but we as a couple have talked about it a number of times and it’s better him changing to mine than to hyphen the last name 
since neither of us want his last name
Maybe he should take his mother’s maiden name instead. Sounds as if she was very important to him.
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I really want to know her last name to see if it is really uncommon 
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If there are only few left with your last name wouldn’t you want your name to keep going and not die off
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Take his Mother’s last name, should be very meaningful to him. Good suggestion, and I would stick with it.
I guess the way it should be thought of is that a woman takes a man’s name every day when they marry and there’s really no concern over them keeping the name. When my grandmother divorced my grandfather back in the 70s, she kept his last name until she died. She never got remarried or had other children either. I often wondered how my grandfather felt knowing she still had his last name, even after he got remarried. He never said anything, so I can only assume it didn’t bother him. If it did, I know he would’ve said something. He was not a man to hold back any thoughts of his. Lol! In this case, if your future son-in-law keeps the name, I would consider it a compliment.
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Some states allow you to take any last name you want when you get married, both bride and groom. Basically a free name change. It can be groom’s last name, bride’s last name, or ANY name they want!
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My husband took my last name when we got married and now our boys also have my last name. It was important to me to carry on my last name as my nephew’s all have their dads last names.
Honestly she just asked your feelings on it not if it was okay or not. Maybe she asked because she knows you’ll have something bad to say. It’s also HER last name too so she can decide with her husband what is best for them. Mentioning divorce and him having other children is just bad vibes to their marriage already. I think she’s just basically letting you know that is what they are doing and to not say anything negative. You’ll end up loosing your daughter. Let her do what she wants to do and just be happy for her. Damn
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Stop being such a narcissistic freak.
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GTFOH what an ignorant clown. No one owns their last name. It figures you’d post anonymously. It shows you already know how stupid you are for asking this.
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If they end up getting a divorce his last name should go back to his maiden name
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Ive literally seen this exact post posted in so many other groups
I’m just trying to figure out what this last name could possibly be…if it literally belongs to one family in the entire COUNTRY
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Would he change to mum’s name and they both become that last name? I personally would want my name to carry on if they have asked to have it. I plan to take my mum’s last name in the next few years when I can afford to.
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It’s not your choice lol
It’s your daughters choice and his choice. Let’s hear this last name … Cause I’m curious. Mine isn’t common either but I bet it’s not the only one in canada 
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First of all…don’t think it’s your choice. Hahaha
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Maybe hyphenate it?
I wanted to keep myblast name and my husband wanted me to take his. I said I’d give if we could hyphenate them.
He didn’t fall for the compromise so I kept mine and he kept his but our children are all hyphenated
My cousins husband took her family last name
Put it in a prenup that if divorced he has to change his last name back lol
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You don’t own your last name. Anyone can change their name with or without marriage if they want
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My son in law took our last name and we are so so proud of him we love him and glad he thought enough if my daughter to do that
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Wow you must think you’re very special, you’re making a big deal out of a surname.
If your last name is so important then why wouldn’t you want it to be continued instead of forgotten?
He could change his name legally to your last name without your permission regardless.
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Yikes. Just let him take your last name.
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I dont see the big deal honestly. U can think of it as the last name lives on with any males they have. Whether it’s with ur daughter or someone else. I think ur just stuck on the uncommonness (idk if that’s even a word) of it. It’s an odd thing but it happens more often these days. If hes really trying 2 sever whatever ties he has left 2 a family he really doesnt care 4 2 be accepted by urs I would think it was an honor 2 give him the name. As previously stated though it was just ur feelings on it not permission. Her decision will more than likely be based on ur answer.
This is the weirdest post I’ve ever read 
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This post screams YIKES!!! 
Wow…how would you feel if his parents didn’t want your daughter to take his name because they might get a divorce and she could “soil” their name. My nephew and his bride combined their 2 last names.
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I foresee posts about an overbearing mil in the future.
It’s 100%up to them, not you. It’s also a pretty trivial decision to waste a lot of thought on.
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I think you should feel honored that he wants to be a part of your family and share your name. You guys must really make him feel like he has a family he didn’t have before. It will also ensure that the kids he has with your daughter pass along the name since it’s becoming extinct.
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Wow Karen didn’t know you could own a last name. He can change it to anything he wants. You’re lucky they asked how you felt.
Honestly everyone acting like this so ridiculous but this happened to a family I know. A last name was given to a couple ( it was a native name) and they were the only family with this name. When they divorced the wife kept the name even when she remarried and it was a big deal. So I do understand what the original post is coming from. I would just do some version of a prenup that says they will go back to their mother’s name in case of divorce. Most women are expected to do this so idk why a man couldnt. I also see the man point of view. My partner doesn’t associate with his bio dad but has his name. When we had kids we gave them his stepdads name and now he has to change his name before we get married.lol so I would allow him to change his name, it would also continue the line, their grandchildren would have the name(if this couple chose to have children) so that would be special.
Ask your lawyer that would be your best bet
Why aren’t you confident in your daughters relationship, fearing it will end in divorce?
Marriage isn’t a trial run. If she isn’t in a healthy relationship, you should talk with her.
Also, maybe he feels no sense of family from his side and really feels loved from you guys, and would like to complete that by sharing your name. I think that’s a big step for a man.
Only you know him as a person. Just my opinion.
Congrats to them.
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Thats the marrying couples choice.
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What are they? The Targaryens? 
I would be honored and never thinking of a marriage to end before even saying “I do”. This post is weird.
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Already pre-empting a divorce?
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I think it’s up to them
Tbh if my future son in law felt this way I would hug him, treat him no differently than my own child, and probably spoil the hell out of him because what an honor that he loves your family enough (and you) that he wants to be a part of it in that way. He lost his mother. Step up. That’s your new son. 
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Anyone else curious about what the last name is or is that just me?
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I would say it’s mostly up to your daughter 
Let him have your last name. He has no connection to his. If they were to get divorced then he could go back to his original name.
Honestly I’d be flattered and it kind of seems like he feels very comfortable with you guys and wants to really be part of your family.
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It would be an honour for him to take your last name. You are literally gaining a son and not loosing a daughter
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Maybe it’s a good thing. If your name is so uncommon why not help keep the name going y yr daughter and him having babies
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I see nothing wrong with him wanting your last name. I would be honored.
You don’t own the name. He can change his name to whatever he wants.
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To be honest I dont think it’s really up to you 
what they decide to do is their choice he clearly feels very close to your family to want to take it
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Something like half of all marriages end in divorce. To those that comment about them pre-emptiving the divorce… I think it’s more practical thinking
It wouldn’t be up to u anyways that’s their choice get over it
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I highly doubt your family is last in the us with your last name. Why wouldn’t you want your name carried on? I don’t see an issue and if they get divorced she can request in the divorce he change his last name
If you’re so proud of the fact that you’re the last ones with that name wouldn’t you WANT him to take him to contiue the bloodline? Or did you just want it to die out, I’m confused
I say it up to the couple to decide and parents to support them.
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Yes absolutely!! I think it’s a huge compliment for him to want to take your family name. I know someone who did it
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It’s not you decision what last name he takes. Be honoured. Live in the now (he’s a nice guy) not in the future (what if he…)
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I would feel honored honestly. He considers you guys to be his family more than his actual family which shows a lot of love and a lot of trust into you. I’m sure if they were ever to divorce he could go back to using his actual last name, like most women would… it doesnt seem to be that big of a deal to me, I’d say let them do it.
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What if they got married and when she went into to change her name he changed his too? Then they would both have his moms last name. And TBH, so what if they do get divorced and he does have kids with someone else? He’d still always be your daughters baby daddy so if they had kids they would have his last name, so if his last name changed so would his kids with your daughter, ultimately shortening your line even more, which is why I see it as beneficial for him to take yalls last name so he can keep yalls last name alive🤷🏻♀️ if not, yalls line might end in the next 50-100 years
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Imagine if every mother in law was worried about divorce and thought they could decide if the wife to be could have her husbands name or not…
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I would let them. What a sweet offering. Making sure the name lives on
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Absolutely. If they do divorce and he has other children they will be your grandchilds family. I would be honored that he wanted to keep my daughters name because of how much her family means to her and that he wants to be a part of it. It also Carries on your family name since you have a daughter.
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You really don’t have a choice and you should stay out of it
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Don’t think you would really have a choice. Anyone can pick any last name they want. Just be happy for them and don’t automatically think negative that the marriage is going to fail and he’s going to have Babies with someone else.
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It’s their choice. You can have your feelings on it but in the end its their choice to make. Ask if maybe they’d like to hyphenate the names
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Lol FYI anyone can change their last name to yours without your permission, even strangers.
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It’s only up to your daughter and her soon to be husband. I would be honored if a man loved my daughter that much and her family and wanted to take her last name. Don’t look into the negatives like your daughter getting divorced when they aren’t even married yet.
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You don’t get a say lol
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I think it’s an honor 
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I say its only a name and we all end up dead at some point bc no one lives forever so who really cares, its a name let them do it.
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You don’t really have a choice. Any one can choose any last name they want anyways. Also, I think it says a great deal that he is willing to do this. Lastly, the fact that you are already worried about divorce is kind of a negative start to the beginning of your daughters marriage. I sure hope you have not expressed that doubt and negativity to her. I know I would be devastated if my mother expressed those feelings to me before my wedding. 
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It ain’t up to you
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Ummmmm… Its a name hes not asking for a kidney or a blood transfusion… Jesus get over yourself i promise… you are not as important as you feel 
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Surely this is better if your name is so treasured then if they have children they will also have your family name. It’s a perfect way to continue your family name
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Wow, that is not a big deal… It’s their choice if they choose to or not, so be it, they were nice enough to ask your opinion on it…
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He could change his last name to hers before getting married but you obviously don’t know how much that costs and how long of a process that is.
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should you let him? um, that isn’t even your choice. that’s theirs.
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It’s a last name… my last name is uncommon as well. Let the last name live on!
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Imagine how many people have done this sort of thing already…makes you wonder if your last name is even yours at all!
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It’s just a name lol.
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I’m not sure where “let” is even a thing. If they’re grown adults and your daughter is okay with it it’s not really up to you guys. I get they’re trying to be respectful, but it’s ultimately up to them.
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This may be the silliest post I’ve ever read. He doesn’t need anyone permission to change his name. He wants to share a meaningful name with his wife and you’re planning his next marriage?? Doesn’t sound like you like him that much at all.
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There are bigger battles than this, it’s up to the couple what they do in their relationship, at the end the day you have no say whatsoever, I find it incredibly disheartening that you would need so much advice on such a small issue, you like him… BUT having your last name is just too much🤷🏻♀️
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Let him do it he obviously has more of a connection with you family then you think
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It means the name will continue. I wanted my husband to take my last name but noooooooooohe got hurt and now my family name is not continued. 
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It’s up to them tbh. They’re the ones that have to live with the name, not you!
It’s not up to you, monster-in-law
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your family is the last in the USA with this name? hfs that’s hysterical 
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It’s not up to you. It’s up to your daughter and him. She is getting married and leaving the nest mom. If you are the last of your name in the US, what if they have sons? Uour las name woukd be carried on. What he is doing is an honor. But what MIL thinks of divorce before they get married. Sounds like you are not all for them getting married.
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Wow so you already think the marriage will fail… what a great MIL you’ll be .
He is becoming YOUR family regardless.
And if you were SO worried that your the ‘last’ family with this name you should be happy your grandkids will now have the name to continue it on!!!
I just don’t think you like him
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Let him? I’m pretty sure you have no say.
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lol you don’t get to decide.
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I think it’s sweet he wants to take your family 's last name. And if they split up, he can always change it back to his original last name or his mother’s last name. Same as if your daughter were taking his name. Not a big deal.
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Have u heard yourself begrudging your grandchildren your second name
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LOL “let him”?? It’s not your choice
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