someone come get karen shes having a melt down over a last name 
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If they get divorced- then he would change his name back so those children wouldnât get that last name. I mean you can always make him sign something that says if they got divorced he would have to change his name back if youâre that worried he would steal it and run off but usually when people get divorced their names go back to their ââmaidenâ so Iâm not sure what youâre worried about
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A names a name and it doesnât define the person.
WowâŚdouble standard much? Would this be an argument if the genders were reversed? Whatâs the difference in this than the standard of the wife taking the husbands last name?
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Isnât the last name technically your husbandâs? You took it when you got married, correct? So it doesnât belong to you either, correct?
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Well at the end of the day its up to them . i think its neat she gets to keep her last name. My husband grew up kinda same situation except he was in foster care never met his bio dad and his mom left him and his brothers. We have his last name because to him thats something no one could take from him. His bio family is even crap. I think you should sit them down and maybe voice your concerns or maybe make it a thing if they for whatever reason get a divorce he take his own name back just a female can do during divorce if she wants.
I donât believe itâs your choice. If he wants to take her last name, thatâs between the two of them. If they divorce, he can always change it back or change it to his motherâs. If they have kids, be glad their last name is the same as yours.
I think its a very nice thing he wants to do and I would be honoured if one of my daughters partners did this you canât live in the what if thatâs no good for any of you I personally would give them your blessing. People slagging this person off Tey be helpful not hateful
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Let him take it so your last name/family name doesnât die. At least it will be your blood carrying it on.
I think its not your business. Thats between them and youâre being an asshole about it.
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Nah. Heâs hiding from the IRS and child support 
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Do a prenup that says he has to change his name back of they get divorced.
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wow - your not royalty so let it go who cares be happy he actually wants it.
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Why even think of them getting divorced as a possibility? I would be ecstatic he thinks so highly of your family to want to take your last name to begin with.
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This is stupid. Itâs a last name. And if you donât keep sharing it itâll die off and this super duper special last name will die too.
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Iâd say stick to his given name. With the generations that your family has and itâs heritage your family can help him create a great reputation for his own last name⌠a huge blessings to help those who want to be like you. You donât have to give them your name but the reasons behind why itâs great. He should want a great reputation of his last name for his generations that may come after him.
Let? It is a gesture of respect that you were asked, they do not need your permission LOL
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They can both change their last name to his moms at the point of signing the marriage certificate. This also will make him the only male to carry that name for his family and can be used in case of a draft. JS
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Itâs really not up too you though, so take a seat 
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Its only a name 
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Itâs a name ! Get over yourself smh!
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Wow I never comment back on these but damn youâre awful. Sounds like he loves you guys and you should be honored for him to feel that way and want your last name. Anyway not up to you at all so 
I feel for him having no family and loosing the only person he had and somehow you make this about you and negative? Get over yourself and your uncommon last name
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What. Itâs not your decision. Thatâs pretty selfish of you.
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I gotta hear this last name
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I think itâs their decision. It was nice of DD to ask but ultimately, itâs their life.
Theyâre not even married and already been set up to divorce. I think its nice that your daughter asked your thoughts on it, but ultimately its their decision.
Iâm pretty sure you font get a say in this decisionâŚ
Iâm curious now as to what the last name is lol
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It isnât your name either technically speaking bc you were given it from your husband. Correct me if Iâm wrong.
So strange to ask if you should let your daughters soon to be husband take your families last name.
Just my opinion.
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Wow! Iâd be HONORED if someone wanted to take my last name! You sound ridiculous!
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How could you feel anything but honored?! 
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Wouldnât it be better to carry down the family name instead of it disappearing forever
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Not really your choice⌠its between the two people getting married, they are not married yet and you are already thinking of them being divorced 
seriously its a name get over it
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I feel for him marrying into that. It isnât your choice or your marriage. You have also started talking of divorce and they arenât even married yet. Please step down off of your high horse
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Fucking hell the desperate way people try to cling on to feeling special is baffling.
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Whats your last name?
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I highly highly doubt ur the âlAsT onEs WiTh ThAT NaMeâ . Grow the hell up.
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Not your decision to make
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Ive never heard of this the name doesnt matter their happiness and a successful marriage is what matters pray on that nothing else
Iâm fairly certain this isnât your choiceâŚ
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Let him have the name. He has a good reasoning. Plus, it isnât really up to you.
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I think it would be a honor that he wants your last name and for her to keep hers.
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I would think you would feel honored and then if they have children the last name will still continue on.
Wow his wanting to join your family in an extra way and letâs face it if they have kids they will also get âyourâ last name which will mean it lives on for longer and surely thatâs a good thing, saves it becoming extinct because itâs such an âuncommonâ last name
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There are so many other things to stress about⌠I feel like this is just dumb
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Get over yourself. Iâm sure your last name ainât that great and thereâs deff someone out there with it already. News flash, your daughters future husband is gonna be part of your family.
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Itâs not your decision
Is your last name attached to some money . Lmao I wish I only had these kind of worries 
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Sure! He can always change his last name if they get divorced. But, I donât think yours or anyone elseâs opinion matters! Itâs between them!
I tried to talk my husband into taking my last name⌠kind of the same story. I would have loved him to take my name.
I would feel honored.
Also to point on something said earlier. Try and think about if the grooms mother sat there and tried to deem wether your daughter was worthy or not of taking their last name because if they get divorced? Thatâs not how it works.
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Yes? This is a no brainer! What if his parents were asking if they should let your daughter take their name? Yâall are not even in this decision, your daughter is.
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I would be honored especially if you had no sons to carry on the name & your grandbabies are going to carry on also
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That which we call a rose by any other name would smell as sweet
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âLetâ honey thats not up to youâ:rofl:
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Itâs not really up to you. 
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Last time I checked, you donât get to make that decision lol but thatâs really petty!
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I would be asked the oldest living relative connecting to the name for permission but thats just me.
If I were the person who got to make that decision and that was the only excuse for it not to be a name he could have, then Iâd allow it 
When you divorce you usually go back to your Previous name unless children are involved�
Seriously? You all really like him yet not good enough to carry the name. Kinda selfish
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It diesnt even come down to what you want or how you feel. Its not really even your choice. Its really up to them because THEY are getting married- hes not marrying yall, hes marrying her
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Iâm not seeing much support here in the âitâs not up to youâ theme.Him taking her name is not very traditional, thatâs for sure. I think these days with the mixed family structures it is more common than before, but there are different stipulations as you mentioned (other children). I understand your mixed emotions. Perhaps sit the down and tell stories of the family and the pride that is attached to it. Let him understand that there is a responsibility that comes along with taking on that family name/pride and he would now be expected to uphold that image. If, in the future something does happen, your daughter can request he change his name back in the divorce. I have see. That done.
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This is stupid⌠Who cares what their last name is as long as their happy and healthyâŚ
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Wouldnt even be something i would need to think about if my daughter or son asked me that. The answer would be YES
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If they get divorced then he would take his name back from before marriage
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Um thereâs no âletâ they can decide what to do with THEIR last name.
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SeriouslyâŚwho the hell says that. If anything you should feel honored that he would want to take your families last name especially with his reasoning. Get over yourself. Youâre already paving the way to a bad relationship along with a potential non-existent one with your daughter with that piss poor selfish attitude!! Honestly if i was him and knew this now, id have second thoughts of even marrying into a family like this!!
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Heck yeah! Then your grandbabies get your last name! And Iâm shocked she asked permission thank God my in-law family didnât put me under a microscope and decide if I was worthy to take their last name .
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Between her an him tbh, this acctually tickled me (canât put my finger on why) hope your daughter makes the right decision for her soon to be husband 
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We are the last ones in america with that last name omg get over your damn self.
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âWorry theyâre going to get a divorceâ? I think you have more issues going on than preserving a name.
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Itâs not really up to you. It is your daughterâs decision. And anyone, has the right to go down to the courthouse and change their last nAme to whatever he/she wants, that includes your last name. Get over yourself 
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He should take his motherâs maiden name
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Its not your choice nor do you have any say in it.
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You sure he isnât trying to hide⌠from a wife, kids⌠js
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If you are the last with that last name, then Iâd think youâd maybe want to keep that name going if they decide to have children
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This is why people have issues with their MILâs lol. Jesus. Imagine if his mom didnât want her to take his last name
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Itâs really not your choice, your daughter was probably just being nice and asking about your feelings, but in all reality, it isnât your choice or call! And secondly, the fact that youâre worried they might get divorced and they arenât even married raises some red flags, no?! 
Way to put such a negative vibe on their relationship from the get-go!
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Itâs not the parents choice.
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I think this is great and you should be very proud. You and your family mean so much to him that heâs willing to break the tradition and go with love.
I think itâs a great thing.
Donât think about the what ifâs in a negative way, this is such a positive thing! 
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Iâve literally not heard something so selfish in a while 
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I would tell the truth on how youâre feeling. I would not want my husband to have my last name if my family were being pricks about it! And I damn sure would not want my kids to have their last name either.
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I HATE marriage. In my personal opinion I think itâs a waste of money and Iâd rather $20K+ go towards a new mortgage & Range Rover. BUT! In saying that, if I were to get married I would love for my partner to take my last name, his name just has to be Ryan so then I can say Iâm married to Ryan Gosling 
My name isnât your usual name itâs actually âGosling-Boysâ no one would take that, even I hate it. Thatâs an uncommon name!
So if youâre the âonlyâ one in USA left with this âuncommonâ name, feel privileged he wants to take it and take on your family. He shouldnât be wanting to be involved in such a family if theyâre gonna be petty over a last name carry.
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I donât get this. Women take a different name every single day. Never been a problem. And if they divorce, itâs pretty simple to change your name back. Most dont even keep their married name after divorce so as to cut all ties. Is this solely because heâs a man? I guess I just donât see a problem. 
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I would stay out of the decision. You donât âown rightsâ to the last name. Let them figure out whatâs best for them.
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Suggest him change his name to his Mothers as Iâm sure she would be honored. Itâs a simple process and he can most likely fill the forms himself and pay the small fee to legally change his name. Then your daughter can take his last name.
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Itâs none of your business and up to the husband and wife. You gave your daughter that name and she is allowed to give it away. My husband and I both hyphenated Myname-Hisname.
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You donât have a say in what he chooses to change his last name to. He isnât marrying you. He is marrying your daughter. Wow.
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Iâm more curious as to what this last name is and how she believes itâs the last one in the whole entire country !! Get over yourself its just a name nothing special!
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Suggest they take on his mothers maiden name to start their own family or new name which is a mix of maiden name and yours
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The last name is so rare that youâre cool with your daughter losing it and changing it to something else, but youâre not okay with another individual gaining it? Did you get this last name yourself through marriage though? If so, then howâs it different for her husband to get the last name through their marriage?
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Well unfortunately for you, you canât control that technically. If they want to they can do it, you canât stop them unless you ask and they respect your request. But your reasoning behind not wanting him to is just plain childish and uglyđ¤ˇââď¸ maybe grow up a little before giving your opinion on the matter because clearly your head isnât straight. Is it just because heâs a man? Imagine the roles reversed? What if this was your daughter wanting to take his last name and the parents said "no I donât think thatâs a good idea in case you get divorced because our family name is one of the last in the US. Sounds crude and selfish right?
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Pretty sure that is their decision. Youâre lucky she asked you at all. Donât be so bitter Karen
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Wether or not they get married he or anyone else can chanhe their name to whatever extra special magical name you have.
You donât âlet someoneâ have a name. They can legally have it if they want it. Not your decision whatsoever.
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Lmao! Honestly it isnât your issue. If his fiance is ok with it thatâs all that matters. Donât be a nosey mother in law.
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Pretty sure you can by law use either name âŚhis or her last name âŚI would look into it because I do believe it can go either way
Didnât you take the name when you married your husband? So how do you have rights. Overbearing MIL you sound like. The poor lad just wants to belong and actually have a last name that means something to him. And yet your more worried about if they divorce⌠When people divorce they usually go back to their names before 
it should be your daughter and your son in laws choice not yours whatever they decide you should support them. Canât believe your even thinking of divorce before theyâve even got married. Iâd be sad if you were my mum ngl
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Wait youâre gatekeeping a name from your grandkids essentially, Incase they split up and he has kids with someone else? That is mentally your plan for the marriage at this point? Thatâs the level of faith you have ? Lol I canât imagine being that sad.
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This shouldnât even be a question. Guess what, not your choice. How would you feel if this was reversed and they didnât want your daughter to have their last name. Youâd be pissed off and out for blood because of the disrespect and you have the audacity to act like thatâŚsmdh, glad I ainât married into your family. If you think that highly of your last name. Go copyright it so nobody gets your name without your expressed consent.
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