It’s a name… who cares. Get over yourself 
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You are already not being a nice MIL. “Should I let”?.. when you made the choice to have kids, these decisions went right out of your hands.
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Get over it. Let him take it. It’s not your marriage!
Yeah… no. It’s nothing to do with you. You’re not the one getting married. Talking about being the as$hole in law 
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He can change his name to whatever. You don’t really have a say. I don’t even think it would concern you at all if it were your son’s fiancé. Yes men do change their last names too.
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Its between your daughter and her fiance.
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Youre honestly worried over nothing
I read the first sentence. I don’t need to read anymore. Yes. You should. Its just a name.
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Its not your choice. If that is what they decide to do. Then support them. And the fact that you are already thinking about divorce and the possibility of it doesn’t make you very supportive of their relationship
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Dont be petty be honored. Your grandsons will carry your last name.
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I’m wondering how you’d feel if your daughters soon to be in laws wouldn’t want her to take his name because its super special and they’re the last family in the entire nation with that last name?! You’re being ridiculous. And I’m sure they asked you out of respect but it’s ultimately their decision to make. Plus I’d really like to know your last name,I’m looking into changing mine and wanted a super unique one🤣
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Guess what u have no say so 
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My cousin recently got married in NY and him and his wife combined their last names, the judge told them they can choose whatever last name they wanted as a married couple.
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Learn to pick your battles
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Let him ?? you can’t stop him. I’m sorry but if he wants to change his name there is nothing you can do about it.
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I mean. It’s not up to you. Just stay in your place and let them do as they please. They’re the ones getting married.
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Omgg you sound bitter this isn’t your decision & you should support whatever decision your daughter makes this is seriously ridiculous
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Holy crap, why on earth do you feel like you have power or control over something like that?? That’s an incredibly flattering and awesome thing for a MAN to take his wife’s surname. Stop raining on their parade.
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Why not he already said he doesn’t have any family and he’s not tired to anyone so what’s the difference if he takes your name he just wants to be able to be part of a family cuz he really doesn’t have any
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Ok so if you’re still married to your husband isn’t it his last name not yours so your point is invalid. Now if you’re a single mother and raised your child and she has your family name I’d feel honored.
Do women have to ask their male partners parents permission to take their last name?? No. This is silly. No one is going to taint your last name 
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They can do what they want. They were nice enough to ask you. They could also mash up both names and make something up making an even more uncommon name. You say you’re the last family in the USA with that name and you would keep your grandchildren from having it in case they get divorced and he has more children? What is wrong with you?
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He can do what ever he wants its a free country.
Don’t jinx them by talking about divorce! He’s trying to honor your family.
You should be supportive and speak life upon their marriage, not already talking if they divorce.
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I really don’t understand the concern…if you’re the very last family with your name, wouldn’t you want your legacy to live on. How did your in-laws feel about you taking their name? You don’t have a say, you have an opinion…which you should probably learn to keep yourself. A marriage is between a wife and a husband…overbearing in-laws ruin it.
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A lot of these comments are rude. I would be honored because he’s telling your daughter how he feels from his heart.
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You’re acting like you own this last name and no one can have it unless you say so. Seems really weird to me.
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This is ridiculous. Just because it happens to be your last name doesnt mean he cant use it. It’s just a name you cant “let him” do anything.
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Unless your last name is Kardashian or something important I don’t see it being a big deal. I’m sure some parents of the groom don’t want to share their last name with the bride but it’s life and he has just as much right to her last name as she does his.
I’d be honored he’d want to do it
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- Like others said if your daughters future mother in law was alive would you want her to treat your daughter the way you are treating her son? 2. God forbid they get divorced part of the divorce she could always put her terms with he goes back to his last name. 3. Why are you bringing such negative thoughts about divorce into the air?
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I just wanna know what the name is now 
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I would feel honored some one wanted to carry on the family name, regardless what happens down the road, the name lives on.
My opinion is you’ve got zero control over this. Or if they divorce later on. Sheesh
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If they get divorced(which btw is a shitty thing to even breathe into existence with your own freaking daughter) he would just get his maiden name back. Just like a woman can way to start off the relationship with your SIL in a shitty ass way.
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Is it your maiden name? Like it’s not even your name if you married into it lol
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I can read between the lines… Mama aint crazy. Daughter’s fiance might be a not so good pick, but Mom can’t make thay decision so she’s going with the flow ans being supportive. Although she can’t “let” him take the name, it’s the daughter’s decision- it’s a reason she feels like this. I think the fiance may be a scrub and Mom senses it…
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Ok if in the future he ever got divorced this last name would change back to his maiden name
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Sounds like you’re expecting a divorce
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You should have no say. That is your daughters choice.
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If the name is so umcommon etc, why would you not want him to take the last name so once they have children the name can still be carried on…
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It’s not really your business or decision. There is no “letting” them. You have 0 control over that
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IF and this is a big IF cuz not every marriage ends in divorce… He can go back to his “maiden” name he doesn’t have to keep the name. But be honored that he wants to take your name. I honestly wish my husband took mine 
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You are very selfish and obviously do not care about the happiness and longevity of your daughters marriage. You should feel ashamed for even asking this question on social media!
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Him taking the last name is actually a wonderful thing! I can not believe you wouldn’t want the name to live on!!
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It’s not really your choice.He can change his name to whatever he chooses and dies not need anyones concent.The only legal stipulation is that it is not being used to defraud people.
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Wow. Folks here are vicious. I am also an only last name family member. A cousin by marriage changed his name to ours. My dad didn’t take it well at all.
You don’t have the choice to let him take you family name. But out of their business
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What are you a Windsor?
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My husband took my last name, which is a combination of my mom and dads before they were married in 1995. I can’t see my first and middle name with anyone else’s last name. He isn’t attached to his last name so he was happy to take mine. I say go for it!
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This has Mayfair witches vibes!
Wow these are some hateful comments. Yall should be ashamed
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Um, not really your decision what they do…
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Sound like you already have sons? an heir and a spare to carry last name? Name wont be going far if they all have girls??
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And if he decides one day he doesn’t care for the way you care for his kids… he doesn’t like yiu enough to be granny… shame on you… pushing your daughter away as well…
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So you have a last name that’s unique or do you just think it is
You sound mighty selfish and wishing the marriage to fail before it begins.
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“Should I let my daughters fiance…”
It’s not your choice! It’s his or hers! Mind your own business. Crazy.
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Its your daughters and soon to be son in laws choice…
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Yikes. That’s up to them, you’ve like ZERO say in it…betcha if it were your son you’d accept it. Honestly that’s just super small and closed minded.
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I’d be honored and you should be too. I’m sad that your already thinking of there demise (divorce 
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This is only their choice 
don’t panic, let them make their decisions by themselves, they are not babies anymore
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It’s just a name for gods sake. Feel honored he wants to use it instead of making a big deal out of it.
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Not only is that a huge compliment but as stated your family is the last one in the USA with it. Your daughter will be able to keep the family name going if they decide to have children. If she took his last name then I assume their children would have his last name as well.
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Unique last name?? Lol I’m curious 
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Well they did ask you for your opinion. I think you should let him take it.
I can understand where you’re coming from. I divorced my husband but kept his last name and now have a son(by a different guy) but my son has my last name, my ex’s family and I are still super close so they consider my son their grandkid and don’t care that he has their last name but if you’re worried about it there’s always a chance he would go back to his original last name IF they divoced
So women take men’s last names all the time when married . It sounds ridiculous not wanting him to take your “special last name” thinking about them getting a divorce already and him having kids with some one else is far fetched .
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Just curious… But what’s this last name???
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She asked your opinion, not permission… get over yourself with this “should I let” b/s because in the end it’s not your choice. And also, if they did happen to get divorced and he remarried (which is sad you’re already thinking about) I highly doubt their kids would get his previous wife’s last name. That’s literally the dumbest thing I’ve ever heard.
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Yikes! I understand the pride, usually these emotions are felt without saying. So I’m sure he feels it already. I think trust that his intentions are true with your daughter and this marriage is for life. Any children from him are half his and half your daughters. His view is valid too, not wanting his wife and children to have a name he doesn’t associate with. Should be the focus in his family unit.
If they get divorced…
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What if they don’t get divorced and spread the family name proudly? I think worrying about the “what if’s.” Is more added stress.
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Their unique name is 
smith
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Isn’t really your choice now is it?
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All I can think of is Chad Ochocinco!
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If he is confident in wanting your last name, I don’t see why you think divorce is even on their minds. That’s pretty hurtful that you’re thinking that. Marriages actually can last you know…
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I don’t think it’s up to you… nor should it be. It sound like an honor that he wants to anyway. And starting out a marriage concerned about divorce? That’s a terrible attitude.
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Is it really that important over your daughter happiness?? You seem to be planning the divorce already!! Shouldnt you feel honoured that your very unique and dying last name will be carried on??? I’m not entirely sure what the issue is!!
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The best part if they have kids the kids get to carry on your last name.
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You don’t own your last name, wtf am I reading.
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Really the only one,? 
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For real? You don’t want him to take your last name cuz it’s “unique”?? Like??? That is an extremely selfish thought to have, it’s literally a name. A NAME. I mean it’s sweet and honestly sad that he wants to abandon his last name cuz of family complications. It also isn’t your choice… And you really shouldn’t have a say. If they are gonna get married they will share many personal things. You just need to step back and not try to control a situation that has nothing to do with you. It’s their life.
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Ummm if they get divorced, his name would go back to his maiden name
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You do realize when people get married they can choose any last name they want. It doesn’t have to be either of their family names. Total strangers could decide they want your last name.
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There getting married not you. It’s up to them! Thinking about divorce before there even married is toxic.
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He’s probably wanted in some state and is trying to hide from it.
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Bridezilla or nah?
There’s a name for people like you, it ain’t bridezilla, I’ll be back once I remember! 
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Honestly if I were them in this situation, I’d pick whatever last name I liked best, or make up a completely new last name, and change BOTH of our names!
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My girlfriend for married and her husband took her last name because of this 
He is not taking your last name. He taking (sharing) your daughters. It is no different than her taking his.
You don’t and shouldn’t have any say in the matter.
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Well, there is no “let”. Legally he can change his name to any name and no one owns a name to give permisssion. It should be a decision between the couple, and only the couple, what they want their individual and family name to be. If they want their family name to be that, it should be.
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How would you feel if the mans family didnt want your daughter to take their last name🤔 you would be outraged and probably question the whole relationship between the 2.
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Wow, you’re bothered by a LAST NAME? What in the world are we coming too. Oh and if they divorce, he can go back to his maiden just like your daughter would, if she was to take his! This isnt first world problems, there is much BIGGER things to worry about than a man taking your daughters last name:woman_facepalming:
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at least if he carrys your name an they get divorced your name still carrys on if he chooses to keep it when he has children… at least they asked its not the end of the world, id let him…
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How do you know for a fact that you only have this last name in the whole USA? Just think, your daughter and her man could take any other last name they choose. Can you picture your daughter with the last name of Smith or Jones or Shunk? They can literally pick their own last name! Wouldn’t you want your daughter to carry on your lineage? To carry on your precious name?
Wow… I’d make up a name if I were him, dunno if I’d want to be associated with y’all anyway 
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I think you would be honored that he wants to take your last name! Why in the world would you even entertain a notion of him divorcing and getting remarried with children? Oh PLEASE! I dang sure wouldn’t worry about that… NEVER BORROW TROUBLE! If he feels unwelcomed and not loved and respected then you WILL have major trouble! He is asking because he has no family… he looks at you as his family and wants to be a included in it to the point of taking your last name! Ease up! Feel blessed and honored!
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None of your business really love