They don’t need your permission, you don’t get to “let” him take his wife’s name or not. It’s not your choice to make, not even your business to have an opinion anywhere but inside your own head. Stand down, dear.
YIKES. Already planning for them to get divorced and him to have children with another woman. Yikes yikes yikes. You sound like a fun MIL. 
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Wtf that isn’t you choice!!!
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How do you think you even have an opinion on this?
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Really… Get a fucking grip he can call himself any name he likes whether u like it or not I really he hope he changes it to princess banana hammock or crap bag just to piss u off
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It’s really his choice what name he wants to take or not take… 
I think it’s very sad that he honored your family in such a way for you to be so flippant about it. That’s actually horrible.
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You seem like a bitter MIL and like you’re already hoping for their downfall. I’d be mortified if you were my MIL.
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So it would be ok for your daughter to take his last name but he cant take yours? Honestly that’s childish. I’m sure other people have your last name. There are billions of people in the USA. Do you try to control their relationship the same way your trying to control who’s last name who has??
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Not necessarily your last name either assuming you married and took his last name but anyway your already planning the demise of the relationship why even let it happen
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I would be excited someone else could carry on my last name. I still have my ex’s last name. We’ve been separated for over 3 years. It’s an odd one… “Sweetser” I just have my maiden name on fb right now because I am now in a relationship with someone else and thought it would be weird to leave my facebook as Kasey Sweetser lol I’m still close with my ex’s family though, but left him because he was abusive. His family is thrilled I’m still a Sweetser! They love it… I really don’t think it’s up to you… not trying to be mean… it’s up to your daughter. And it’s kind of sad you’re already thinking about them divorcing and him marrying someone else. I feel like that would hurt your daughter.
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He doesnt need your permission. Lol. He just has to go to court and legally change his name. He can change it to almost anything.
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How about changing your perspective…he takes your families last name and gives you grandchildren who now carry on the name!?
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I mean…it really isn’t up to you! He can choose any name he likes… In fact… I might change my name to your surname too… You know, why the heck not? Come on… Tell me… What is it? 
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I’m sorry, “let” him? You have no say! He could go to the courthouse tomorrow and petition to change his last name to yours without even getting married!
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There nothing wrong with it! Like you said… y’all are the only ones with it why not carry on your last name with your grandchildren! 
It should be an honor & feel great that man wants to take your daughters name! That is very unusual & unique!
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It is entirely his and your daughters choice. I’m sorry but you should have no say in this. If anything it should be up to your daughter.
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Um. Yes you should. Why is this an issue?
I think he was showing you respect even to ask but it also shows how much he loves your daughter. What’s the difference his talking her name or she his? I think it’s a nice gesture and shows how much he likes your family.
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Very interested and very progressive of him. I’d be honored he thought so much of my family he’d like to take our name. Take into consideration I think it’s ridiculous that a woman changes her name when she gets married. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 20 years and have 2 children. They have both of our last names. FYI I have a brother and sister who are very traditional. I guess I’m the odd sheep!
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Huh? Lmao he doesn’t need your permission.
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Its just a name. It doesn’t change who you are and who they are. If anything id be flattered. But you seem more concerned with a potential breakup.
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Ummmm are you kidding me
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I’d just like to know what this “so special” last name is that y’all are the only people in the USA left with?
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It is not your decision, but good try.
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He doesn’t need tour permission and clearly asked as a courtesy. If you like him why are you even thinking about divorce. Why not think about the children your daughter will have with him? It’s an opportunity to carry on your last name versus it dying with her (assuming you have no sons).
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Wow. I have no words.
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It’s just a name my name isn’t exactly a common last name either but I’m not going to be pissed about somebody taking my last name. I’m pretty sure if they did divorce he would not want to keep her last name
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I cant believe this is even a question
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If I were in HIS shoes, I’d hate to marry into your family if this is the way you are… Wowza…
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Not to be rude but this isn’t your decision and it doesn’t even concern you. You should be proud that they asked your opinion to begin with. Give them your blessing and move on. They your daughter and grandchildren will keep your last name as well.
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What did I even read? I’m hoping this is fake and someone doesn’t TRULY think this way.
Ridiculous of someone to even think this way in my opinion
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Why would you even put that bad karma out there before they’re married??? This poor guy has literally no family, loves your daughter, loves your family he wants to take your name, and you talk about them divorcing? I wouldnt allow you at my wedding or be around in my life if you were my mom. Sick!
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What a biiiiiiiiiiii, I mean seriously, you are essentially waiting on your daughters marriage to fail. It is your daughters last name too and honestly you should feel lucky they asked you.
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It’s a dang name, lady. Let the guy have it if he wants it.
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“Let” dude it’s just a name and you don’t own it
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It’s honestly sad that you’re more worried about the hypothetical demise of their marriage hurting your last name than welcoming this man to carry on the last name as your daughter’s life partner.
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Why jump to “if they get divorced & he has children with someone else”? What about if your daughter has his children & then your grandchildren would carry your name?
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If they get a divorce he would not keep your last name he would go back to whatever name he chose, even his mother’s.I would think you’d be honored if he wanted to take your family’s name and come into your family.
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It’s funny cause arnt you married to your husband and isn’t that his last name anyways?
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I don’t see the problem. It would be an awesome an i would feel honored that they’d want to do that. Why should it matter anyone . Let them decide what they want to do .
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i don’t even wanna get involved in last name debates. i can only imgaine the talk, i don’t hear about me … 
I think what you suggested about his mother’s last name (pre marriage) would be a great way to honor her. My son kept his last name when we adopted him. He was the last to have his family name. I think it’s odd to take the name of the family of his wife.
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This is a joke… right lol 
He’s a grown ass man, and you DO NOT get to tell him what to do with his own name. He should take this as a huuuuuuge red flag and run for the hills while he can!!!
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…literally anyone can change their last name to whatever this “rare last name” is. I could make it mine out of spite if I wanted to!
I don’t understand why she’s ok with the dude marrying her daughter, but is possessive of the last name? Very warped priorities that I just don’t understand.
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Read the first line… its not upto you
Hopefully he realizes how selfish you are !! Then him and your daughter run far far away n live happily ever after!
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“On the next episode of toxic mother in laws…”
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“Our family is the last ones in the USA with this last name”
Now makes me wonder what that last name is😂
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Wow! How welcoming you are to your new son in law! Don’t be such a snob! Get over yourself. It’s not your decision anyway.
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I don’t see problem your reasons are a joke I really hope this post is dam joke
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If they got married and she took his last name, your “heritage” dies right there.
Him taking your last name is a way the name continues on.
I will also say, you’re more worried about a name than the happiness of your daughter and future son in law. I feel like that says a lot about you as a person.
Just tell them no. Because I feel like if you say yes, you’ll punish and resent this man unnecessarily for the rest of his life and that’s not fair to him or your daughter.
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It’s not up to you that’s a decision between him and your daughter. You truly don’t have a say.
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I honestly love the idea!! More personal to the situation!
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Since when do you think you even have a damn say?!
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It’s not even her last name. It’s her husband’s last name she’s just married in like the boyfriend would be. Selfish much?! It’s not even her name by blood it’s the fathers so he should make this decision of such a precious and golden name as the mother is making it out to be. So damn petty! Like someone else says do they have a Golden plaque of such a rare last name and being the last of it in the USA?
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My nieces husband,took ,her last name, none of us have any issues with it.
Not your decision to make. He’s joining your family, the idea is be part of that family. Sorry not sorry
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My husband took mine for similar reasons and it’s perfectly fine 
Shes good enough to take his name but you don’t want him to have yours…shame on you.
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Why is this even an issue? If you don’t care and will be supportive regardless of their decision, why bother getting the opinions of others?
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I would be honored that he wanted to do that and my fiancé and I agree that’s respectful of him since his name doesn’t mean to him what it should
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To be honest, you should be flattered and honoured that they want to carry on your family name. They didn’t have to come to you and even tell you that they were thinking of doing this. They don’t NEED your permission. Be happy and thankful that your daughter found someone who is like this as most men dong even think of this kind of option.
While I agree that he could change his name prior to getting married to his mothers last name, he might feel closer to your family at this point in his life.
If he were your son and marrying someone you likely wouldn’t even question that other person changing their name to yours, so why is this different?? 
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Should u let him? It’s not up to u
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If my husband wasn’t in the military when he got married he was gonna take my last name… which was Landavazo. I was actually talking to my dad about it today. 11 years and 4 soon to be 5 kids later and he told me if we still wanted to be Landavazo he would pay for the name change. In most Spanish speaking countries the male does take the mothers last name because the children tend to be around the mother’s family more.
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I feel for this guy. His mum has passed away, he doesn’t have anything to do with his dad. And THIS is the family/mother in law hes going to be marrying into.
BTW gf it isn’t your name, you married the guy with the surname. You need to get over your bitter ass self. Does it get you points when people ask for your name? Money off coupons? Fml.
My other half wants my surname when we marry cos he thinks its cool. Bless him
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I just want to know what this last name is that’s the last one in the USA.
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It’s really not your place. Your last name dies unless he does take it. He can also change his last name if they get divorced.
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Honestly ANYONE could change their name to your last name if they wanted to. You have zero say in it. I could go change my name to whatever I wanted including YOUR last name. Ridiculous. He doesn’t even have to marry her to change it to your last name if he really wanted to.
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This is insane. YOU took the name. From other people who took the name. and, this is very controlling, rude, pretentious, pessimistic…
I wanna know this very last one in the USA too Autumn Farrell ! 
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Seriously, usually the girls take on their husband’s name so what’s the difference?! 
If you had true love for your family surely you would the family name to live on …
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I had a very uncommon last name which now my sister only has now. When she marries that will be the end of the name so if u want to keep your name around, it would be a great way for it to be passed on. I wish my husband would have kept my last name other than it being on family trees where only family historians will see it.
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Umm… he doesn’t need your permission to take the last name. And wtf. Lol if it were your son instead of your daughter would you be saying the same thing??
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I’ll say this. My dad was the only male child in his nuclear family and my sister and I both went on to take girls who have their dads’ last names. I regret now not giving them hyphenated names, because now it pretty much ends with us (not including extended family I don’t really know or talk to) and that makes me kind of sad.
If your daughter was your son instead and marrying a woman would you feel the same way? If they were to divorce and she didn’t change her last name back and had children with another man and didn’t use his last name would be the same concept.
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You seem like elitist trash. I wouldn’t want your last name. And I doubt its that uncommon
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Boy, you sound so snooty. You’re lucky he wants your name. who tf knows their last name is the last in the USA? Good lord get a grip Karen youre nuts. Also, none of this concerns you. Neither of them need your permission for anything. Stay in your lane
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Dude so your okay with your “special” last name ending then - assuming you don’t have any other children and assuming they’ll produce boys. Because they might be the only ones to carry on your last name. My husband took my last name and my family was so excited. Your crazy.
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Pretty sure you cant not let him
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Let him? It’s not up to you.
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Why is it your decision
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I’m a traditionalist, he should keep his last name.
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I don’t see why you wanna hold onto your last name like it will kill you if someone who respects your last name to want it to share it with you. And don’t assume that they may get divorced. Don’t even voice that theory around them. It causes uneeded stress and sadness.
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If you have a son and he gets married wouldn’t his wife take his last name? What’s the difference?
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Its really none of your business, thats between your daughter and her soon to be husband.
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Or maybe you can get the stick out your ass and have them decide what they want to do?! I wouldn’t want you as a mother in law lmao
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Let…? Um, you don’t have a say in his last name. How about you,accept his as a part of your family, sounds like he needs it.
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Sounds like this is his way of blending in the family, since he doesn’t have his own. He’s still looking for acceptance.
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Like its not up to you its up to your daughter if he takes her name or her his. 
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There is nothing you can do if he wants to take your last name
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My husband took my last name everyone was so happy. you sound like a real piece of shit though and its not your choice. I wouldn’t want any part of me especially my name to be associated with you what so ever
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Let? How would you stop them?
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Just like a woman is expected to take the mans last name, the guy can take her last name no matter what you think.
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My opinion is stfu and quit acting like your opinion means more than shit because it doesn’t
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…its not your decision to make…
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I’m more concerned about the fact the this person is already prepared for their daughter to get divorced before she is even married. Sounds TOXIC AF.
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I’d think you’d be more happy about possible future grandchildren having your last name that you seem very happy and proud of rather than worrying about possible non blood related children having it if the worst case scenario happened…
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