It may “only” be out of socket this time but what about next time? Broken? I wouldn’t need to think about something like that, the report would have been done right then and there in that hospital! My mom thought things through my entire childhood and my step dad got away with it all! I will always defend my children and never worry about someone losing their job! She hurt your son, file that report!
REPORT IT, if it was an accident she would have just said that, not lied
They need to loose their job what’s wrong with you don’t you care about your baby
Mama call and report it. It’s better to report it and be wrong that not report and be sorry. My sons school psychologist was doing testing and he says she slapped him and told him he was bad. Something Clearly happened as he won’t be alone with any other teacher now he freaks out. please mama report this.
Children throws themselves dramatically all the time. It takes some real force to pull the elbow out of socket.
It is so nice of u to think of the teacher’s future 
. If the child pull him arm away then it could be an accident because the teacher might not be aware at that point of time that the child is gonna react like that. Maybe u wanna call the sch and ask that u wanna see the cctv, if they dun allow then u can report it. And at any point of the time u find the teacher is not at fault, u can withdraw the case.
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I would request to see the camera footage.
However, i worked in a preschool for 2 years with that age group, and they specifically warn against lifting children by the hands because Nurse’s elbow is extremely common and happens easily.
I would never ever hold any child’s hand so tight that if they were to get upset and drop to the ground their hand wouldn’t slide out if mine.
Accident or not, the teacher is responsible for any and all injuries that occur in her classroom.
Make the police report and let the cops figure it out.
File a police report
Imagine how hard you have to yank a child’s arm to pull the elbow out of socket, that’s not normal.
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They would be paying my er bill #1. How do u dislocate a toddlers elbow by him falling on the floor? You would have let go unless you were dragging him.
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Definitely report it, it should be documented and see if you can review recordings to see how it happened. But if it’s nursemaid’s elbow, it can happen pretty easily on some kids. It happened when my daughter was 2 or 3, I held her hands as she jumped out of a seat, she went sideways and immediately started crying. I was always very careful after that, as it can happen again more easily once it’s happened one time. So I never played by holding her from arms to swing her or anything like that.
She needs to loose her job
There should be cameras. They have to show them to you.
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Report immediately! Allow the authorities to sort it out. They should have cameras to view. No one who is capable of harming a child deserves the privilege of being in their presence. Next time may be far worse. Dont allow such a chance. Much peace and love ☆
Be careful…once it’s been pulled out it will happen easier next time. That’s a hard one…my 8 year old pulled his sisters out by pulling her up a slide.
Girl make that report! They will investigate! Your baby comes first! I would be pissed!!!
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Report it; always listen to your babies!!! If you don’t advocate this time, your child could lose their sense of trust, safety, and be further traumatized due to realizing that the one person that was supposed to protect them and speak up; failed to do so. Accident or not, the cops will review footage (if any) and investigate. Either way, your baby needs to have that reassurance that they can always tell you someone hurt them and trust that you’ll take care of them and protect them, if need be 
you got this Mama
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I’m sorry I’m confused…you’re asking for advice whether to put the welfare of your child and possibly other children first or the welfare of a teacher?! Your child has been hurt and can you imagine the pain he is going through…every adult let alone parent has a duty to protect children from harm…face the truth and report her.
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Most definitely report. I was close with a daycare worker who ended up hurting my child. I couldn’t believe she did it but I reported anyway and the police eventually got her to confess. The daycare had multiples reports after that for other children being abused. Do what’s best for the children.
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Accident?? How fo you accidentally dislocate a child’s elbow? This person shouldn’t be allowed to work around children
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R u serious 
your worried about the teacher losing her job? 
this post has got to be made up:woozy_face:
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Hell yeah. If you grabbed my child hard enough to pull out of the socket. hell naw. That’s wild.
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I would report it. If it was truly an accident, it will be found out. You need to do right by your kid and report it.
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My middle child has loose joints and has dislocated her own elbow once when she got stuck trying to take her jacket off. Sounds impossible but she was alone in a room at the time it happened. Saying that, the teacher shouldn’t have yanked your child. I would try and find out if your child has the same thing (for future knowledge) but would still take it further with the daycare x
Report it, always listen to your child .
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Report. Check the cameras. Bless you, I hope your baby is ok.
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Your child’s arm was pulled whether they jumped down or not how hard was it beinh held to come out of socket? I’ve had my son slide from my hand while throwing a tantrum jumping up and down cause I wasn’t death gripping it!
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You better than me cuz I would have beat her a**, don’t mess with my kids. She had that baby’s hand hard and it wasn’t on accident, you know that. Why would you care if she loses her job, she dislocated YOUR child’s arm. 
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Always believe your child! If mom won’t believe you, who will
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Nursemaids elbow! It’s very common in children, my daughter dislocated her own elbow when she was around 2-3 and we went to the ER for it 6-7 more times for it after that because of how easy it dislocates once it’s happened once. It most definitely could have been an accident but I would ask for camera footage just incase.
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Ask to see camera footage. Real day care centers all have them now.
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This person injured your son and its their job to take care of him. Report them.
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Daycares with out security cameras that parents can access on their phones are red flags. With that being said my son made up Alot of things when he was 3 said my friend kicked him in the stomach which was far from true… he’s also said my boyfriend has punched him in the face which was not true and he’s said his babysitter scratched him on purpose which wasn’t true… so just follow your gut… you know your child better than anyone would…
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Seriously? A 3 YEAR old’s arm doesn’t completely pop out of the socket from an accident not from the situation in which she described. It takes a hell of a lot more force that that and i would be going after them with the full extent of the law! Do they not have cameras at this facility?
Definitely report it aIm surprised hospital hasn’t as a duty of care and has school reported it in their accident book? 
I accidently pulled my daughter arm out of the socket by trying to stop her falling off the bed at 3 years old. Dr said nursemaid elbow happens easily to kids under 5.
I wouldn’t report as the childcare called you to inform you what happened & story kinda match (child version/adult version of the event). Go talk to the childcare centre about th event and how to prevent it happening again. The hospital will report it anyway but sounds like an accident if your child pulled away/dropped when holding hands.
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Ask to watch the cameras. And yes make a report
Do as the hospital says!
Is this a real question!? This is why there are shitty people working in daycares still. People hesitate to do anything about it because “just a child” told them. Always trust your child over everything when it comes to their safety
Report to the police
Listen to your child!!!
Always believe what your baby says he story sounds shaky the way he was hurt and his arm being out of socket yeah no something way more happen then what she said did I’d call so she couldn’t hurt anymore kids I am so sorry for you and your baby
My father in law was just playing with my daughter lifting her up and it happened! It may truly have just been an accident. It happens and it’s very common! I’m an RN so I knew right away how to pop it back in place and she was fine and pain was gone after it was back in. If you don’t have any other reason to think it was abuse then I wouldn’t report it.
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My dude…file the police report…that teacher was not simply “walking with the child holding his hand” that kind of thing comes from yanking, that is shock force.
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How is this even a question? She abused your child…
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Report it, even IF it was an accident, they will be cleared upon investigation. If it wasn’t you are putting other children at risk!
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Show up bright & early at daycare, handle business then call the police. 
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This shouldn’t even be a question! YOU ARE THE VOICE FOR YOUR CHILD!!! ADVOCATE FOR YOUR CHILD! eff that women if she loses her job, she shouldn’t have that job if she’s abusing children! There could be other kids being abused smh
My toddler goes to daycare to and you as a mom are they voice it hurts them you need to report it don’t feel bad they should never grab or touch anyone anytime! My son told me the teacher pulled him once and was distraught of this said his teacher made him cry and of course I reported it to corp the director and call in to childcare CYFD, and also non emergency hotline with your police dept to do a report so they can do the right investigation with other children this prob ain’t the first time!
This happened to my child. I would ask to see the cameras. I was livid but when I watched the video I saw that it was not maliciously done by the teacher. I would just check before getting police involved.
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Report and let them sort it out. Your child is hurt, the day care will protect themselves against liability.
Yes, simply because she lied and tried to cover it up. Protect the other babies in her care.
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Call the cops what in the fuck! Cops will do an investigation, let’s hope there is no trauma to your little 3 year old, im sure there will be… go hawl her socket out… fuck
Ask to see the camera footage and ask if there were any (adult)witnesses, fe a police report(an investigation will be done, not by you), If you don’t go through the proper legal process you may be found at fault. So sorry this has happened to your child.
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I would report for sure for what’s clearly a lie and do as hospital says
I just wanted to say, this kind of thing happens and has happened to us I can’t even really remember the circumstances now apart from I felt terrible wondering how on earth 
but they put it back no worries and hospital said “it happens ALL the time don’t worry about it”
Your child’s story honestly doesn’t go against what the teacher said tbh
If she or he hurt a child one time, she or he will hurt a child another time. Don’t let this behavior go on
You have to call the authorities, might seem a bit too harsh but you have to look on the other side and that’s protecting your child
As a childcare provider my main question is if she knew he was hurt why not call an ambulance and parents to meet at the hospital , things can happen in daycare but this story is a bit off to me.
Hell yes you make a report. Even if you aren’t sure. What happens if another child is hurt. This needs to be looked in to. Out of socket joints takes a lot of force and at 3 they tend to say the truth more than you think. Report, report, report!!! It could save another kid
Unfortunately a teacher that acts out in aggression towards a child in that manner should not be in the teaching industry. Kids can most definately be infuriating but it’s not reason enough to act out in that way. Perhaps do some further investigation if you are still conflicted and find out what happened
Yes, ASAP, so no other child goes through with it also.
File the report! His arm absolutely did not get dislocated from falling!! His injuries match his story! Omg believe your baby dude!!
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Are you totally out of your mind if you don’t protect your child you don’t need to have him.get your but to the authorities now
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I agree w the many who say report it. You are your child’s protector and advocate. It is not your job to investigate, that’s why you report it. What comes from the investigation is not your fault either. Please be your child’s advocate
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Believe what your kid says momma.
I’m not saying she is in the right…but for those saying it’s hard to dislocated a child’s arm…this is just a 5 second Google…this is why I don’t like holding my child’s hand when we’re walking or picking them up just be their arms… cuz it is so easy to dislocate their arm. If I were in your situation, and since you obviously don’t seem fully at ease with what the lady said sonce youre asking FB people, I would report because of what the Dr. said. Best of luck to you momma 
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As a mom, I would jump to the defence also and definitely want to report her if my child was hurt.
As an ECE… I’m very torn on this one. She very well could have taken his hand trying to lead him somewhere, and he jerked himself away and bent it the wrong way and popped it out of the socket. I’ve actually seen something similar happen before and the person who was holding the child wasn’t being rough whatsoever, but the way the child jerked away while she was holding his hand and the lady didn’t let go in time, not wanting to drop him on the floor when he threw his body away from her, his arm popped out of place instead with the force of his weight 
. I cringe when I see parents swing their kids by their arms after seeing this still because I’ve seen how easily kids arms pop out of place lol.
I would probably go there in person so I could get a feel for her demeanor, and ask for EXACT details on what happened.
I really hope your son is okay and that it was just an accident 
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I would report it and let the detectives determine if it was truly an accident
Report it the fact they rang you acting all casual and not indistraute or however you spell it, over it is a red flag it was an accident they would be so apologetic file a report and let them look into it kids limbs at that age are quite flexible do for it to be our of place she must of hurt him really hard
An investigation of some sort should be done. If your child is able to communicate exactly what happened ask him. Talk to any other kids/adults that may have seen the incident.
Between your son not liking his hands touched and the teacher trying to hold him while he pulled away it could well have been an accident. At the very least the teacher and others should be made aware that your son doesn’t like his hands touched. IF you are still suspicious or concerned then escalate it as you feel necessary.
You know your child best. To me , this seems like she did something bad and is trying to cover it up. Sometimes kids to say thinks like dad hurt me when really the child fell (in my household recently and I saw it with my own eyes) but you do what you think is best. The fact the hospital said to report it seems like they see what happened and realize the story the daycare worker said doesn’t align.
I’m so sorry mama
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Kids at that age don’t lie like that!!! I’m honestly surprised the hospital didn’t report this themselves
Do a police report asap! She absolutely should lose her job before she injuries or kills another child! Your lucky your child can talk - imagine if she did this to a child whose non verbal?!
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If you don’t report it, they could come back to you for child abuse. This way, you’ll have a record. That sounds like a pretty severe injury for just falling to the ground. Sad for the worker, but they have to learn too. Just sayin’
My twins were maybe 2 or 3 when they were in Daycare and every time I would drop the kids off they would be kicking and screaming in not wanting to go but I had no choice (I was a single mom). One day one of the twins had a huge bruise on her body then I asked what happened but she made an excuse and not once did she call me to let me know that she got hurt. So I did make a report with MCFD and nothing was done. Maybe because I’m Native why no one cared or done anything.
With that being said I think you should file a report.
sometimes this is an accidental happening with an adult being strong and not realizing how small the child is and sometimes it is abuse
A 3 yo,can not lie about that.I would go to the police and make a report out.Your child has your voice.Meaning,you are the one who needs to stand up ans protect your child.
Honestly, if it were me. I would file a police and CPS report. They can investigate the report and find out if it was an accident or not.
Yes, file that report.
A child that age can’t make up stories. A Phyciatrist told me that.
File a report and let the police sort it out.
As your child’s advocate, you cannot ignore this incident.
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As flexible as a child’s bones are at that age that did not sound like an accident. Report it before it happens to someone else’s child.
You already knew they were lying before you picked him up, report it EVERYWHERE, at every level
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Make the report. U have to quickly and aggressively yank to disconnect the elbow. It’s happened to my kids as toddlers from her sibling. N had to go to hosp n get it popped back in. His arm will be good now. But SHE lied to you n that’s a reason right there
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Notify the day care management.
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File a report for sure
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The ER should report as well. The investigation will be very discrete.
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File that report. Highly unlikely he would lie about it and her story sounds suspicious.
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Please advocate for your child.
You should report her before it happens again to another child or your again
If this is a real situation, it would be the hospitals legal responsibility to report this incident to the child protective services.
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I would absolutely file a police report. She would have had to pull his arm with a lot of force for that to happen to him. So it definitely seems intentional. And age doesn’t mean anything. If he is verbal and aware, he can absolutely tell you what happened.
I’m so sorry that happened to him 
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Omg your poor child! That teacher should not be around kids. Full stop.
Hospital is the mandated reporter You should have had to wait for police and social service definitely call police
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Three-year-old does not know the Difference between right and wrong if he says the teacher did it the teacher didn’t file a report
Report it! That’s abuse not an accident
You are your baby’s advocate. File that report mama.
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There should be no confusion. Listen to your child. You are his or her voice. You know your child. File a report and listen to the doctors and your baby. The babysitter hurt your baby.