Report it before the hospital reports you !
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File a complaint with the police. That’s child abuse and someone should lose their job
So ur real question is “do I file a police report or knock a bitch out?” Right??? Because any other question seems silly to me right now
I would make a report one it took the school 15 or so minutes to call you ok yes they have to do there report two you asked for there advice but we all know if it was there child they would take them to the ER to get checked out strike 3 they had to fight 3 times to place it back um not playing no more worse but greatest thing possible no one’s at fault
Go to daycare & ask what happened? You will know from there what your next step is…
File the report immediately! You might speak to the other parents to see if this sort of thing is common.
I’d talk to whoever runs it and ask to view the tapes, with the police present, and you can decide from there if it was truly an accident or not. Though accident or not he did get hurt so that’s going to be his response no matter what.
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3 yr olds don’t lie! Def report it and I wouldn’t let them go back there until something is done. 
It is about you child getting hurt !!!
Get the security footage and listen to your child
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Report it to the police. They will investigate and determine if further action needs to be taken. If what you said is verbatim that the caregiver said the child hurt his arm the caregiver is placing the blame on the child for the injury (victim blaming) and is a commonly used tactic in abuse.
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A 3 year old wouldn’t make that up! If your baby says someone did that I would listen
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Pick your kid over that daycare teacher. Your kid doesn’t seem like a liar, and he needs to know that when he comes to mama to help him, mama takes care of shit.
Also, I literally hold kids up to the ages of like 10 (from a year old) by the hands & swing them around & I’ve never ONCE pulled a kids elbow out of socket with the force. She was being violent with your baby
File a report!! 
Listen to your child and the hospital staff… look @ what happened to your babies arm…
It could’ve been worse or what if next time it is worse or someone else’s child gets hurt by “said teacher” … hopefully it was an accident, but if not I’d feel better filing a report so it doesn’t happen again etc….
Sending positive vibes your way and I pray your little one is ok 
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I would definitely turn it in accidents happen yeah I get that but if it was the other way around u b charged with abuse there is no reason to hold ur child to the extent of pulling it out of socket that there alone tells u the worker has no idea of how to handle a child let alone children and if police feel there should be charges do as they suggest job or no job that teacher or worker should never do things like that
Call the police bc if you dont it can be seen as negligence on hour part. I’m sorry this happened and I understand not wanting to get someone fired but think of it this way instead you are PROTECTING other chidren and parents from having to go through this
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I would report it so they can investigate
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You need to report immediately 
!! If child’s elbow was out of socket that was definitely an adult !! 100 percent !! And if you don’t the hospital will probably assume you are guilty and call cps if their is no further action on your part
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Really! File a damn police report. The daycare should have cameras to back up her story. You’re the parent and should be looking out for your child and NOT the job of the day care worker! What’s wrong with you!?!?
Contact the police and file an IIU report with social services… it’s like CPS for facilities and daycares
I would have filled a report right then, no question, that’s ridiculous, someone jerk one of my kids around I’d be pissed…
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Why would you ask total stranger’s about this? If it was my child that teacher would be lucky to get reported. They are literally at the mercy of the world your their voice, protector and Everything!
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I am a childcare provider. I don’t think it was a passive accident. I think it was an aggressive accident. I have had to grab a child’s arm from them falling, and just “holding hands” and they let their legs go…(playing) and also situations where you have to get them to come inside. You can do all of this without any force from yourself as the adult. In my case I can usually do it with words. But some kids are different. I think your son or daughter (I didn’t catch gender) is telling the truth. I think she got frustrated and yanked him. It bothers me badly. If you get frustrated with children in the least you shouldn’t be in the field. I am sorry your boy went through this. I
Make the report, even IF he lied you would have to play/fall/get pulled hard to get his arm out of the socket, and the police will investigate. If they don’t see a problem, end of it, if they do then it could stop this from happening to another child. Always better safe then sorry
With the medical professional *nurse telling you to report it, I’d report it. … especially with the amount of manipulation that needed to be done to put his elbow back in…
They, by law have to report ANY suspected child abuse…
I agree with everyone who says to talk to the director of the daycare and watch the vid tapes if there are any.
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The hospital should be reporting it if there is a question to injury or even possible suspicion of abuse. They are mandated reporters. Protect yourself and your child and future children and file the police report.
I’d think there had to be a lot of force both ways, from Your child dropping down pulling a way, and a strong resistance from the teacher, i feel like she should have let go and not pulled him. That’s what dislocated his arm I’m imagining.
I’d demand footage with the police present. I’d believe my child, they definitely don’t make this stuff up.
File the report like the hospital suggested. Also call the head of the day and set a meeting. Most daycares have cameras now and could see what actually happened.
Even if it was an accident with the teacher she made up a story.
Also, your child will be prone to popping that elbow out.
Believe your child!!! You will traumatize him if you send him back and you send him the message that you don’t believe him. File the report and tell your child you are sorry that someone hurt him but you will make sure no one ever hurts him again!!! Do right by youe child!!! You are his Mom!
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You can report it to the state. What state are you in?
Call the police. They will sort it out.
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Report it. Period. Shouldn’t even be a question.
Can you ask for the video ?
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Go to the police! Why are you even thinking about going or not! The teacher even lied to your face! That is your child, she hurt your child and lied! Go to the police
In all honesty, the hospital it mandated to report it. The daycare is mandated to report it also. Any accident in a daycare that requires medical attention must be reported. Any medical facility that see a child that received an injury at a daycare must report it. Yes it needs reported, I don’t know about police but you need to report to the childcare division in your area or state.
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Why would you even question this!!! I’d be straight in phone to police
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So my child was walking with her father holding her hand, she tried to run and it pulled her elbow out of socket. That easily. It’s called “nurse maids elbow”.
My other child was playing with her dad, he was swinging her around and same thing happened.
It’s extremely common! If the teacher had the kid by the hand, which may or may not have been the child’s choice, and he sat down or pulled away this is not a purposeful injury and could actually happen with the parent.
I wouldn’t file a police report unless there is a lot of missing information, like other injuries, other things the child has said.
In my life I have held a lot of 3 year old’s hands when I knew that particular three year old might get distracted between Point a and point b.
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Speak to the teacher and hear teacher and ask them if that’s what happened before you report her
Listen to the nurse and turn it in. Accidents do happen, however his elbow was pulled out of socket!! That is a pretty big injury for just an accident or for your child to “drop to the ground” abd that be the resulting injury. Have it investigated!
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It’s not your job to determine if it was an accident! I would have called the police from the ER and I’m surprised the ER didn’t call the police to report the abuse themselves!
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I’d report, I’m sorry but how much force could possibly have been used for a child’s elbow to come out of socket ? It just sounds a little aggressive to me.
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100% make a police report. Your child comes 1st
The hospital should be reporting it. An if I were you I would report it as well because your child was injured.
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Ask to see camera footage and based on what you see, report it.
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File a report. Some childcare places these days think they can do whatever they want to children and it’s unacceptable. If there is some slack it’ll happen again.
Report it. That wasn’t a passive accident. If you don’t that will happen to another child or something worse will. I’m so sorry you and your baby had to go through that. My niece did that to my daughter. Took everything on me not to choke her out for hurting her.
As a former pre school teacher, accident or not… She shouldn’t be putting her hands on any student like that. We are trained to know this. I’m so sorry this happened. I would report it. Who knows what she will do next and to whoms child. Ask to see any recordings in the class, if there are any. She should be fired! No reason to grab a child by their arm and her story doesn’t make any sense.
I’d do exactly what the doctors said to do,otherwise it could happen again and could be worse…if they lose their job oh well she got into that profession knowing how children can be and holding onto them and making their elbow pop out of its socket doesn’t sound like an accident to me.sounds to me she was being to aggressive toward your child. Report it…
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Police nope nope nope I’d be at her doorstep
Ask to see camera footage and don’t leave till they show you. And definitely file a report. Fuck all that
This is a fairly common injury in children that age. My daughter and son (ages 3 and 4) were playing a game where they were yanking each other by the arm, and my sons arm popped out of socket… the hospital told me it’s called “nursemaids elbow” and is because the ligaments in kids that age are fairly loose. It doesn’t take much force AT ALL for this injury to happen. I would do some research on the injury before I freaked out and reported anything…accidents do happen.
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Please report it I understand you not wanting someone to loose their job , however she should loose her job if she was cause of it. I means I can’t see another child having that much pulling force or understand how s fall would cause that but I’m not a Dr. Also since you took him to er please it so you are not seen as Netflix in any type of way by the hospital or CPS because the hospital may have reported it anyways. Good luck to your mama and sending positive vibes
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REPORT IT! Report them. Report everything! Oh Mylanta. That poor baby. No childcare provider should ever cause that type of injury, accident or not.
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My daughter gets nurses maid elbow a lot. Some kids are prone to it. She has done it climbing into her car seat. Even walking and swinging her arms is enough to pop it out sometimes. Sometimes it doesn’t have to be a lot of force. I would speak to the teacher first
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I would file a police report! Let the police investigate and make the determination.
Yes make a report! Who cares if they lose there job they should not be handling any child in that way, you pay them to take care of your child.
This is what used to be called a “nannies break” which is very much a topic of training in order to prevent this. File a police report. The teacher should have known better.
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File a report right away
The daycare, legally, should already have an incident report written up on it, which you should get as well. But, yes, if there is even a 1% chance it was done maliciously you should report it immediately. I mean, things happen, I’ve seen similar things happen with little kids parents while they’re playing or they grab them to keep them from running away, etc, so it very well could have just been an accident and that’s fine, but then she shouldn’t be making up another story and there should definitely be record of it so they can watch for multiple incidents.
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Nicely tell the teacher that you’re going to file a police report (that will either clear her name or expose her) since you’ve gotten conflicting reports of what really happened. Let them investigate and if she’s innocent, then great. And if not, then great. If she’s innocent, an investigation shouldn’t be a problem.
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Um someone clearly mistreated your child and by mistreat I mean abused. She pulled hard enough to pop an elbow out of socket…….
Sound like the teacher is trying to save herself she knows she fucked up your kid has no reason to lie believe him and file a report
Report it.
They have cameras in daycares. Either it happened and she’s charged or it didn’t and she keeps her job. There’s no in between, but I would never be torn about a situation like this involving my child. It would’ve been reported immediately and the longer you wait, the more upset the authorities will be with YOU.
Trust your son. 3 year olds don’t tell stories like that unless it’s true
If the hospital is telling you to do so. I would. ASAP.
Don’t question this! Call NOW.
They’re supposed to report it. They are mandated reporters.
Jobs are replaceable…children are not. I wouldn’t risk it.
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To be honest her explanation is not that different from his , I will request to see the cameras record ( if they have ) and make a report to be on record ( with the daycare )
If they have cameras but refuse to give you access or if you see the video and look that was on purpose then I will file a police report
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Report it asap,
I did with my son’s daycare and so glad I did, we had a good outcome
Make a police report, they will investigate and review the camera footage. What can it hurt to make a report. If they find the teacher didn’t do it then she won’t be fired or anything, but this is your child who you must advocate for. Tell them both sides of what you heard. It’s their job to find out what happened.
Get off Facebook and go file a report….your only concern is your child not someone else’s job.
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I would ask to see the camera footage first.
If she has hurt your loving child,She could hurt another child,WE send our children to school in knowing that they would be taking Care of,and that’s not True anymore, OUR School doesn’t do what’s Acquired that’s safe and for our children,and to teach our children according to the WORD OF GOD, their doing the NEGATIVE ,our children DEPENDS ON THE MOTHER AND FATHER TO PROTECT AND PROVIDE, TALK TO JESUS CHRIST to help you to make a right Decisions, and He will,Sometimes we’re lost,but knowing that OUR GOD IS THERE TO LEAN ON,HELPS
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Wow same thing happened to my child who doesn’t talk. I couldn’t hear her side so I assumed what the day care told me was true she couldn’t move her arm and the ER nurse had to pop it back in place- almost the same exact story too.
Ask to see cameras and file the report love you wouldn’t want something like that to continue to Happen if it was an accident they will investigate and make sure your doing what’s right for your child and all children in their care
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Demand you see film. Everything should be on video. This way you won’t risk someone losing their job if it indeed was just an accident.
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Make a police report and find a new daycare!
I would go to the daycare and see if there are cámaras in the classroom and ask to see the video and then go from there. Sometimes kids do just drop down without warning
Call and make a report but give both of the stories
You dont take chances with your child’s safety. This is an injury that hasn’t happened before so unlikely its a joint problem. Talk to the police and let them investigate fully.
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I’d report it and I am a kindergarten teacher
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Most daycares have cameras in the rooms. Call the director and ask if there was a camera where the incident occurred. If so, ask to view the recording. If there isn’t one, I’d speak to the director and go from there with speaking with the police. But 99% of daycares use cameras for situations just like this.
My son gets nurse maid elbows CONSTANTLY, it’s very common and can happen from them extending too fast, shaking their arms to hard…literally anything can cause it. If it happens once it happens a lot after that. As they grow it goes away. Next time you can take him to urgent care they can show you how to pop it back yourself or do it for you without the ER bill. It’s a very mild and common toddler thing. BUT if your child is saying the teacher pulled their arm I would go to the director and have them review the camera ASAP for your peace of mind and to make sure the teacher is not hurting children. Nurse maid elbow is why they say to never grab or hold your child by their arms!
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do they have cameras or what.
and the hospital should have called and made a report they are mandated to
I would have called the police immediately. Document it at least. Did you get an incident report from the daycare? Do not return him to that daycare until you speak to everyone that works there and find out the truth. Accidents happen but it should be documented.
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Make the police report now! Don’t question it. If it was a complete accident then that will be shown with their investigation and she will still have a job, if it was not an accident, you may have saved another child from a serious injury or worst
My son has what is called nurse maid’s elbow and his elbow popped outa place just last week when he threw himself on the ground for a fit and I kept ahold of his hand so he wouldn’t hit his face. It sucks because once it pops out once it’s more prone to happening again. I say this to say that both scenarios, his version and her version sound as if they could have caused the dislocation. So maybe see about cameras and ask to see what happened. If there is even a flash of doubt, file the report and let the police investigate.
It’s like you said… he’s 3!! You have to trust your child when it comes to things like this… if he said someone hurt them then they most likely did. A 3 year old wouldn’t lie about that
Report it! No teacher should have their hands on a child like that!
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Believe the child and take care asap! If on video and in the wrong, get a lawyer.
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I can’t see a 3 year old making that up.
File a report no questions asked
Father of two, would 100% report this. We had an incident many years ago with my daughter after being in “their care”, she was left to her own devices, ended up out of sight of everyone as a 1 year old and got a huge cut just under her eye. The CCTV footage was damming. I’m not for naming/shaming so don’t. But DO report it. The only way to improve the care given by these institutes is by pointing out those that abuse their position and ensure that correct training is given to handle children from all backgrounds, shapes and sizes. Ultimately, my experience lead to me pulling my daughte from care and my wife left her job to raise… not possible for all but by far the best decision we ever made.
You asking us what to do… are u for real… as parents our job is to protect our child before others so u already failed by asking us what to do…
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Make a police report! Report the daycare to the state! Im sorry but her story does not at all sound believable! She only notofied you with a made up story to cover herself! Id be livid!
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I would meet this the teacher/teachers and discuss what happened. I KNIW we do not want to believe our children would make up any kind of story… but like you said he’s 3!
As a Kindergarten teacher, I’ve witnessed children explain a situation in the own worlds that completely didn’t happen. What they remember, by the end I’d the day, could be a mix of many instances from the day. Also, how did you ask questions to your son? Did you lead him to answers, ask yes/no questions or open ended questions?
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Your seriously debating this??? She’ll just do it to another child if she’s not reported
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Police report and new daycare. Sorry you both went through this. Life is too short for this type of behavior. Plenty of other daycares out there.
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