Always be advocate for your child!!! Always!!!
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File the police report that is not okay what if she did worse than that. She should have let go once he dropped
If the teacher was holding his hand and he jumped and threw himself down to get away from her while she is still holding onto him that can easily cause something to happen to his arm. It doesn’t mean that it was intentional and a 3 year old really isn’t going to know or understand that. All the 3 year old knows is his arm got hurt while teacher was holding his hand. I would honestly ask the daycare higher ups if u could see footage of the incident to determine if this was intentional or an accident. The fact that his teacher called u explaining the situation and what happened and that he may have hurt himself shows that she is informing u of the incident/situation. Most teachers who intentionally hurt a child won’t call the parents even at daycare if intentional most wouldn’t call parents informing them of incident. Don’t get me wrong I would protect my kids in any way possible but im going to get down to the full situation and request to see footage to determine whether u were intentional with hurting my child. I wouldn’t want to ruin someone’s career if it was in fact accidental from the force of ur son jumping and then dropping himself down to floor because he was being held by the hand. As a parent who has held my child’s hand and then they decided to throw a fit and throw self down while I was holding them they have hurt themselves because whats the reaction going to be hold onto them so they don’t hit their head throwing themselves down. I would look into it and if it was intentional then I would report it. Like I said all 3 year old knows is he was hurt while holding teachers hand. The force of child jumping and throwing himself down whole weight all while the teacher is trying to hold onto him at this point would be so he don’t hit his head since he is throwing self down full weight it can cause his fragile arm to do things. Find out footage and any and all details to be sure it’s intentional first. I think since the teacher called immediately it was an accident and the force of child jumping and throwing self down full body weight while she tried keeping him safe from hitting head by still holding onto him is how this happened. Its not always intentional or the teacher or caregivers fault when a child gets hurt.
Omg You should’ve done called the police
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Do the police report. Call the director of the school. They should have cameras in the rooms and the director can pull the footage.
You can never trust anyone these days. If I were you I’d rather be safe than sorry and it happen again or to another kid.
I thought it was the medical professionals responsibility to report child abuse. This is child abuse. Call the police.
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Sounds like it was an accident. I would look into it more since at 3 his way of thinking is she did hurt him cause his arm is hurt.
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Please call. You are your son’s protection. She could hurt another child.
Not even gonna bother reading what other opinions are on this. If my child is left with anyone, they are responsible for them. I have 4 and know better than anyone how accidents can happen, but not a one of mine have had an injury like this. If my child tells me that the person responsible for them hurt them, we’re gonna have a problem. You better call the police. If my 3 year old was injured at his daycare like this I would have either called on the way to the hospital or went and jerked her arm out the socket myself. If she did this to your child she could be doing anything to someone else’s. Always listen to your kids.
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That happens with a yank, or pull, so he could have jerked away with her holding him, or she jerked him it is a hard toss up,
I trust the baby more. she called you to get her version out first. no cameras in the classroom?
Report it ASAP!!! Your baby should be your #1 concern…why even ask what you should do…
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Does this daycare have cameras? That’s the first question. And in this day and age, they Def should.
Then you go from there.
Don’t most childcare facilities have cameras?
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Sounds like the good Ole limp and drop technique we would do as children. A police report will put the. On notice, nothing more.
Report it! It could have been an accident but don’t ever hesitate to protect your child! Even if it’s an accident it needs to not occur again! Kids get weird injuries when they’re younger but you never know. Also the teacher needs to know her story isn’t plausible because your child won’t hold anybody’s hands!
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Report, I know I would.
If I were in your shoes I would absolutely report it. It may not have been rgw first time the teacher did this and it probably won’t be the last. Stop it now before another child gets hurt accident or not children shouldn’t be handled like that.
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I worked in child protection for 13 years. This sounds like it needs to be reported, a child of 3 is likely not going to make up the story. He is telling what happened. Report immediately. 
File the report and let the state investigate it. And by law the center is required to document it.
File a report… get to the bottom of it, before another child is hurt.
Definitely report the incident!!!
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Call the police and put him in a daycare that has cameras
This is called nursemaid elbow and actually a very common injury. Happened to my son. If you are holding a young child’s arm and they yank or drop down too hard it can occur. I wouldn’t be too quick to call the police. I would speak to the daycare management and use your judgement based on what you know of this specific day care worker.
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The hospital is bound BY LAW to report this! They are mandatory reporters and police should definitely have been called
Report it. The daycare worker lied to you!!!
Report. It may of been an accident but check it out. My son babysat for a doctor & nurse. They’re daughter always pulled away from them and my son. My son was protecting the new baby and boom! The girl pulled away from my son and her arm broke in the growth plate.
Did they ice his arm! Get more details! Have him show you exactly what happened.
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Yes absolutely. Why wouldn’t you report it?
I’m so sorry this happened to your little one! Please report it, it could save another child having the same 
accident or not you have to have some kind of before to have done that xx
She should not have been holding him so hard that his shoulder popped out of it’s socket. I would confront the daycare heads and explain that you are planning on filing a police report at the recommendation of the hospital
Report her children don’t lie and another child could b next
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Seriously… report it!
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Similar happened to my friends little one when I was there and she was literally just holding her daughter’s hand when daughter saw something on the floor and dropped, my friend didn’t even have a second to let go. It is such an easy accident. The teacher should know your child does not like their hand held so I definitely feel a conversation with the school needs to occur and potentially a further internal investigation. Going by what has been said however I am not convinced anything malicious was intended so police may be a step too far. How has she been with your son otherwise? Police investigation could lead to her never working with children ever again which would be devastating if it was just an accident.
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Please report that or it will happen again to another innocent child
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I would let them investigate, it could have happened either way, let them pull the cameras and see.
I have 5 kids I have held my kids hands & they’ve dropped too the floor & that’s never once happened
I would definitely file a report I know you say what “if” it was a accident but what “if” it wasn’t an accident.
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You tell nurse tell security by law they will report not mom been thru this! It’s dr responsbility
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They have cameras. Ask to see them. If they say no then you 100% know something is up.
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Report that it’s abuse they lied to you
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His arm doesn’t come out of socket from falling… fracture, maybe… A joint out of socket means someone yanked it.
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Report it. Elbows don’t go out of socket from falls. Your child is 3, they don’t tend to lie about stuff like that
Nope! Pour hell down on that worker! Don’t just get fired, get her arrested, your child is only 3, and would not make up stories. You are your child’s mother, protect your little cub at all cost 
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Report it. I taught daycare for 10 years. This should have never happened. Period
Hi mummy…Take it from a mum who has been there…kids don’t just make up these stories…report it and let it be investigated rather than ignore and let it get worse or happen to another child.
I feel like this is one of those posts that people say their kid is running 105° temperature and ask if they should go to the ER. I think the answer is pretty obvious. Horrible
Dont take him back there, that teacher should be fired and fined, go to jail that’s not right I refuse to put my kids in daycare for these reasons luckily your baby’s ok so sorry this happened to you
Make a report. Your child wouldn’t lie about something like that
File a report with the cops and report her to the daycare!!! They do not just pull their arms out of socket trying to get away!!! We play with our kids by letting them pretend to jump and we hold their arms and they’ve never dislocated anything.
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I would report it and I am a daycare teacher
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3 year Olds don’t lie.
report it, if you don’t protect your child Noone elss will.
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Definitely report it. It could have been an accident, then again you’ll never know for sure. Reporting it it may keep other kids from sustaining the same or worse injuries.
Im so sorry that happened. When my daughter was young like that her elbow came out of socket all the time and it would cause her terrible pain. It would happen to her as she was playing no one even had to touch her its called Nursemaids Elbow.
I would definitely file a police report to have it documented and have the cameras looked at to see the extent to which she pulled on the child.
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If you don’t it will look bad on you now the hospital has told you to and why wouldn’t you, if it was an accident they will find that out
Did you tell the teacher that he doesn’t like his hand being held before or after the incident? Also there should be cameras, I’d look at those before you report, see if the teacher was being forceful or gentle. My middle kiddo will throw herself down when she’s overwhelmed or doesn’t want to follow directions, maybe the teacher was trying to redirect him back to his school work and he became overwhelmed. Definitely don’t ignore it, view the video and make a decision AFTER.
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It need to be reported
So sorry for the long reply but pls bare with me!!
When I was 8 my brother and I were in after school care with Wee Watch. My regular daycare provider was on vacation so we had to stay with another provider through the agency for a couple of weeks. This woman also had another brother and sister that were in her regular care. She was INCREDIBLY kind to my brother and I, but we could both sense this horrible sinister dynamic between this woman and these other children. Not letting them play with us, putting them in a different room, raising her voice at them and just over all being very short with them. Shortly after we returned to our regular care provider my mother got a phone call about this woman and that CAS (childrens aid society) wanted to speak with us. It turns out the mother of these children had filed a report because she was suspicious about possible abuse that was taking place under this womans care. Her children could not and would not tell her what exactly was going on either. The children eventually told the truth about the abuse they were having to endure after they found out that my brother and I came forward about what we saw and that there were no repercussions and that nothing bad happened to us from this scary woman. Not only did this mom go with her gut and save her children but she also saved future children as well as brought justice to a few others from the past. I would 100% file a report!! I understand how you are feeling conflicted but if it truly was a horrible accident the investigation that they will carry out will prove so and if it was not an accident there very well could be other children she has hurt that they could find out about. I am so sorry about your little one! I hope for a speedy recovery and that it truly was an accident.
I know you may think this was just an accident and maybe it was. But i think you should have it brought to the daycare’s attention.
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As someone who has worked in a daycare… I’d definitely report it. Especially since she was so calm about your 3 year old being in pain and telling you you can get your child or leave them there. Something like that the daycare I worked at would have immediately called parents and told then to come get their child and have them looked at.
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I would talk to the person in charge at the school.
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1 million percent report it! They will decide if it is a violation or not.
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This is a hard one, has your son complained about the teacher in the past. If not then it could actually be a accident. I have had this happen to my child and know it was a totally accident. If I hadn’t been present when it happened I to would’ve never thought it was possible.
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Kids that young don’t lie, go with your gut!
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Our first job as a parent is to protect our kids! He is 3 she had to have yanked it pretty hard to have that happen! So now by reporting her at that daycare she will not be hurting your child or anyone else’s.
Get that bit€#!!! Shut that shit down!!! I’m so glad ur child told u!! If she did it so hard his arm was dislocated then sorry but thats no accident… It takes force. Don’t wait till it happens again…
All of my girls had this when they were younger …. It’s called nurse maid elbow…. It’s where their bones pop out of the joints …. My girls would get it just by grabbing their arm not even hard … it’s crazy … I think you should make them aware of your son having this and if it happens again then file a report !
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File a report let them investigate
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in no circumstance should a teacher, or anyone for that matter, be pulling on a childs arm so hard it dislocates. Even if the child did resist she should have let go and not let the child struggle to the point of injury… in my opinion its absolutely unacceptable and I would be fuming. file a report.
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Sounds like it’s exactly what happened. It’s fairly common. My aunt did that to my cousin when she tried to step out into the road. I would have a conversation, but I’m not sure I’d call the police. She didn’t do it on purpose and had your child not pulled back, it wouldn’t have happened. I think we’ve all been grabbed like that by our parents at some point.
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It’s called milk maids elbow and it’s extremely common in small children. He could have been pulling away from her and it happened. I would definitely look into it but it COULD have been an accident for sure.
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Better safe than sorry just report in case there is another incident cuz if it’s true she will think twice about doing it again.
I would file a report. That’s a pretty serious injury. Honestly I’m surprised the hospital didn’t file a report. Also DHS will do an assessment and determine what they think happened and if it truly was an accident then it’s no big deal.
If that child told you that teacher hurt him you need to believe him and take action immediately, file a police report and contact the principal at the school that teacher needs to be kept away from your son ESPECIALLY after she hurt him please please do something this lady has no business being a teacher or around kids
I wouldn’t even be questioning it, I would have already filed a police report and called state on the daycare.
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I would report it… too many times this has happened and no one does anything. I found my daycare lady sleeping in the job with 4 kids a wake. Nothing happened to this lady and ahe stills has other ppl children
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Even your child knows this was no accident! Get rid he police involved. She hurt your child.
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Id report it to ensure proper channels were taken but my son whose elbows dislocated 18 times also told the hospital mom & dad each pulled my arms and there was blood everywhere. (We had him on skiis and were pulling him…no blood just slippery elbows) only 1 of the 18 stories
Most Daycares have cameras for this exact reason
I’d file it. If they have cameras, they can see what happened. Regardless, my child wouldn’t go back. I played all sports growing up. I twisted ankles & jammed fingers, never did I dislocate anything falling. I did a double layout & landed on my hip, no dislocation. I’d have her investigated.
I had one thats elbow would come out of it’s socket. One time the babysitter was swinging him by his arms, another he was wrestling with siblings. He probably did pull down really hard since he didnt want his hand held and she held on tighter. (No excuse) but you bet I’m holding onto a kid trying to pull away, not listening to my instructions. It is the hospitals responsibility to report.
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I will talk to somebody at the school and also find out if there are cameras which there probably are and find out what happened first
Most classrooms have camera ask to see the footage if possible
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Always report. Especially if your child is saying they were hurt. Teaching them starts early. Hope he is ok! I would consider looking elsewhere for care and requesting a refund.
Yes ,shes probably done it to another child
I used to work at a daycare center and accidents do happen especially with children and nursemaids elbow is very common in kids. I would most certainly report it to the daycare center but I would not make a police report just yet. Are their cameras at the daycare center? Normally depending on the amount of children in the class there should be 2 adults. I’m not disregarding your child’s story but 3 year olds don’t have the ability to tell the entire situation either. Do what your gut tells you.
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Call and file a report and do not take your child back there. My grandmother owned and ran many daycares and she would have had you pick your child up immediately for medical attention and also fired the employee who did it. That is not acceptable behavior. If she did that, who knows what else she’s done or will do.
Hell no, Report that Asap!!
Do not take the child back there.
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File with the police, you are your child’s voice right now.
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I would have went to jail already if the arm is out of socket its obvious she was annoyed and used her anger on your child’s arm idc she should be fired!
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Ask to see the camera. I’d file a report as well. You’re gonna save some other little child from suffering.
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I would report it… The hospital may have reported without u k owing healthcare workers are considered required reporters of things like this
Report them
Better safe than sorry
She had to have pulled his arm pretty hard to pull it out of its socket ! She seemed to have taken her frustrations out on him ! Poor baby I really hope you report her before she thinks it’s ok to lie and do it to another child
Ya no he didn’t drop to the ground and dislocate his elbow listen to your baby and take the advice of the hospital and file a report and I honestly wouldn’t take him back to that daycare
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Always believe your child
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Most daycares have cameras, I’d demand to see them
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A kid doesn’t get an elbow out of socket from a fall… Please report it. If she did yank him too hard and you report, you’ll be protecting other kids. If she gets pissy at you, you might need a new daycare, But if she did really do it, you’ll have to find a new daycare anyways
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He’s 3… I doubt he’s able to “make up” such a story.
I can almost guarantee it happened the way the baby explained!! Be his voice and file a report!! Before it happens to another child
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Accident or not you need to report this. So should the daycare on their end.
Accident? Oh no I’m causing hell behind my baby
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Check cameras and talk with owner and other people that were there in room. Gather facts , I’m not saying what she did was right but check it out then do what’s right. Accidents do happen so do some investigating.
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