No, We are loved & taking for granted, my granddaughter wished me happy Mother’s Day not a word from my daughter, I lived with her just another day to these children this day & time
Two things… if it was his baby mama, tell her to do his laundry! If it was is girl friends mom, drop his laundry off on her doorstep! I’m sorry, I would be hurt too. My girls are 14 and 16 and still managed to make my Mother’s Day special. And they do their own damn laundry
Well I’ll tell you I wouldn’t be doing his laundry or anything else you put his girlfriend’s mother before his own shame on him
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This is my motto “It’s not the thought that counts because if you were thinking of me you would’ve got me something nice” Say what you want but I do all I can for my girls and I go all out for gifts and I expect the same now that they all have money. The thing is he didn’t even think about getting you a card! I would definitely say something because he should know that you were hurt. One day you might not be there for him to wash for free and then he’ll definitely remember, maybe he can wash at his new mother in law’s house. 
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No you should not say anything. Geez, he came to see you.
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I would be asking the question!!! Is your girlfriends mum raising you, feeding you, clothing you better than I did??? Does she make you feel better when you was sick??? NO!!! Well I’m going to give up feeding your sorry arse, providing clean bed, clean clothes and I’m going to rent out your room for a sorry arse Mother’s Day appreciation present…and you go live with your girlfriends mama seen as how you love her and appreciate her so much…
You can talk to him abt the behavior. Not so much a gift but “I’m here to do laundry”. 
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I think you have a right to say something, especially when he bought something for his girlfriend’s mom.
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My Mother’s Day gift will be me teaching you how to do your own laundry, and it will not cost you any money at all, plus it will make me happy.
You make no sense, you say that you didn’t expected anything but are hurt because that didn’t got you anything 
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He came and did your laundry… that was your gift…
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Karma… Use the same saying but with their bday.
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Wow…… I’m actually astonished you’re upset about it.
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You should be glad he came to visit.
Unfortunately all of us moms are taken for granted
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I would give my last dollar or the shirt off my back for my son and I expect the same from him at least some acknowledgement. But my son does acknowledge me every year and he gets me something special he couldn’t do it this year because he’s incarcerated but at least he called me to say Happy Mother’s Day and his girlfriend brought me flowers.
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Ungrateful miss his birthday see how he likes it
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I don’t think u should be upset about some material stuff.
The girl should have gotten her own mother something not him. I would be hurt too.
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I need clarification… when he said he spent all his money on his girls mom, does girls mom = his girlfriends mother OR does girls mom = his daughters mother? There’s a huge difference. If it’s his daughters mother, then let it go. I understand that you’re hurt, but if he spent the money on the mother of his children, he did that so that they could give their mom something for Mother’s Day. If it’s his girlfriends mother that he spent all his money on, you should have told him to go do laundry at her house and you have a right to be mad and I would definitely say something about it.
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If it bothers you, of course. Hour are they supposed to know, if you don’t tell them
Heck yeah. Show out!That way you’ll guarantee a gift in following years!! 
The next time you buy him a gift make sure it’s a collection of cards with a nite that says “so you never miss those special moments” also I think it says alot that he made sure to take care if his child’s mother, I wouldn’t be to hard on him.
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His presence on the day was a present it self time has no price tag on it so wat if he brought a material gift for his mother inlaw time with Ur children is priceless appreciate he came even if it was to do laundry those things u can’t buy hope u had a good mother’s day
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On his girls mom? Yeah I’d be hurt too.
It’s not about the gift, it’s about the thoughts behind it so I get you.
Sorry mama 
I would communicate this, once you’re in the right head-space to do so.
Sometimes our kids take us for granted because we are their constants. Try to remember that
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Of course I would be hurt. Unfortunately most don’t understand until they have that same feeling. I would mention to him that I was hurt. Not because he didn’t get you anything but did her mom… that’s just so unthoughtful of him and if myself would change my attitude.
You don’t expect anything yet are hurt? If you’re hurt then speak up next time. People are not mind readers. I don’t celebrate it as I am a mom all year long. I took my husband out on a movie date not even realizing it was MD. Present enough for me was the kids holding the fort down while we went out for a couple hours. They are alive and happy is good enough for me but for real next year say something if it is that important. It is only one calendar day in the year when you are celebrated year round in many little ways. We have what many could only wish to have. That’s just me.
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Reading the comments I feel like I am the odd ball but you shouldn’t need a gift to be happy. A hug or spending time together is so much more important than something he spent money on. But maybe that’s just me. 
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I would be thankful that they even came around, mine may not always show up but they at least call or text me on mother’s day and I’m thankful just for that… as long as mine are happy and healthy, that is all that matters! Gifts are just material things, you can’t take them with you when you go
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How very rude if him. You should be first in line NOT his gf mother!
Is his girls mom like gfs mom or his daughters mom?
Because if it was for his gfs mom then yea be upset but if it was for baby mama I wouldn’t be as upset at all … and offering to do the laundry is nice 
I think communication is always best if you don’t say how you’re feeling nobody but you will know!
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I guess the fact that they spent so much on his girls mother might of pissed me off a little. Guess he doesn’t appreciate you like he should.
My kids dont call, or acknowledge mother’s day or my birthday or any other special day for me. I’ve started doing the same… it hurts everytime…
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Its a hallmark holiday.
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I understand you being upset that he spent his money on his girl’s mom and not you. My opinion his girl should have spent her own money to buy her own mom something. I personally didn’t get anything from my daughter (she’s 14) and I know it’s not the same. But what I did do for my mom, my step mom, my grandma, my boyfriend’s mom, boyfriend’s sister and boyfriend’s sister in law was make them something. For my mom I made her a resin coaster with a wolf howling at the moon, my step mom I made her a resin coaster that I painted/drew on, my grandma I made her a resin coaster with hand drawn flowers, my boyfriend’s mom I made her a hummingbird latch hook kit rug (I was going to give it to her for her birthday but figured why not mother’s day), a resin sign, and a resin bookmark (she loves reading), my boyfriend’s sister I made her a resin coaster that had sequins in it, and my boyfriend’s sister in law I made her 2 resin keychains (heart puzzle) with her 2 daughters name in them… We also took my boyfriend’s mom out for breakfast on a Wednesday before mother’s day because we knew she had plans to go to my boyfriend’s brother’s house for mother’s day, we also cleaned off her porch (got rid of the leaves) on Saturday before mother’s day.
So I take it he bought hes gf a mothers day gift 
which is understandable for hes kids to give too there mum .you never know they will buy you a late one and make it up to you .for my mother day no one didn’t do nothing for me I didn’t get bothered by it.but in reality us mothers don’t ask for much there’s 2 special events in a year that you expect to be loved and treated like a person for once .from your kids you do everything thing for them when they ask for anything you go out off your way and do anything for them. Mothers day and your birthday are the 2 important days in the year. To be appreciated and thank you mum for everything you done for us
I guess Im the old sentimental one. Sure its a Hallmark Holiday, but one nonetheless. Im in complete agreement that a little handwritten note, or even just sit in the couch, slow down a minute and TALK. Its free!
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We don’t need a day to be recognized. We are loved throughout the year!
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No not worth creating more hard feelings and problems. But when next holiday comes up, I might say that you just appreciate a small gesture, even if it’s just a card, that’s all that matters and getting to see him. If he doesn’t catch that hint. Then I would pay a compliment to someone else that did something thoughtful and how special it was. Example; your brother went out of his way to send me flowers on my birthday, I was so touched because all I ever really need is just a card. Then smile.
I didn’t even get a phone call.
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Start charging him for doing his laundry at your house. I would also make sure he brings his own detergent and whatever he uses. I would charge at least what laundromats charge.
I would have told him " what laundry you mean the ones in your hand that you going to take over your girlfriend’s mom place " cause you not doing them here
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If you feel unappreciated then say something. A handwritten letter of appreciation won’t have cost him anything. Calmly communicate your feelings to him
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I just got 2 “Happy Mother’s Day” text. Which I’m surprised I even got that… 
it’s hard being a momma…
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I would mention it, just so he knows. Communication is important with family too and you dont want to hold onto resentment, this way you let him know how you feel and move on. Just say that it hurt your feelings that he didnt bother to come be with you, buu you a card or acknowledge you on mother’s day. He just came over to do laundry like wtf wow thats just messed up and on mother’s day even worse.
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As a daughter who watches her mom be disappointed every year when her son gets a gift for his MIL but not her please say something. My brother is 38 and it’s hurtful and ridiculous because she never forgets him on special days.
You deserve better.
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I just told both my adult children that they needed to pick another “Mother’s Day” in a different month. I didn’t want them to feel obligated to rush in and drop something off for me and then run off to the next stop. It all changes when they have their own children. It becomes their day too. This year I will be spending the WHOLE DAY WITH MY DAUGHTER on the second Sunday of august. She will plan it and my son choose second Sunday in October. Now I can go sit at the cemetery and spend Mother’s Day with my momma and they can spend it with their significant others. Win win for me. I’m tired of sharing MY DAY!
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You said “I don’t expect anything” but yet…. You did. I get it, but hey, at least he comes around.
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Uhm I still make sure my Mom and my EXs Mom get something.
My exs mom looked upset this year but cheered up because I had her gift dropped off.
Well I would be upset too. You are his Mom and I guess it’s time to let him know how you feel.
It certainly was thoughtless…
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This is so sad. I would tell him that you were really hurt by not being honored by at least a card.
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Yes. Tell him gently that you were hurt.
Um, pick your battles. It’s just another over commercialised day. He’s apologised. Life goes on.
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You should say something if you’re hurt by it.
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Some of y’all are crazy af! You mean to tell me that y’all allow one day to determine your worth as a woman? Everyday is a day to celebrate you and love on you not just the second Sunday in May. Y’all are going overboard with this, I’m glad my parents weren’t like this
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I read it that he was doing his own laundry, if he indeed did hers it was a nice gesture
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Yes I say he,s Selfesh I would not treat mom that way I get all moms I know a mothers day card!
You said you dont expect anything from them, but feel hurt because you didnt get anything. 
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You say you don’t expect anything but you want to say something because he didn’t buy you something? I’m sorry but you sound greedy. Mothers Day isn’t about gifts. It’s a gift to be mom! Not every woman who wants to be a mom get that chance. Be thankful God gave you kids.
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Wow he’s got some nerve Tell him take his laundry to his girlfriends mothers house see how that goes
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Say what and why? Some people
A card even a homemade one would of been nice
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Wait, did he turn up to do YOUR washing or his?
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My mom experienced something similar with my sister this year she didn’t even call our mom to wish her a happy Mother’s Day
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I would just be honest with him. It truly is the thought that counts, and he didn’t think to do anything for his own mother who raised him, but dropped $$$ on his gf’s mom?
Inconsiderate. Sorry, but it is. He could have come over, cleaned your house for you or something, maybe fixed something you’ve been needing fixed, put together a small photo album, share a letter filled with his favorite memories of you…anything. So many many things that wouldn’t cost a dime.
He chose not to.
To those who are minimizing it and calling mom “greedy”, grow UP! Mothers are far too often underappreciated until their child becomes a parent themselves.
Hopefully, becoming a mom was a choice and not forced, but even so, choosing to be a mother doesn’t mean you chose to live a life of service to your children and you’re “greedy” and unreasonable for being sad your kid(s) couldn’t even take a few minutes to just sit down and have a talk saying, “I love you, Mom and I appreciate you and what you’ve done for me,”
There’s nothing wrong with that at all.
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My sister did the same thing this year.
So he spent all his money on his girlfriends mom and had the nerve to come over to your house to do his laundry……
I’d of told him to go wash his clothes at his girls moms house
He should be ashamed of himself tbh
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‘I don’t expect anything from my kids’
Mad they didn’t meet your expectations
He spent time with you. That’s invaluable. Move on
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Grow up he doesn’t have to get anything and you shouldn’t expect anything
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This is why I hate Hallmark Holidays. Brings out the entitlement and selfishness.
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It’s just a day… It doesn’t define you as a woman or a mother and you got to see him… for me that would be enough
I think you are being petty and a bit self centred you say you don’t want anything but clearly the fact that you posted this says you actually do 
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His girl’s mom isn’t his mom, so why would he spend all his money on her…knowing it was mother’s day?
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His next birthday you should buy his siblings gifts instead of him. Same disrespect.
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I would let him know that it hurt my feelings he have made some kind of an effort.
Let it go mama, it takes a while for the heart to heal but if you begin getting used to not being in the top 3 to 5 in his life now, lower your expectations, then if things change, you’ll be happy. I’m so sorry, these humans we love and give everything to should come with instructions from age 16/18 into adulthood.
I have 6 adult Children and 4 grandchildren. Before Mother’s Day, I texted all of them, and I told them please don’t buy me anything for Mother’s Day because I already have so much. But I would love to see everyone here if you don’t have any other plan? I’m cooking something special for all of our dinner. Everyone responded, too bad. We already got you something. Yes, we would love to come for dinner. You want us to bring something? A side dish? dessert? Drinks etc? They all came with a little something for our dinner and a gift for each others. Of course I made a beautiful Flowering Hanging Basket arrangements for everyone to bring home. Everyone was happy.
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At first I was like uhhh, no, gifts aren’t important…. BUT HE BOUGHT HIS GF’s MOM $100 WORTH OF STUFF?! WTF. I’d be HURT.
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Yep, get stuck into him, that needs to be nipped in the butt now or he will go through life with that same attitude.
Maybe I am reading this wrong, but to me it sounds like it may be his daughter’s mom he spent the money on. If he spent $100 on her, he could have reduced that a bit and spend even $10 or $20 on his mom. It does not have to be all or nothing. A lot of young adults don’t stop to think how their actions affect others, and they have to be told. I’m lucky, my children are so very loving and make a point to make the day special, but not all are like that.
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How sorry your sons are, no excuses
I also got nothing mothers day. But that’s because I prefer a clean house and food I don’t have to cook or go get myself. At least your son offered to do laundry.
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Of course I would like a card and a phone call and if I’m lucky a visit. Never thought a present was necessary.
I told my son that I do not want anything but his time.
Time with my adult children is sincerely special!
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A card would have been nice. Next time buy your own MOM something & let your girlfriend do the same
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My son hasn’t acknowledged my existence in 5 years over a misunderstanding. Thankfully, my daughter and grandkids make up for it because they know how hurt I am and because they love me.
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Getting you something…? Well…did he do anything special…?
Uhhh money is hard he has kids and a family.
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Tell him how you feel but don’t let it become an issue as it is just a day, does he make you feel loved in other ways? By girls Mom do you mean his partners Mom or his own kids Mom? If the latter then it’s not as bad, if the former I’d ask why he couldn’t have given you $5 out of the $100 for a card… Be reasonable but give him a good dose of guilt too.
This sounds toxic…I didn’t get anything but a “Happy Mother’s Day” from my son and frankly, I was pleased. I don’t need material objects in order for my son to say something.
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My daughter didn’t say happy mother’s day to me. She didn’t even bothered calling, Tuesday was her bday, 
pay back it’s a bihhh baby. I never expect for my kids to get me anything at all, just wishing me a happy mother’s day it’s fine with me…
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Being someone who struggles with infertility I just don’t understand this… shouldn’t the present on Mother’s Day be the fact that you have a child?! I don’t understand the constant need or validation from mothers once the child has moved on in life and grown up… Christine Anderson maybe I’m spoiled with a mother whom let’s me be me and doesn’t seek that CONSTANT need for love and approval. She knows she raised me right and that I am thankful for that, why do I need to give her gifts for that?! Why do mothers feel that the child OWES them something? Why do mothers expect something in return for the decision they made in becoming a mother? You asked to become a mother… you mothered the child… 
I don’t ask for constant validation and congratulating for my hard work and successes!
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I don’t think I would say anything but to buy someone else’s mom something and not his own is rude.
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You need to sit him down and tell him what you told us.
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He couldn’t do his laundry go to his girls mom. And do it yes I would let them both know work is not an excuse. Still could got some things before work are that week before
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absolutely speak up , if no other reason to honor yourself ,
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He did laundry and spent time with you? Thats great!!
People are so materialistic these days.
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You should definitely let him know he hurt your heart. I taught my kids to appreciate everyone but me. Huge mistake.
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I dont expect anything BUT I’m upset I didn’t get anything…
kudos to the son for getting something for his children’s mum. The family you make is more important than the family you come from. Sorry not sorry. That being said he still came round ON mothers day…
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Tell him to do his laundry at his girl’s mom’s house. He could have split the money and got each of you something…
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Grow up. Pathetic. He owes you nothing.
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