She should stay home the more she has to get out and can’t rest the longer the illness will lag on. A dad can’t comfort a sick child as well as a mother. Unless he’s that good
She ain’t got the flu she got RONA!! Doctors call all sickness the CORONAVIRUS now…
Let her go to her dads. He knows she’s sick and still wants her. He should just be prepared to take care of her while she’s sick there.
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What does your daughter want? When I was a kid I was super embarrassed by being sick and the only place I’d ever want to be is home, whether the place I was going was capable of taking care of me or not. Not everyone feels this way. But I’d ask your daughter what she wants. Is she okay going to her dad’s? Does she want to be in the bed she’s already in? Does she not really care? I think those are the most important things to consider.
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Nope if your child is sick an you have documented proof from her peditrician then you are not in violation. He on the other hand should take into consideration his child is sick an needs her mom to take care of her. I would never send a sick child to someone’s home.
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Follow the court order. Dads are just as capable of taking care of their sick children as Moms are. People are commenting like this is a question of sleeping over at her friends. He’s her parent and should be treated as an equal to the Mother.
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Why can’t dad take care of her? If she had gotten sick at her dads house would you leave her there until she is better or demand that she come home? Both parents should be equally important and equally capable of caring for their children.
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I think she should go. He can take care of her at his house. Dads can take care of sick kids to.
Court order!
You don’t have a choice
Since he still wants her to come over and it’s his weekend, you should still bring her there. Definitely bring her with some meds and other stuff to help her feel better though.
Yes, she unwell but im sure the drive ro her dads, who I assume doesn’t live a crazy distant away, should still go to her dads. You have a court order for a reason. Court order, because you guys needed the help making that decision. Keeping her home will make him feel less like a dad and more like a babysitter(only when it fit your narative). If he understands what he’s getting into and is lkay with it, let her go. He’s her dad. As a mom I’d want to keep my kids home and care for them but its not your weekend, its his and it shouldn’t change because she has the flu. He’s a parent. He can care for her. Let him be there for her for this. They both deserve that!
If dad’s willing to care for said child while sick I send her and just make sure he understood if she wanted to come home that we switch weekends he get her 2 weekend in a row( or how ever many she was sick for and wanted to stay with me) tell we was all cought up on his time, but a court order visitation is pretty well set in stone
I keep my kids home when they are sick, i just think I wouldn’t want to be moved about when I am sick and neither do my kids they prefer to be at home and in their own beds to rest. My ex doesn’t try to make me send them over when they are unwell, even if its just something small. Honestly the ex doesn’t want them when they are anything other than perfectly healthy and happy anyway.
I would send her he is her dad and l am sure he knows how to take care of her when she is sick this is why it is called civil parenting
Yes. He can take care of her just as well as you can. If he wants her he deserves to be able to take care of her while she is sick. You’re no better at caring for her than he is.
Stay home when sick she won’t feel up to going anywhere see how she feels but you shouldn’t really spread the germs further xx
Its how the child feels and what she wants that’s most important xx
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I mean that’s still her parent and her house she can rest at her dads house just as much as she can at your house… If he wants to deal with a sick child then let him… You’re keeping her away from her other parent for reasons that aren’t justified IMO
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Yes sick they wont their mother in men don’t get it
Do you really want her getting the flu with Covid going around? I mean if dads sick I wouldn’t chance it.
No she stays at home!!
Yes she should go with her dad. Maybe her dad wants to be around her to help her get better just as much as you do.
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Your kiddo has 2 parents not 1 if the dad wants his kiddo on his visitation regardless of being sick then most definitely the dad should get the kiddo a dad is just as capable of taking care of a sick kid as a mom is I know as a mommy I would not want my baby to go anywhere when she was sick either but you have to take your personal feelings and put them aside because it’s not about your feelings it’s about the kiddos sorry.
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If the child is okay with it, why not? Dad can take care of her too 
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I’ve been to court for my parenting plan and I’ll let you know right now that judge is going to slam the book at you if you don’t follow the court orders. But hey by all means go get yourself in trouble. 
Anyone telling you to keep your kid from their dad when you have a parenting plan obviously doesn’t understand the family court system and how serious contempt of court is.
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Your daughter has two parents not one. Dad is fully capable of taking care of her just as much as you are. She can rest at dads just like she can’t rest at your house. Let her go to her dads. He wants to be there for her, let him. Pack all necessary medicine and he will handle it. Besides, you have a court order, you have no choice unless you choose to get in trouble. The judge isn’t going to care about the flu cause he/she will say the same thing I just said.
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Yes he wants to care for his child
Send her to her dad’s.
Yes why not. He is still dad and is just ascapavle as you at caring for her. She can rest at his house and feel like he cares.
Id keep my daughter at home and i think her father would understand!
Sick kids are part of parenting… hes the father she can be sick at his house and he can take care of her
Follow the court order. Send any meds and tell her to get better soon. He can provide care for a flu.
I think it should be up your your daughter, if she is happy to go to dads while she is sick let her dad nurse her back to health. He is still dad and deserves the time to do all the things you do including be there for his kid when there unwell.
Would it not be a better idea to find out which parent ( obvs if old enough ) the child actually wants to be with whilst they’re ill. I’m thinking most would want to be with their mother… Just a thought
In the state of Indiana, an illness is not a valid reason to interfere with his parenting time. Best to check your state guidelines.
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I never understand why sending a sick kid to another parents house. I understand it’s his time, but why spread the germs. Stay at one house till better
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He has the right to parent as much as you. His weekend let her go. It’s painful I know. It will be okay.
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Why does this have to be about “who is right?”
Why can’t it be about doing WHAT is right…
I would bet ya a doughnut that dad can take care of her needs as well as you can. The fact that he still wants his weekend knowing she isn’t feeling well speaks loud enough… have you asked her is she wants to go?
I mean, why would her recovering at his house over his weekend be “wrong?”…
I’m pretty sickened by the whole “too bad dad doesn’t have the little ones best interest in mind.”
How can anyone really think and say that? The father wants his weekend and to take part in caring for his sick child… what more could you want?
Perhaps someone who just follows your authoritarian rule and falls on their knees in obedience everytime you speak? The child is equally his.let him have his weekend. It creates conflict out of nothing… and THAT, is not having the child’s best interest in mind and at heart.
Maybe you can arrange to give him one of your weekends with her if he agrees to allow her to rest? I just hope she really is too sick to go and this is not just a power play because both parents can help a sick child get better.
Unfortunately bcs of the court order, she has to go… It sucks she isn’t just stay home. Sometimes kids just want mama when their sick… Not saying he can’t be just as warm and cuddly. Give her her favorite blanket/the meds and let her go. I’m sure all will be ok
I would ask the child what she wants to do. If she still wants to go, I don’t see why she shouldn’t. If she wants to stay with mom, then she shouldn’t. Just because there is a court order doesn’t mean the child’s wishes shouldn’t be respected.
Let him be a dad and take care of her too. There’s no reason to keep her in one place. Plus fresh air and change of pace will be good. If he’s not backing out and actually wants to parent when she’s sick let him! Use that time to Lysol your house take a breather and get everything ready for when she comes back 
We all have other children so if it’s bad they usually stay where they are at so they get better and no one else gets sick… rly depends what the situation is
Being a man that has been in this spot, what I would do and did checking on the child I did the right thing let the child stay and rest and even go get some medicine for her, Sorry but what right is right.
All she is trying to do is keep others from being sick 
if he wants to catch the flu then by all means let her go. But I feel as a parent that when they are sick like that their rest is more important than having to pack up for a weekend of more rest and risking infecting more people than just you. Good luck.
Idk I don’t understand why dad wouldn’t say just let her rest where she is but I’d follow the court order
I’d send her dad’s are just as capable of taking care of sick kids. Unless it’s vomiting diarrhea lethargic etc in which case I’d keep her where she is
Sounds like a great dad! Good for him. Also… it’s a court order. You would be in contempt of court, if you didn’t send her. However, with that said, if you feel strongly about it, you can always offer a weekend trade.
No I think she should most definitely stay home till.she is better. Then she can have quality time with her dad. Hope she soon feels better x x
Depending on child some only want their mom when they are sick … if that’s the case I wouldn’t send and trade weekends … whatever is best for the child what do he/she want and need while being sick ?
Such a sad situation. Your both right imo. Yes he is right. No matter what it is his weekend. but… i do belive kids shouldn’t be carted all over while they are sick. With my BD he is more than understanding if we catch a bug
Look your child is sick and. it doesn’t matter who house she at went she is ill,she should stay at that home into she is well again,please people act like an adults,you can away !make new arrangements
Its a court order if he says he wants her he could say ur not following order but if hes her dad if u was still togeter hed likly be as capable of caring forher as are its noral for a mom to wanna be causious when our kids fall ill but the otheradult is most other adults are capable too
Is he incapable of caring for her if she’s sick? If no, then stop trying to find a reason for your child to not go over.
Dad says go ahead he is willing take care of her while she has flu why not. You have court order and if child is old enough you can ask her too I don’t see a problem in it as long as he is willing
Unfortunately I think you have to follow the court order… My personal belief though is that she shouldn’t go anywhere until feeling better. If dad was more understanding, it could easily be worked out to you trading days. If he is going to argue it, unfortunately I’d just send her and probably provide things to help her feel better like Gatorade or Pedialyte, any medicine, saltines…just to be sure it’s there and available for her.
Why wouldn’t you? Dads can parent too! I’m sure he can take great care of his daughter.
I think it sucks when parents have to break out a court order to get their way. I mean if your child is sick at whichever parents house why move them anywhere while they aren’t feeling well. But if dad is willing to take care of child while sick (which let’s face it they often don’t want to) why not let em? But if it was other way around an kid got sick while at dads an he said kid should just stay till they are better would you allow it or would you yourself bring up the court order to get kid back. Why bring up the court order ? Do what’s best for the kid. I was never lucky enough to have any my older kids dad take care of my kids while sick. If they got sick with him they got brought back to me right away an I was the one who lost work an pay to take care of them not their dad.
I think you should do want in the best interest for the child if the child is sick you shouldn’t send ur child and the other parent should understand and not be selfish just because it’s his weekend …I mean where are u more comfortable when your sick at home in your on bed. Dad needs to be an adult and be understanding and put his own feelings to the side.
My exhusband And I just switch weekends off if he, the kids or I are sick. We have everything in our divorce decree but we do what is best for our kids and not to spite one another. That way no one loses their time. Offer to switch since she is ill and put it in writing.
Your talking about your child going to her fathers house not a friends sleep over! As long as he knows she is sick & still wants him time with her then what is the problem?!? He is trying to be a good father by doing his part… LET HIM!!
Child should stay where she is most comfortable
I don’t understand why the debate in the first place she doesn’t want to send her even though he clearly wants to take care of her and if he didn’t want her she would be sayin well shud I get in touch with someone because of court order and he wud be a terrible dad. He sounds like a terrific dad and if he wants to take care of his sick child and can do it then why deny him the chance to. Yes I get she’s sick but he can look after her also. Maybe if she doesn’t go to his how about u and him just put things behind u and get on with each other for once so that he can come there and they can have time together there instead. That way she’s not goin out and goin somewhere else and he still gets his time with her everyone’s a winner that way
Is she really feeling bad? How old is she? Maybe you might want to ask her how she feels, some children would much rather be with mom when they are sick! Court order or not if she’s feeling bad and doesn’t feel like being moved all around and wants to stay home, tell him so!
He can take care of her just as you do . Unless he’s really far away and a car ride is going to make her nauseous etc.
I wish my ex would want the kids when they were sick. He uses it an excuse to not get them on his weekend. I would follow the court order and check on her while she’s there.
No way, keep ur baby at home. Most children need their momma to comfort them, also what if she gets them sick then the blame will b on u. See if ur ex is willing to switch one weekend to recover
be thankful he wants to take care of a sick child it could be just what life looks like!
Yes. Her father is capable of taking care of a sick child just as you are.
No!!! When a child is sick they should stay home, everyone should stay home when sick that’s how a epidemics and pandemics start
If dad knows and still wants his child. The child should go.
Could you please ask the mom who is inquiring for more details because she clearly wrote it in hopes people would side with her? We need to know how the child feels, is the dad capable of taking care of her and etc. also for all you moms saying she should stay because you’re the one to give her the best care please tell me you don’t use that BS logic when your child needs to see a dr. Because clearly you aren’t always what’s best.
I’d send her, that or try to switch weekends, but don’t be surprised if he does the same thing down the road.
My daughter is sick and asked to come the next weekend then cool it’s been that way since she was 8. No questions asked
You can discuss your concerns with him but ultimatley u have to let her go… its not ur choice as its a court order. I know it sucks ive been there myself but u dont get a choice.
Depending on the age of the child ask her if she feels well enough to go. I know when my kids are sick all they want is their mama. Then talk to dad and work out a solution.
Dads are parents too and should get the opportunity to help with a sick child on there time.
Yes she should go. Dad is more then capable to handle a sick child.
I wouldn’t want to send my child. I would ask (if possibles) if he would be willing to take her another time for a make up visit using your days. Does that make sense? You could also reach out to the court and see what they advise. If he is still mandating she goes you may want to file for an amendment with child visits.
You have to take her or you are violating your court order. I work in family law and have had cases with this issue.
What does your child want? Dont think it matter what you two want or dont want. Her life her daddy, ask her
No…do a make up date afterwards. Shes miserable and should be left on her own bed.
How the heck did she catch flu in August
If the child is 5 or older, let her decide.
Follow the court order but send some care instructions in writing that demonstrates you gave him full disclosure. and what your daughter needs at this time being sick.
In my situation I expect dad to do the same as I do. Which he does. However, if the child wants to stay with one parent over the other the best interest of the child needs to in play. Which it usually is regardless. The flu though that’s a tuff one. As a mom with split 50/50 I know my son would rather stay with me. Let’s face it moms are better with kids when they are sick. Can we reference how men are when they get sick…sniff sniff cough cough poor man can’t get out of be…
It may be a court order but the child’s welfare is the most important thing. I might ask her how she feels about it. Sometimes when we are ill we just want to stay put.
I think she should stay at home in bed with her mom taking care of her, that’s what most kids want is their mom when they’re not feeling well. Court order or not he shouldn’t want her to be taken out when she feels so bad, what he should do is think about the child and stop being selfish.
I was a single mom of 2 for over 17 years. That dad & child deserve time together. He can parent just as well as the mom. It will help the father/child relationship. It’s not going to hurt the child to switch houses at all.
I always told their dad they were sick and offered to trade weekends so that both houses didn’t catch it… sometimes he would trade, other times he wouldn’t and then would complain that the kids were sick the whole weekend
If he wants to get it, that’s on him. Frankly, I’d call someone in authority about it and take it from there. Little ones don’t need to travel anywhere when they’re sick.
He is taking a chance by taking her…by all means. Let her go it is her dad
Send her. It’s for the child. He is capable and if things get rough, make sure he knows he can call you. Unfortunately, as mother’s, we tend to underestimate the father. But they can handle it.
Yes ur right but courts don’t care
What we all think is irrelevant! You two are her parents. You two are responsible adults. You both need to work it out for what’s better for the child, not what’s better for either of you two. You made her together. Behave like it!
Hell no…she should lay down and rest
Yes she should! Even though she’s sick he still has the right to see her. Let him take care of her for a couple days. She needs to know that he doesn’t push her away or he gets pushed away from her by you in sickness times. It will help her heal.
Is dad not capable of looking after his child when she is sick?
So many times I have seen this as an excuse as to not send a child to their other parents. Its crap.
The child will be sick at your place or dads place doesn’t really matter. A mom is not a better caregiver in times of illness.
Send her to her dad. Stop parental alienation using crap excuses
If it was your weekend, wouldn’t you want her with you. He is her dad.
If you were together still she would be around both of you while sick so I would send her. He also needs to learn how to care for her when she’s sick.