No , you shouldn’t send her
I understand what your saying amd the need to tale care of your baby when shes sick but hes also a parent and if he wamts her then i dont see an issue he should be more then capable of taking care of your chils while he/shes sick
Offer him the next weekend
He should be capable of caring for her when she is sick. His home is her home as well.
I say do what the court order says. Some dads are number one fathers.
You are right not to send her
I feel like you, I would worry my self sick, men don’t coddle and keep checks all through the night for temps, like a mother does
If he wants to take care of her let him, just make sure she’s prepared for the trip
No .U have evidence why not to.
He can keep her alive. I understand ur position but don’t violate a court order and give him an advantage.
Who knows. You both are. One of you will have to budge.
Court order supersedes the sickness
Should be up to child
What makes the difference
I wouldn’t send her but if it’s a court order than you might have to unfortunately 
His intentions are good but how sick is she? Is it a stomach or head flu? What does she wanna do?
If its court ordered weekend the choice was already taken away.
No mam I totally agree with you!!!
No, you arrange with him to switch weekends when he/she is feeling better.
I don’t think some of you are thinking about the child. Everyone seems to be focused on the mom and dad. How about the child don’t feel well and probably don’t want to be and don’t need to be shuffled around. She probably just want to get somewhere and stay put till she feels better. If she was diagnosed with the flu while with dad I would say the same thing. To me it doesn’t matter which parent she’s with, either one cane take care of her, but rather how she feels.
How old is she? Can you ask her? If she chose to stay with you will dad be ok with that or if she chose dad would you feel some kind of way? Sounds like dad is the one having a hard time but need to take himself and the court order outta the equation and think about what’s more important. However, if dad pushes it, you have to send her.
Good luck.
Only way he will be a good dad is to know her both well n sick
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Hell yeah! Send her to throw up in his lap and enjoy a peaceful weekend! 
You can keep in touch with her by phone!
Send her, dad deserves his time even if she is sick.
That sounds selfish and not in the best interest of your child.
Definitely ask the child but honestly specially if he has other children and he himself specially if he works outside the home should consider the impact. Rest and fluids is best so making her go when she feels unwell is not right. I would say I feel this is best for our child. Then ask him a weekend or days she is to be with u and trade him when she’s better so he still gets his time and the child can get well
This is put in my court ordered parenting time plan. I personally feel the flu the child should stay in bed and not go anywhere
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My daughter’s dad and I have been apart but co-parenting for 6 years now. Never once in that time, has he insisted that our sick child come visit him because it was “his weekend.” He knew she would feel better resting at home, so he let her stay, guilt free, till she was better. When she was better, her dad was free to take her anytime, because we communicated, like adults, and refuse to fight over our child or use her as a weapon.
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If she had gotten sick on his weekend would you want her to stay at his house until she was back at 100%? He is her parent too and if he is willing and able to care for her then he should have his time also.
Minor illnesses are noted in some custody arrangements that cold or flu aren’t sufficient to deny the other parents time.
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He’s her father, he’s perfectly capable of caring for a sick child. Mom’s need to get over themselves.
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I wouldn’t. I would hope that dad could have a rational conversation and agree to switch weekends so she’s healthy when she sees him to limit the risk of her infecting others. Of course, if he insists, an order is an order and he’s a shithead.
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Well I mean he is the father is he not and he’s more than capable of taking care of her too. Honestly, be grateful that he even wants his kid.
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If it’s his time, then you have to let him make the choice since you’ve offered to keep her. Personally she probably just want to stay in bed at either place, but you wouldn’t want him making choices for you on your time, so you have to just cross your fingers he makes the best choices for your daughter.
You’ll be setting a good example for her if you respect each other’s right to parent. You want her to grow up, get married, and have her own kids with the expectation dads/men can parents well too
I wish I was so lucky and my kids had a dad available to comfort them too-I’m now going on being a completely solo parents 10 years.
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I feel if parents divorce,they should take turns and the kids should stay in one house. Let the parents go back and forth.
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I think if the child is old enough to make the decision, that’s what should be done. Personally when I’m sick, I don’t want to go anywhere other than my bed. I would ask her opinion and make it known you are fine with whatever decision she makes. If she chooses to stay home just let Dad know and ask if maybe he can take her the following weekend. I do think it’s a good sign that he wants to take her even when she has the flu, but again I would leave it up to her.
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Yes you should send him or reschedule. If he is willing to take care of her when she is sick he should be allowed to.
That is part of parenting.
Parents don’t stop parenting when their child is sick… that includes Dads
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He is the other parent. No reason why he can’t take care of her while she is sick.
I wouldn’t let my daughter go when she is sick whether or not she has health issues. I’m closer and know her doctor if I need to call his office if it comes down to it. My daughters dad has never met her doctor and isn’t involved much in her medical decisions. When my daughter gets a cold while in the care of her dad I get on him about having her take her meds because she is susceptible to getting pneumonia. So what I’m trying to say is if you don’t feel comfortable with her dad taking her while she is sick even if it is his weekend don’t let her go.
Not only that but the child might want to be with you because they don’t feel well the father may end up bringing he or her back within a matter of hours or you can always have a visitation at your house and both of you make an adult judgment call at that point
Sometimes the change could help recovery quicker i think …so id say yes let her go shes already feeling rotton like anyone with flu .
Is he a comforting, nursing parent that will properly care for her comfort and medical need? I guess it would all depend on how she was going to be cared for and who else is at the hose that she could expose.
There is no right or wrong anwser. He is capable of taking care of her while she is sick? He knows the risk? Then it shouldn’t matter. . .
we talk about it with the other party and decide based on how infectious/sick the child is. sometimes they go cause they are already recovering (cold no fever/sinus infection) other times we opt to swap weekends to keep it contained (like stomach flu); but its a mutual agreement. this also happens if other people are sick in the household. crazy thing is that its one of the few things we agree on 
Dad needs to let his sick child rest , come visit her , shes sick she shouldn’t be running around everywhere , my opinion
What would you do if the roles were reversed? Is she going on a plane where she will infect other people? Is he willing to take the risk that he might get it? And is he willing to take on the responsibility of taking great care of her if she is vomiting etc…does she want to go?
Tell him you will have to switch weekends now because you’re not going to send her anywhere while she’s sick.
So he’ll get her the following weekend and you all start over from there.
No! The child needs to be at home getting better.
You’re right, but you should still send her if he’s insisting. What a dick.
Not my business…but no way in hell i would let her go to dads sicker than a dog…sorry but child needs mama when they are sick…that’s why GOD let the woman bare the child…she has common sense…sorry but how i feel
If hes a good dad and has a clean safe home environment let him take care of his baby on his weekend
No. Keep her home …remember child’s best interest over idiot decisions
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When he gets sick thats his own fault
How bad to you dislike him??? 
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Fathers can be caregivers too.
i go through this all the time. i have decided to be “selfish” and keep my daughter. but the reason being is that her dad does not respect my wishes of keeping her inside keeping her away from others giving meds etc.
i gave him a chance & he blew it. now he can make up his extra hours when she is better.
we also have a court order & i have kept proof of him not listening to me by taking her temp when she leaves (fever) and pics of her he posts on his social media when he takes her out when she is sick.
if we go back to court over it idc. her health is more important.
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Send her, she will be fine.
It’s her dad. I’m sure he’s quite capable off taking care of her. Fuck man, I’m sick of parents in a co-parenting set up always fighting over their child. Grow tf up. Here’s a question for you… if she got the flu while at his house would you let her stay there till she was better? I highly doubt it.
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I would & send her medicine too
Nahhh… let her go. Dad can take care of her 
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Send them and pray your ex get it
Na hes selfish af dont give a fckn bout that baby
Court order… sick or not. 
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Shit !! he wants the flu so bad let him have it 
No. Let the poor baby rest.
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He should have his time
No one else thinks it’s probably not best for the child to have to pack up, drive to dads on Friday, lay in bed Friday and Saturday then pack up to go back to mom’s on Sunday?! Let the poor baby stay in bed and rest and not bounce around all over the place. The flu sucks! Your whole body hurts, headache, chills. No one wants to have to get up and do anything. Give dad an extra weekend when she’s better. The flu is absolutely miserable. Getting out of bed to pee is a very difficult task, let alone getting in the car TWICE and riding around just to go sleep at a different parents house. No harm in swapping weekends shit happens
Id do what the court order
Your child’s dad sounds like an asshole. Doesn’t care if your kids feels good or not. Maybe you can ask for legal advice regarding this matter what are the exceptions with the court order. And let him get her. Not you sending her over
Hated when my parents tried this crap with me and my siblings. If the kid is of age to choose. Let the child decide. If the child is not of age and the dad is capable of taking care of yalls sick child, let the child go to the other parents house. We arent fucking property and it pissed all 3 of us off when parents treated us like it. Coparenting is a miraculous thing, never forget that
Let dad get sick court order
Keep her home!! What a selfish a$$!!
I’m sure he can care for her fine
Let her go. He’s her dad
It’s part of the other parent’s job to have sick kids too.
Is she old enough to say if she minds. I would say if her Dad still wants her to come she could still go. But at the same time maybe you could switch weekends.
Her Dad should be able to care for her as well as you can. Children get sick and they have to know that both parents are willing and able to comfort them.
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He is right. Dad has just as much ability to take care of the child as mom does and it is his court ordered time. A court order is a court order. It can be done differently if both parties agree but if they dont, you follow it.
How old is she?
My kids are 3&4 and if they are unwell and don’t want to go they tell me they don’t want to go,although we don’t have a court order.I ring their dad and just explain the situation. He’s fine with it, he would just say whatever is best for the kids or he’d come to mine to see the kids.
If your child is unable to say what she wants to do, then maybe do what you think is in her best interest. Don’t make this about you and him make it about yours child.
Idk why people even have kids if you need to recruit help off the internet from strangers when it comes to stuff like this.
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Would you want her to stay with him if the situation were reversed?
Tested positive for the flu or rona as didnt know u could test for the flu???
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If he don’t care if he gets sick then let her go
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I used to ask my kids, do u wanna go.or stay home? Cant argue with that
If it is alternate weekends ask your daughter if she feels like going if not let her be and switch with dad
She can be sick at dad’s house. Let him take care of her and pamper her. It’s his weekend.
Why send your child anywhere while she feels sick?? She’s better off in her own room/house! She can go to Dads next week when she’s better.
Yes. If you don’t think he can handle it politely let him know that you are willing to help without interfering with his time with his kids.
You want to know what happens down the road when your kid finds out you kept them away from the other parent? They resent you for it.
My kids dad may be an as*hole but he would let the kids decide. I would switch weekends with him if they wanted to stay home with me on his weekend. Because he and I may get along like oil and water, but we try to make things civil for the kids.
There is a court order but this COVID flu is not your ordinary flu. I would ask doctor treating her for his professional judgement. Also, the father may be totally capable but there are some people that have no earthly idea what to do for high fevers, shortness of breath, etc and are non compliant with medication regimen which could have deadly consequences. So I agree, there are many variables to consider. If still in doubt, I would present my information to the judge and go from there.
Let dad take care of her. He is a dad and can handle it. My dad raised me just fine, even when i was very sick!
Well if it court order. That she goes it dont matter wtf u think send her like the courts say…you fucking woman that have guys that want to see there kids always fuck things up where they can’t and the ones dad that don’t care hurts the kid …let the kid go …or do your time in jail and lose custody
If you keep the kid from her dad it’s kidnapping technically even if she is sick,
Sorry sis, gotta go with Dad on this one. Daddy’s are just as capable of caring for a sick baby. My 10 yr old tested positive for Flu/strep ,I had no choice but to let his Dad take him as I had just started a new job. Dad did a Great job taking care of our boy. Give him a chance Mom.
It’s her weekend before it’s his. If he cares at all he’ll be concerned with what she wants. If you trust him to take care of her and it’s what she wants it’s probably ok. If she wants to stay home he should understand that
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It may not be that straightforward yes if child well enough to go send her to dads. Reading this the dad although good dad may not of been nice to the mum so mum asking for advice. My suggestion talk to dad say she not well . Compromise on offer another days that he could have her to make up for the weekend. Think she scared of his reaction as he there may of been some kinda abuse that happened. That why asking advice. Not always straightforward situation. There are no rights or wrongs in co parenting . Although it hard try to open up lines of commuincation with dad. So can at least compromise.
Grow up and stop finding excuses to keep kid from dad!!! Don’t be a high conflict parent 