As long as he is able care for her then send her on… I initially thought you meant so as not to infect that household, but since he’s willing, she’ll recoup wherever she is.
I wouldn’t because girls mostly like being with Mom when they sick but she may be a Dads Baby Girl get her Opinion about it because he may want to give up his plans for the weekend to take care of his baby girl so if he’s willing to REALLY watch her and don’t take her out and about because if you don’t it’s going to cause problems with you 2 because he’s going to feel like you think he can’t take care of her
I tell my x and sometimes he tells me to keep him so he doesn’t catch it and other times he says he’ll take him. I would just pack a bag with everything she needs and explain it to him. 
Suggest switching weekends. That’s coparenting, and allowing the child to rest where she’s currently at is what would be in the best interest of her. Not the parent. Would he want to be drug out while he had the flu to go to another house because it’s what a court order says? If the option to stay and sleep were feasible? We used to have this issue with my stepson’s mother. She didn’t care how he felt, it was about her. He would beg not to leave just because he didn’t feel like getting out of bed. But she always threatened with court or would bring him late if we didn’t get him to her at the exact time of exchange. I always felt so bad for him.
I know I, personally, can’t move when I have the flu or I’ll puke. How does she handle having the flu and what does she want to do? I can’t imagine wanting to ride in a car from house to house when I’m sick.
Honestly I think during this time of the virus child should not be going anywhere, it’s just spreading flu to others. Ask if you can swap weekends. It’s different if the child gets sick whilst staying at dads house and another time is different too. What’s the best interest of the child? What does she want? Who is she more comfortable with when sick?
When my daughter is sick she does not go to her dads because they have 5 children in their household and vise versa if any if his other children are sick he will give up a weekend with her so that she does not get sick and spread the germs to everyone in my household. Our court order is visitations as agreed upon no set weekends ect… If the father does not have other children in his household then it should be up to both parents… If the child still wants to go see daddy then let her if he is ok with taking her while sick.
She is sick… no need for her to leave her bed just because it’s the other parents turn. WTH is wrong with parents…rearrange the schedule…
He’s the parent too. If he can handle a sick kid than he has every right to comfort and deal with her, sick or not, as the mother does.
We were told by the judge that unless it’s not possible to move them, the other parent is able to and should care for them on their time
It depends on the situation. Are there other kids who can catch the flu? If her dad is willing to deal with a sick kid,then send her. If you were still together and had to work, dad would have to look after his kid. My husband did it many times. He may not have done things exactly as I would have. My daughter was safe, fed and cared for.
Personally I would want her to stay and rest at which ever place she happened to be when she got sick. But I think it should be your child’s decision if she wants to be moved or not. Personally I always want to be with my mommy when I’m sick and I’m fifty. Make arrangements for him to have her at an unscheduled time when she us better.
Umm absolutely not my kid’s dad would just take them.the next weekend I’m not getting him and his other kid’s sick no way and we don’t thankfully don’t have a court order we just text amd communicate
My ex husband always makes me aware when are daughter is sick (she lives with him) but always gives me the heads up when I am supposed to have her depending how sick she is because she does have a brother and sister that live with me and as I always dont mind taking care of her when she is not feeling well its both are jobs I feel 
But if she is out right extremely sick and contagious he well tell me, and usually we just have her stay there and as soon as she feels better she comes to my house… I would never fight saying its my turn to have her…if she is that sick hopefully her dad can understand that and just when she is feeling better she can go. Good luck mama, do whats best!!
If he’s willing to take her and take care of her then send her. Usually when my daughter is sick and it’s her dad’s weekend we will swap weekends. That way she can rest and not have to go back and forth. We have actually had to swap weekends a few times or he missed a few days these past few months because I myself was sick and we have had to go through Covid testing and quarantined.
Depends on the factors. Is it a long car ride? Will he keep her home to rest? Is he usually responsible about these kinds of things? Does child want to get out of bed, bathed and dressed(even if just PJs). I know when mine is sick she’s just in undies. Is she hydrated? What is the best interest of the child, should be the determining factor. Courts make wrong decisions all the time. If it’s not good for the kid to go and he reports you, instead of trading weekends, then that’s just malicious.
Send her. Let him see what it is like to parent a sick child. My ex pitched a fit if I told him our daughter was sick. Once he took her and she puked on him. He sent her out to me (luckily I was waiting in my car as we’d set up time at the park before court orders). Another time I took her sick and he and his supervisors refused to take her as they were headed to a party. Fine by me.
After that, he didn’t want her if she was sick.
I would keep her home! Or ask her how she feels
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If he really wants to drag a sick child out of bed instead of saying I’ll just get her when she’s better or switch weekends then shame on him. If you can’t talk like adults and be reasonable instead of running to court for every little damn thing. Smh. Its about the kids well being. Primary place of resident is where they should be if they are ill. The flu can kill people just like COVID.
I wouldn’t unless his home is close by and you’re confident he could handle the care it takes. Dads just aren’t quite the same as moms most of the time, there are exceptions though.
Depends on if dad has other ppl living in his place with him . I never sent mine when they were sick not because dad couldn’t care for them but because I didn’t want to get his mom and dad sick
There aint no judge thats gonna get in your ass because its his weekend and court ordered as long as, what you’re saying is legit and you’re not pulling a shenanigan.
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I dont know who is right, but if he can provide care for flu and isnt worried about catching flu, I would get him take her.
You don’t have any legal standing to keep her home. He is her parent as well, his home is her home just as much as yours is.
If the child feels ok to go…then by all means let the child go. I find it so sad and immature to resort to Court Orders for visiting rights…
Ultimately I’d leave it up to the child. Is dad not capable of taking care of a sick child? I just don’t understand why women think men can’t take care of a child. Let that man take care of his baby 
There are fathers single parenting everyday. Legally it his time and the kid is partly his responsibility.
I personally know that I am more attentive to my children when they are ill. Ex: When my son was suffering from abdominal pain and I heard his cries I knew it was something more than just stomach pains. His father wanted him to just lay down and not do anything about it. I knew better. Mother’s intuition? I’m not sure but the doctors told me that his appendix was about to rupture when I took him to the hospital. Other Ex: My daughter fell off the bed when she was 3. I knew by her cries (and the way she was holding her arm) that it was more serious than a “boo-boo”. He once again wanted me to give her Motrin and call it a night. I didn’t, I took her in and she had an elbow fracture. It’s just my personal experience that I am more attentive to their needs than he is so whenever they are sick, he voluntarily lets me keep them.
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That’s a tough one to answer. It depends on your Co parenting relationship…if he is strict with you just follow the court order!
He is as much as we want to be the only ones to take care of our babies the fathers have the right to it too. So as hard as it is unless it would put the child’s life in danger she needs to be with her dad when she is sick too if it is his weekend
Does he have other children in his home?
My husbands ex sent their kids here after they tested positive (she DIDNT tell us) and they gave everyone here the flu including my at the time 16 month old.
My step daughter texted her and said you know there’s a baby here. He could have died. Her answer was yeah, so?
He is a parent too. Send her! He should get to deal with the not so fun times just like you.
I am assuming and could be wrong but I get the feeling u use every excuse under the sun to stop him from seeing his child, this is why there is a court order. Parents who work together on Co parenting don’t have court orders 
this father has obviously taken the time to fight for his child, he probably gets less time with her than u do and he wants to spend time with her even if she is sick.
Its a court order, send the kid, hes not incompetent to take care of his sick child.
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If she was sick at his house would you pull her out just because it was your weekend- listen boo we’ll make an exception you can take her next weekend she ain’t going no where this weekend
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Follow the court order and just make sure that he is giving the medicine to her that doctor’s gave you. If he wants her, just ask him to please not risk bringing her around a bunch of people. She is at risk right now. Hopefully you guys can talk about what needs to happen while she is there for her to stay safe.
Well did you bring her to the doctor? I would make sure that you have proof of what the child has. Why would he want to have a sick child who won’t be able to enjoy herself? He is being very selfish to want the child to come over. That isn’t what a real parent does. They would want their child to be better.
Honestly it’s a court order so you kinda have to. Do you not trust your ex to take care of her while she’s sick? What does she want? Are you offering to switch weekends so he can get her next weekend instead or do you just want him to skip this one completely?
My daughter has the flu and it’s was a Sunday night the first night she got it And she was so sick. I told her dad that she was staying with me it makes no sense to drag a child out of her bed to travel to a ruined parents house for her to just lay there.
I would tell him, like you did, and give him the option, like you did. He’s her father too and if he wants to take care of her then he’s capable. What does your daughter want? Sometimes you just want mom when you don’t feel good. If she wants to stay with you, then ask him nicely to trade weekends for your daughter.
If she has her own space their, why would it be wrong? I get wanting your babies close when they are unwell, but if dad wants her their and she will be taken care of, thats also her home no? So why not?
Maybe make different arrangements with him after she is feeling better. Children are not pawns or playthings and their feelings and wellness matter just as much as moms or dads.
I would not send my sick child to the other parents house…I would just trade weekends most courts would understand…
Where does the child want to be? I say she needs to be where she’s going to feel comfortable.
As long as he’s going to be good to her and take care of her let her go.
I would change my mind if other kiddos in his house might be exposed. But as written it doesn’t say that
To be honest, if my son is sick and it’s his dad weekend he goes, I didn’t make him by myself why should I have to deal with everything by myself. Now if my son begs to stay with me ok, he can stay, but if he wants to go to his dad and he has the flu it’s all good.
How old is she? I would let her choose. Maybe she doesn’t feel up to going anywhere
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You two need to work it out maturely and agree to let your child stay home in her bed and get better, no child wants to leave home sick… Most Dads would agree, its all about baby girl…
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I wouldn’t send my kids if they were sick. And my bf missed a weekend visit with one of his kids because he was sick. The mom showed up with one kid and not the other cuz he was sick. And it is a court order visit. So when they went to court he said how she didny bring him AMD that he doesnt know why because he can also take care of him and the judge said they he needed to understand that even tho he could take care of him the child probably wanted to stay with mommy. Which I even get kids rather be with their mom then dad when their sick.
Here’s the thing. If you have the child while the child while said child has the flu why shouldn’t the other parent share in the ups as well as the downs with the child? It’s only fair and reasonable. If the child is really small and crying to stay with mom, that’s a different, more personal call. But if it’s just a normal sick kiddo who would be sitting on the couch watching TV anyway, I vote that you share the germy joys. It can even be a bonding thing to cuddle a sick kiddo. I y’all still lived together you would all share the germs. The court order for shared custody should stay intact as much as possible for all of your mental health and routine. Just my opinion.
This question should be asked to the father not everyone else i dont see a problem with this at all an why she shouldnt go to her dads 
I think it’s healthy to allow dad to care for children even when sick. My ex husband wasn’t afforded the opportunity to do sick care or even docs visits because of his work schedule. He’s now working from home and for the first time in years he’s able to help me with doctors appointments and regular care that includes sick time. It feels good knowing that their dad can comfort and care for them the same way that I care for them.
My ex’s wife has lupus, so if the kiddo is sick, we just keep him at home. They don’t want his cooties, lol. But, if Dad is being a 
, send them because of court orders and all.
Court order is court order, but he should be more concerned about her health. If you do send her he needs to be on top of her care while she’s with him.
If she got sick at his house would u want him to keep her an extra 5 days for her to get better or would u say send her home anyways ? I would say send her home anyways as u should send him to her.
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Since it’s her dad and his weekend I would let her go. Let him be responsible for taking care of his sick child and give you a little break
I would say it’s 100% up to Dad. Since it’s summer time and she’s not going out in to the cold then sure, i would. If he wants to see her that bad then that shows he cares and most likely wants to have a turn coddling his sick little girl.
Sadly since it is court ordered you have to let her go
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When my kids were young, we asked them where they would be comfortable, and either choice was ok.
He is a Parent too, and is capable of caring for her when she is ill just like you are. You shouldn’t interfere.
I say if he can’t handle her while she’s sick he doesn’t need to be a parent. And since you trust him any other time, of course send her.
we have 50/50 and while it would hurt and suck to know I’m not with her while sick, it’s no excuse for her to not go to dad’s house unless the child is asking not to. Consistency is key in co-parenting/blended families. You’ve gotta trust he will take care of her while sick, if he wants to take her while sick, he should. I would make sure he is adequate in taking care of a sick child, like when and how to space out meds, and spot too high of a fever and if he can, then should be given his time. I know if the shoe was on other foot and she got sick while at dad’s, I would expect her back and my house on my specific day, unless my child verbalized otherwise wanting to.
I feel she should stay home!! Give him extra time when she is feeling better. No one wants to have to go out when they don’t feel well.
How old is the child ? Can they have a say? If so, let them decide . Otherwise , I know If my child was sick and it was my turn to have them id want my baby with me so I could comfort them and help them feel better . Gotta still share those experiences. Think about the shoe on the other foot . If your child was at the dads house sick, and it was your weeekend with them… would you want them ? As long as the child is still getting taken care of properly , and is comfortable… then what’s the issue
He is right. You can be held in contempt of court if you do not. Fathers can care for sick children as well as a mom.
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I would not be moving my kid while sick. I’d offer to switch weekends. Maybe even give an extra weekend/week to make up for it.
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You didn’t say if she wanted to go if she does than I would let her go but ied tell dad if she feels worse than you’d pick her up .
You should be happy he wants her. My kids dad walked and didn’t look back. I try to make him spend time with them.
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I mean… sick or not sick , that’s his child too. One of the responsibilities of having kids is ALSO taking care of them when they are sick. My opinion
I think you should give him a chance to take care of her.The same happened to me when I was young. My dad took care of me,and I’m alive. Give him a chance to prove he’s a good father.
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Im in the same situation and here are the rules reguardless. You cant deny the other parent the child on there scheduled time you can ask but its ultimately there choice. If he wants to care for her when she is sick you have to. If not he can get you in contempt truthfully if he wanted to be mean.
If he wants to spread sickness because he needs to prove something, I guess but that’s horrible on his part. Well wishes
Is the father asking just because it’s his turn and will really care for the child? I think if he will care for the child then yes but if you have doubts maybe not but it court ordered so be careful!
At least he wants her! Some parents don’t want to see the kids period! Let her dad take care of her!
I’d keep her. No one wants to be moving all around when they’re that sick.
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Yes a dad is just as important as a mom. Send her with him and be happy you have a dad that wants to do what hes supposed to do.
If he can take care of her as a good parent does, then why not send her? He has as much a right of taking care of her when she is sick, as you do.
Yeah let her go. And tell dear old d a daddy that if she gets any sicker, he has to take her to urgent care. Also I would have gotten a letter from her physician, if its safe for her to be out of the house while being sick,with the flu. If Dr says ok,to go out,then let her go to daddy’s house 
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If he’s willing to care for her while she’s Ill, why wouldn’t you want a break.
If it’s court ordered and he wants her to go, she has to go. Unfortunately.
As long as he is capable of caring for her while sick and he is ok with the chances of getting sick himself then send her.
I agree. If he wants her and is going to rake care of her. Take the break. We all need that break!!!
Court order has to be followed.
My parents did this to me when I had the chicken pox. Cops were called to my dad’s house and they wrote a report and gave cards with their badge numbers stating they weren’t enforcing the order. Also told my mom to grow up and get over it.
No. She shouldn’t go she should stay home nothing is better than mothers tlc.
No I would not send my sick child anywhere why would you expose others to an illness ? That’s how virus spread 
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The other parent, should care take a sick child just the same, it’s how life is and should be, even when not together, let it be what it should.
I think she needs to stay home regardless of the court order. The more rest and less moving about is better for her. I’m sure if you call the Court office or a lawyer they will tell you the same thing. A sick child always needs mommie before they need daddy.
My ex gives my son back if he’s sick when really it’s not fair for one parent to always have the sick kid, my son threw up at school one morning and I still sent him to his dads that night. It’s his weekend and he’s going, his dad kept trying to not take him but it’s not fair for one parent to always be stuck
Are there any other kids at dads house? Is dad willing to care for her completely?
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Why wouldnt you? They are asking so understand the risks of getting sick themselves. And if there is a court order you could be held in contempt. And also here’s the big one they are also a parent who is perfectly capable of caring for a sick child. I really don’t even see why this is a question or issue
Due to its a court order I would send her. He can take care of his child and if you don’t than you could get in trouble with the court order.
As long as he’s going to take care of her, what’s the problem?
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Nope sick kids shouldn’t be moving around between places. I have a custody agreement too but when my kid is sick he stays home. Just tell his dad and he just says hope he is better soon. Then we discus him having him for extra time as soon as our kid is better.
At least he’s not saying she cant come , its okay Momma, take a deep breath and pray she will be ok!
My child would stay home so I know she was getting her medicine and took good care of
Depends on circumstamces like in my case he wouldnt go as its a 2hr drive plus there are other kids at his dads so not fair to spread it to their house aswell. But thats a mutual decision between me n him. If the child wants to go and theres no other factors which would be unfair to the ill child then they can go x
I think if she is sick she should stay where she wants to stay.
He should understand she has the flu she’s sick maybe you can work out something like have her an extra weekend when she’s better
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If he is willing to care for her “adequately” during her illness, let her go.
As long as I knew she was going to be cared for properly and I would be kept updated on her condition. Then yes,because it’s court ordered. Being that you have to have court orders between you two it sounds like its more of you just don’t want to let her go more then should I let her go?