He’s her dad. He should be able to take care of her while sick
No u should not let him have her cuz god forbid something happens n she gets worse…you can write it down for court purposes and get a doctors note for proof…
Every child wants their mother when there sick! They just nurture better.
If he will take care of her, I don’t see a problem. I did it because I knew mine would be taken care of.
Are there other kids in his house? If so I definitely would not send her.
It’s really not a control thing it’s about being a GOOD parent and not wanting to drag your child out when she is not feeling well. 
Not all of us are bitter ass baby mamas. Get over yourselves. I don’t see anywhere in her post where she stated that he wasn’t capable of taking care of their child while she was sick nor did she say anything bad about him.
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I would talk to dad. Leave the choice up to him since it would risk infecting 2 house holds
When your sick, you just want to stay in bed… let her get better
I would keep her home and when well send 2 weeks in a row even if he calls the cops they wont get involved will tell him to take you to court and when he does the judge will just tell you not to do it again
He gets her back. Not sending her back is selfish. I’m sure he’s capable of taking care of a sick child.
And on top that, there’s a court order. He can hold you in contempt.
If she were mine she would stay home. Moms are important when your sick
You’re right children shouldn’t go anywhere when they are ill
No way should a child be transported to another parent with the flu 
He’d send the cops out if I didn’t. So, off they go sick or not.
They should be fine both parents need to take care of a sick child
No I would not- if my child was sick the best place to be is their own bed!
If my ex wanted to come visit, I would say sure. You shouldnt be moving a sick kid around- you know how you feel when you have the flu- you just want to crawl into your bed and sleep. Court order or not sometimes you have to use common sense- shame on him -
Nope, keep your child home until they are over whatever virus their body is fighting, unless you have to leave the child with their dad, because you have to work, but otherwise, you keep them in the comfort of their home and if you are in good standing with the father, have them come over and spend time with them at home and you go and do something while he’s visiting the sick child and add extra time with the dad in the future. It will all work out, only if both parents are respectful towards each other.
If he wants to have her and its his weekend with her then absolutely
Let him! He is willing to take the risk of getting sick and wants to see his child
As long as he’s aware of it and has time times and the means to take care of the child and the child can walk and function it’s ok to send them.
Actually it should say in there that in the event that the child is sick once child is well child can see opposite parent.
He should be able to take care of her. Men get accused of shirking their duties but he wants to take care of her.
Would you want him to keep her at his house if she came down with something during his visit??? Or would you want him to send her home as scheduled per court order??
No I would want to tend to her and not spread it as well.
Be happy that he still wants her when she is sick
If you both were still together would he not be helping
This will answer your question … if she was with him and caught the flu and it was your time with her would you want her back or to stay with him until she was better ?
Well, I’d ask them if they said yes I can handle it, I would. And disinfect while she was gone
Send her on OVER . With a cell phone. (Age not disclosed ) with your # on speed dial. In case she is in need of help he is not giving. .
Depends on the age of the child and do they have any say in where they want to rest and recoup?! It’s not really a case of which one of you is tight or wrong but What is best for the child, even with a court order, parents should have compassion, empathy and love for the child, First and foremost. Also, are there any other children at either place?? Wishing you and the family the very best for a healthy, speedy recovery!
I always left it somewhat up to my kid and how bad they felt.
You’re 100% right. Sadly, you have to obey the court order though or you will be the “bad guy”
I don’t think you should make a child go anywhere they don’t want to or can’t because they’re sick but you have to follow the court order. I’d honestly try to get it amended for things like this 
When I had type A flu while on vacation. My 3 friends had to wear masks around me because it is so contagious. Is it worth the risk?
Its, summer in most of America. Who get the flu in the summer
No I wouldn’t send her. Try talking to her dad and explain that’s she is sick. Maybe get a dr notes for the court?
Unfortunately law is law… court order is in place to be followed… as much as we as mothers want to nurture and take care of our babies when they are sick (and I would want to keep her too) he has every right to take her 
and do his fatherly duty and care for her sick or not. It sucks… it really sucks but if he isn’t willing to budge and still wants to take her for his time ,you don’t have a choice
Yes he can help her just the same as you! He knows the risk, let that daddy have his baby!!
I have court ordered to but if my child was sick I would keep him home
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Nope. You do not send them out to infect others! I kept mine away from other households when they were I’ll. Besides, when you are sick, do you want to travel all around?
You have a court order. It doesn’t matter what you think unfortunately.
Its his time and you need to send her. Maybe ask dad to keep you updated on how she is doing.
No she should stay home with you . Maybe he could come over to see her .
I usually let my child stay in the one spot until they are better
Child’s father or not that baby should be at home! I’d be calling the court(s)
Honestly I haven’t had this problem. If my kids are sick they stay home with me because I don’t want to infect the other house and my ex husband knows that they would feel more comfortable at home plus he doesn’t wanna deal with it lol
If it’s court ordered you have no choice you have to send her, been then when I was a kid my mom had to send me to my dad’s sick or not
If the father wants his sick child to come to his house and it is his mandated time, then yes. Why would you not?
I’d ask her doctor see if medically you have a leg to stand on!
Since there is a court order, he can enforce it.
So it’s ok for her to have the flu and give it to you. But it’s not ok for her dad to get the flu or take care of his child because apparently your not able to ever get the flu or the only one truly cares about your child? I’m confused help me understand this ideology.
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No, you’re wrong. He’s the parent too, let her go.
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If my ex was adamant (he wouldn’t be) about my sick kid going to his house and our son wanted to go I’d send him. But my ex has some common sense lol
I would stick with court order and let her go. She can recover at his place too.
Not with all the chances to catch covid her immune system is down
If the father and everyone else at the residence is OK with it send her.
He wants a sick child? I’d say let him deal with it.
Look at it from his point if view. If she got sick at dads would you want her home?
seems like she should stay where she got sick instead of spreading the sickness…
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Stay home. Had this once and we had a doctor’s statement and the court will agree.
because a child cant heal if it goes with its dad???
This kind of situation… puts you between a rock and a hard spot. How old is your child?
Noooooooo court order or not father should care his daughter is sick and should be with mom .
Does she want to go or stay with you?
Depending on how caring the dad is… thats ur call
Keep child home, are you willing to have her visit a weekend when it’s not his ?
The flu is out already?
he is…but only because you all seem to function only under court rules…shame on both of you for that…you should have put the child first from the get go…if that had happened, you parents would be big enough to keep the sicko where she lays without disrupting her sick bed; with the promise of make up time later in the calendar
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I also feel like He should share in on that as well. But I see your aide too.
Change of atmosphere might help.
I have 50/50 custody with my first husband for our two children. When the kids are sick I do not send esp if it is contagious. And with Covid going around I would not send them. And he needs to understand how serious it can be. Can always discuss making up visitation time once babies are feeling better.
( I know not all parents coparent well, just putting my advice in )
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Is there something different you can do that he can’t?
I wouldn’t just cause then it stays in one house hold and doesn’t go around.
How old is the daughter? What does she want to do?
I would as long as dad is able
Where does she want to be?
Why are u askin the internet? Ask her dad !!
My mom never made me go to my dads when I was sick and didn’t want to.
Court is a court order… you can’t keep her, even if you want to keep him safe and healthy .
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Do you trust him to care for a sick child?
No, absolutely not…would you do that to your child?
Your right, what is he thinking??
The flu or covid 19?? HUGE difference!
Ask her what she wants to do
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Why are so many people ignoring how she physically feels? Do you want to pack up a suit case when you have 102-103 fever? How far does Dad live? I mean if he’s 2 hours away… really just drag the kid with a fever in the car? Am I nuts here?
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If he is ok with it then why not?
No! He’s is your ex? I don’t need to ask why.
Have dad come stay with you at your house if hes a good parent he will.
No she should be home where she’s comfortable in her room and bed where she spends the majority of her time. Imo🤷🏽♀️
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Wow is he insane does she have regular flu
Parents can be so nasty
Poor little one
Hope she gets better:heart:
If you have a custody agreement and he insists on getting her, you have to send her.
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Let him see what it’s like for a change taking care of kids no joke
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Keep her home until she’s well, the father should understand
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If she is sick she shouldn’t go anywhere! Trade weekends!
If you can leave her at home. Going anywhere spreads germs
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If she wants to go let her go. If not change weekends with him.
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Poor kid!! Caught up in the middle and shes sick… give me a break… let her rest.
Uh. Yea. He is the other parent… Im sure he can take just as good care of her as you can.
Well, if he insists… he’s certainly entitled to getting the flu, too!
Let dad have her. He wants her, he’s probably just as capable as Mom.
Kids need dad’s just as much as mom 
You are right, but, if he wants the flu, send her!