I bet he stopped touching them plants tho:joy:
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Not ideal to get a spank, tap, whatever, but… if your child has been asked to stop touching plants they need to stop touching plants. Some plants can kill and a tap on the hand is preferable to hospital trips.
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Your trippin. Your 4 yr old should know better by now about those simple things…get over it
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This is whats wrong with the workd 
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Their house their rules! Teach ur kid to listen when a grown up tells em wen no means no
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Yes, you are over reacting- a lot of us older folks were brought up that way. And it shows on many a young people today who have the “me,me,me” attitude that they were never corrected- always “talked” to even when out of control. That in and of itself is a problem when kids “control” mom and dad. And unless you have some family history that suggests it’s gotten out of hand then let it go. The time your kids have with their grandparents is limited and it’s not worth you having a conniption over. I never beat my kids but I’d rather use their bottom for a tap than have them get hurt not listening. And sure, there are other ways to get a child to listen but most of the people I know who were “hit” as you put it, myself included don’t have that grudge mentality towards spanking. And by spanking I mean on the bottom. Taught us respect.
“Spare the rod, spoil the child”
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You’re doing the most and being very dramatic 
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Over reacting for sure !!! Raised 3 grandma of 5 & she did nothing wrong at all !!!
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Make sure you teach your child to listen. Especially before they get old enough to go to school. Or they will be very difficult for others to be around your child. You are over reacting. ( unless the child needed medical attention) Tapping the child’s hand probably put them in check. Children need to learn to have respect .
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That depends. Let them have another chance. Also, let them know that this issue is not negotiable. Have a sit down conversation. No yelling. Just a conversation. Let them also know that if it does happen again, they forfeit their grandkids time. This is a different generation issue
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We don’t spank or hit either, so I totally get why you’re upset. But from your own wording, it sounds like it wasn’t a thought out & intentional reaction. And it was just a tap, not a smack or spank. If it were me, I’d just sit them down and communicate how uncomfortable it made you, and just ask that it never happens again. Maybe you can give them some other ideas for effective ways to get him to stop touching the plants. And he DOES need to learn. Plants can be very very expensive and fragile and they require lots of care and time and effort. But personally, yeah, though I understand being upset, I think not allowing him to go back is an overreaction and it’s not fair to deprive your child of those experiences over a one-time mistake. They won’t be here forever.
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Yes you are overreacting big time .
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I’m almost 60 and was a child who was into everything. I was adhd and bipolar but back in the 60’s people didn’t know what mental illness was. I got my butt beat all the time. Not tapped beat. But I grew up knowing right from wrong.
Your grandpa probably grew up in my generation and for him a tap is what he was taught in discipline. He didn’t beat your child and he apologized so forgive him.
He may have taught your child a valuable lesson. Don’t punish either child or grandfather for something so simple.
Be glad it was only a tap.
My kids were beating and abused and damaged by their father/stepfather and still suffer the consequences today and they are in their 30’s and 40.
So discipline isn’t a thing anymore… if you trust ur child to be around his grandparents then you should trust them enough that they wouldn’t do anything like that without a reason… a tap on the hand after being asked a few times to stop and listen is not hitting.
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Wow did you really even ask a question like this? What’s wrong with your generation? Such delicate little flowers y’all are. . Here’s my announcement that Some Loser will comment on (again) but I’m out of this group. I can’t believe there’s SO many stupid questions on here. Btw, your child will be “that” child that no one wants around them since you can’t discipline him. Good luck your going to need it with your mindset.
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And your child will grow up to be an entitled snowflake. The world has enough of those. Children need disciplined. Otherwise they’re going to be spoiled selfish little assholes their whole life.
Discipline your kid so others don’t have to do it for you
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You’re not over reacting, you’re being ridiculous!
I’m sure you grew up going to Grandparents home when you were a child and you know what kind of people they are! You need to teach your child to listen when told not do something and let him know what the consequences are when he does not listen! A tap on the hand is not hitting but will get a child’s attention after being told no and they continue anyway! You are wrong to keep him from his Grandparents!!!
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Seriously Overreacting…if you think a tap on the hand was harsh then you may need therapy. A child needs to learn that there are boundaries and needs to listen when being told not to so something. A 4 year old knows when an adult says “No” it means no. But they test us. My daughter was good at testing out my parents but I gave them permission to punish her. They didn’t beat her but she did get a few spankings. I was ok with it because I would watch her do exactly what they told her not to do. Kids will be kids but they need to listen.
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nothing wrong with a tap and grandparent’s house grandparent’s rules. get a grip what if your child grows up and does something wrong in the eyes of the law you think you can hide them away uhoh no way. I am 62 and grew up with the slipper and wooden spoon I learnt respect especially for your elders, and I look at the world now and I see self centred people everywhere people who think they are entitled bring back the slipper and the wooden spoon. BTW you are definitely overreacting.
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Teach your kids to listen to his grandparents.
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Realistically it’s your child so that’s up to you. The ppl saying children need disciplined are absolutely correct. I’m a mom of 7 myself so believe me i am no stranger to discipline. I do smack some of my kids butts but not every child bc each one reacts differently to different punishments. My older ones get grounded and they think their life is over. (Thank your society) my baby is 1 so we tell her nice hands and redirect if she doesn’t listen, my twins are 6 so they get spankings but only if it’s something serious or I’ve warned them 2 times. My 8 year old gets a mixture depending on the situation and my 4 year old gets spankings but also things taken away for a week or more, bc she’s only 4 but she DOES know better! Ppl don’t realize kids can be disciplined other ways than smacking. I choose to smack my kids but not often bc I was abused as a child so I have a very hard time trying to remind myself smacking a kids butt for doing wrong is not abuse. I don’t personally feel he meant to or tried to ignore your wishes he explained it was a quick reaction, the fact he told you shows that he knows you do not agree with hitting, it was an accident. This supervised visit crap that someone said is way over the top, Our society just always wants something to complain about and or play victim too:woman_facepalming:t3:
I’m a strong believer in it’s your kid raise them how you feel fit but at the same time he he was ask to stop and would not stop a little tap on the hand is not going to hurt him but if you don’t want him there by himself that is your choice but most people after asking a few times to stop are going to tap/slap…. But how you feel is how you feel and no one should make you feel bad about it
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Overreacting. 4 years old should be old enough to know to stop when told to do so.
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They disrespect your wishes. You have a right to be upset.
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Your lucky to have grandparents
My son got a growling from his Great Grandfather. I never took it to offense because if you ask for help. Then they will help you. Your son should not misbehave and enjoy his stays. Not all Grandchildren have grandparents in their lives 
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not tap his hand call the police on your grandfather you know the man that raised your parents and also helped raise you but God forbid they teach your child no means no I gota delete this page cause ain’t no way pple are this stupid and so slef absurd that grandparents can not tap hands but that same grandfather would be the bad guy if he kept letting your 4 yr old touch a plant an you kid gets poison sumac or ivy or any plant that can seriously hurt a child. Good bye this post an the one with the neighbor Jesus Christ pple cry what happen to the village but when the village steps in yall turn em into a villains watch your kid then an make sure your kid listens when your in another person home an your grandparents wouldn’t have to step in say sorry to your grandfather dear God I hate where the pple of this world well America is heading
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If it was just a tap, I would say no biggie and perhaps your child will remember to not touch the plants and the grandparents will come up with a better way to keep him from touching the plants…like redirection. I would have a different reply if he smacked or spanked him.
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If you remember the grandparents raised, you. A tap on the hand is an attention getter. Yes today you redirect their attention to something else if you have the patience but older generation have the desire for instant response. I said 3 times and now you will mind me. So they gave you a reason for doing what he did. Let the kid go to grandpa’s. If you don’t you are giving the child a wrong signal. The ha ha you can’t touch me message.
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Your grandparents will be better off if you don’t send child. They don’t need added stress.
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Pshh Sound fake for attention.
I’m scared she has children.
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So what consequences to his actions are you using? Because clearly it isn’t working if he refuses to listen
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Tap on the hand is not bad at all. Let the child go to their house without you it’s ok. Now grandma is upset. You should ease her mind.
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Whew some of y’all’s kids are going to get their ass beat by the real world stop sheltering your kids and thinking they can do no wrong
They need discipline
Or when they grow up they’re going to think there’s no consequences to their actions
Plus a “tap” isn’t child abuse
The child isn’t going to be traumatized
Don’t purposely keep the kids from their grandparents over a “tap”
Well I have a 5 year old. If he was just walking around touching plants he was probably bored. I’m a firm believer that the majority of children do not listen or they break rules out of boredom. My punishing skills are literally on a sliding scale. I ask myself, are my kids tired? Are my kids bored. It’s my Job to make sure they get rest and it’s my job to play with them or provide them with things to do. They are all under 5, they are babies. I am also a firm believer in hand and butt smacks. I will try any other alternative first before those. I was a gentle parent for years until my child hit the age of 4. He needed consistent discipline. My children probably get away with too much but I am not perfect and am trying to change that. It’s our jobs to teach them so that later on in life , the system doesn’t have to. Grandparents should of given him something to do. Touching plants in my opinion is not a reason to punish definitely not a reason to smack a child. However, I do feel like your making it into something alot bigger than it should be. But, it’s your job to advocate for your child. Talk to the grandparents, communicate. If it happens again don’t allow him over there. My advice, send some things over there that he can do on his own to appease his boredom.
You have a right to be upset but I wouldn’t keep my child away. They have apologised. I think you should give them a second chance.
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U can tell the difference in the generations we are now seeing what the whole time out dont yell or spank ur child cuz it child abuse generation doing. You walk in Walmart and hear these little demon spawn talking or yelling at their parent demanding they get what they want and sad to say these parents give in. Not in my house a swat on the butt or tap on the hand cures problem better than an hour long or longer time telling & explaining why not to do it. I had a niece while my sister did the whole time out thing with her bit my son who was much younger than her 17 times in own afternoon &:drew blood. The second my sister left she bit him again 1st did time out the 2nd time I bit her wasn’t hard and didn’t leave a mark but guess what my niece didn’t bit another kid again matter of fact she went & told other kids NO BITE!! You seriously need to look at the kids now & the generations before & ask urself who the better behaved. There is a difference between abuse & discipline gpa didn’t rip his hand off just properly redirected him
4 years old is old enough to more than understand when someone asks them to “stop”. I don’t consider a tap/slap as a hit. Sounds like he deserved it to me, just my opinion.
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I would talk to your grandparents and your kiddo.
Definitely over reacting. Your poor grandparents 
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Whilst I understand where you’re coming from, I feel as though you’re definitely overreacting. If it was a full on smack or hit then that would be a different story entirely. They have apologised, please don’t keep your child from them because of a simple tap.
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I think you are over reacting and if your child can’t listen then he should be tapped.
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Let them see their grandparents, overreacting. If it was a tap on there hand it’s fine. It might teach them not to touch them again.
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Is this for real? 
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We do taps on the hand. Not very hard at all and they don’t even cry. But we use it for emergencies like a hot stove. I can understand if they were going to be hurt or a glass planter was going to break.
But definitely have the chat about redirection to the grandparents and have the conversation about no to your child.
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I feel like you’re entitled to your feelings, however this definitely seems extreme IMO.
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There’s no other way to make a 4yr listen than a little tap. 4yrs are something else their energy is on another level.!
Anyway the child is yours you can choose how you want it but limiting time with grandparents who are already apologetic is not the best.
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Yes you’re overreacting. Your grandfather acknowledged that what he did he knows is not how you wish to raise your children. He apologized to you an has expressed to that he is upset that he let old habits take over. Guess what it happens and more so with older folks. The older you are the more set in the ways you were raised and lived it’s just common sense and very normal. Besides a tap on the hand is nothing to worry about. An since your grandfather made sure to apologize and let you know he did shows that he too is affected by his own actions and feels bad. I too don’t physically discipline my children bc it’s not necessary. An ppl who say oh that’s what’s wrong with the world today are ppl too set in their ways to see that there are other ways to teach children and correct them. It’s called communication and consequences. It doesn’t mean you have to physically hurt your child to get your point across. Those children are the bullies you see now a days running around causing chaos. An the ones who have a natural entitlement mindset are the ones that were babied and coddled when they were little an then handed whatever they wanted as they got older. Your grandparents aren’t doing that so calm down and let me t go. I’ve got 6 girls they try you daily as they grow up so I know it’s rough. But I also know that as long as I speak with my kids and show them an teach them how to act an treat others as well as right from wrong without laying a hand on them to inflict pain to do so I’m doing much better than our own generations parents did. 21-PCA in skilled nursing, 20- a hostess and a college student, 19-PCA in home care for disabled woman, 15-skipping 10th to go to 11th so she can graduate early, 14-being our guardian angel, 12-still navigating the world with cerebral palsy.
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Yes, you are over-reacting. Tapping is not hitting. Your child is well aware of the rules at your house. Sounds like he was testing the boundaries at grandpa and grandma’s. Yes, they will do that even at 4 years old. My son would try it at 7 months with the controls on his grandparents’ TV. They’d say no. He’d be in his walker, he would kick himself over to the TV, look at them, grin, and reach for the controls again. Even while being told no. We had to spank his hand and block access to the TV to stop the behavior. Even trying to redirect his attention didn’t work. He was bound and determined to test how far he could push. And he found out. Your son is 4 years old. He’s testing his grandparents’ rules. He will be persistent. He must be taught “no” and that there are boundaries at grandpa and grandma’s house too. He’ll learn later that he feels safer there because of it.
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Dramatic much 
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A tap or spanking didnt spoil a child it’s this new era of being overly sensitive and having the entitlements of mind set I cant be touch is the problem. Your grandparents had a hand in raising you and your parents and given the benefit of the doubt sure you guys turned out okay. They where humble enough to apologize and explained what happened. The child pushed the limits and found out the consequences to it. It’s a life lesson and considering the elder generations usually are alot more stern. Alot of children dont have grandparents I would suggest appreciating them instead of hindering them from seeing the grand child. You dont know how long they will have them for so enjoy them while you can. You may just need to deall with your own traumas in Regards to this and find out why you or what’s triggering about this with you. Seeking therapy may help you heal from what ever it is. And to be honest yes your over reacting but to each there own.
Just think of this they are starting kindergarten in a year no teacher is going to put up with behavior issues. So it’s best they learn about boundaries now. Ijs
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You are overreacting 
do not deprive grandparents/grandchildren of a relationship and a love quite unlike any other 
your grandparents will only be in your child’s life for a very limited time, do not overreact for a ‘tap’ on the hand …. which by the sound of it was warranted
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Hitting a 4 year old without even thinking about it beforehand. Fucking YIKES. I don’t think you’re overreacting at all.
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I wouldn’t watch them anyway since they obviously aren’t allowed to discipline. You have the right to discipline how you see fit but that doesn’t mean grandparents agree with you. They should just decline watching your children again.
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Yes your being ridiculous in my opinion. Your grandfather apologized and told you what happened.
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So how do you get him to stop???..
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Everyone raises their children differently. In my opinion you are overreacting and I think it would be more traumatic to your child to be kept away from grandparents than a little tap on the hand would be.
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We tap on hand or diaper nothing else but that’s your belief if u aren’t comfortable then nope
How devastating that would be for his grandparents to have to walk on eggshells to see their grandkids. It was a tap not a spanking and I feel bad for them having to worry about seeing them for something so ridiculous. Also your kid is 4 why didn’t he listen? They told him more than once it sound like
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Its your child, I have rules set for my kids. If they aren’t met/followed I will not take them back to whomever was watching them
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Oh lord. Get over it. Spare the rod spoil the child. Its in the bible. You kids need spanked when its deserving of a spanking. Otherwise we will have a world full of brats.
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These questions wouldn’t even exist in my day…really??? Poor old grandpa shouldn’t have to answer to you, he should bust yours, for being so silly…(no grandpa) will hurt his grandchild…stop hurting the old man…he’s probably crying thinking he can’t see his grand baby.
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Wow… yeah that’s an excessive response to a tap…
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Way over reacting! Grandparents must feel like they have to tiptoe around you 
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And this is what’s wrong with today’s world🤦
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Honest mistake and he apologized move on
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Yes you are overreacting…this is what’s wrong with kids these days …they have no discipline from there parents …I got my ass beat a few times when I was younger …yes I deserved it and yes I turned out just fine
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Completely overreacting
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Over over reacting… everyone parents different but no is no 4 year old should understand boundaries.
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Get over it teach your kid to obey
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No harm. Grandparents been where you are at. Unless your parent wasn’t raised right then I’d understand. But kids need discipline
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And the next generation is F****D…
I’m sorry but a little bit of discipline doesn’t go a stray…
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Be forgiving and work it out. Your baby needs Grandpas LOVE.
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WOW REALLY? You are an evil person if you take your child from their grandparents.
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I got 4 girls 12 an under an I sure smack hands . My dad’s old school and as the old school generation they discipline. I sure learned to be respectful and it taught me a lot These days we got kids out of control an disrespectful. Shooting up schools an everything is crazy . I’m 35 we didn’t have any of this happening
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If your method would of worked by reasoning with the child none of this would of happened teach your child how to respect adults and to listen if my daughter said if I tapped her daughters hand I couldn’t watch them no more I would say take her with you now then because a four year old is going to respect me or I’m not watching them grandchild or not
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He made an honest mistake, apologized, and it shouldn’t even be a thing at all….except you are way over reacting. A hit looks a lot different than a tap in the hand. Why the heck is this even a question? Lol is he a serial hand tapper? Idk if this is serious or not? Way more conversation about this incident has happened than necessary in the first place. Life is short. MOVE ON AND LET THE KID HANG OUT WITH GRANDPA!!
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Get over such foolishness. He apologized and in his theme it was the norm maybe the world would be a better place if children learned that no is no ant they are to respect the elders
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Are you kidding? Are you looking for a reason to dump your child’s grands out of his/her life?
All I can say is it’s people like you who make it hard for legitimately abused children to get help.
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Stop the drama and over reacting your child was asked not to touch and he didn’t listen . Teach him respect for property and when he’s in someone’s house. Don’t create a e titled child. A swT on the hand or bottom is a wake up call and reminder.
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I don’t want NO ONE, and I mean NO ONE!!! Touching my kid!
Sounds like grandpa is remorseful though……give him another chance.
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You most definitely are over reacting. A tap on the hand is absolutely NOTHING to get upset about. And they were honest, told you about it, apologized. It was his hand. Good lord. Not like he beat your child. Teach him respect and boundaries and how to listen when he is told no multiple times and maybe it wouldn’t have happened.
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I wish my grandpa was here and helping with my kids… don’t take him from his grandparents…
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You’re feelings are valid but I’d let it go. If it continues then I’d say okay keep him away because they’re not respecting how you want to raise your kid. He apologized and I’m sure was just a reaction so id let it go
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Get over yourself… kids need discipline.
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At the age of 4, a child should no that the word " NO means NO"
Sounds to me like the parent is over reacting.
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A hand tap and a brusied ass are miles apart. The Tap will do nothing and 4 year olds forget about minor discipline like that in all of 10 minutes.
Waaay overreacting.
Gurl…heez ok…tell him don’t touch tha dam plants!!!
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Omg are you raising this child to be a man or a pansies? Bc that child will grow up thinking the world owes him something for you
NOT disciplining your child! Get over it, you are over reacting! It isn’t like he beat the child with a belt, paddle, shoe or switch which he probably needed bc a 4 yr old should know better!
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Omg so overreacting! And this is the child’s great grandparents. Right? If so, you shouldn’t be surprised by their discipline.
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You are over reacting. Your baby will suffer from losing grandparents a whole lot more than being smacked on the hand because kiddo wouldn’t stop grabbing plants.
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Definitely overreacting. Grandparents are such a blessing. Don’t make them feel bad for disciplining your child, it was a mere tap on the hand.
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Yep. You are over reacting
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this isn’t going the way you thought it was gonna is it OP
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It was just a simple tap on the hand nothing more and he did apologize.
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Go tell grandpa you’re sorry.
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Well what’s the other way if he kept telling him to not do it and he kept doing it obviously he kept doing it to see if he could get away with it now it’s not right and is he hard-headed or is he hard hearing or he just doesn’t listen maybe your son and you owe him a an apology for your son not listening sounds like your son’s disrespectful maybe it’s a win for the grandpa for him not to come over
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A tap on the hand to move the hand away is not the same as smacking them
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Your overreaction is literally laughable.
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Your overreaction is literally laughable.
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