a tap on the hand or even the bum is “NOT A HIT” quit bitching about a tiny tap
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You sound ridiculous 
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Girl I’m glad I’m not your family because where I came from our a… got beat with a Hickory if you know what that is!!! Literally………
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So a hand pop is equal to a spanking. Mmmmmkay.
And yall wonder why the world is how is it is.
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As some plants are irritant to skin, or poisonous, or the child could have an allergic reaction after touching it, i’d say grandpa was doing a great job protecting the child… At 4yrs old the child should know to leave things on first time of telling…
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I think you might need to apologize to the grandparents for overreacting.
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Hugely overreacting.
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It sounds like it was a honest reaction, that probably won’t be repeated, due to you letting them know it bothered you. It’s not worth the upset it’s causing. I bet your child never even thinks about it.
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How are we alive…grandpa said 1 time not to touch the plants, that should have been enough without further discussion…push buttons you bet your gonna get whooped
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Yeah it’s over the top reaction but that’s normal no one likes it when someone else punishing their kids maybe it is time to find new ways of punishing the child if they don’t listen especially when they can break something
Just imagine that you are keeping your kids from their great grandparents and them missing out on all the memories…life is so short and you are selfish if you keep your kid from them simply cuz you didn’t teach respect for others property.
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You should do some tapping yourself
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Overreacting. He’s lucky to have great grandparents he gets to spend time with.
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Sometimes it takes a tap to get their attention. Biblical. Totally overreacting. Spare the rod and spoil the child.
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I just discussed why teachers are quitting,why the mass killings,police gunned down. All this is because there is No discipline or respect taught at home! The reason they think rules don’t apply to them, because there are no rules at home.
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A smack on the hand is good when needed
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Listen to your instincts! If you feel your child won’t be safe alone there, don’t do it! You’re NOT overreacting. Someone’s whose reflex is hurting a child is NOT a safe person for them to be around, there is always another way to teach a child something.
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I mean it’s up to you if you don’t want to send your child over there because the grandparents won’t respect your way of parenting. But at the same time have you had a conversation with them about how you discipline and what’s expected? He also apologized so I think a second chance would be warranted.
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You need to teach your children that when told NO that they are to listen and not do it again. The Grandparents are not at fault you are.
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Sounds like mom is trying to figure out an excuse to keep the kids away from the grandparents. This is only hurting the child and the grandparents. Were you abused as a child by your grandparents?Probably not. All kids need some punishing during their lives or they never learn. Stop trying to make your parents look bad or mean. Stop the whole control crap! It’s hurtful to everyone and you will have to live with regrets later on down the line.
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I’m sorry, but talking about your feelings and how things make you sad do NOT teach a child to respect/behave. Reaching out to do it again and remembering the spanking they got and stopping bc they dont want it again…WORKS!! Dont raise another juvie or “Let’s talk this out” kid. That’s what’s wrong with kids now. Nobody gave a damn enough to whip their @$$ and teach them right from wrong! And when theynare dead and gone you will regret keeping them from that baby over something so stupid!
The child is going to turn out a little sook
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Sounds like your child needed it. Did not hurt him
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I think at 4 years old, a child knows better. No means no, stop means stop… don’t touch it again means don’t touch it again!!! The kid will be entering kindergarten in a few months… I can imagine the hard times the teacher is going to have.
Is there some sort of other behavior issue or diagnosis that is preventing your child from comprehending simple commands?
I’m not trying to be rude… but rather trying to see the whole picture, with only hearing of one incident.
I was thinking we were talking about a toddler here, that doesn’t quite understand yet.
Yes…you’re over reacting
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You sound ridiculous…
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A smack on the hand is far from hitting. You are really over reacting. Yes there is other ways but if those ways don’t work every time they will not learn. As long as it was just the hand they will be fine to go over there.
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I’m sorry but this is reaching if you say your child was tapped on the hand an you are really that upset. what happens when your child is a teen an they walk all over you because you don’t discipline an teach right from wrong? No matter what, wrong is wrong an a tap on the hand is nothing. If you said he did something worse then maybe but a tap on the hand??
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the Way I see it Everyone disciplines Ur child A different way To you when they are in there care. What u gonna do? stop EVERYONE having Ur child because you don’t like how they choose to discipline in there house? A gentle Tap Doesn’t Hurt anyone. by the sounds of it they tried to Get him to Stop and he wouldn’t. you need to Teach Ur 4 year old No Makes no. hell Start Doing Timeout at home! he is Older enough to know NO means no and you ain’t Kidding.
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Please don’t neglect the child nor the grandparents the critical time needed by all. And for what, a tap on the hand…c’mon.
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Over reacting. You didnt mention it leaving a mark, which means it was not hard, it was a reaction.
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Is this for real? You’re upset about a tap on the hand? I can’t be for sure because I wasn’t there, but I’m almost certain that the “other ways” were used before the tap on the hand. Obviously, the “other ways” weren’t working. Had they worked, said child wouldn’t have needed to be tapped on the hand, after they “kept touching the plants” and “wouldn’t stop”.
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When my girls were small & we went to nan’s place I told them do not touch her things or you will get a smack " & they knew what no ment "
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Very much so overreacting….I’ve got my kiddos to mind me by tapping them on the hands instead of their butts😕
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Yes friend. Let it goooooo let it goooooo
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Overreacting for sure
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You are reaching hard. Lord knows what else you would get upset about. If a tapped bothered you. Must be fun at parties
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Definitely over reacting, he apologised she isnt hurt and probably forgot about it within seconds, she won’t forget if you go on & on.
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My children got a tap on the hand if needed and my grandchildren it doesn’t hurt and shows them how to accept no . It will not do your child any harm
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You over reacting horribly bad. You said tapped i mean my God. Id hate yo see what you would do if he got a for real whopping. Probably call the cops on your poor grand dad. You know this is what is wrong with kids now a days is they dont get whopped anymire and they are very ungrateful little brats
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It’s a hand “tap”
He had to learn that no means no
In my opinion be thankful your child has grandparents to be involved in their life
The more people to love your child the better
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Definitely an over reaction
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You better thank your grandpa!!!
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Overreacting for sure
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That child is 4 and won’t listen?! You better have the child checked for a disability.
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It’s a hand tap I wouldn’t consider that “hitting” nothing wrong with it when it’s needed. Over reacting for sure. How else is the child gunna learn?
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You need to tap something besides his hand.
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You are over reacting it’s a hand tap. Also your kid should be able to be told no and have some restraint at 4. This is a kid issue not a grandparent issue. You owe your grandparents an apology big time
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There should be more grandparents like this.
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Ugh oh plz u too sensitive I guess when ur kids get older there going to walk all over u wait till there teenagers
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It’s not as if he hit him with a stick over reacting big that’s why children r out of control these days no discipline at all
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Obviously not as your child kept messing with the plants when told not to … a tap on the hand isn’t going to scar him for life … it’s nothing to get all depressed and angry about!!
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Omg he already acknowledged his mistake and said he’s sorry so why are you overreacting?
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It’s fine , kids need discipline and they barely get it these days 
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It’s a tap on the hand
YOUR WORDS
Definitely a over reaction
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THIS kind of parenting is whats wrong with our world. Kids need CONSEQUENCES!!!
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Definitely am over reaction 4 more then old enough to know to stop at least when asked multiple times even my autistic 4 year old knows what stop means
I think you are over reacting!
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I see over and over on here the “you’re over reacting” comments. Nope. Bullshit. Not over reacting. Your child. Your rules. If grandpa can’t follow your disciplinary rules then grandpa can’t be alone with the grandkids. I wouldn’t be ok with a hand “tap” either. And giving a hit on the hand a cuter name like TAP doesn’t make it better. It’s putting a bow on a piece of shit. It’s still shit. No matter how you label it. And related by blood or not, nobody has the right to discipline your child by hitting them. On the hand. On the face. Does it matter? Same difference. I wouldn’t leave my child with him again. Like he said it was a reflex reaction. He will do it again. It’s how he reacts.
FOUR??? Your child is 4 years old and is not disciplined enough to leave other peoples things alone when told to stop??? You worried about a little tap on the hand…you need to leave your child there more often. Question…how many play dates does your child get invited back again? Cause if nobody can handle your child…there will be no invites…and that is on you.
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My gosh, here’s to the generation of playing the victim and didn’t do anything wrong:roll_eyes:
. Cant stand parents like you.
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If you feel there are other ways to get a 4 year old to listen then perhaps you should go discuss them ways with the person you have a problem with instead of airing your dirty laundry out on Facebook. Just saying….but no you shouldn’t stop your child from going over there. You’re only uncomfortable because now you have to be a parent and communicate your feelings. That’s a hard thing for anyone to do but to take it out on your child and stop the child from going over is not something they would understand. I feel the grandpa is sorry and you are overreacting. I mean come on, it was a tap in the hand.
If kids don’t listen, sometimes a tap on the hand will remind them not to touch something when they are told not to. I bet next time your child is told to stop or don’t do that, your child will listen to grandpa. Don’t be ridiculous and stop now. He said he was sorry and it sounds legit but it just shows you’re not willing to accept his apology and now you wanna punish him and the grandma?? SMH. Now you’re being childish.
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He tapped your kids hand, he will survive. And he already told you it was a reaction and he was sorry. Yes, you are overreacting. A kids time with amazing grandparents is invaluable, don’t you dare take that away.
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Definitely overreacting. He tapped his hand. Kids need direction and when he wouldn’t listen your grandpa did him some justice teaching him not to do something that was unwanted.
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Well honey you should be glad I’m not your grandma I would have told you to take your BRAT and yourself and leave and never set foot in my house again you need to have a good look at kids today NO RESPECT NO RULES AND YOU CANNOT DO ANYTHING TO ME ATTITUDE if that’s how you want your Brats to turn out you keep on talking to them and when they get to the age where they know everything then you can sit back and say oh darling don’t talk like that it isn’t nice you will have to go sit in your corner and see what they say then
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I’m glad I’m not bringing up babies in this cotton candy world the new parents are living in today with no discipline, no wonder the kids turn out to be little shits. There is a big difference between a tap on the hand and a full on beating. You should feel ashamed of even thinking about keeping that child of yours away from its Grand Parents. I hope they take you to court for visitation if you decide to keep them away.
Not only are you overreacting but your being selfish and it’s damaging to not only the grandparents but the child too.
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Other ways to make a kid stop doing something when he’s been repeatedly told to stop doing it? Sounds like that kid is out of control because he’s never had his butt spanked.
Definitely blowing this out of proportion.
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Someone needs to teach your kid respect. A tap on the hand isn’t gonna hurt him, you’re ruining your kid. Don’t be surprised when you see him on the news after causing a terrible tragedy one day.
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I couldn’t imagine making my grandparents feel guilty over something so reasonable if I’m honest.
Be different if it was a smack on the a*se and if your child was 1!
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Definitely need to get over it. Don’t keep them from their grandparents over something so unimportant. Kids need discipline anyways!
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Sounds like he most definitely needs some discipline. Keep this mess up and one day before long he will be over ruling you. You need to bust his little butt yourself then thank the grandfather for trying to correct him. It’s ok your child is not a pice of gold and to even think about not letting him go over there anymore you are dead wrong .
Yes times changed because to many ass holes went beyond a clip across the ear
Way overreacting!! It’s called discipline! Children need grandparents.
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Comments section not exactly going the way op probably thought it would. I do think you are over reacting. I also think you need to be talking to your 4 year old about respecting other people’s belongings
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He didn’t belt/pinch/smack or actually hurt your child he tapped his hand
If thats what you do at home that’s fine, but if the child had been asked to stop touching an you didn’t intervene to redirect that’s how your grandpa managed to redirect him its no big deal I’m sure your child won’t be scarred by it you have advised them this is not how you parent but kids need to understand especially at 4 that no means no… this next generation will have no respect for anything or anyone when they are older.
And yes before you come at me I am a parent and will be the first to discipline my child especially when present…
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Maybe you should suggest those ways to grandpa then. A spat on the hand never hurt anyone.
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I can’t believe you would even think about not sending your child to the grandparents over this BS. Wow
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Get over it
You are way overreacting
Is this for real?
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Your parents should respect you. They obviously don’t. I’d stop letting them go over there without present & explain to your son that gpa’s action was disrespectful to both of you. We live in a violent world. Comments here show why. If someone doesn’t like what you do people think it’s ok to hurt the person.
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Maybe go listen to “Grandpa tell me bout the good Ole days”, and understand the value of grandparents. I’d give anything to have all my grandparents here today and some were very strict with me. Today I only have one living one left. You’re doing your child a great injustice over a pop on the hand and Grandpa even apologized?? You know how many elderly individuals are dying with no familial love? Sorry but not only did you over react but I personally think you owe that man an apology
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Well said Kate Hunt…I wonder if there would be quite so much crime these days if parents had the brains to chastise their children when they were young. Nobody suffered permanent injury from a whack with wooden spoon, but they certainly may have learnt right from wrong .Who really believes that it was right that a Qld mum got 9 months
Probation this week for hitting her delinquent kid with a wooden spoon for stealing $600 from her credit card to buy video games. It was the boy who should have got probation!..the boy learned nothing.
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Let your kid learn some discipline. You can’t coddle him all his life. Words obviously don’t work. Give me a break.
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You are over reacting
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you are over reacting.
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I agree with you. About thinking about it, and then analyzing it. To many things happens because people say oh it’s just this family member it’s fine. Or it’s just this friend it’s fine. I have seen it!! Then you have to wonder well what else could be going on and will he do that again. I do not allow hands on either, because we teach our kids you don’t hit it’s simply just not ok to hit a child. Or anyone. I would wonder the same, and they get an excuse only because it’s your grandparents And they seem genuinely sorry. Sit down have a talk and let them know that’s not how you want discipline done. Again only because it’s your grandparents. Also your child is 4 I am sure you are teaching him to respect other peoples thing but this takes time and it is a plant how many times has he ran into a plant and played with it and got told no???
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You’re causing emotional damage instead.
Ffs 
Kids gonna be the biggest sook in school
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if it was a.slap that left a mark then I’d speak to the grandparent but no I wouldn’t stop them seeing your child. u end up punishing the child f9r something at four yr old they don’t always understand when u are trying to teach them to say no to this no tj that they think it’s a game. a slight little tap on the hand just to say no you are going iver the barriers now u need to stop will not hurt your child its no different than grandad getting hold of your hand and saying no more don’t dk that smacking and full 9n slaps then no but small hand tap nit hand smack then f9r me no problem I used t9 get a certain voice or room fr9m mum that I knew not to.push or occasionally they would say give me your hand and just the thought they eas gonna slightly tap my hand was enough I’d cry say sorry. even now as an adult having fun if I did something wrong dad will say hand and then he will gently tap it messing about and I will do it back to dad to tapping back ofnhis hand then I give mum or dad a kiss and of we go we are all adults now but do it.as a laugh. I wouldn’t tap 8r smack my friends children as I use voice.control or u go and move them if going near danger. or I tell my best friend then upto them how they discipline.
Then you should teach your child some discipline and he would not have tapped.
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A tap is not going to harm your child. Your child will learn that if they do the wrong thing they will get punished at grandmas, that is all.
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Not only are you over reacting, you’re being ridiculous. It’s not like grandpa beat your child. Had your son listened, he wouldn’t have had his hand tapped. Your son learned that every action has a consequence. Don’t listen, get hand tapped. Children NEED to learn consequences. That’s what’s wrong with the world now days. Too many bad choices without consequences as a child leads to adults that don’t follow the rules because they think they’d no consequences. Smh
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I insist on disciplining mine, I’d rather it be me now than cops and judges later.
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really!!!, your fully overreacting over a TAP 
and your poor sons gonna be sookie. imagine at school he’s gona get tapped heaps of times are you gona stop sending him there aswell???.
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Honestly, I would skip reading the comments that say you’re overreacting, you’re coddling your child, etc. There is scientific evidence that using physical punishment on a child does NOT work and can actually create more issues for the child (both long term and short term). I don’t like the fact that your grandpa is claiming it was just a reaction and he didn’t think about it before he did it. He’s an adult and if he can’t think before doing something, I wouldn’t feel comfortable with them alone with my child either. There are other ways to get a child to stop touching your grandmas plants like what you mentioned. I don’t blame you whatsoever. If they can’t respect you or how you are raising your child, your child does not need to be there without you
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I smacked my 5 year old step daughter on the hand👍
Better then smacking on the bottom !
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Are you serious, get over it, poor grandparents with a grandchild like you
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Your overreacting for sure get over it
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