You are being ridiculous.
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Did he die ? If not your over reacting 
let him spend time with cause they won’t be around long
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For real? An undisciplined child is going to be an out of control adult! Don’t be an enabler for his bad behavior!
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Seriously?? Get over it. Discipline is not abuse. More kids in today’s world should be disciplined.
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Oh geez! Might as well keep the kid in a bubble. 
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Wow, a tap?? Omg, the horror.
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If the tap merely diverted the 4yos attention from constantly handling the plants but not really hurt or bruised them, not such a drama. Either that or 4 mins in the naughty chair or corner, how much more exciting would this seem? Can grandparents not try and encourage a love of plants and encourage child with child size gardening tools to “help out” including using a hand held watering can/ jug etc? Can they also help out keeping the cat from hunting the magpies in the garden etc? 4yo have real energy and need to feel useful or this sort of thing will keep happening.
Goodluck in the future if ur this butt hurt over a tap 
send that baby over to his gma and gpa house and stop ur crap
Ok so I’d be mad as hell too! You’re not over reacting at all.
BUT he did apologise. And said he won’t do it again. Do maybe it’s time to give a second chance and if it happens again. You’re absolutely within your rights to not let them have contact unsupervised.
If you have set a boundary and they continue to overstep that. You are valid in your feelings to want to walk away. Especially when it involved hitting.
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Spare the rod spoil the child!! That’s what’s wrong with this world now ppl won’t discipline their kids so the jails/ prisons end up getting them that’s why they are so over populated now because of parents like u!!! You are definitely over reacting
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I smacked my grandson once on the rear. When he was 2 1/2, we had just gotten out of the car, and he pulled away took off running towards the highway with lots of cars speeding by. I caught him and gave him a smack on his bottom, more of a response to my terror, than any anger. I was horrified as I never believed in hitting my children, but I was more upset about it than he was.
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I Tapp my daughter because no matter how many times I tell her that it is not okay to run away from me in a store hide like it’s funny until someone comes and snatches her a tapp gets her attention . She’s 5 kids like to test u and sounds like he was testing gramps as to how far he can go as he must do at home
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My mom killed me a few times and I’m still ok. He should have listened the first time, bet it scared him enough to not touch them again lol kids need discipline or else they will act like little assholes 
I understand boundaries however make it clear that if it happens again you won’t let your child over, sounds to me like grandma and grandpa actually care about your wishes and it likely won’t happen again
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4 year olds know to listen to “do not touch that” if nothing else works then a pop on the hand is ok and you are over reacting
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they’re are no other ways to get a child to stop when u say don’t touch. a smack on the hand is not hitting. over reacting 
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I would feel the same way
If you do stop taking him. Let your grandparents know it’s because you are overreacting. Not because he tapped your sons hand.
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Yes you are overreacting
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You doing a disservice to the child by not licking ‘em. At some point in life every child goin need lickens. Don’t get this twisted with beating the shit out of them, that is something totally different. Couple cracks every now and then when lines have been crossed to remind them who the boss is. Nothing wrong with that. They need to know. Sometimes sending em to timeout is just not enough. I grew up in a place where we respect our elders, weather it be your Aunty, uncle or the neighbor down the street. Disrespect any of them and you may be subject to getting lickens right there on the street. And when you get home now you gotta deal with your parents, uncles, older brothers and cousins. Nobody was exempt from getting lickens.
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Yes you are over reacting
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Yes you are overreacting
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In my opinion ion we need more old school pops on the buns as long as they aren’t being beat or abused. They don’t call it the school of hard knocks for nothin…my granny always said hard heads make soft hindparts and when you don’t listen ya have to feel…I think you would cause more damage by keeping that child from the grands than a bun smack would just My thoughts
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WOW have fun when he gets older and out of control! I tap in the hand is not abuse!
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You are overreacting
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Yes your over reacting, come on has your grandparents ever hurt you, who knows them better than any one, have they hit you, have they ever hurt you, just explain that you don’t like it and end off don’t punish your grandparents and your children cause your waiting to see what everyone reactions is going to be on here, you should trust your own heart go and leave your baby’s with them, cause I bet they would  Guard your children with there life, and they are not getting any younger go love them and tell them how you feel 
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A tap on the hand and you’re not gonna let them see the kid unless you’re there?
You do realize there are HUNDREDS if not thousands of children who are actually abused everyday, right? And you’re freaking out b/c your not listening child got her hand tapped?
I mean, I get it. “My kid, my rules” but one of these days when she’s grown or at least growing up you’ll understand why you should’ve made her listen long before 4. Bratty kids are oftentimes the worst teens. Good luck, OP
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Overreacting definitely. Letting kids get away with something creates an entitled brat who thinks anything goes when they’re adults
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yes you are overreacting
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Absolutely over reacting
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Spare the rod spoil the child
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I would rather a little pop on the hand than an ER visit for a poisoning by plant
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My question is, if the child doesn’t listen to a simple “No, don’t touch” and kept doing it, what was grandpa suppose to do? Yell? Kids are smart and most of the time they is like to test their boundaries. Maybe the kid made an honest mistake and touched something they weren’t supposed to and in turn grandpa had to react. It’s a learning experience for all parties. But yes, you are overreacting by keeping the child way. Set boundaries with the grandparents but also speak to your child and let them know they have to listen so they won’t get a tiny little “tap” on the hand.
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That’s what’s wrong with the kids now they get by with a lot of things and the older they get the more they think they can get by doing… Teach them young!!!
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If he does it multiple then a tap on the hand is the LEAST grandpa could do. I’d like to hear these other ways to get a 4 year old to listen.
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Talk to your grandparents about your rules around discipline. You also need to speak with your child about listening to what others have to say and if they ask him to stop, then he should stop.
Don’t make it weird, talk about it and move on.
If it’s an ongoing issue then yeah, rethink it then
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I agree with you, there are definitely other ways to get a kid to listen, however I completely understand it being a reaction for him, hell I’d do the same thing to an adult if they wouldn’t stop touching my plants too lol, especially with his generation and how they grew up with different views on spanking and stuff, I share the same views that you do, but if he told you about it and was immediately sorry then I’d accept it, he’s already doing better then most from his generation
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I ‘tapped’ my grandson on his hand after repeated saying NO when he wanted to play with the electrically cords that were plugged in, I also moved him away from them repletely. His mother also was pissed at me, Then I told her it was better that than him electrocuting himself. After I said that, nothing else was said, I also would never spank him. Oh my grandson was also a lot younger, At 4 yrs old, your son really knows the difference between NO & stop that, And if he doesn’t, boy are you are in for some fun 
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Every child needs firm discipline now and again. A hand slap is nothing. You are definitely overreacting.
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Oh yeah? Then teach your four-year-old to not touch Grandma’s plants or to listen and do what he is told, that’s teaching him respect for others then Grandpa won’t tap him
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Seriously, is it worth taking the time they’ll never get back away from your child and grandparents…
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You definitely over reacted. You must have the money to keep replacing things your child may break or tear up. A child knows no boundaries until you set some. Set some now or regret it later
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You’re dramatic. It’s a tap on the hand! I don’t believe in spanking either but I wouldn’t be upset if my family member ‘tapped their hand’
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I feel like you’re extremely ridiculous
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Your over reacting why should your child be allowed to destroy their plants.a tap on the hand seriously.
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I popped myself the other day “. Ur victimizing ur child instead of empowering them.
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Get over it was a tap on the hand because your child wasn’t listen
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Definately over reacting
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Over reacting big time , bring your kids to them
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Grandpa probably needed to tap you more often 
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It is not that serious. It’s not like he whooped your child.
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You ate overreacting ! Grandpa told you about the incident and apologized for going beyond your boundaries. But the child needs to learn no asked nicely means no. The child needs to learn respect for grandpa and other adults. Punishing grandpa by not allowing a child to go there is ridiculous. If a critical situation comes up with a life or death situation that child must learn no means no to save him or her from serious or life threatening injury. You are giving this child too much power and years ahead with be hell if you don’t establish who is really in charge.
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Get over it. Maybe he needs it.
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They’re gonna be gone soon and then you’ll ask yourself if this was really worth it. You new parents make us all look crazy 
you’re flipping out over nothing in big picture. You might want to learn now to pick your battles. And literally that goes for EVERYTHING
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Wow!! This is exactly what is wrong with kids these day!! Parents are afraid to discipline kids. And that’s why they get away with everything!!
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not disciplining isn’t ever gonna work. over a hand tap, that’s a bit dramatic to get upset about. they’re doing what they used to do to their child and maybe their grandchildren. we’re all raised in a different generation. every child needs discipline or they’re not gonna know there are consequences to their actions. just talking to them isn’t correcting or reassuring they got the message.
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A smack on the arse should do.
Are you f.n kidding. When your kid grows up and when they do . Ypu wish you would have hit there ass end a few times. In the end you will have a lot of problem .
Wow!! A tap on the hand? He was asked not to touch the plants and still continued to do so. Sounds to me like he needed it. You’re way overreacting!! You owe your grandparents an apology
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It probably hurt your grandfather more than your son just with the way that you reacted. You are very lucky to have that childs Great Grandparents in his life. They can teach your son so much and you are willing to destroy that over a tap on the hand? What if that plant were something dangerous? Your son needs to learn the meaning of NO and that there are consequences if you don’t listen. Whether it’s a tap on the hand or a burn from a hot burner, there are consequences. I’d prefer the slap on the hand.
You are seriously overreacting
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Obviously you were around Grandma and Grandpa as a child a lived to tell about it. Good god kids need to learn from someone. For starters if you took him there where were you when he was tearing up the plants? Your method must not be working or he would have listened the first time! Kids need corrected by everyone they are around let Grandpa do his part and keep your mouth shut you may not have to bail him out of jail in 10 more years.
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LOL I fired my landscapers last week for weedwacking leaves on my citrus tree. Teach your kid not to touch things that don’t belong to him. 
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I understand that you want your parenting wishes to be respected, but you’re letting one incident define several entire relationships (grandpas relationship with your child. Your relationship with grandpa. Your relationship with grandma. Your child’s relationship with grandma.)
People aren’t perfect and everyone makes mistakes. A tap on the hand after repeated warnings, was a mistake. Your child wasn’t actually hurt. Grandpa immediately recognized that he’d messed up and apologized for it as well.
Remember that you can not spank and still discipline your children. As a parent, you need to figure out what consequences are appropriate (instead of just ones that aren’t) and convey those to the grandparents to give them options when handling repeated inappropriate behaviors.
Yes It was “just” a plant this time…but what about when your child does something that could be harmful to themselves and won’t listen when told that is dangerous? What recourse is appropriate?
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Imagine being this uptight lol
Let the child see their grandparents…you are 100000000% over reacting. Grandparents are special, let them and your child enjoy the time they have together.
Apologize to your grandparents. Move on from this.
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Ridiculous it was a slap on the hand
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I bet the child learned from that pop. It was necessary.
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a little smack on the hand will not kill her or do damage so that and a firm no is all you need some plants are deadly poison so children should never touch
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It’s honestly not that serious… I used hand tapping/plucking too because it startles the child… He’s not hurting ur baby… And if u aren’t going to be there to help discipline… U have to expect that your GRANDparents cannot run circles with your kid… Their great-grandchild… For discipline… They did their time rearing children… And u seem to be ok… That stemmed from them… I think u need to relax a bit darling… It’s ok…
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Boy what an overreaction!!! He is not bleeding or needs medical care!!! Sounds like YOU need to a few more taps to him!!!
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Overreacting, a child needs Grandparents. He can never have to many people love him
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Yes you’re overreacting. 
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Then teach your kid not to touch stuff that doesn’t belong to him the FIRST time he’s asked, with your gentle parenting 
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He didn’t fill out whoop him. He tapped him so yes you are over reacting big time
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Definitely over reacted…My goodness a tap on the hand…To keep a child away for something like this is silly…I expected my parents and grandparents to tap my kids on the hand or the leg it’s not abuse…
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While I have never “tapped” or spanked either if my kids and they are very well behaved, I think this seems like a quick reaction on Grandpa’s part,he realizes he did something against your wishes and will likely never do so again. I don’t see any reason you keep the grandkids from visiting. If he does it again then sure, because at that point he has already been spoken to. The amount of people who think there is no way to get children to behave outside of hitting them on this thread is wild though.
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I would say you are overreacting to that generation that was how they disciplined their children. You’ve said that this isn’t how it’s done now and they’ve agreed they were wrong. But a tap on the hand isn’t exactly bad. Maybe just explain your methods for training wether it’s the naughty step or whatever else you use. But don’t stop the contact. All to soon they won’t want to go to grandparents anyway.
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Definitely overreacting.
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He apologized. What a blessing to still have your grandparents in your life, let alone your children’s.
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Wow just wow!! I wish I had any of my grandparents around long enough, would’ve even taken a whipping with the jug chord if it meant being bought up with them around, only met 1 who died when I was around 4. Be forever grateful your kids have them.
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You are definitely overreacting. Teach your child to listen the first time and not touch things when hes asked to the first time, nevermind the first three times.
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Sad that YOU feel uncomfortable about a hand tap and no care of an undisciplined child !
Thank the grand parent for LOVING your kid enough to make them mind to avoid something bad happening in the future …
Don’t touch a hot stove .
Don’t play in the street .
How would you discipline these behaviors should your child disobey?
You may be very uncomfortable with them because you may be planning a funeral !
The generation of “ other means of discipline “ = ANNOYING!!!
Teach your kid to respect and mind their elders !!!
It will be my luck to end up sitting beside you and your child in a restaurant. Your parenting skills or lack of affects others in a public setting . This group of children brought to birthday parties or other functions where interaction with others take place can make or break an enjoyable gathering .
Also the undisciplined child grows up to be undisciplined adult which brings a whole set of other issues !
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Omg Really !!! get over it!!! Friggin rediculious why would you keep this precious child from his precious grandparents !! 
And grampa should do it again if need be . Doesn’t mean he doesn’t love little one should be more like grampa 
maybe you should relax a little 
your the one that should apologize to your grandparents now poor people won’t dare breath when your there beyond rediculious!!!
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You’re overreacting a little tap on the end to let him know not to do what he’s doing it’s not going to hurt
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A simple tap on the hand is not going to scar him for life, teach your child to respect others belongings!
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A little tap won’t kill the child. Once he’s not being abused. . spare the rod spoil the child.
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Overreacting. If you don’t like how the grandparents smack her than you like most children ( including mine) pay someone to take care of children. Grandparents love n we are babysitting bc we love our grandchildren. N we don’t get paid
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Omg…they are Old people who grew up in a different time. And Most in that time got much more then a tapping on the hand!
Guess what , the World was Much Better off too back then!
Be happy your child has grandparents still and that they can be bothered!
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Are you overreacting? Yes. I’m a big fan of discipline and I was tough as nails on my kids. I still believe in smacking, and I stand by it. I had many hidings as kid and I turned out just fine. My kids had plenty of hidings too, and they also turned out fine. The problem is that there is not enough good old fashioned ass-walloping discipline with today’s generation. That’s why they have no respect and are uncontrollable.
You are over reacting… I rather my grandparents to tap my child’s hand then my child get hurt. How do you know if your grandparent didn’t tap your child’s hand and the plant fell on them, and your child got hurt. Your grandparents would be more upset because they did nothing best telling them no. Also at least your grandparent said sorry. When my daughter was little, she would come in the kitchen with me because she wanted to be near me. She touched the oven 2 times (it wasn’t on yet but I didn’t want her to touch it because I was about to turn it on) on the 3rd time I tapped her hand and said no, hot ouchy. Some times we have to give a little tap to get their attention.
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I think it would be safe to trust them again especially considering they told you about it and apologized. That’s probably just instinctive for them giving how they were raised. I don’t think they meant any harm.
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This is the dumbest thing i have ever read! You should be ashamed acting that way towards your grandparents! You have no clue how lucky you are! But lets deprive the kid of the memory of them!
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Your kid is 4…old enough to listen when they’re told the first time. You’re definitely overreacting.
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You are certainly over reacting’ maybe you should be upset with the fact your child doesn’t listen to your grandparents!
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Absolutely over reacting. This right here is why we have the issues we have in the world right now. Overly spoiled kids who think they can do what they want because the parents wouldn’t discipline. I get you don’t want to beat your child, but a slap on the hand is nothing. He won’t even remember it. But it might instill some discipline that it sounds like your son desperately needs. Please consider this before getting so angry over something so small.
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You’ll live and so will you super sensitive kid lol
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How else will they learn. This is a tough world. And smack on the hand isn’t shit compared to the f-ed world were living in.
i think you are over reacting she had her hand tapped if you dont like it sugar mind your own kid its 4 years old she should know when they say no it means no so you cant be doing discipline at home or this kid is not listening
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Seriously, its called discipline and it was only a tap on the hand, sorry this is whats wrong with kids now a days because they don’t know that there are consequences. You are over reacting, good luck with your child as he grows up because you didn’t teach him boundries and consequences. There is nothing wrong with a tap on the hand or the butt.
Yes 100% overreacting.
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