Overreacting! Little tap never hurt a child. It was on the hand and not a slap on the butt or heck even worse what we got “back in the day” spoons or other devices to whip our butts. I think you need to reconsider your view on this incident and move on
First of all you said you don’t hit in YOUR household, this happened at the grandparents house where there are different rules. They are YOUR grandparents and they probably tapped you too . Kids need boundaries to help them learn the difference between right and wrong. A child who has no consequences becomes an adult who does what he wants without thinking of the feelings and rights of others . I cried harder than my grandson when I tapped his bottom but it stopped him from going into the street. My daughters one and only spanking left me devastated but it stopped the behavior more than just talking did. Your grandparents are well with in their rights in their home and to stop your sons visits there would be detrimental to both your son and the grandparents . As long as your son isn’t coming home with bruises or other signs of injuries he’s fine. “Tapping” him will not scar him for life . Also keep in mind some plants are toxic or maybe they just don’t want their plants ruined
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You are not overreacting, old people are set in their ways and think these physical punishments are ok , all these people telling you otherwise wouldn’t be saying that if for example you would tape an adults hands so they wouldn’t touch your plants. Why do you think that is ? Because children are not treated with the same respect that adults are in this society. Trust your instinct mama
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My dad doesn’t always parent my son the way I do. But I trust him and I know he wouldn’t hurt my child on purpose. He has smack his but when be was younger and misbehaved. Now he threatens the paddle, which he does have but never used on the boy. But the threat works lol. In fact I’m pretty sure he made it just to show him lol
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You sound a little nuts to me!! Your going to have one of those obnoxious kids I can tell already. Good luck
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This is what’s wrong with kids now. Maybe he needed it. Discipline them now or risk the LEO doing it.
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Idk Coming from the grandma I wouldn’t even want your crotch goblin at my house if he didn’t listen 
omg at 4 !! should know better so tapping did not hurt them !!! sounds like they need taught discipline
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Overreacting. A tap isn’t going to kill you or your child. Sounds like your child needed a tap. They are not beating her. Spare the rod spoil the child
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Definitely an over reaction x the fact that he is sorry for it shows he feels bad so is unlikely to do it again. But also it was a tap on the hand I would argue that I never used physical discipline in my household but when my child was about to touch a kettle I tapped his hand as a reaction … it didn’t hurt him but it also meant that he didn’t hurt himself
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Yes you are over reacting. A tap on the hand is not going to kill him. Their house so their rules. Plus he is 4 and he understands what no means. And if he doesn’t well that will fall back on you.
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People of their generation parented differently. Do I believe it could have been just a unthinking reaction, yes.
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A tap on the hand is not worth taking visits away from his grandparents in my opinion. He is 4 and it’s not like he has made a habit of beating your child.
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You are over reacting he didn’t beat or abuse your child stop being a Karen
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Get over it the child should have minded she probably needed a good spanking anyway
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no you’re over reacting. He didn’t listen to his grand parents and it was delt with in a good way. A smack on the hand isn’t going to kill the kid. And it also falls back on you that he wasn’t listening.
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You’re over reacting 
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Yes your overreacting…
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Over reacting, and very stupid
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You definitely overreacted. Sounds like grandpa is the only one trying to discipline
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He’s YOUR grandpa? So the child great grandpa? My great grandpa is 82 and helps a lot with my kids. Please remember they are older, and things are so different now. It probably was just a reaction, as in he reacted. Obviously I don’t know the whole story or him, but I do have help from the same family and struggle. But he means well.
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Your kid shouldn’t have kept touching the plants. That age is old enough to listen the first time like others have said. Unless there’s a developmental issue. A “tap” on the hand is not hitting. Would you rather a pot fall on his toes and break them? Those are heavy especially compared to little toddler toes. You can tell them you don’t want his hand tapped, that’s your right as a parent but the outcome could have been different if he didn’t. It isn’t like your kid was listening, he was told multiple times to stop. Your grandpa probably didn’t know another way after trying to get him to stop more than once. At least he wasn’t “hit.” But I’d be looking more towards your kid not listening to their grandparents. If you make a little hand tap a bigger deal than your kid being disobedient then your kid will never learn. Not sending them there anymore unless you’re there is probably making them both feel like horrible people. There’s more going on with kids in the world today that I don’t think you need to make them feel guilty of something so small. I feel bad for the grandparents.
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lady calm down , is your child traumatized but the little HAND swat, I doubt it, grandparents were raised differently than us, he said he was sorry and understood that’s not how you want to handle discipline.
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This is why i don’t watch other people’s kids. Stay home if you don’t want your child disciplined. Saves the grandparent trouble.
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Obviously your parenting skills is not working!!!
If it was working your four year old would listen to to grandpa And not touch his flowers
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Are you serious? Lol
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You are overreacting. Children need discipline. Before everyone jumps on my comments, I do NOT condone abuse whatsoever! But, kids need consequences at a young age to learn!
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That’s how my mom got me to not touch other folks stuff and I haven’t never shot nobody! Stop over reacting!! OMG! They didn’t abuse the kid!!
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Please tell me this is a troll… it cannot be real… please tell me it’s a joke.
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The fact you had to ask the question is more worrying than anything to be honest. Grow up ffs.
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Over reacting. It’s his grandparents. What if the plants was poisonous? It a was a tap and they apologized.
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No wonder a lot of kids are unruly, confused and disrespectful.
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Heaven forbid he got his hand tapped. He will learn to keep his hands off things that don’t belong to him. Be a parent already
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Your very much over reacting!
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I mean honestly his grandpa has that right
Mine never hit me nor spanked me but he would tell me " touch It again grounded for a two days" that taught me quickly no TV
Only to come out eat and pee he’s at the age he knows better I agree with grandpa sorry even my own son don’t touch certain things at his Nana’s house
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It didn’t harm him a bit, besides he probably needed to be disapplined
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A tap did not hurt your child…
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I think a lot of the problems we see today are from people who are scared to discipline their kids and hurt their feelings.
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Overreacting-and teach your child to behave.
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And this is why Kids don’t listen these days the first no should have been good enough after that then either a slap on the hand or the bottom we as grandparents or anyone shouldn’t have to put up any thing when kids come over it’s your duty as a parent to watch your kid and make sure and stop blaming others if ppl don’t like my rules when they come over then stay away. You will regret that when your grandparents are gone they are the backbone to the Family.
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Sounds like gramma is truly upset. However, your child has to respect gramma when gramma says no.
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Let the boy get his hand slapped! That’s the problem with kids today, they DONT get disciplined. I’m not saying beat him but dang a little hand slap or butt spank can go a long way!
Yes, you are very much overreacting.
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You sound annoying:skull:
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The whole problem with kids , snowflake parents!
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I would suggest you start getting used to other parents disciplining your child. You’re gonna have a shock when the police call you stating they’ve disciplined your kid 
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Over reacting.
A tap is not hitting…
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Threats work just as well. You will not have any ice cream after dinner or Im afraid we cant let you come over again, you will have to stay home or I was going to buy you a toy but I wont if you dont stop. Blackmail, threats and other manipulations instead of hitting work also. Time outs too.
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Some of the questions on these pages are ridiculous. Almost like they are made up.
If the child “kept doing it” obviously words were not working. Not like the grandpa whipped the child with a belt. Just a “tap”(as you stated) to get the child’s attention since words were not working.
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Yes you are overreacting
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While as a preschool teacher I can not condone (nor would I) hitting, I feel you’re overreacting. It was an instinctive tap, your child was not harmed. Tapping is not hitting. It’s more instinctive and a reaction to quickly stop or startle. You don’t know that some of those plants aren’t dangerous. I can’t tell you how many toxic plants I’ve bought not realizing they were toxic until I got them home. Even if they aren’t, grandma has probably put a Ton of time and effort into caring for her plants and grandpa was trying to prevent her absolute heart break by tapping his hand. A good way (IMO) to help with this situation would be to spot down with them/him and explain why he should not touch them and see if he could maybe help water a few of them (even if only specific ones). This would help him to understand and still feel involved and as though they aren’t really “off limits” potentially minimizing his “off limits” curiosity and possibly distraction with/of the plants.
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spare the rod & spoil the child
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HORRORS! “Tapped his hand. OMG- call child welfare.
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are you on medication?
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I think you are overreacting a little bit…a pop or tap on hands or the bottom will not hurt a child. the grandpa and grandma have years of experience in bringing up a child.
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Again…”It tAkeS a vIllAge” right? Well, guess what?! Gramps is part of said village.
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You’re over reacting. Your grandfather apologized, mine would be like - is my house. Sounds like your message is clear, he’s just remembering when he was raising kids.
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You definitely overreacted.
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He was tapped!! He didnt whip him!! He should by 4 know not to touch and the meaning of no! Maybe implementing some discipline and reminding him of rules before visiting would help
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I’m sorry but that’s the most ridiculous thing I’ve heard.
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Oh Lord a tap to the hand is death to parents nowadays. You owe your grandparents a apology.
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You’re overreacting, let it go
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I used go tap my little cousin hands when I kept her bc she wouldn’t listen! Shes 13 now and the only adult she will listen to is me!!! Her mom calls me all the time! It’s ohkay to tap a child!!! Especially if nothing else is working!!
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You are definitely over reacting. Your child is living in a bubble if he has never been “tapped” for bad behaviour. If you don’t start real discipline, your child will grow up thinking they can push people to do their bidding, but the first person to tell them no in the real world will be as if you neglected your child all their life because you did not prepare them.
You will turn your child into a Dudley Dursley (bully) or worse … an Amber Heard 
(manipulative sociopath) if you don’t get off this gentle parenting fad.
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Maybe, just maybe your style of discipline isn’t working, and “just words” need a bit more. If your son “kept doing it”, words aren’t working, and as that’s grampa’s house, he gets to decide how to teach.
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This is the type of stuff that is wrong with our nation. Holy shit!!!
You’re overreacting. It’s a normal reaction. Also, tapping isn’t hitting.
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This is exactly what’s wrong with society today. Lack of discipline and repercussions.
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You’re over reacting. A tap doesn’t hurt. Sometimes words don’t work so you gotta tap their butt or hand. I say it’s my house my rules. Grandpa didn’t woop him so don’t take the kid away from his grandparents.
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I can’t with these stupid overreacting questions.
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Your 100% over reacting
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You are over reacting
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There is a difference between tapping, spanking and abuse. A swat on the hand is not even spanking, and certainly not abuse.
I caution teaching young children to overreact to things that are honestly harmless. That is not mentally or physically good for a child and blurs the lines of right and wrong.
Also, take into consideration that your Grandpa was raised in another era and is not a child abuser by any means.
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You said a tap on the hand so it sounds like it amounted to nothing. To me that’s not hitting. ( which I also am totally against) Does she enjoy being with the grandparents? Does she show any fear or not wanting to be around them? It sounds like that’s not the issue. I’d sit down with her and the grandparents and explain what is expected when she’s in their care( from both your daughter and the grandparents) At 4 she’s certainly old enough to understand what is expected from her when she’s in the grandparents care.
It would be unfair to the grand parents and the child to ruin the relationship over what sounds like it wasn’t anything to be concerned about.
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Building more snowflakes
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Omg … yes you are overreacting
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We don’t hit in our house either but I will tap them on the hand to get their attention when I want them to stop something. You’re definitely overreacting.
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Bigger fish to fry…the grandparents need to see their grandchildren as often as the can. There is a Plether of knowledge they will pass onto your children. Grandparents have rights to!
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Yes you are over reacting. Teach your child to respect other peoples belongings. A 4 year old shouldn’t have to be told repeatedly to stop doing something, most stop after the 1st time they are told.
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Wait untill your child is 14yrs old.You’ll wish you tapped your kid some more.Its the hardest age.
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So it was the childs great grandpa that tapped his hand,how lucky is that child …
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It says he “would not stop”. That leads me to believe they tried other methods (such as telling him not to do it) first. I understand you don’t hit your kid but if he doesn’t listen to words, then there’s a problem. But I bet after the “tap” he left the plants alone
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Your 100% overacting!
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Wtf did I just read!!! Really!
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Every kid has had a pop on the hand fir touching something they aren’t supposed to touch. Geeze.
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You are over reacting.
And sometimes a tap on the hand IS needed!
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I don’t think you should withhold your children from their grandparents or great grandparents unless there is real abuse. Getting popped on the hand when I was a child made me a better person today.
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Youre over reacting. Im sure your grandpa didn’t do it unless the kid deserved it and needed an attention getter.
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Definitely overreacting
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Overreacting, probably for attention. You grew up, obviously spoiled. You need to look back for parenting skills. A dusting of the butt in the situation described might keep your kid from poisoning themselves on a houseplant. A dusting of the butt gets attention of the child, impressing the lesson immediately. So, yeah, your overreacting AND a lousy parent.
Definitely over reacting. Smh. Teach your child to keep their hands to themselves. This right here is the very issue that is wrong that has all these young kids running around like heathens disrespectful to their elders etc!
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A hit and tap are 2 different things. You kid wouldn’t listen so yes they would get tapped on the hand for not listening. This has to be a joke
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Are you kidding you are soooooo over reacting
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Do not keep your child from his grandparents because of this.
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You are so wrong 
, he needed a tap
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100% over reacting and sound 100% ridiculous. 4 is old enough to understand “no” and “stop” and a tap on the hand to get his attention isn’t a big deal. What if one of those plants could’ve made him sick? If he hadn’t gotten his attention and he put a plant in his mouth that made him sick, then this post would be you bitching about that I suppose.
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I feel people post this shit to get a reaction out of people …SMH 
did your grandpa explain to you that you may parent however you want at your house but his house is NOT yours …and how awfully LUCKY your child is to have a GREAT grandfather ?! Now imagine if the plant was a knife, gun, or hot stove…a candle perhaps ???.. he clearly has raised his children fine…considering YOU ARE here …don’t treat your grandparents so harsh and like your child is a treat or a chess piece …be an adult …get over it …or remove your child from their life over a little hand slap …the grandparents won’t be missing much IF this is the case…
GET A GRIP
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Did your child learn from it. Yes. So let it go . Some kids need a small tap here and there. It’s not abuse. You will learn as they get older you’re gonna wish you had tapped harder.
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Over reacting. A slap on the hand is nothing. Your acting like the child was raped, or sexually assaulted. Get over it.