No I wouldnât walk away, maybe have a heart to heart with him? See how he feels or why he hasnât said it? Iâve been with my boyfriend 3 years and we barely say I love you, we both know we love eachother but I find it really hard to say as Iâve been hurt before in the past I guess itâs kind of a barrier for me, although he knows I do love him ⌠some just find it harder than others x
Underlying issues? Have you said it to him? Does he deal with abandonment from past relationships?
Have you told him, if you have then ask him why
Throw Him in the Bin
Words are noithing but actions speak louder
My bf and I have been together almost 5 years and weâve never said to each other either. Actions speak louder than wordsâŚplus Iâm the one with the issues lol
Communicate. Surely you can talk to each other if you have been together 4 years.
Some people donât need to say it you should know by his actions if he loves you or not
Maybe he does but canât say it does he do anything to show it?
Actions speak louder than words.
Wtf did I just read 
Maybe he loves your brother 
Is that all? Why does he have to say I love you? Pretty sure he wouldnât be with you if he didnât. Actions speak louder then words. This needs more context. Like why the fuck you questioning? Has he had trauma in relationships? Maybe he thinks itâs just a word and that he shows it so why say it? You need to talk to him.
Well does he actually love you? Have you said it to him? Do you know if heâs ever said it to anyone because believe it or not, some people havenât. Itâs foreign to them. Talk to him about it.
That seems odd. Do you say it to him? Does he show you he loves you? Maybe ask him why he doesnât say it.
But does he show you he loves you?
Wow. That seems strange. I think the question is⌠have you said it to him and he not replied? I couldnât imagine not saying it to my partner after 4 years, thatâs really fâd up to me each to there own tho. But if you donât feel the love then walk out the door and donât look back 
Heâs wasting your time
Communicate with him about it. I couldnât imagine not saying it to my person for 4 years though, each to their own I guess. But since you had to ask, I think you already have the answer.
Shut the door behind him
Does he show you he loves you? Words are cheap, Iâll take action over words everyday of the week.
Some guys will say they love you and not mean it ⌠other might show that they love you but not say it âŚ
Yes like 3 1/2 years ago
You are willing to walk away from a relationship because of a few words.? Iâm guessing if you have been with this guy for 4 years he must be doing something right and proves with his actions that he cares and or loves you⌠if itâs that important to you that he says I love you then you need to talk to him.
Iâve been with mine a year and he has never said it. He shows it though so I know he does. & he goes out of his way a lot when I ask for somethingâŚWords donât mean nothing. Sometimes people just donât know how to say it I use to be like that.
My grandma has told me twice in my 25 years that she loves me. I asked her once why she didnât say often and her reply âBecause I show you all the time and you should just knowâ.
If youâre both happy, content and in love then I donât feel itâs necessary for him to have to say it 
Do you know his love language?
Does he show his love to you in other ways?
Donât let the fact he doesnât say I love you be the factor that makes you walk away.
Wow that is a long time not to hear it, I personally would need to hear it but thatâs just me.
Perhaps he shows you his love rather than saying it? He wouldnât be with you for 4 years if he didnât love you⌠Surely?x
actions speak louder than words and some people struggle to say i love you perhaps due to past issues (abuse, neglect etc etc) if you asked him do you love me would he reply yes? how does he treat you on a daily basis? does he treat you like he loves you? that is what is important 
Ask him if he actually loves you and how come heâs never said it
Have you said it to him?
If so, what was his response?
There are certain people that I loveâŚbut never say it to. I donât think in my 28 years⌠I have ever told my sister that I love her⌠she knows I do. But we donât say it. Even my brother⌠I think I have said one or twice. My mum and dad on the other hand , every time we speak⌠I tell them I love them. Different people show affection in different ways. Have u asked why? Maybe he just assumes u knowâŚand feels its not necessary
Love is shown in different ways. Itâs cuddling you when your upset. Kissing you on the forehead just because. Making you something to eat. Doing house chores so you donât have to. Buying you your favourite flowers. Telling you to txt him so he knows your safe. Telling you to put your seat belt on.
All different ways of saying I love you without actually saying it. Although itâs nice to hear sometimes you do just need to hear it. But maybe he doesnât realise how much occasionally you would like to hear it? Xxx
Does he do things the show he loves U? Does he treat U right? If U had kids would U want your daughter to date him? THAT is your answer.
Words arenât everything, my ex would tell me he loved me like every hour⌠Didnât stop him cheating tho.
What yâall been talking about for 4 years?
I feel like everyone is being hella judgey, some people find it really hard when it comes to the way they show affection. If he treats you right and makes you feel loved and appreciated then thatâs all that matters. Of course hearing the words would so nice but not everyone is the same. You know your relationship with your partner better than anyone, Iâd go off that x
Obviously you donât feel loved or him not saying it wouldnât bother you⌠Iâd say you are wanting validation so you can leave⌠So put on your big girl drawers and get the fuck on with your life. You deserve happiness,not contentment⌠Unless you are a total ass hat; in which case, you get what you give, so happy trails.
Not if that is the only problem you have. Some people donât express feelings with words.
My boyfriend has never said that but he does love me. He shows me every day. Weâve been together 5 yrs.
Thatâs Abit looong I wouldnât be staying over a year if he hasnât said those words. At the end of the day itâs not hard to say it with your chest if you feel it 100%
Some people find it hard to say the words I love you but if he is good to you in other ways and shows you he loved you by his actions then stay but also maybe try to bring it up to him in a calm manner and discuss things
Have u said it? This is strange. He obviously cares or I donât think heâd stay that long. Thatâs just kinda weird to me. I feel in 4 years this should have been figured outâŚ
Thatâs sort of a tricky question because many factors can play a role in that. I was raised in a very structured Quaker upbringing where outword affection and âI love yousâ werenât spoken. We all knew we were loved dearly, but it wasnât said. As I married into a different type of family dynamic I found it unnatural to profess my emotions or show affection. It didnât come naturally, but it did come. I still at times have to be mindful of showing affection outwardly. Now my family always says I love you and we show affection with hugs. Words are just words and anyone can give a hug. I would be more concerned with just knowing that you truly are loved and wanted and focus less on what society defines as what represents an I love you.
Some men arenât raised to show affection or do all those thing on special days sometimes I feel my husband doesnât love ,e but he shows it in a lot of ways so,times I wish I met someone more affectionate and all that but I look at all the other things he does. He doesnât even tell he how he feels and all that. But he is my other haLf does so much for the kids. Does tell me he loves me once in awhile. So maybe talk to him tell him how u feel I had to do that once.
If itâs important to you to hear it, talk to him about it, if he doesnât change maybe you should reconsider the relationship but you gotta keep in mind some people arenât raised hearing those words so itâs harder for them to say it out loud, it was hard for me for a while, but now I have kids and I tell them and everyone I care for I love them regularly!
Personally I wouldnât stay. Words of affirmation is extremely important to me in a relationship.
Iâve been with my bf for 6yrs and he hasnât said I love you either but he wasnât raised to say I love you or show affection like that. But he is a good man and shows me he loves me in other ways he loves my kids and grand kids and thatâs what matters if he shows you in other ways and doesnât cheat or treat you bad. I say stay it will all be worth it
Sometimes men find it hard saying those words because of the environment they grew up in. If he shows you he does then itâs fine. It would help if you spoke about it
I donât say it a lot!! I believe in actions speak louder than words!! I can tell who ever I love them but if my actions donât back it up my words it means nothing!! So I tend to let all my actions speak for themselves!! To me words are words!! Your character and actions speak above all else!! Just my thoughts though!!
Have you talked about it first? There could be more to this. Maybe he wasnât raised in a household that said âI love youâ, whether religious or not. If he doesnât know what you want, how is he supposed to know what to do? However, if you have tried to discuss this with him and he refuses, then I would say leave him because that shows to me that he isnât really taking my thoughts and feelings to heart.
Do you want to hear it from him? Have you told him that you would like to hear it? How much does it mean to you? Personally. I want to hear it. Ur call Sis.
Yes actions speaks louder then words but it is really nice to hear the words sometimes!! My boyfriend (5 yrs) said it only a hand full of times so I asked him why, he said he couldnât, I didnât buy it but then I read an article on just that subject and he was 10/10, he truly canât say it but he knows how important it is to me so he tryâs but I did notice he would say the same thing âRaRaâ and I learned he couldnât say the words but he found a way he could so talk to him first before you walk if heâs good to you other then the words
My bf donât say it often but I donât push it⌠so Iâd say let him show u in his own way or tell u in his own way guys r horrible at feelings
If there are more red flags, walk away. But hereâs the thing, some people just donât say it, they show you. I truly believe actions speak way louder than words.
Thatâs kind of the opposite of my problem right now⌠my bf and I have been dating almost a year and he says it all the time and Iâve never said it. When is the right time? Maybe there isnât a right time? Idk
Do you say it or have said it? Whatâs your relationship like, think about that. Perhaps he shows you that he loves you in other ways? Thatâs a solid time together. Youâd think you would have established a good communication by now so Iâd recommend talking to him.
Have you said it and he doesnât say it back or are you waiting for him to say it first? Surely there is more to this story
Yep,walk away ur wasting ur time,u donât want waste more years on someone who dont love ,its only going to hurt u in the end
If you canât talk to him about this, how are you going to resolve lifeâs problems as they arise.
Since youâre thinking about walking away because of him not saying 4 little words, then you shouldnât be with him in the 1st place.
Thats some bullshit right there. 
go find a MAN
Saying âI love youâ is also heard through saying things like âare you ok?â âIâll make you a cup of teaâ âhow was your day?â âHowâs your mom doing, is she better?â âDid that thing work out for you at your job?â âIâll make dinner tonightâ âyou stay in bed, Iâll look after youâ âhey youâve had a long day, come here and Iâll give you a foot massageâ âcome on, weâll go snuggle up and watch a movieâ âhey come here baby, you look like you need a big hugâ âyou want to talk about it honey?â
Actions also speak louder than words. Do you trust him? Do you love him? Can you see yourself in 10 years raising a family together. Is he the kind of man you want your daughter to bring home?
Does he help around the house? Is he there to listen when you need to offload and have a rant? Does he look after you when youâre sick?
Are you best friends? Do you have that special bond with him? Do you feel that special level of intimacy with him?
And quite importantly does he look after your sexual needs?
If you can answer yes to these things, well stay, because youâve got something.
Good luck 
Run And never look back
Have you asked him? Or talked about, how your feeling?
I would def make it a conversation.
Actions speak louder than words . If he shows you he loves you in different ways . Treats you good . thatâs whatâs important. I love u is just a word
You just answered your own Question
I donât personally feel itâs important to say I love you. Actions are louder than words.
Who do you love more?? Sounds like you love him more than yourself. Those words are very important to woman and men. They need that validation. I donât care how you were brought up. Apparently thats how he wasâ¤ď¸
Sounds like youâre in a relationship and heâs single. Thatâs my opinion though. I would be having a discussion because if he canât tell you he loves you and if yâall arenât talking about a future or anything, youâre just a temporary place holder.
Then is he really your boyfriend or are you FWB?
Are you sure heâs your boyfriend???
Go girl go.you deserve to be cherished.get out.
All those saying ârunâ Iâm guessing your relationships donât last long 
You may not be the one he loves
This is a joke. Does this page just make nonsense to post? Iâm sure no one is half as dim witted as all these supposed women seeking advice xD probably another distraction page xD 
Those are just words. Actions speak louder
Are you sure thatâs your boyfriend ?
I feel like ppl are taking a meme WAY too serious
Tracy Gabrielle Lopez Pajes how? Aahhaha
Then he doesnât love u!
Heâs Just Not That Into You
But what do his actions say?
Is that the ONLY issue in the relationship?
Honestly, that would bother me a little bit, but then again words donât mean anything.
My boyfriend would lay in bed next to me telling me how much he loved me WHILE he was messaging other people to hook up with. Words donât mean shit, actions do.
If thatâs truly your only issue, and if he treats you well and is loyal and honest to you, I wouldnât leave.
If it really bothers you that bad, sit down and talk to him about it. Some men have an extremely hard time expressing emotions.
I have more questions than answers. Does he know you need to hear the words ? Does he show you, rather than tell you ? Do you feel loved ? There are a lot of things that still say I love you without someone saying those exact words
Some people are not good at articulating how they feel. How does he treat you. Does he do little things to make you feel special. Does he make sure to prioritise time to spend with you. Sometimes actions speak louder than words.
Some men just arenât good at speaking of emotions and feelings. My dad being one of them, in 16 years he told me he loved me once he just wasnât that sort of man to express vocally
well do you feel loved? you should be able to tell by now really⌠and if you donât feel loved than you know your answerâŚ
But does he show does his action show he loves you with little things he does action speak louder then words and sometimes people have a hard time saying the words for one reason or another
Mine didnât say it for a long time but I figured out itâs not something thatâs said within his family. So when I expressed how I felt and my concerns he realized that doesnât have to continue on in our family and he started saying a little while later. But if he shows it then thatâs all that matters
I was with an ex for 4 years it took me about 3 years to say it to him! Although I thought I loved him I didnât say it until one night I was really drunk then I still wouldnât ever say it to his face⌠but that was when I was younger. Now me and my partner say it after every phone call, and to faces sometimes but not all the time, he may feel awkward to say it, my sister has been with her partner about 6 years and has never said it to him only on a text
Sometimes they show it in other ways ⌠I still need to hear it though
Yâall need to talk and see if yâall are on the same page before you make any rash decisions. Some people donât day ilu in words, just actions.
Have him watch the movie ghost and say see he didnât say I love you and DIED lol
Do you say it? And whatâs his response? I would say it depends on his actions, it would be nice to hear it though, I couldnât imagine how that makes you feel, Iâm sorry youâre going through this.