Give them a bottle. It’s a toddler, u don’t have to let them bully u 
how gross. U don’t do that in public do u?
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Why is your Toddler sleeping in your bed?
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Why the heck is the child sleeping in your bed?
You should NOT be sleeping with the child in your bed…
Buy formula , and Bottle feed the baby. We always did , not problem ? ?
Yes. You should be courteous and leave the room.
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I go back to Dr. Phil’s question for these conundrums, “do you want to be right or do you want to be happy”?
Why not just let toddler self wean?
They? Do you have more than one toddler?
Would you still be expected to do that if you were working too?
how about train the toddler to sleep in his own bed?
My question is why are you posting this on Facebook???
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Let Dad get a good nights rest especially if he is helpful for
Other things
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I think the husband is acting more like a child than the baby. Oh boohoo you didn’t get 8 hours of sleep. I bet he doesn’t lift a finger around the house for anything else too. Tell him to go find a quiet away place in the house to sleep . Does he realize part of having small children is inconsistent sleep. Oh but wait he works. Well what the hell does he think your doing all day and all night long??? A quote from Scent of a Women “. If I were the man I was five years ago I’d take a flame-thrower to this place. “. Paraphrasing man as woman. Your doing everything right and your husband needs an education in child rearing and parenting, ‘nuff said.
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I think your little one needs to get used to be in his own bed then u will soon both get a good sleep x
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You could be jeprodizing your husband and other’s lives by shorting your husband’s needed sleep time.
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Honestly, you expecting him to help with this is just setting yourself up for disappointment. 
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Your first mistake is co sleeping with the child
Get that child into his own bed in his own room. Time to wean
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Aren’t you glad you asked?
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If he is working and helping in evenings and weekends I’d say let him get his rest for work. Yes you need sleep also so maybe on weekends he would be willing to get up with the toddler? You have your needs and he also has his. If he is great with everything else try a compromise. He have weekend nights or something. Don’t let it ruin your relationship.
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These are the most disappointing comments I have ever seen on this page. Where’s her support at yall DANG🤦
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You are ridiculous. Why on earth should both of you be awake ? The child should have his own room. Put a daybed or a recliner in the room if you have to be with a child. When were you planning to have the child his own room? When he is five ? 15?
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Biologically Normal Infant & Toddler Sleep is a great group to get actual supportive advice. I’d try your question there.
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Daddy needs to put his Big Boy Pants on and he needs to stop being such a big baby. Disgraceful!!!
Why isn’t you child sleeping in his own room? When your child sleeps with you in your bed chances are none of the three of you are going to get a good night’s sleep anyway. Give the “toddler” a bottle and put him back in his own bed where he should be and he’ll get a better nights sleep. You and your husband deserve your own space where you can have your private time. Your husband needs a good night sleep so he can do his job during the day. After all he is the one bringing the money home to keep you in a home. His job also allows you to be that stay at home mom you love being. You say he helps you when he gets home from work and on the weekends. He shouldn’t have to get up during the night because the “toddler” isn’t happy he isn’t being breastfed. You need to give the “toddler” a bottle or a sippy cup of milk (breast milk if the taste helps). You don’t mention how old your “toddler” is but a "toddler is usually walking and talking and to old to be in your bed. Just my 2 cents. Get your "toddler in his own room with his own privacy which makes him a big boy and not a baby. This gives you and your husband back your space and privacy also. Then if your “toddler” wakes up, take him a sippy cup and lay him back down. But the "toddler shouldn’t be in your bed with you and your husband. Just my 2 cents
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Weaning the baby yourself!
Yes he should help, but i would try giving the baby a bottle for a while
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You should take the baby and leave the room. Let your husband rest
Put the kid in their own room and bed and it solves both yalls problem. 
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Better for all if child sleeps in his own bed…
Baahaa! Always that 1st pancake
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This is something you needed to discuss before making babies. If you are a stay at home Mom, count your blessings.if you are weaning your child, if he has a bedroom, start using it.Your husband needs his sleep so he can do a good job at work.Let him give you some time on weekends to rest, get your hair or nails done.Hopefully this weaning goes quickly.Ive spent many nights in a rocking chair too !
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Having the baby in your bed must be hell for the baby. Smelling milk constantly, while trying to ween, gee whiz. Child needs own bed.
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The DAD is providing money into the home. Give your head a wobble woman.
Electronics during sleep time = bad idea.
Get the baby out of your room.
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Helping with feeding in the middle of the night is 1 thing but dad should not be woke up in the middle of the night for your child to watch tv. It’s time for that child to be in their own room. Co-sleeping is a very bad habit to start.
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My children are grown now. When they were little, I took care of them all day, and my husband was helpful during evenings and on weekends.I never expected him to help during the night when he worked the next day.I took care of the kids and he provided for us. We shared taking care of kids when he was home, but not during night before his work. We liked it that way.
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If he is bring home your means. Very helpful in every way, I would let him get his rest for work.
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Sharing a bed with a child i feel not the best idea, his own crib better and if he had to deal with him as much as you do in a day he might readjust his attitude.
I never requested help from my husband. I left the room. My kids didn’t co sleep either (no judgement things are different for each family). My husband works and he spent 8 years in night school when the kids were babies. I went to work once all the kids started school, but before that I wanted my husband to sleep so he was well rested and in a sound mind when making any choices at work (he works in the oil plants) because I wanted him home safe (there are already enough risks in the plants). Each family operates differently and what works for one household won’t work for another. You need to talk to your husband. My husband would be upset to be woken up also, but communication is always best. Let him know how you feel and let him express how he feels. At least then you will both understand where y’all are coming from. Dads play a role too and mothers need their help, but providing is helping so as a stay at home mom our part with the kids when they are young is more hands on.
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I would just sleep in the kids room two birds one stone … stop breastfeeding and they sleep in their own room !!
By all means go in the other room so dad can get his needed rest. He is providing for you and the baby. You are allowed to stay home and raise your baby . Be grateful and see that dad gets his rest.
whoa !!! How about research the topic of getting your child his own room first before anything else 
Let Dad sleep! Especially if he drives to work or has a job that requires his full attention. If he falls asleep driving…Or falls asleep at work…If he has a job that is dangerous or requires good concentration/attention to detail…Come on now. It’s common sense. Take little man in the livingroom or something.
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You need to sit him down and have a word with him
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Baby should be in his own bed
It sucks for a couple days but start putting him in his room and pumping it will make life so much easier
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I’d give thought to exploring two possible solutions:
- Having the child sleep in their own bed.
- Seeking employment outside of the home.
Based on my experience with nursing, raising children, and parental relationships, it could serve to resolve the issues.
Your child needs to be sleeping in its own bed.
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Stop co sleeping. It’s 1. Dangerous and 2. Unnecessary
Your child is a toddler. Both old enough to sleep through the night and to sleep in their own bedroom.
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The kid should be sleeping in his own bed.
Have a nap after he gets home, have him start dinner…
Why water at night and not milk? Milk comforted my children
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You need to respect your husbands working and needs to sleep to pay the bills. Men need good sleep too.
Your husband is acting like a spoiled brat!
Time to get some professional help
My toddler days are long gone however I work a full-time job and I demand be a full eight hours sleep I get very very upset and angry my sleep pattern is interuppted. I guess I’m just one of those people that have to have a lot of rest to get through the day. I seriously think if my rest is interrupted it really affects my day and negative negative way. If my husband put the TV on in the middle of the night I would have a hissy fit, and he would hear it all over again the next morning. I know it doesn’t seem fair because like you said you can’t go back to bed during the day cuz you have things to do but let’s face it I’m mom’s life is never fair. If you ask me mom’s really get the short end of the stick with a lot of things,but that’s how it is.Im not saying men shouldn’t help …but let’s face it mom work is hard work.
There are so many judgmental people on this thread!!
I’m still trying to find out why so many people are so old fashioned like the women should do everything for the home and the kids. I don’t know how many nights sleep and how many nights I got up with my son to let my ex wife sleep. She had actually became very grumpy towards our son and would get agitated at him when he woke her up so for many night I was the one getting up and feeding him changing him no matter what time it was. I even lost a job because she kept calling saying he wouldn’t quit crying. My son is now 14 6’3 and 180 lbs guess all that feeding helped lol.
When I had my oldest son my husband would not stay in our bathroom if I brought the baby into our bed. I learned to sleep in the baby’s room most of the first year. When he was 13 months old I went back to work and back to my bed. After a month the baby learned to climb out of the crib and would climb into bed with my husband (he learned fast that if he came to my side of the bed I would take him back to his room). When the child turned 2, I put my foot down and took my husband it was up to him to teach the son to sleep in his own room or get a bigger bed. Before the week was out we had a king size bed. It took many years to get son to sleep in his own room. When he was 8 I downsize the bed back to a queen so son would bring his pillow and blanket and sleep on the floor next to my husband. Our next baby came along 19 years later and he had 2 nursery’s, one upstairs and one down and one and never slept in either one. His dad passed away when our son was 7 and decided he wanted his own bedroom when he was 8. Things have changed over the years but the love we show each other and our children will serve them for years to come. My friend nursed her son until he was over 4 which I found embarrassing because no matter where we were if the boy decided he wanted the boob he had a fit until he got it. She finally had to put bandages on her nipples to keep him off of them. Everyone has to decide for themselves as to how to handle this.
For one I don’t believe in co sleeping…the child needs to have their own room. You don’t say how old the child is. You say he is great with doing everything else. You breastfeed then go to another room. The is nothing more maddening then someone turning on the TV while you are sleeping. Maybe you need to give the child food before you put them to bed…everyone has an opinion
Tell him to screw off and give the baby what he needs as well as you, albeit, a bottle of milk, a sippy cup of milk and a program or music…do whatever it takes…after all it takes two, but now it’s three! He’s nots excluded it’s 24/7…and you need rest too.
You are a complete family unit and that means all hands on deck for every situation. If he has some vacation time this may be the perfect time for him to take some so that he will be there when his family needs him. If not he’s just going to have to do with a few Less hours of sleep. That’s what a family does one for all and all for one.
I breastfed our son till he was 18 months old…Im also a stay at home mom. We made plans that when he got home, son was his duty…he even potty trained him…dad had charge of him when he was home…that boy is a career man now.
My only advice is that you might want to talk to a couples counselor.
Have to say, husband deserves peaceful sleep. Turning on the tv will backfire on you if you use that as a distraction
Sit down with your husband and discuss options if your toddler wakes up. At 3 he/she doesnt need to nurse after 11pm…they can have water
Child should be in his or her own bed have your doc give you something to dry you up and put nasty tasting stuff om so child wont like it. Just say NO
Wife 100% wrong. Regardless if you’re a stay at home Mom or not.
It’s NOT ABOUT YOU
First, he’s right about you not working and he does. Second, you shouldn’t be turning the tv on in the middle of the night when the kiddo wakes up. That’s just going to keep him awake longer. Dad doesn’t breast feed, you do. So how would dad wean him off? That doesn’t even make sense. Maybe it’s time to also wean him into his own room too. When he wakes up take him into his room and lay with him until he falls back asleep, then go back to bed. Yes, you will be tired. But that’s what happens when you have kids. You can take a nap with him during the day. Dad can’t.
If your husband fell asleep driving and killed him self or someone else how would you feel this is just from my point of view my ex wife lost her grandfather from basically the same reason he was a truck driver she wanted him to hurry home and take care of the kids he tried and never made it fell asleep and crashed killed him self and other innocents
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Time for baby to get his own bed
It’s gonna be rough for about 3 days. My advice wean and put him in his own room at the same time.
Time for toddlers own room
Don’t mean to be rude…but you are training your child to wake up especially to watch TV during sleep time.
How old is your toddler?
Tell him no, to the breastfeeding and to go back to sleep.
If he is fussy, take him out of the bed the working parent sleeps in (his work pays for the house, meals, bed etc). Take child into a dark part of house to a chair or couch is to hold child until he goes back to sleep.
Otherwise, you are training him to wake up to be stimulated by blue screen (TV).
If this isn’t acceptable, start by buying a big boy bed and training toddler to sleep in his own bed, like a big boy. You may have to lye down with him until he falls asleep in his bed, then go to yours and your husbands bed. When toddler wakes up in night, get up, reassure him, give him sip of water and return him to his bed. You may have to lie down with him again.
Staying in the marriage bed is unfair to the parent that is unable to have a nap with toddler.
Put the kid in his/her own room. Problem solved. Dad needs to be rested for work so turning on a TV in the room is wrong…the light is more disruptive than the sound. He doesn’t have the luxury of catching some sleep while the toddler naps…you do.
Why put silly questions on Facebook
Put the baby in a crib
Is it just me…nobody really sees the Efelant hiding in the tree…?
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Put your child in a crib.
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Kid needs his own bed.
Put the child in his own room
Rebecca slept with us to her fourth birthday lol
Baby should be sleeping in his own room and bed.
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Switch off, with the living rom
As a toddler he should be in his own bed by now !
Let him sleep then in the evenings you can get some rest. Families have been going through forever. 
Ya should take the little i the other room let him sleep
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Wow. Some old school nonsense going on here. I don’t even know where to start.
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Protect your husband’s sleep!!
He needs to help when he can , but sounds like hes the bread winner and wife should realize he needs sleep and rest, to support his family , what are you doing letting that kid sleep with you in your room, that kid needs to be in his or her own room, some people can be so dumb and stupid, be proud you have a husband that works, he needs to be able to sleep all night without all this crazy crap , gee wake up ,
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U r a selfish woman!! U should do whatever u can to let hubby get needed sleep since he is the bread-winner!
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when the baby was born and I was a stay at home mom. I decided to sleep in the other room because he had to work at 4am. I did this so he can get some rest. Come to find out he was using that time to cheat and talk to other women online . Aaahhh im so glad im working very hard to leave him . Since he wont leave with his 3rd party. . What im saying you never win with men
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Having a toddler is a tough job. It’s especially tough because now they can be especially difficult when it comes to changes they don’t appreciate. Rip off the band-aid! Time for baby to sleep in their own bed. Drink before bed time and done till morning. None of my kids were entertained when they woke up in the middle of the night. That’s sleep time not play time. Gotta cry about it ok. But weaning doesn’t need to be dragged out for days and weeks. Done is done. Minimize the misery by standing your ground. They look to you for the rules. Only fair to set clear rules . And as far as dad goes. Sorry dad. Welcome to parenting where you and your partner agreed to raise that child. She’s not your nanny pal. She needs her sleep too. Hang in there you two. Team work is a must.
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Why is your child sleeping in your bed instead of in his or her bed???
You’re instilling very poor sleep habits in your child! If your child is a toddler he or she should be sleeping through the night in their own room and bed!
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I’m struggling to get my now 6 year old in her own bed. Don’t make the same mistake I did. It’ll be so much easier as he is weaning. Good luck mama 
You should take the child out of the room. Your husband has allowed you to be a stay at home mom. He should help with the child when he gets off work but at night you should respect that he has to get up early and go to work. How bout you take the child and make him or her sleep in their own room? That would help all 3 of y’all. But in my own opinion yes you should take the child out of the room if you’re going to allow them to sleep with y’all. It’s ok to pass out on the sofa instead of going back and forth. Have your husband take an hour after work to keep the child while you catch a little catnap. That will help you deal with the early wake up.
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Don’t listen to these people. Sleep with your baby as long as you’re going to. Whatever works best for you is what matters. As for the husband, throw him out and start over if he thinks your life is so damn easy and you can sleep whenever you want. Gtfoh.
To all you broads above beating around the bush to shame her in a rude and condescending way, C U T. I T. O U T. we’ve had enouuggghh of your Karen ass BS
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Your man sounds nasty and I wouldn’t tolerate it. He helped make the child he can help with the child care. SAHM is a full time job, and he thinks you can just sleep whenever you want?
Do what I’ve seen others do, for one whole day, don’t do ANYTHING you normally do outside of childcare. Don’t clean up, don’t do anything and show him how much work you REALLY do. Being a stat at home parent has already been shown in studies to be the equivalent of 2.5 jobs.
He is being nasty and needs to grownup, the world doesn’t revolve around him and while yes he does need his sleep for work, if it is THAT bad where he can’t spare even a couple hours a week extra awake he should be trying to find a better job or maybe he should sleep on the couch.
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