A toddler should be sleeping in his own bed. Get him trained to sleep on his own. If you have to get up with him go in the living room. Why should both parents be up half the night? Let dad get up on weekends.
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If he has to work and your job is taking care of the baby then do it. He needs to do his part as a father but let him get a good night’s sleep if he’s the bread winner.
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Your child needs his own bed. Never ever sleep with your children. Exception is if they are sick. And then rarely.
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Your toddler needs his own bed, and room. Once he gets use to it, you should all sleep better. Tell him he is a big boy. Make sure there is a night light, and stuffed toys for him to snuggle with. Leave his door open so you can hear him. If he wakes up go into his room with him.
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First of all the child should be sleeping in his/her own bed. When you have weaned the baby, then dad should help with bottle 
feeding. JMO
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Dang. I guess I’m one of the few who can empathize with the dad. I was a stayat home mom. He needs sleep for work. I’d rather be a tired at home mom than have a tired working outside of the home husband. There are exceptions like illness, etc…but I’m with dad.
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Um just this mother of 4, grandmother, preschool teacher of 1-2 1/2 year olds, working in childcare for over 18 years opinion but #1. baby should have been put in bassinet from birth or crib that’s your first habit you created that you will now have to break.
#2. Should have weaned baby from 12 months or started the process of introducing milk. That’s the 2nd habit that will be harder to break the longer you let it go on.
#3 Husband can’t breastfeed for you:woman_facepalming:
and he is the breadwinner for the family, so I would do what I could do if I want to continue to be a stay at home mom.
For the first few days after my first and I came home from the hospital I slept on the sofa with the bassinet near by until within a couple days we realized my son was sleeping 6 to 8 hours so there was no need. After that we put him in his crib in our room. He continued to sleep through the night.
Your husband sleeps 8 hrs?! Dam I haven’t slept 8 hours in 30 yrs I work graveyard I’m lucky if I get 4-5 hrs and take a nap on my 30 minute break! I’m a heavy equipment mechanic and have no choice but to stay awake! Tell him to stop being a primadona! As far as the child I think husband didn’t sleep 8 hrs to conceive so he should help if needed but, child shouldn’t sleep with parents. Prepare bottles for night feeding that will help ween the child off breast feeding.
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For goodness sake get your child out of your bed at night!! It’s not going to be easy but get a daily routine going like dinner, bath, half a sipped cup of milk, brush their teeth then a story of their choice and then bedtime and prayers if you say them! After a couple weeks dilute the sippee Half cup of milk by about a fourth with water, do this over a period of every couple of weeks until their totally on water! They will protest and yell this might last a month bu5 don’t give in !!! I’m sorry mom but this is your job, get ear plugs if you need to!
For one, kids should be in their own room. For two, you need to respect your husband’s wishes as he does go to work.
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Present both options to husband and let him present any other options. Then let him make the decision. That way the agony of making a decision is not on you. It is squarely on his shoulders to choose wisely. I’ve been married for nearly 40 years and that is what I would do.
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Co sleeping is a wonderful thing!! I co slept with all 3of mine and both my grandson and granddaughter. Unless you sleep like a rock there is nothing wrong with it. However, if your hubby is the breadwinner he needs his 8 hours throughout the week. Take the lil one into another room to distract him. Don’t be to hard on your man.
Or put your child in his own room.
You both made the choice to cosleep. But you should take the child to another room.
I second every comment that says the child needs to be in his own room.
Daddy will end up with a girlfriend with no kids if you keep letting the child sleep in your bed and that’s a fact
I’m not trying to be a jerk but why is the kid sleeping with you? It’s time for his own room
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give the child a bottle IN THE LIVING ROOM, not water. Your husband is right.
Just a tip that really helped In weaning both my grandchildren, my DIL wrapped her breast in cabbage leaves, didn’t take long at all before they decided a sappy cup was fine
If your kid can walk he’s too old for breastfeeding, just grow up and give the kid a sippy cup. If you can’t GROW UP your kid won’t either
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My wife and I did every other day, so we would both get rest and keep the family going, I had hard days but that’s part of WANTING a family.
Grow up lady, this child need his own room. Get up and go feed him. Let your husband sleep, he is making you a living don’t he?
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My wife got this bad tasting nipple cream and the baby was off the tit in one day…
I love how all the people defending the man are old ladies. Like wow your husband and his needs are more important than you and your child’s? Kind of whack but whatever.
Toddler should be in his own room.
Breast feed one side. Then change diaper. Then other. Or. Have a premade mixture ready. Only offer. That.
How old is the toddler? They should be sleeping in their own bed.
Unpopular opinion, it took both of you to make this kid. Dad needs to help out, just because you work doesn’t mean you don’t parent. I was in the Navy, worked lots is nights came home at 7 and still helped out
You both work,the only difference is he gets paid
A any belongs in there own bed turning on a tv
The baby will want it all the time
Kid needs to not co sleep with you 2 … jeepers husband and wife… and yes let him sleep you stay home…
Honestly, if you are breastfeeding a toddler, you are the problem.
Put that baby in baby bed
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Your husband sounds like a whiny brat. So he loses some sleep. Boo boo big deal. Men like this make my blood boil. He needs to stand up and be a damn dad who gee, has to idk, WORK, or go be single and lose his kids cuz heaven forbid he don’t get his “8 hours of beauty sleep”. No parent has it that easy where they get a nice solid 8 hours of sleep and not be disturbed cuz they gotta work the next day. Cry me a damn River. He’s a tool and I wouldn’t put up with that bs stay at home mom or not. He obviously doesn’t know what it’s like being a single parent and working two jobs. What an entitled brat.
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OMG these comments…
Is this the 50s?
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Hey. This is his baby too. He was there at conception, he can be there for everthing.
Toddler needs his own room and you and toddler go in there give him a bottle and put him in his crib and you go back to bed and thank God you have a man that works and supports you being a stay at home mom. Toughen up cream puff
Go to the living room
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GetTheChildHisOwnRoomAndFeedMoreAtDinnerSoHeWontWakeUp
dumb husband.
My husband worked graveyard and I work a full time job during the day. My husband would get little sleep taking care of our son all day and then go to work.
I’d come home, he would leave for work. I was up all night with our son and then go to work all day long for 9 hours.
Equal!
Lmao the child-free page i follow was right after this post 
HOW THE HELL IS YOUR HISBAND BREAST FEEDING LIKE…wtf
He needs to step up and quit being a friggin pussy.
You need to sleep too. He should be helping
Is this a true story???
Answer: how long have you been a fucking parent?
What the he## did I just read 
Sorry but you sound like a whiner.
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Tell your husband to go scratch he’s an asshole
Well if this is for real, dad is a p.o.s. and you need a divorce lawyer, not a few nights on the couch.
Fuck that guy.
And most of the comments I see here seem to be from pre-suffrage times. Like wtf with all this bow to your husband b.s.
IT IS A PARTNERSHIP.
Let your husband sleep !
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Good job yall! Yall passed the comments vibe 
Everything I wanted to say sounded so bad that I gave up. I, too, was married to a selfish jerk.
So he works all day, helps you after work with WHATEVER YOU NEED, your home with the baby ? LET THAT MAN SLEEP JESUS CHRIST. What on earth are you doing ? I’m a single mom that works full time and looks after 2 kids. Common women take some responsibility for yourself! Get that child their own bedroom and make it work!
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Put the child in his own room that way you can go in there and your husband can sleep
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I’m a SAHM & I breastfed both of my girls until they were 2. I always let my fiancé sleep because he gets up early and pays all the bills and keeps us all happy. Vey rarely have I woken him up, only when I couldn’t handle the situation on my own. Once our second daughter turned 2 her sleeping with us started to become an issue so we have slowly worked with her on sleeping in her own room and bed. She does now and life is so. Much. Better. I had to wean her first by telling her no (a million times, plus lots of tears) and distracting her with fun activities or a little piece of candy. It worked 
then followed the slow transition to her own room and bed. It’s harder to wean than it is to breastfeed in my opinion and about as hard to get her into her room. But time, positive reinforcement and and patience was key with her. Good luck mama you can do this!!!
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I was a single mom so I had no choice but to do it myself. If I was you I would put your baby in their own room. Make it look all cool with things that your child likes so he’ll want to be in there more. And put bandaids on your nipples, tell him you have a ouchie and that there’s no more. Try giving him fatty milk instead in a cup. It might also keep him full longer.
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Sounds like you’re going to be raising two babies
Wake that man up and make him help! If he doesn’t, boot his ass out the door. Y’ALL made that baby, YALL can do it together. He’s got rights to that baby? He’s got the right to man up and help out! If he didn’t want to do this he should have said no to having kids.
Anyone that says it’s your job alone to lose sleep while he gets his over a baby y’all created together is a garbage ass person. Don’t listen to the toxic crap they spew out of their mouths.
Side note* I would definitely be putting that baby in its own room.
If possible baby absolutely needs to sleep in another room . If you do not have another bedroom then make the living room or another room a nursery / living room /dining room , etc. . Separate other room with screen. You both need your sleep but let him sleep. You can take care of baby in other room . It’s part of parenting , (lack of sleep!, ugh) but I think this solution is beneficial to you, hubby and baby. 
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Sounds to me as if you’re on your way to being a single mom which will have to work full time with no sleep. Your husband provides for you and your children have some respect and let the man get some sleep.
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What works for one family isn’t always going go work for another.
My husband is usually the one who gets up with the kiddos…
But… i have some major sleep issues. I’m lucky to sleep 4-5 hours a night. The very least I can do is lay in bed and rest. If I get out I’m not going back to be able to even lay back down and rest/relax. My body gets anxious thinking it’s time to start the day. I also sleep between the wall and husband. I literally have to crawl over him to get out of bed. A few times of accidentally falling, elbowing him, and waking him up that way.
And it’s easier for all of us for him to get up.
But…with my oldest son (not hubby’s bio child). I was the one working. My ex stayed home. He REFUSED to get up. Straight refused. Being up several times a night on top of already not sleeping well… left me so exhausted that I constantly screwed up at work. I was lucky I didnt get fired.
So I honestly get his side of this too.
Like I said. What works for one family isn’t guaranteed to work or be right for the next
That said…I would consider that your problems with sleep for all of you are going a little deeper than who gets up with your child and even the process of weaning may not be the exact problem here.
This isnt to cast judgement…
(And I’m Numbering to keep thoughts in order not to be hateful)
First, you can co-sleep without bed sharing. That itself can help solve some of your problems. It’s also a good way to start getting your child used to sleeping on his own without actually being on his own.
Second, putting the tv on may feel like its helping…but it’s not. You’re trading one thing in for another. And cartoons will keep your child awake longer…because it can and does hold thier attention. If it was me (and it has been) I would opt for soft music instead.
When my oldest was a toddler…I put a radio and lava lamp in his room.
We bought our boys this alarm clock thing that plays music (or other sounds) and casts stars on the ceiling and walls. The kids LOVE it. It’s set on a timer. They also make this thing that goes on the crib that plays music lights up and has a ocean scene I believe.
I would give these a try instead of using tv.
As far as who gets up…
Maybe talk to him about getting up on his days off instead of every night.
Sometimes relationships take compromise…even with parenting. The my way or no way thing never works long term.
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If dad won’t help tell him to get his ass to the living room.
It’s funny to me how many women on here choose the wrong men to have children with and then attempt to turn around and use that choice to tell other women what they should and shouldn’t do with a decent man lol. We slept in the same room, baby in her pack and play, for just under a year. We were still building our life back up and that’s all we had so we made it work. I can’t imagine him being mad the baby woke him up😆 He would wake up and do feedings and tell me to go back to sleep and still wake up and go bust his ass, construction/remodeling, 10+ hours the next day…Never complained a bit! We’re a family! We all pull our weight and do what needs to be done to make it! Because wtf else are we gonna do???
Why not be compassionate towards your man? You can nap when the baby naps during the day, let your husband sleep at night for work.
Id be handing him divorce papers by the end of the day. Been there, done that with the father of my 16 year old. If you talk to him and he doesn’t compromise and try to work it out with you…then dont bother momma💖 wish you luck!
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My husband just goes sleeps somewhere else so it’s easier for everyone. Tell him to go sleep in the guest room or couch
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I’m more concerned that he thinks you can “sleep whenever you want”, which means he has no idea how you or your babies day go. I would start by talking with him and at least seeing if he can help out a bit. At the end of the day, yeah he does pay bills, but it’s his child, too, and he can help sometimes. These transitions are always hard, we’ve slept on the ground of our daughters bedroom, gotten up 8+ times, not slept at all, but they always end. I do think that for safety reasons (i.e. driving) that he should probably get more sleep, but he can also sleep on the couch to help you out so you can turn the TV on or etc. If he wants sleep and he can’t sleep through the conditions that you set up, he’s got to go somewhere else.
You sound selfish. One, you BOTH help take care of the baby equally ( per you) He helps with everything after he works ALL DAY. YOU can NAP while the child is napping. Big deal if you cannot get your housework done(there is always another day)NOT only is your guy working to support both of you ,he is working so you can stay home, and he takes care of the child while he is there. LOOK, I know it is hard,but if you like being a SAHM, LET THE MAN SLEEP.
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Why turn on the TV. Kid needed to go back to bed.
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I’m also a stay at home mom, expecting baby number 3. I breastfed both my boys until they were 2. And I have to say…waking my husband up when I knew he had to be up early to go to work never even crossed my mind. I am lucky enough to stay home with my babies. He is currently working nights, but he comes home in the mornings and gets our oldest ready for school and takes him while I lay in with our youngest son. Then he sleeps until I wake him up for dinner, and he’ll eat and help with laundry, dishes, anything that needs to be done. Then I make his lunch and coffee and he tucks everyone in and he’s gone. With as much as he does for us, the least I can do is let him sleep.
As for weaning, when we were ready to stop, I pumped as much as I could and put it in the fridge. When they asked to nurse, I would gently say no and give them their sippy full of breastmilk. I still cuddled them while they drank, so they were happy. Over the course of about 2-3 weeks, I steadily started mixing the breastmilk with whole milk, until they were drinking only whole milk. By the time a month had passed, they didn’t even ask to nurse anymore.
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I agree with most of the ladies on here. If he is working so that you are blessed enough to be a stay at home mom , let your husband sleep. Now on the weekends when he doesn’t have to work that’s different but if you know he has work in the morning he needs sleep
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Coming from someone who hardly gets sleep because my husband has insomnia and he will turn the tv or play video games while I’m trying to sleep and it bugs the shit out of me. I cannot sleep when I have a bright tv shining in my eyes. Don’t make someone else suffer their sleep because you are struggling. Plus the tv does no good when trying to put a toddler to sleep. It triggers brain signals and makes them stay awake even longer. Rub the child’s back or feet instead or rock them. Turning the tv in the middle of the night is just creating bad habits and making your SO anger. I get where he is coming from and I get where you are coming from. But don’t think of this for him, think of the best for your child. No tv and just use skin/touch stimulation for them to go back to sleep
Personally when an issue like this occurred I absolutely slept in the living room with my son. But everyone is different 
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I suspect it wasn’t the noise of the television but the light hitting his face. Do not turn on the television when he is sleeping. As to weaning, just say no. Tell your child no, turn your back and go to sleep.
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For all of you saying he needs sleep for work… you do realize there are tons of moms that still work and still get up with the baby. It sucks but he’s gonna have to deal. A child will wake you up at times.
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Take the child outside or to a park to run off some energy so they will sleep longer. That’s the key to a good nights rest for all and decreases the chance of waking up in the night. Kids have TONS of energy, they need to get it out. Do it once during the day and once closer to bedtime.
of course he should be! My daughter is going through that with her toddler–and her husband is helping as he knows she needs sleep too, and it is a temporary thing to get through. She is only night weaning and plans to continue during the day–which by the way is something to consider. It is very easy to stop a toddler from biting–just be consistent with taking them off the breast each time they do it, they will stop when they want really nurse.
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I’m actually in much the same situation right now. As soon as the baby came he moved to the guest room so I can handle nighttime stuff without him losing sleep.
But now that we are approaching weaning, we sat down to come up with a plan. Right now I’m working on getting her off boob unless it’s for napping or bedtime. Once we have that down he is going to be there to help me cut the nighttime feedings. That was the hardest with our oldest for sure.
When we sat down to talk about it yea, he was kinda disappointed about losing some sleep. But when I asked him if he was going to be ok he said of course. We do what we gotta do. It’s all about teamwork honestly. I get that his job is hard work and can be very stressful, so I help him anyway I can (letting him sleep, packing his lunch etc) He also acknowledges my hard work with the kids and around the house, so he helps where he can. But we also make it a priority to sit and talk about everything. I think that’s our biggest helping factor honestly.
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When I was a stay at home mom, my son was my responsibility during the night, any feedings, diaper changes, the 2 am parties he wanted to have when he was teething and we were out in the living room so my husband could sleep because he left the house for work. Granted you may not get to actually fall asleep during his nap time but you do get to sit on the couch and relax while your husband does not have that option at work. I get pissed getting woke up in the middle of the night as well when I have to work the next morning so I can understand his point. But my husband also let me sleep in on the weekends when he was off work to catch up on that missed sleep from the week
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Sorry, I agree with dad. I’d be pissed if someone turned on the TV & just started chilling while I was trying to sleep. If you are going to stimulate the baby with TV in the middle of the night, then yes u should leave the room. Maybe take the baby to his/her own room (with you) during these times
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I work a full time just like him but when I was home with baby it never even crossed my mind to wake him I knew he had to have sleep to go to work
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You’re creating bad habits with your child. Why the heck are you having the child up watching cartoons just to get them off the breast… If the child is a toddler they shouldn’t still be waking at night to bottle feed or breast feed…and if they are you’re doing something wrong.
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Is there a limit to what you feel entitled for him to sacrifice for you to stay home?
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Idk we both work 60 hours weeks and have 4 kids i guess we both tended to thr kids all hours if the night one would feed one would change both would rock we both cleaned the house both dropped off or picked up from daycare. I just figured I’m not marrying someone so they could work outside the home and I do all the child care and homework. We made the kids together we do thr job together.
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Waking up at night with your child is part of being a parent. No matter your job.
I stay at home, my husband works. And he still helps me throughout the night w our one year old that I’m also trying to wean, who also co sleeps w us. I do my best to not disturb his sleep as much as possible, but if I need help then I need help & he is also her parents. Therefore, I don’t feel guilty when he misses out on sleep.
He’s off on weekends and currently still asleep & I’ve been up w our daughter since 6. It’s all about balance and compromise.
Clearly you’re staying home bc you can afforded to do so & it’s much cheaper than childcare. Stop setting the bar to damn low for dads. Raising a child is BOTH parents jobs. Even when it isn’t all sunshine and rainbows.
Take the toddler to the living room… let your husband sleep if he has to work in the morning … I agree with the hubs on this one… Sorry
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Haha really? When we weaned my husband took full responsibility of the kids at night. If he can’t miss out on some sleep to help with HIS child he sucks
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Move your child to their own bed and solve the whole problem seems logical enough. I do see your husband’s side. He can’t do anything with breastfeeding because he does not own the breasts. Especially since thus us the only thing he isn’t being helpful on.
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Tell him to sleep in another room but if it were me I would of slept in the other room no man comes before my kids
If he doesn’t want to get up to help at night, doesn’t want to be disturbed, tell him to take the couch.
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I guess I did things really different. My toddler slept in his own room so I would go in there to tend to him and it didn’t wake up my husband.
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Compromise…you get up at night and go to the living room…and on his days off he takes the kid and you go to sleep.
Relationships take communication and work…it should never be one sided
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How old is your toddler and how close are you from putting him/her in a big kid bed? We never “coslept” in bed. Always keep the babes in the playpen next to the bed. But, if you’re close to moving into a big kid bed, get a twin. With my 4 year old, I would go lay down with him in his own bed until he fell asleep, then would get up and take him back to bed if he woke in the middle of the night and lay down again with him. He went into a big boy bed at 18 months because he was crawling out of his crib and I didn’t want him getting hurt falling out. At about 2.5 I started trying to get him to go to sleep by his self, but didn’t really start doing that until he was 3. With his little brother (18 months to the day), he followed what big brother was doing, and I never really had to sleep with him until he fell asleep. If you’re nowhere close to moving him into his own bed, just remind hubby this is a difficult time for you too trying to ween him and it’s only temporary. You need sleep too, and if he’s understanding and helpful, he should realize that most mom’s feel a sense of guilt if you don’t get 50,000 things done (or take a break and take time for yourself to relax) in that precious hour or so of a nap that toddler takes during the day. Good luck momma.
I can’t wrap my head around some of these comments.
To the OP, I suggest you join a breastfeeding group for advice, it’s obvious some people on here have never breastfed or weaned a toddler.
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Put a bed in the baby’s room or guest room if you’ve got it and sleep in there. That way you can do what you need to do without waking him up. Weekends when he doesn’t have to be up, put him in with baby or baby in with him while you sleep all night. I was lucky enough that my husband would get home around midnight and he would take the night time stuff. We have also never shared a room due to the conflicting schedules. It works fine for us and we’ve been like that for 12 years now. He’s always taken the night stuff because he was already up. I would do it on the weekends when I didn’t have to be up early for work. He now works the same shift as me though and still takes the toddler at night when he wakes up or refuses to go to bed without being next to daddy.
Ew, a lot of these comments are ridiculous. Just because dad works outside of the home doesn’t mean he gets skirt his parenting duties. Being a SAHM is a FULL TIME JOB that doesn’t have a clock out time. Why wouldn’t you deserve a full nights rest too??
I do think trying to put your toddler in their own room will help with sleeping through the night and night time weaning, my toddler son just started sleeping through the night consistently around 21 months (he’s 22 months now - so it’s only been a month so far) but still has the occasional night where he’ll wake up. It’s totally normal for toddlers to still wake up once in awhile.
But 100% dad should be helping. If your toddler wakes up twice in the night, one of those should be dad to help and show that we don’t need boob to get back to bed - and you take the other one to also remind your kiddo they don’t need boob. I’m not on board with the tv, but if it’s working for you, then it works!
All these mom-shamers and misogynistic comments can stfu.
You’re doing great mama. Wake dad up. He doesn’t get to be less of a parent just because he works outside of your home.
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When my toddler wakes up I take him to the living room during the week. I’m a stay at home mom too and don’t think it is far to my husband to keep him awake all night too. I don’t get time during the day to nap either.
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I just don’t understand why parents co.sleep. it was never my jam, I needed my space to sleep and be with my hubby and not have a baby/toddler in the mix I just don’t get it. parenting is a shared job, but i do get itninwas a stay at home mom when my kids were younger and hubby worked indealt with the nightly wake up as he was working 12+ a day on days off he would help more with nightly wake-up tho
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