Lust is lust, I’d say no…
He can’t be trusted I Have a Fiancee n she is all I need in my life
Help yourself right out of that situation honey its not right or moral your better than that
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Men shouldn’t need to get stimulation elsewear. My husband only has eyes for me.
Bet you hes got porn on his cell phone an in a secret file fr an if want to go to strip club he should take you right
My boyfriend was always ready to come home to me afterwards. Call it a win-win.
Thou shall not lust after other women
Who writes this crap? Not real!
Go with him. Those women all have self doubt issues too and certainly aren’t the perfection you believe. R rated movies usually show as much skin. Your boyfriend’s comment about them doing more is based on alcohol fuddled observations.
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Let him go, in the meantime grab some girlfriends and check out a male striptease show . 
Dump him now. He does not love you
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It doesn’t bother me
No worries most of the lady’s are gay lol
Um no. If your gal ain’t cool with strip clubs, you better not be cool with strip clubs.
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Take so classes and learn that would knock his scooks off. The classes r easy
He can also live at the strip club, pack his bags.
Every night he goes to the strip club order a stripper
Run! Huge red flag… they can do things you can’t, he needs to gtfoh with that. Lol they are paid to like him, ask him if it’s ok if tou go to a male version of it and pay for some mans attention and do be grinding all over you… he won’t like that very much I bet…
Coming from a divorced woman quickly approaching 40 years old who is remarried and married up. He is being an ass. If you are not comfortable with him going to a strip club he should be able to understand that you don’t need him going to a strip club. He also shouldn’t be asking to go to a strip club. Sometimes couples will go to strip clubs together because that’s the thing that is clearly not your thing. As far as him saying that they can do things that you cannot. Ask him what are those things? Make him feel turned on? For filled fantasies? What exactly is it that he is mentally getting off or physically getting off from these women? These are hard questions to ask but open conversation needs to happen in relationships . Next depending on his answer it’s time to ask him why he is with you again ask your question to ask. However if he’s not getting what he needs from you and doing what he’s doing is hurting you and then long-term this is not going to work out if this isn’t going to work out long-term why are either of you wasting your time? The issue arises that he wants to go and do this he doesn’t seem to care or understand why you don’t want to do it . Also if he knows that this is hurting you and he is getting sassy about his reasoning and not wanting to have to worry about another person, why is he in a relationship that’s part of being in a relationship. He isn’t respecting you in a manner that you deserve emotionally physically in general. Older woman’s opinion is it is time to trade the boy in and go find a man that I love you the way you deserve to be. I married that first guy that you’re dating right now. I left the relationship broken down and feeling awful about myself after years and years of being together. That being said guess what when I divorced him and started dating I found out apparently I’m quite an attractive person. I got asked out a lot more than I thought I would have and he said that that wouldn’t happen. Don’t let this person hurt you. MoveOn find love and find somebody that loves you the way you love them. Voice to text. So sorry if it’s got run ons and is hard to understand.
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If your feelings and wishes aren’t that important to him, and if he thinks he can find better somewhere else… Don’t just let him leave… SHOVE his ass out the door and say ‘Bye, bye, loser!’
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Take him to a Male Stripper Show, who knows ! see how he likes it.
If a man I’m with needs to be aroused by naked women he can have them ,I want a man turned on by my body ,heart and soul ,not some grinding bitch on a pole !!
Honestly strip clubs aren’t all that , if and when I do go, I prefer to go w my wife! If he’s wanting to go often and not wanting u to go, he’s hiding something and is a piece of shit but if he’s open to u joining and you’re open to going , check it out , sure some of those ladies are beautiful and can dance badass but it’s no different than paying to see a movie or some other form of “entertainment” it’s only that , those girls are at work, doing their job if he’s not paying, they’re not hangin out! And it isn’t wrong to have thoughts or even desires/fantasies of others but what is wrong is deliberately hurting your feelings and being an asshole about it!
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Get rid the jerk he dont care about her feelings or he wouldnt go to them places
Let’s be completely honest. You already know the answer. You’re not looking for the answer as to whether or not people should go to strip clubs. You’re looking for a collective group to tell you whether or not this dude loves you. You already know the answer to that too. You put up with his shit so it’s going to continue. It’s time you wake up and make a choice. You either stay and settle with someone who doesn’t love or respect you or you go work on yourself and find happiness for yourself as a single woman.
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I used to feel that way. But that was because I didn’t think highly of myself and had trust issues. I got over both and now I don’t care. Especially since my husband tells me everything that goes on and thinks the clubs are kind of comical. My friend and I even went to a male establishment and had a great time. And it was kind of comical!
I wouldnt care if my fiance wanted to go to the strip club but he doesnt. Majority of strippers arent there to try and take your boyfriend or husband, they just want his money to pay bills.
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If your not good enough for him than find someone else. That is total disrespect to you and if you tolerate it now you always will be. Strip clubs are for single men. Why stick around when he has already let you know you are not enough??
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Cry. Get it out and get it over with. Your wasting your time. He’s a loser and worse he’s getting pleasure in hurting your feelings. Date time is when guys are at their best, he is showing you he is not your future.
My ex went all the time. Years later i went just to see what it was about and it was nothing like you think. I actually ended up backstage with the girls helping with costumes since i was the only other female in the place
Replace strip Club with anything else and it still comes down to him not respecting that something he is doing is making you uncomfortable. This is not the man for you.
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OMG! The man’s a selfish pig! Thank goodness, it’s not to late to get out of this relationship. Your love should put you on a pedestal, especially while you are still in the “dating” stage. His insulting comments are unforgivable. You deserve a decent, considerate, faithful gentleman to share your life with. Send him on his way, NOW…before he breaks your heart!
Honestly, I’ve never been to a strip club in my life and never had a desire. I think they’re a waste of time. If a guy (or girl) needs to go to a strip club, and hes in a relationship then maybe he should stay single until the immaturity wears off. If this girls boyfriend continues to go to strip clubs, knowing how she feels about it, then dump his ass. Especially when he makes a comment that there are things they can do for him, that she cant. She should boot his ass to the door. If you truly love and care about someone, and that person is telling you that what you’re doing is making them uncomfortable, it doesnt matter whether you understand or not, you STOP doing it. Why? Because you love that person. This would be an easy solution for me. I’d help him become single, that way those strippers can give him all that he needs. Smh . Hope he has good cash flow because that’s why they’re up there stripping… for the money. Stupid boy.
The key word in “self esteem” is “SELF”. That’s for you to work on and absolutely not his responsibility. My guess is nothing he does will be enough for you. I got bad news for you…Men look at other women and women look at other men. The only time it’s a problem is if he’s blatantly ogling or flirting with other women in front of you. But that’s a whole separate thing that has nothing to do with you. Work on yourself and your confidence and esteem. That’s your responsibility. Period.
I know you say you love him but he’s not making you happy he’s hurting you’re feelings , I think it’s time to move on and find someone that’s a better match for you , don’t settle
I’d tell him to go jump off the nearest cliff sorry that’s the next best thing to cheating in my book nasty
First of all when u start dating I believe the couple should sit down and discuss what each other considers cheating. See if y’all agree or disagree. Do it before strong feelings develope. That way y’all are always on the same page. Just like how y’all would raise kids if any, or where to live, etc. My husband and I did when we first got together and that was 24 yrs ago.
First of all do something to correct your grammar. He doesn’t hurt your “self-confidence” he may hurt your self esteem. Secondly never allow what a man chooses to do affect your inner being. Either you like/love him or you don’t. Nobody is going to force you to go with him, or to continue to live with him. Leave any time, any day. Nobody has the right to make you feel bad about your choices.
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Exactly like the other posters said you might have some trauma from your childhood or from a previous go get some counseling see a therapist. I wish you the best and good luck
Dump him. He doesn’t respect you or your feelings. Is that how you want to be treated for the rest of your life. NO MAN is worth that!
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That it hurts you ought to be enough reason for him not to go to those places. To do something that obviously pains your partner shows little value for the relationship. There is that. And then I will share my opinion that it is infidelity. Nudity is intimate, imo. Between two committed lovers. Seeing someone else in a state reserved for intimate lovers is an act of infidelity. Its treating it with casual disregard for relationships. Within relationships is where lust is provoked and shared. But I have been told I am a prude. And that strip clubs are a freedom expression. I disagree but it’s all opinion.
The moment he wanted to go to the strip club the relationship maybe is over. You need to accept the fact that the relationship maybe already over. Going to have to figure out what you what want to do now depending, if you own or rent other factors are in if you have children’s can you make it on your own with child support. Can you do it alone without him these are the kind of questions you must answer yourself.
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Searching for an answer from random people who do not know you or share your values is a battering ram of opinions that flesh out your partners views often more than your own
You object. He’s going to anyway. What can you live with?
What can you live without?
Bon chance…
Go out with one of your guy friends that night for dinner. If your bf has a problem with it then say “I’m not cheating but he can do things you can’t, like consider my feelings”.
This is where my concern is let him go to the bars okay and then then there’s a chance that he may take the phone numbers down and lie to you about where he is she’s got a motel fucking him she may get pregnant, there’s a chance that he will give you STD chance he will spread it to the children so you’ll have to figure out now what you want to do.
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I don’t think the problem lies with your boyfriend he’s got eyes and whether another womanis dancing naked in front of him or just walking down the street. You may bbe the only woman he wants to lay down with and wins his heart… But yiu can’t stop him looking. Be thankful he’s open about his opinions and views and he’s not sneaking off behind yiur back… Seems you lack confidence maybe join him at a club and see for yiurself you have nothing to fear its you hel be taking home at the end off the night… Maybe go with yiur female friends to see a male stripper youl see their just a service getting paid to entertain… Nothing more definetly no threat to your relationship
A person who says that they love you, would not do something that hurts you. That is a lack of consideration and respect for you. Stop wasting your breath, like he’s wasting the money that he’s spending to look at tits and ass. What is he? 15? Drop him like his bad habit, that he’s trying to justify. Trust me. There are better guys out there, who will put you first…unlike your selfish, immature jackass of a boyfriend. Once you’re rid of his selfish ass, you’ll start to feel a lot better.
If you love him my advice is this, if you’re so worried about the strip clubs go with him one time see what it’s about. And whether it was your boyfriend or another guy or another guy or an ex or a future boyfriend, no matter what, no matter who it is, no one can validate you, no one can give you confidence except you!! With or without him, you need to start building on your self-esteem and your confidence and learn how to validate yourself! You can start by thinking more positive about yourself read books about it they’re out there, workout if you say you’re not confident with your body. But don’t put this all on him, He’s not the one to give you confidence or self-esteem that’s totally up to you to do for yourself. Just do it! …And I think the advice in one of the comments to watch that movie fire proof, it’s totally ridiculous! What’s going to happen?? he’s going to watch the movie and then he suddenly going to stop going to strip clubs and give you all this kind of attention?? Uh no!! That’s not gonna happen, that’s still not gonna build your confidence because the one time he doesn’t do it, your conference is going to sink again! That up to him, stop putting your low self-esteem on him!
No one should tell anyone where and where not to go.
I’d dump the loser!
You deserve a man who worships the ground you work on!
This twit is a self centered jerk
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Ditch him. Run the opposite direction asap.
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Dump the a$$hole. He doesn’t respect women
I think you should go WITH him. I personally tip way better than any guy I’ve gone with. Sistas gotta look out for each other. 
Walk away from him as he’s an idiot. You deserve better.
If he truly loves you he would not be going to those places
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The guy is going to go to strip clubs if you like it or not
Leave him or kick him out!
He is not serious.
You deserve a respectful boyfriend! Build your self esteem until you find a real man. 
The best way to get your point across would be to walk away…
That depends on how trustworthy the relationship is.
If my husband really wanted to go, I’d say fine, but I’ll be at a male review:+1:
Yee- haw!!
Yuck-What a turd. Dump him and move on.
Well you go and see how that works out for him. Pigs
not a big deal, go with him
Tell him you want to go to a male strip club first.
Kinda feels like gaslighting…
Back in our young marriage I definitely wouldn’t let my husband go without me and I was little and skinny and did look good then so I wasn’t worried about their looks, but I just felt stupid what few times I went with him and friends. I just felt nasty and morally guilty for being in a place like that. I had two young kids at home. I felt like I was in the den of devils. Just dirty. Thank God my husband never wanted to go to them tho by himself. We just went with some friends a couple of times. I think it’s sickening. But then again I’m open minded enough to know the girls need to work and they say they make pretty good money. Most of them are probably providing a living for their children, so take advantages of the crazy men that wants to throw money at them. Stupid men sitting there giving their money to girls that are never going to give them anything in return unless it’s one of those where they have little rooms they can sneak back in and get oral sex or whatever they can. And yes, they do have private rooms in the back. Don’t let him tell you otherwise! No no and no to his ass going by himself!! He shouldn’t want to if he loves and respects you. I would never agree to that. Plus he’s throwing money at them that I’m sure you could use. If mine wanted to go I’d tell him to go on if he went knowing how I feel, then I’d be gone when he got back. Piss on going out and getting turned on by other women then coming in using me as a sperm depository to get his rocks off while he imagines he’s with one of them! Hell no!
Tell him to call you in 10 years
Look at it like this most of the strippers in these strip clubs ain’t like what you see on tv. They aren’t as talented or as attractive. Most of em look like they’re drugged up and either so skinny they ain’t got any boobs or butt or they’re sloppy nasty looking highly overweight girls. Least that’s what’s in the strip clubs my ex and his family and friends used to go to (I know this cuz I went with them twice) it was not a good experience but I compromised and proved my point. If my current boyfriend wanted to go to the strip club I wouldnt have an issue going with him or letting him go by himself because he has never in four years said anything or done anything to cause me to doubt him or make me feel bad about my body or myself.
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Immaturity at its best
He needs to learn to spell
Sweethart god had to give you that answer
He’s a pig. Get rid of him!
It’s like a really shiny penny in the strip club,all flash and fake.on the other hand when you go home you hopefully have your soulmate who has all that substance and knowledge of you and what you like and need.it’s not even the same animal.sucks that you are upset and there’s nothing wrong with that.Honestly they just want your money.
He is a disgusting pig. NEXT
Eventually leads to cheating
As an x stripper I don’t think most people get it. Which is understandable. To make things plain and simple for you all.
Womens bodies are beautiful. If you want to enjoy something rare and beautiful, almost like watching a unicorn, then go to the strip club. If your not confident then don’t go to the strip club, but don’t ever expect someone else to not go just because YOU are not confident.
I also want to mention that more then half the dancers think women are more attractive then men and that men are nothing but drooling dogs and a potential hustle.
Your husband is an ass.
Girl…RUNNNNNNNNNN!!!
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Go on a diet and start working out!and here come the rearks!!!lmao
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Dump the unfeeling b*****d
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He’s being a selfish prick… or go with him , they pay more attention to the girls, when they go with their man…
DUH ! time to walk away.
Drop him like a turd on fire. You deserve better.
Is this fucking real.
Listen to your gut. Run! Tou deserve better!
He would have to go!!!
He’s a piece of garbage…do not trust your heart to him. You deserve better.
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Disrespectful to you 
He’s not your person then
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Yes Matthew great movie.
Get rid bloody pervert
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Dang, y’all some mean people. Hope I never need advice.
This can’t be real🤦🏻♀️
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I enjoy going with my man!
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Ditch him. He’s a crass jackass!!
He does not love you
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Go to a chip n dales
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I’m flat out sick and tired of women who condone this habit of depravity from men as if it’s acceptable. It’s not!
Just because the majority think something is true or good doesn’t make it so.
Strip clubs and pornography of any kind IS cheating.
It’s leering at naked women.
It’s envisioning sex with other women.
It is window-shopping.
It’s discontent in his eyes, heart and mind.
If he wasn’t discontented with you - he WILL be.
Strip clubs - even if a man is single when he attends them - is depraved behaviour.
What he is doing is treating all women with disrespect by not seeing a woman’s spirit and women who work that dance floor nude are very much part of society’s issues. He is disregarding your feelings on the process on top of that. He has shown you who he is through and through.
Walk away NOW.
If he really loves you he wouldn’t need other women to excite him. Move on and do it now before you get to far into the relationship. 
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