It’s something that i feel should be discussed during the dating process. Not sneaking around after you’re in a commitment together. So in the same regard of equal footing, is it okay for you to go see male strippers! If you enjoy that type of entertainment and it’s agreed upon prior to a commitment. Then all matters pertaining to that kind of entertainment should be discussed agreed upon and respected. Really if you are not comfortable with the idea, and he doesn’t respect your wishes on this matter. Then you must question his commitment to you and the quality of his respect. It may be a decisive action to take too truly find someone of equal interests on this and who is fully respectful and shares the same view as you on this. If he cares that much for you then he should be worshipping you physically in the same fashion. That something needs to be discussed early on in the dating process. Good luck!
Girl, you don’t need that. Life’s hard enough. When the person you’re with can’t even be bothered to understand where you’re coming from, you need to go. You deserve better. Leave him and learn how to be happy by yourself. That’s the secret. The secret to happiness is not finding it by being with others or having it be fulfilled by others. It’s by you finding YOUR happiness and meeting your own needs. You are important. Important to him? Maybe not, and that really doesn’t matter. But you’re important to your own well-being. He’s a douche.
My personal opinion is honestly it isn’t cheating but if you told him that you’re uncomfortable he should respect you
I have one rule about strip clubs: I don’t care if you go with your boys to the strip club, just don’t ever hide it from me or lie to me about it.
U shouldnt have to be ok w him going to strip clubs. Hes not a little boy. He doesnt need to see other naked bodies if hes w u. What’s wrong w these idiots?
Hunny u already answering ur own questions…he knos its not rite…he knos how u feel about it…so the rest is up to YOU BABY GURL…hope it works out…
First of all know your self worth and how important you are in general. Don’t ever dwell on WHAT AN EX TOLD YOU, they’re outta the picture for a reason. The best thing you can do when your uncomfortable with a situation like this is either discuss it and make a plan and be on the same page, just let them or walk away from so person and take time to heal. Honestly strippers make good money and that’s all they are really there for is to make money, that’s their job. Personally I’d go with my man to see what the whole thing is about and why he likes it. Because if he gave the reason I like naked women YOU HAVE HER AT HOME WONDER WHY SHES BENT. all in all either come to a compromise or leave
If he will go to a strip club Then he will cheat.
This really isent hard to figure out
I say no. It is similar to porn. Both are incredibly damaging to a relationship, especially in the bedroom. If your insecure about it, it will only get worse then the damage is done. He knows it hurts you and why so if he is ok with that then move on because it will get worse as you pull away from him etc. It sounds like he needs to grow up. Good luck as I know that is not an easy one when the heart is involved. 
Byeeeee that’s not a man
Me and my boyfriend regularly to strip clubs as a date night activity. 
I too like to see other boobies so it works for us.
Leave him he’s trash
I have to say that there is a time for everything in life. Some women do not care and some do. It is the same thing as a man watching porn. To me is disrespectful. Men do not need a woman waiting at home while they act like they are single. Strips clubs are not just for watching… there is more stuff going on. Life is too short to be with a man that do not give you 100%. It is not 50-50 in a relationship. It is 100-100. The excuses would start getting bigger. Tell him to hit the road jack. Plain and simple.
Go with him. They are funny imagine their they feel. He Is Coming Home with you you will reap the benefits
If he actually said they can do things you cant, hes cheating, let them also take him home with them and take care of his sorry ass and see how fast they kick him to the curb
I think if he does carry loyalty, respect,trust, love and dignity then he wouldn’t go to a strip club. You are dating the wrong man. You intuition is telling you right. Best to hurt yourself by ending it with him. No tantrum and a biggie. Because you want someone to love and protect your heart. Your spiritual guardians are giving you signs. Start working with it. Sending Love and Strength 
Show him this post. It raw and honest and if he truly cares he will be considerate and not go. A man who disregards his woman’s feelings still doesn’t understand himself and what he truly wants. Maybe he thinks he wants to be in a relationship but in reality he is lieing to himself on what he wants. If he’s into you he will realize that he doesn’t need to go because he has you and you are enough! You are beautiful and strong don’t let him make you feel like your anything less. He likes to be danced around maybe try a new sexy outfit and spice things up. Make him remember what he has. A sexy Goddess! Have a few drinks and put on your fave song to dance to. You are enough! You are always enough! 
Just don’t let a man laugh and disrespect you behind your back and “Love Bomb” you when he’s being fake to you in your face. Set yourself free. Start all over again and you will find the one who will love you right
It’s totally fine for him to like the strip club but if you don’t like that he likes that, then you are the one who has to make that decision to respect yourself and leave a situation you aren’t happy in. You shouldn’t/can’t change people you can only control your own decisions and emotions. He clearly doesn’t respect your boundaries or emotions. Respect yourself and leave
He said they can do thing’s you can’t do get away from him hopefully you will meet someone who isn’t a piece of Shit one of these day’s
Dump him. He only takes you because he he thinks going by himself will make you made.
A real man would want to look at you . Not other women.
You have some healing to do. If your man is going to strip clubs and you are so against them, simple, brake up with him.
Suggest going with him and see what he says… Lol
Your is tears because you have no idea the joy your man is having without you around naked women. Understood, my suggestion is that you join him hanging at the strip club. Buy him a dance or two. Learn to enjoy him enjoying himself. Instead of you driving yourself crazy with the thought of what he is doing or worse what them girls are doing to him… Join along and see for yourself. Hekk maybe you can pickup a couple of new ideas on pleasuring your man.
My advice is instead of fighting the idea of what he likes is for your you to join in.
If he really loved you, he wouldn’t continue doing this knowing it’s hurting you. And I completely disagree with your boyfriend. He may not be fu**ing her but going to the strip clubs and looking at other women (naked at that!!!) IS a form of cheating. You should be the ONLY woman he is looking at sexually. This man is selfish and wrong and you can do WAY better. Leave him. He doesn’t care about or respect your feelings and he certainly doesn’t love you. The best thing you can do for yourself is move on very happily with your life. I know you love him and it’s hard but God will give you the strength to let him go if you just ask Him.
They also do have male strip clubs. Take him out one night with” they can do things to me that you’re inadequate to do”.
If you don’t trust him and yes you need to talk to him about how you feel and that is disrespectful to you and your relationship.
So my issue is with hus response to your expressing your feelings on the matter. Its dismissive and reveals his misogynist side a bit. ISWIS. Not so much the strip club. Its fun to go if your comfortable with it. If it bothers you that fine and you need to decide that’s a deal breaker or if maybe you can set some ground rules and meet halfway instead. Now he isn’t responsible for your self image issues (I also suffer this) or what your ex did. But that response doesn’t sit right. If he can’t at least be empathetic and at least not try to do a whole ass comparison I have considered taking a pole fitness class just for fun. I would also revisit this and see wth that response was. If he isn’t at minimum willing to make a compromise it is time to walk.
Facebook & it’s ludicrous “What if” or “What would you do scenario” questions? Why bother to comment, it’s so daft & dumb giving hypothetical answers to silly questions?
Wow ok if he ‘wants a night where he doesn’t have to worry about another person or take their feelings into consideration’ then he needs to be single NOT in a relationship. The way he is twisting this around is disgusting and quite frankly I’d dump his ass for the above message he sent you !
Sounds like to me that he’s gaslighting and you need to dump his ass.
Did u watch magic mike or 50 shades aquaman have u ever said to your girls ohhh man aquaman is so hot or the rock or who ever well if u said yes you are a hypocrite if your not happy leave but also know you have probably done the same thing right in his face
Option 1. Go with him and get our of your comfort zone. He was honest with you about wanting to go. Option 2. If you are 100% against it and if him going causes problems in your relationship, leave. It’s ok if there comes a point where we can say, I’m sorry I’m not ok with this and it’s enough for me to leave if you won’t respect my wishes. The important part to remember is that if he doesn’t go because of your insecurities, he will start to feel like he is giving and not getting. Compromise and communication are key.
From my experiences, despite having my own body image insecurities, the strip clubs have always been fun and comfortable. The women will automatically pay more attention to you. You’ll see. It also hypes up the sexual tension between you and your partner so when you get home, it’ll be all worth it. It’s ok girl. You’ll figure this out.
Me and my husband go together I’m not insecure at all
He doesn’t care how you feel about it. If he did, he wouldn’t do it. It’s that simple really.
Is he bringing it home to you? If so, I wouldn’t worry overmuch.
He is selfish, period!!! If he is comparing you to them, be done with his behind because that is just straight up disrespect!!! Plenty of men will respect your feelings and appreciate what you offer
Strip clubs are just for fun no need to take it seriously he doesn’t love any of them women hell I’m all for my man goin to the strip club let’s go together I’ll pay her y she dances on u we are here for a good time not a long one 
You can’t base your self view on previous relationships, it’s not the new guys fault last was a douche…but there’s no learning, no growth just lessons repeated if you follow same mindset…
But if it makes you feel undervalued and hurt he’s should respect that, but you should also respect his views too and meet somewhere in the middle…no fair him commiting to not going if you’re not gonna commit to working on your self esteem
The out of line bit is the “they do things you don’t do” hell no to that disrespect…I’d be wanting complete breakdown of what the hell he meant before considering anything else.
He should be happy with the lady he has I admit I’ve been strip club once didn’t like. Now I wouldn’t go at all I have a beautiful fiancee who is my world don’t need to go anywhere but home to see a beautiful woman .
If he knows it hurts you…than he should not do it. Teamwork…
In my book, no bf or husband has any business going to any strip club. Is a matter of time before he cheats if he has done so already. He is psychologically cheating just by going. I would find another bf if I were you!
I’ve gone with my ex (babydaddy) to strip clubs. If you are confident and trust him I don’t see any harm. They just watch. As long as it doesn’t go beyond that I think its fine. Just my opinion from personal experience.
He needs to go! If you explained how you were uncomfortable and he personally Attacked you. “They can do things you can’t” is bull shit. And you should bring up the fact that strips can’t have sex with him either. So why is it so important to him to look at women he can’t touch. When your right there!!
Cya loser! Don’t come back!!!
Kick him to the curb at his freaking strip club!
You need a better caliber of man!
So your ex and your current both said “they can do things you cant?”
Good riddance to bad rubbish! Do not waste one more second on that jerk! You deserve better.
People are far too quick to say ‘get rid of him’! TALK TO HIM. If he is doing something that you have clearly explained to him makes you feel uncomfortable or unhappy then have the conversation about you being unable to be with someone who puts his own lust above your feelings. It’s very hard to get rid of emotional abuse from an ex partner but you have to give your current partner the chance to right that wrong. Personally I have low self esteem but I wouldn’t consider a stag do to a strip club as cheating. If he made the decision to have a private dance etc then I would be very unhappy with that but everyone is different - he should respect that whatever makes you uncomfortable is not ok.
I hope you can sort things out x
You deserve better. He knows how you feel and still chooses to disrespect you. If he isn’t willing to do that, you gotta go girl.
Forget sex & cheating Many people are in wrong place wrong time having worked with a stripper years ago Ton of drugs and dangerous dealings and 2021 Guns … Keep him home 
Wait I’m confused… what can they do that you can’t? Pretty sure you can do everything plus some 1000x better! My fiance used to bounce at a strip club that his aunt owned and he used to tell me all the time that the girls were trashy and drug addicts and just looking for their next fix. Not saying all are like this or all strippers are. I mean hell if I had the confidence and could actually dance and not fall off the stage I would totally be a stripper! But I go with him a few times and actually felt bad for the girls. They were so strung out and I couldn’t figure out why people would pay to see them. Idk maybe I’m missing something. I think you just need to talk with him about it and maybe go with him a few times to actually see what it’s all about. Good luck!
My LH went to a few together, as a couple, on occasion … and not just female dancers. So my perspective might be a little different than yours:
We had an agreement that he would definitely never go alone; that’s just a creepy thing to do. However, if a group of his friends were going because of a party or they were on a guys’ trip, then he could. No need for him to say, “my wife doesn’t want me going to these”. Over the years, that only happened twice and they were in and out in 30 minutes.
If you want to compromise ask to go once maybe just by the bar not all are prettier or even skinnier also on one mission to get money not have a loving relationship with honesty an openess or he ll probably just sneak or lie 
You Are Enough to the Right Person.
Now read that again 
Dump his selfish ass!
Girl u need to love urself a bit more and be more confident in urself. Sounds like ur own insecurity
Uh, yeah. Hard no from me
You should both be able to have a night out without it being an ordeal. Explain your hurt at his word choices, and work on your self-esteem issues.
I struggle with body issues since menopause weight gain myself, so I’m not trying to give empty advise. As long as you don’t have indications that he is cheating, let him have in, and you go have fun yourself.
Go see some male strippers let him see how it feels
It’s just a strip club though. Your own personal issues shouldn’t have to effect your partner from going out. Either you trust him or not is the question. Strip clubs aren’t invented by the devil
Bye! It’s one thing to go to a strip club with friends for a bachelor party or you be fine with it, but you aren’t fine with it, it is on a regular basis, and he said ‘they can do things you can’t’. No, you are enough, just too good for this dirt bag. He views you as an object and nothing more.
No offense but it sounds like a you problem. Women need to grow up about this. My wife doesn’t gives 2 shits because she knows she butters these biscuits. Its called trust. If ya ain’t got it then your relationship will fail. Just keeping it real.
I think the issue here is trust, if you trusted him you wouldn’t have a problem with him going to a strip club, it’s not cheating maybe go along with him next time and see what it’s like. If you have insecurities about your own body then do something about it hun don’t take it out on your man!
Cut him lose. Mine says the same thing and is now contracting sexworkers.
If he’s going out with his friends like a special occasion, I’m personally ok with it. I trust my husband enough to let him have a night out with his friends & he does the same. I know he’s not bringing anybody home & neither am I
If you are not confident enough to trust him around women who YOU FEEL are more desirable than you, it’s one of two things… He is a NOT a good partner 100% and you should leave him right now, or YOU have work to do so get to it… sorry but real world is not fair
I don’t trust too many men
Love yourself by losing him.
If they don’t bring peace to your soul, they aren’t worth it.
No it’s disrespectful
I think it’s a personal choice, everyone is different, if you are hurt by him going…he should respect that. It doesn’t help by him putting you down with that comment. You should work on loving yourself, and know ur boundries. Men will treat you how YOU allow them. I personally dont mind that my guy goes, he doesn’t go all the time and he always asks out of respect if I mind. He also makes the time to make sure I know he desires and loves me. Relationships need trust…to be healthy. We have all been in horrible relationships, dont make him pay for someone else’s mistakes. Dont jump into a new relationship until you are healed and happy with yourself. No one can love you if you dont love yourself. Set boundaries, set consequences, and be prepared to follow through.
He’s 100 percent wrong. Doesn’t seem like he values you and your feelings.
If this was me and my partner I wouldn’t mind at all. I trust my partner 1000% and it honestly wouldn’t bother me if he went to a strip club to have a few drinks. I have really low self esteem also but him going to a strip club isn’t going to change that 
Dump him now he’s not mature enough or ready for a relationship
They call them gentleman clubs sorry they’re nasty!
I took my husband to a strip club when we got engaged. When it was my ex tho, it felt like cheating because he would do it behind my back and spend a lot of money. I’m sure he paid for extra. But my husband and I agree if we meet someone and that is a possibility, we will talk about it first. The only time it has come out is when I’m going out drinking “hey sweetie if I make out with a pretty girl is that okay?” Lol.
Get rid of him. You’re beautiful just the way you are and you are enough. You deserve better than that bullshit.
He KNOWS he’s hurting you and he doesn’t care. And he’s very likely doing more than just visiting strip clubs. People like him are lying, cheating, manipulative, abusive pieces of shit and they will never change. Burn that bridge and never look back. You’ll be so much happier and healthier without that negativity in your life.
Stop answering this. They made money every Time You answer. I guess u like People making money Off you.
Sounds like an insensitive man, no matter what it is, if it bothers you he will downplay it as invalid, your feelings don’t matter. You Will live a life trying to please a self centered male, never enough.
Everyone has different views and opinions. I am a bigger girl but I never cared about my boyfriend going to a strip club. If he is going to cheat he will cheat whether he goes to a strip club or not. There has to be respect and compromise on both parts.
I’d be more concerned with his misspellings & bad grammar
Absolutely not ok! You are in this together? You are uncomfortable…end of story. He either hears you or doesn’t. Move on. I am in your boat! You need/want/party look at another woman you don’t need me and I sure as fuck don’t need you.
Its called RESPECT!
Honey, you & him are on a different page than each other. These two pages do not, in any way, shape or form, belong in the same story!!! You need to figure out your story…do you want to spend your life with a man who goes to strip clubs, looks at strippers…probably enjoys porn videos & all of this that sexualizes women?! Of course he’s going to tell you it’s ok! That all guys like this! This is what men do! NO THEY DON’T!!! Yes sleazy men do…do you want this in your life?!?! You, my dear are better, otherwise you wouldn’t be asking your question on here. Be thankful you are just boyfriend/girlfriend…you may think you love him…I’m guessing there is some one out there who is way better & far more deserving of your love!
Never been to one so I’ll say no.
My girlfriend and bud used to go after football games on Sunday she had fun so it depends
OMG, if he doesn’t understand - never will, and maybe there will be other issues, love and respect yourself first.
Fera South this is us! But other way around. 
My husband and went together a couple off times once was for Valentines the second was for my last bday together. We have a blast!! He don’t need to to go alone he knows I’ll go with him.amd will have a great time together.
I don’t get the “they can do things you can’t” and what does that mean exactly… what is it they can do … it’s a big NO from me …good luck 
It’s not any different than watching porn in many ways and your insecurities aren’t his responsibility to walk on eggshells around.
However…a relationship is always a lot of compromise and caring about the other person’s feelings and needs.
I don’t get the appeal of strip clubs or why it’s such a big deal for him not to go. 
The most likely outcome is that he’ll cave in and say he won’t go, but still do it anyway while lying til his face turns blue about it later.
Otherwise, he’ll go anyway and f*ck your feelings (in his mind) - if he actually doesn’t, he’ll likely be resentful for spoiling his fun or whatever…
Seems like maybe you’re not compatible or at least one is rather deficient when it comes to maturity…
He sounds like a total bastard. Get rid of him. Lucky you don’t have kids with this loser.
If he knows it bothers you but still goes to the clubs, that should tell you all you need to know.
He don’t love you if he hurts your feelings after you explaining 
A boundary is a boundary if he can’t respect it then he shouldn’t be your partner. We have yellow and red boundaries in our relationship, yellowing meaning “I don’t like that Idea right now but we can discuss it again at a later date” and red boundaries that can absolutely not be crossed.
No comment as I’ll get reported.
Dumb him if you that upset by it .
And explain why on the other hand you don’t own him do you .
But if your not ok about it and he’s still wants to go then you have to make a choice .
May be you aren’t the right people for each other
You have to work together not pull apart on things if he knows he’s going to hurt you but still do it then he has no respect for you .
Those places are the devils den! I know first hand nothing good comes from your man going there! The girls are skinny because most are on drugs and will do anything for money! However you can’t blame the girls every bit of the problem is your man! Kick him to the curb!
If you take the Dancer’s out of the equation, and ask yourself… Do I want to be with someone that doesn’t care about my feelings? Whether or not my feelings are silly, crazy, justified, etc… Do I need my partner to care and respect them? If yes, you may need to cut your losses. It’s not about the Dancer’s, it’s about you saying “hey for whatever reason this hurts me,” and him saying “cool, I don’t care.”