Drop the bastard! And get over him. He cares nothing about you. He Only wants what he wants. Sadly, I know from experience it… Never gets better.
Nothing wrong with him going, but the fact you don’t like it should make him stop.
Where he goes has absolutely nothing to do with you…and he can’t make you feel bad about yourself or your body. Only you can do that
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Go with him and have fun.
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This happened to me he said he wouldn’t get a private dance then he did and things were never the same trust wise, 6 months later he cheated. Well rid of thank god but takes a lot to come back from that xx
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Is this where just women are ? Say let’s go to a male strip club and both have fun lol
Actions will show you how he feels about you…listen to that, not his wirds
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That’s not love, your missing your blessing with a good man, move on❤️
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You said it was your ex that said those things, not your boyfriend. Maybe ask him what makes him want to go and is there something that you could do that would make him ok with not going. It might just be he likes looking, but wants to come home to you. Don’t hold your exes comments against him
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Club before. That doesn’t faze me. But if he ever turned around and said to me ‘they can do things you can’t’ I would reply ‘what like provide a roof over your head cuz we’re done! Your worth more girl.
Sister,he is a douchè,and a douchè of that magnitude could clean a whales virgina,get rid of him,someone who really loves you will never talk such trash!!!
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looking at someone when they walk past in street is one thing but to want to go to a strip club when you have girl friend at home now that is not the right thing to do.
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Nothing wrong with him wanting to go to a strip club. A women’s body is art and is interesting to watch what it can do around a pole. Instead of feeling jealously, go with him and see for yourself what it’s like. The women are not allowed to be touched by clients while giving a dance anyway! The man doesn’t even need to get a private dance, it’s his choice if he wants too or not as that’s the only way he will see the girls naked. But once the 3 minutes are up he’s back to his table while the dancer gets dressed and resets for her next client. He can just sit at the table all night just having a drink and a good night with his friends and watching the odd dance on stage. I personally don’t think it’s a problem and it’s Deffos not cheating. The women would get sacked if they were caught doing anything or leaving with a client as it’s classed as prostitution. Although your not comfortable with him going you both need to sit down and talk and explain how you feel and their needs to be some mutual agreement x
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Don’t worry when your man goes to a female strip club. It’s full of horny men and gay women. Worry when he goes to a male strip club. It’s full of horny women and gay men.
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“boys” think it’s fine to go to strip clubs and eyeball naked woman. Men have eyes for THEIR woman and their woman only.
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By what you wrote, and his text message, I recommend you drop him yesterday…you two are incompatible & what’s more, he acts. & sounds like a narcissist. I’m talking major Red flags here…from your first sentence!
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Hmmm this is a hard situation, could you not go to a strip club together? They really aren’t as bad as you think they are, I wouldn’t think twice about going into one, but on the other hand I can also see why this hurts you and I totally get that, sorry not much advice but good luck xxx
If he’s an adult and doesn’t know the difference between two and to, and for and four, that says enough 
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From looking at the comments. People seem to be skirting past the fact it was her ex that said the things in the last paragraph and not her current boy. Believe it or not your boyfriend isn’t responsible for your insecurity caused by another, you need to work on yourself and your issues. Strip clubs are harmless, heck maybe go with him see for yourself it might even bring you closer.
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ITS NOT CHEATING…not his problem you have an issue with yourself. Stop projecting your body and trust issues onto him as if he’s the one doing it. You have trust issues, you have confidence issues, you have toxic traits.
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A women understands that men are more visual then we are. As long as he eats at home it doesn’t matter where he gets his appetite.
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Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. Should people in relationships go to strip clubs?
I go with my man the vibes are the best tons of couples there least one I go too lol
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Depends on the relationship 
There is no right or wrong answer here.
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If you don’t feel comfortable with it and he still goes that would be a problem for me . It sounds like he doesn’t respect the relationship .
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If you went to see male strippers , would you be wrong ?? 
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Yep with that attitude of his I’d dump him. If all it’s gonna do is make you worry and he doesn’t give a rats ass about your feelings, then dump him. Too many other guys out there better
To each their own… if it doesn’t feel right go with how you feel❤️
People can do what they want. You dont have to be with him 
if you feel insecure then maybe that’s something you need to work on and he should probably help you with that but you cant force someone to not do something they want to do
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My husband can go if he wants…I don’t care where he gets hungry as long as he eats at home
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Go with him…I used to do that with an ex of mine…
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I’d either go with my man or let him go
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Go with him it’s not a big deal
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Me & my husband love the strip clubs & love to go & he also has gone with his friends without me & I don’t care. BUT that’s just me. If you’re uncomfortable then he should be respecting that. Just because other couples like it doesn’t make it okay for him to disregard your feelings & do whatever he wants & ESPECIALLY not for saying they can do what you can’t ? That’s disrespectful af.
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I wouldn’t like it however that’s just me.
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He does it because he doesn’t respect you. If you tell him something makes you uncomfortable, he shouldn’t do it out of respect. Same thing if he tells you something makes him uncomfortable. This is a respect issue, not a love issue. Some women are okay with it and some aren’t. Would he be okay with you being a stripper? I know my husband wanted to go to strip clubs and then I was like alright, I’ll be a stripper too! If it’s so innocent for you and other men right? That stopped him dead in his tracks. He didn’t like that idea. 
Honestly leave him, that’s disgusting of him to do
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Everyone has to have their own boundaries in a relationship. When those boundaries are crossed that shows a lack of respect.
Maybe this is more of a compatibility issue than a singular issue.
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Leave his ass. He doesn’t care about your feelings.
He doesn’t respect you walk away
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All depends on the relationship…i dont care if mine goes and he doesnt care if i go…we dont see it as cheating either…but what works for one may not work for another.
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I would straight up be like, if you wanna go out for a night then you can go out single. He should respect how you feel. On another note, learn to love yourself. You are unique, there’s only one of you❤
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As a former stripper of 2-3yrs, ive seen what goes on in those places. My man isnt going to a stripclub without me, lmao sorry not happening.
Also him saying they can do things you can’t, baby all we do is sweet talk the men, get drunk and swing around on a pole. Any woman can do that its not hard unless you take up the pole seriously, but him saying that is a huge red flag leads me to believe he could be getting more than just a lapdance and a chub.
Well trust that the stripper isn’t going home with him and only wants his money nothing else . I’m a dancer and I do not care about any of those men .
Literally ZERO issues with strip clubs but if he described it the way your man did I’d be done.
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Did he go to them before your relationship? If so, it isn’t right to demand change. If you aren’t comfortable with it, he probably isn’t the right man for you.
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In my relationship my man can only go to the strip club if I am going to
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Sounds like you’re trying manipulating him into doing what you think he should do. You need to work on your self I age and stuff and not worry about it so much. Why he so hurt over something so trivial? Maybe that relationship isn’t for you. Find someone with the same mentality as you.
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Its about respecting your boundaries and your relationship and being understanding that it makes you uncomfortable.
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Dump him. He doesn’t care how you feel. Tell him to date those strippers he likes so much.
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"They can do things you can’t " is what I’d have a problem with.
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He can’t go because YOU have no self confidence? Nah, that’s trash. Every stripper alive can do something I can’t do. Shake my ass. grow up!
Every relationships sets boundaries that both are comfortable with, this is something your not comfortable with and he should respect that. If he can’t don’t lower your standards for him, do what’s best for you. Xo
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If you tell him that it bothers you and he still goes then he must not care that much .But if he wants to go because he is curious then go with him
Gross. Girl, know your worth and leave that worthless dude. No one deserves to be treated that way.
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I went with my ex a few times during our then almost 5year relationship. It was the experience for me plus the dancers r really nice to females and I enjoy the look lol
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I go with mine have you tried it?? Isa blast🥰 The girls will usually firt with YOU. Gurl if you HAVENT tried just try once. I dont expect anyone to be shovanistic that isnt comfortable there but i bet you like it
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Dump him. If he was a real man he would honor you and not even think about looking at other women naked.
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I mean regardless he should be respectful of the your relationship. But it really depends on the couple more than anything
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Wouldhe have an issue w u working at one? If they answer is yes, leave him. If the answer is no, get a job at one… He’ll likely leave u and you can find someone who isn’t an ass and respects you!
At this point it’s not even about the strip coin it’s about him not respecting the way you feel about it.
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Not all girls at the club are skinnier hun. Love yourself a little more. Go with and get a lap dance. Get ideas from them and you give your man a lap dance.
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I don’t have an issue but I would want to go with lol only fair
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I don’t believe that it’s wrong nor do I think it’s a form of cheating. However, if you are uncomfortable with it and he doesn’t respect that boundary, then it’s a problem.
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My issue is the “they can do things you cant” like you right as I leave your ass🤷🏻
I hope you are not considering marring him. He will continue to go and that makes me remember what the pastor who married us said to me—“you are not to marring him thinking you will change him.” I have never tried, but he will never do anything to hurt me. If he truly loves you, hr won’t continue to go to one of those places. Just remember to be true to yourself.
Me and my man be in the strip club he looking I am looking to long as he don’t disrespect me I am all for the stripper they gotta make money too. You have to work on yourself and not worry about the small things live life a little
All how he would feel about you going to a strip club and watching sexy men strip.
If you don’t approve & they do…then they are not the one. This should be discussed prior to serious dating. But personally not for me at all. I am yours, you are mine.
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Wow the issue I have is how he said they can do things you can’t. If he claims it’s not cheating then what does that statement mean
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Ask him if it’s ok if you went to work at a strip club, if he says no don’t do it then tell him it’s not ok for him to go see other women work that way.
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IMO this is a relationship to relationship bases. By the sounds of yours, the strip club should be avoided and your partner should respect your feelings about it.
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Nope. No way would I allow this. Some maybe alright with it but not me. He’ll be out the door in a second if he didn’t respect my feelings.
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This might sound mean but I couldn’t get over the fact that you kept using “two” instead of “to” and “four” instead of “for”
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Tell him you want to go with him see how the works for him
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U need to believe in ur self worth!
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Let him go and you do something you like I think those places are degrading and disgusting but let him go hell I ain’t his mom but I got to do something I wanted the same night and he was more worried about me shopping then I was him sticking money in slimy whatever
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If it’s something that bothers u then that’s the only explanation u should need. If I tell my husband I’m not comfortable with something and he doesn’t care then he’s not validating my feelings and it’s also disrespectful. Too each their own but it goes both ways if my husband isn’t comfortable with something then I just don’t go, it’s not about control it’s about communication and respect for your partner. Period
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And I just want to say if your man’s way of “getting me time” is going to the strip club… thats just fucked up. 
Understand it doesn’t matter the topic
If you say something makes you uncomfortable and your partner says “oh well” it’s not a partnership, it’s a huge red flag.
What he is saying - the activity is more important than respecting you and for it to be a strip club is just weird.
What’s the advice? When someone shows you how much they respect you, be sure to listen.
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Men will end up wanting to go due to bachelor parties etc. i don’t care personally. As long as he’s not going for no reason at all. But everyone is different and he needs to respect your boundaries.
Every relationship is different and if you are uncomfortable with that, he should be understanding and supportive. Not having self confidence is really difficult though, and working on yourself is a big step in the right direction. Maybe one day you could both go together.
If he does something that disrespects you, and straight up hurts you…… leave him
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My husband would never do something that I’m not comfortable with. Your boyfriend is only thinking about himself. Which is selfish. I’m sorry you are going through this.
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You’re never going to self confidence from another person. That’s an intrinsic thing. My advice… Next time he’s going to the strip club… Get yourself all dolled up. Go out with some girlfriends. Have yourself a great time. Post lots of pictures on social media of you living your best life. Then go home as and go to bed. Don’t say a word to him. If you’re real tore up about it, have yourself a good cry in the shower. Then… Next week… Put on your best bra and do it again. Be responsible and don’t be a hoe… That’s not what I’m saying. But it’s obvious he needs to learn your life can be just as great without him as it every was with him.
Side note… It’s not fair to hold him accountable because you picked bad men to be in relationships with. So making him pay for shit some other asshole did.
Know your worth. Stand up pack your bags and walk right out that door!
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Tell him you’re going to see male strippers and you will be back whenever.
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Its not ideal for me but my husband has been for a bachelor party. I fully trust him so it wasn’t a huge deal. He said after the fact its not really his cup of tea anyway… That theres no need to waste money when he can get the same and more at home for free.
The part where he says “they can do things you can’t” is probably the most disturbing. Like what?! What exactly are they doing to him that you can’t? That’s a whole other convo to be honest. It sounds like he’s trying to manipulate you into believing that if he thinks it’s OK then you should too. Tough conversations to be had my dear.
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If you’re uncomfortable with it, he should respect it if he wants a serious relationship with you.
Leave him!!! No man that truly loves and cares about you would put you in that position and make you feel that way! Let him go! Love yourself and the right man will come along! He sounds like a very selfish person! He clearly doesn’t care about your feelings!
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I would leave him… He sounds like a jerk who doesn’t care about your feelings
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To me that’s weird. Your man is getting a boner looking at other women when it should only be you 
My son and his gf went to them together…he never went alone
Leave he doesn’t care about you fully, He doesn’t respect you.
The moment he said they can do things you can’t is the moment you should’ve walked
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Its lust …tell him to be single find someone who only wants to see you in that light
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I love the strip club. If you haven’t been to one don’t judge it so quickly. First the girls are not going to sleep with your husband they are not prostitutes they are dancers and yeah they can do stuff alot of us can’t do that’s part of the entertainment. It’s a blast you should go and see what it’s about. You might actually have fun too. I don’t think your insecurities should stop him from doing something he enjoys. It’s fun to go. I’m not into girls but I do love going. And I wouldn’t stop my man from going. If you don’t trust him that’s another issue in itself
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Relationship by Relationship bases. As a whole I think it’s a bad idea. I don’t believe in it and my man feels the same. Know your worth. Maybe he isn’t the one.
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In our relationship it’s a big no! My husband has never asked but he knew my stance on these type of things before we married. While I don’t believe in controlling your spouse, I do believe if something hurts you mentally they should respect that and vise versa. But when he said they can do stuff you can’t I would have let him know really quick like there is stuff he can’t do but you don’t go look for it elsewhere.
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Honestly, him NOT going to the strip club is NOT going to make you any more secure with your physic than you already are. You can’t expect him to fix you, only you can do that. Maybe you really need some single time. Sometime to work out your issues and build up healthy boundaries etc. you have to grasp the fact nobody can fix you, your not broken. Your an intelligent, beautiful woman who can think and feel for yourself. Take time & love yourself
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I SAY THIS AS A STRIPPER: I would leave him. He doesn’t care about how you feel. You want to know the truth? I’ve worked in nearly 50 strip clubs…more than dancing happens in all of them. There are girls there who give hand jobs, blow jobs, boob jobs, full anal/vaginal sex…at the least, dance naked on your man, grinding on him. Many give their numbers out to meet men outside the club for cash in clubs that don’t allow sex acts. Ladies, choose a man who respects your boundaries or be single…you deserve better