We don’t have passwords on our phones & they sit on the table right next to us. I have never felt the need.
We don’t even have passwords and our phones are an open book to each other, though we have zero reason to even look.
Been wit mine SO 15 years can take his phone anytime like he can mine if he wants but we dont do that my husband hates a cheater cant stomach he loves me so much we trust each other 100% aint no man ever of mine gunna lock his phone tell me NO fug that
Trust. I’ve only been with my bf for 2.5 years and we have always known each other’s passwords
My husband and I both know each other’s but it’s to keep nosy family members out of our phones lol
We don’t go through each other’s phones tho. It’s more for like pictures, music, text for each other if one of us is driving.
I’d be sketched out if he changed it and wouldn’t let me have it since we’ve always let each other have them.
Husband and I have codes on our phone. I’m not worried and I don’t touch his phone. We have complete trust
My husband and I both have it to where the only way to unlock each other’s phone is with our thumbprint. we have a passcode for back up. I don’t look through his phone he don’t look through mine. Trust is what it’s all about
Same scenario in my marriage. Goes along with computers and kids. My kids have easy access to anything I have electronic. But they are 16 and 18, we learned to take access from on$ off apps when my girls were 3 and I got a whole bunch of zoo animals in a game we played. Trust goes a long way. Plus we live like we got nothing to hide. Kinda blunt like that. 
With my ex yes… he said his phone was HIS business and me going through it was “invasion of privacy”… but he would go through mine whenever… my bf now, we use the same password (we have kids) and he even had his thumbprint saved to get into mine… we have nothing to hide… I can go through his stuff at any time and he can go through mine… we don’t feel we need to snoop we just grab the others phone to see something/pull something up
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You’re partner deserves privacy, if you feel the need to snoop, just separate. You two need to figure out how to rebuild your trust in him and if you can’t, the answer isn’t to snoop, it’s to break up. If he really wants to continue the behavior, he’ll find a way, and why would you want to be with someone if the only reason he’s not acting up is because you check on him?
I know its super hard, I’ve been in your shoes and for along time I wanted the ability to go through his phone, and if people are ok sharing their phones with partners, great. But it’s not wrong to want privacy. And eventually I realized he needed to be his own person and so did I. I dont want him going through my phone for totally innocent reasons, why should I subject him to the same thing? I had to stop living in the past for us to move forward as a couple, otherwise there was no reason for me to live in constant anxiety about him being trusted or not. You have to decide whether or not it’s worth learning to trust him again.
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My husband and I have the same lock pattern. If he doesn’t want you on his phone, he’s hiding something. I’d be gone
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He is doing shady shit. If he had nothing to hide, he would have a different attitude. Doesn’t necessarily mean he’s cheating, but he’s hiding something.
I’m single and have a password just always have. I have given it to my SO when I had one til he got shady so I changed it just to piss him off.
He’s cheating or doing something illegal. Bail out now and save yourself the headache and heartache.
No password on either of our phones. It’s annoying for me and he just doesn’t want to put one on his. I don’t go through his phone and vice versa either. Sounds like you need to leave him
Weather you got a password or not, know it or not, they’ll still do shit and you’ll find it. Then complain and wonder why you’re going through their damn phone and logging into their accounts, yet you know all the passwords or share the same ones. Then wanna get mad cause you found out shit.
My thumbprint can unlock my fiancé’s phone. I play games on it all the time.
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I have a password but he knows it (kiddos) 
we don’t ever go in each other’s phones though.
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We have each other’s code.
My husband doesn’t bother to put a password on his phone. And I’ve never seen anything that upsets me on his phone really 
If you feel the need to go thru his phone, you’re in the wrong relationship.
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He’s hiding something I would run. My husband and me have passwords on our phone but we know each other’s cause his family is thieves so we keep passwords on our electronics. But from experience dealing with that with my ex’s not wanting to give me their phone or password to it he was always cheating.
My ex husband never let me either. Always said “you can look at it whenever you want” but had a lock code on it. 
turns out he cheated not once, twice, 3 or 4 times but like 5 and got her pregnant. Not saying this is your life but I’m my experience, it’s shady as hell. Now I do have a code on mine but that’s because I’m a nurse and have conversations with doctors and patients on there so just in case I loose my phone or something. But my SO now can do wha he wants with my phone. 
in the end. It’s trust and that’s it.
No. My husband and I both have each other’s passwords and use each other’s phones freely.
My S/O and I don’t share our passwords with each other either. I don’t ask for his and he doesn’t ask for mine. If he wants to hide things he knows he’s free to leave, I don’t feel the need to go through his personal stuff either. Privacy in relationships are okay too !
We both know each others passwords to everything and we use each others phones as well.we have nothing to hide from one another
I used to be the same way with my bf. But that distrust almost ruined our relationship. Now we have our own passcodes, its not about having something to hide, but sometimes you need to have trust in your partner. We are now 8 years together and still going strong
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Husband and I share our phones, know each others passwords.
And have since the beginning of our relationship, lol.
I say leave while you can. That’s a huge red flag. Especially if you’ve found things before.
That being said, I keep a lock on my phone just in case I lose it somewhere. If I had a bf he’d know my pw.
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I couldn’t be with someone who I had to be checking on🤷♀️
My husband and I know each other’s passcodes. I don’t check his phone - but I guess I could. I grab it to use apps once in a while. He grabs mine to use the camera.
My whole thing is - why should he care if you have the passcode? That’s an alarm bell.
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We both have pin locks on our phones because the girls like to randomly call people, but we both know each others lock codes. That would be a huge issue because what are you hiding??
First off you should NOT be going through anyone’s phone but your own! Your hubby’s/BF’s phone is HIS own property! If my hubby went through my phone, there’d be a problem. He only touches it if I ask him for IT help or I need it handed to me.
Yes I have a passcode on all my devices
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We have passwords but we know them but we also dont feel the need to go threw eachothers phone. But hiding a password is a redflag in my book. If my ol man told me i couldn’t know his password id feel sketchy but hes never given me a reason to not believe him. I keep a password only because if i dont have one in the morning when my alarm goes off ill go in my phone and shut them off so in order to wake up i keep a lock on my phone so i have to actually wake up to turn it off:person_facepalming:
but we both believe in privacy and if we want to ask we are open about everything. But like this morning he was on the couch with baby and i was making my grocery list he didnt want to get up and get his phone so he used mine no problems… There should be a certain level of trust, communication.
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No time for games too old for that shit but you shouldn’t feel the need to look at anyone else’s phone but if there all weird about it thats a huge red flag my now ex left his phone on the counter charging and was outside cutting wood or lawns I don’t remember but I slid the phone over so it would not get wet while I did the dishes he got upset I said I moved it I didn’t look in it huge red flag that was
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The day you feel like you gotta snoop is the day you need to leave
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If you have to question it, then there’s your answer. Huge red flag.
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We don’t have passwords on our phones. Standard rule. Don’t start no shit won’t be no shit.
We both have lock screens… with the same pattern so we can use whichever phone is closest when needed to call, text, google, or choose/change music on each other’s phones. No one feels any kind of way about it because no one is hiding anything.
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We both have the same password for our phones. I can’t even remember the last time that I picked up his phone. If your husband put a password on the phone to keep you from seeing certain things then he knows he’s doing something you wouldn’t be okay with.
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Setting aside the password situation, you don’t trust him. If you don’t trust him why are you with him? I have a fingerprint thing on my phone but it is not to keep out my husband. I have apps on my phone that can access my medical and personal records that I need to keep track of but I don’t want a stranger finding my phone and gaining access to. My husband has a password on his. If my husband wants to look in my phone all he had to do is ask. Same goes for him. I just don’t feel the need to. He’s entitled to privacy even from me. If he told me I couldn’t though… Well then THAT’S a huge red flag! And he’s either cheating or doing something that he knows is wrong in some way to you. You guys need counseling! Don’t leave him just because of this. People give up on their marriages too easily these days. Try counseling and see if you can work it out, if not then at least you didn’t just give up as it seems so easy for everyone to suggest to you. If you love him then fight for him. If he doesn’t want the same then you wouldn’t want to stay anyways.
No passcodes period. If he needs my phone or vice-versa or if you need to leave your phone with your teen for whatever reason. The only thing he might get upset about is me messaging my best friend about how cranky he might have been at some point in time or something he did that was wrong. He’ll get over it 
I mean, if you’ve had issues in the past, and he put a lock on his phone purposely so you can’t see what’s on it… I think that answers your question. Me and my husband have the same phone passwords. I use his phone if mines dead, left it’s in another room, etc. There’s never been a time where I couldn’t use his phone if I’ve needed it, and there’s never been a time I’ve felt the need to look through his phone. If you ask to look through his phone that’s a problem.
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We don’t have passwords on our phone’s and we do not touch each others phones, unless one of us ask “hey can you get my phone for me”.
I don’t look through his phone. But I can if I wanted to, and he wouldn’t care, I just don’t feel the need. . Phones are personal space. But if he had nothing to hide he wouldn’t be guarding it. I say it’s time to go.
There is no reason why you shouldn’t know your HUSBANDS passcode. Anyone who says differently is in complete denial that their SO is hiding something. Must be the worst feeling. I use my husbands phone if I can’t find mine, have low battery/dead, to take pictures of our kids if it’s closer. Imagine being told no and having that kind of secrecy? Nooo thanks.
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Wow…huge red flag…hes being unfaithful to you,im sorry you have to go through this but i wouldnt waste anymore time.find someone who values you and wouldnt cheat on you.
My so and i have eachothers no problem.
Sounds like a major lack of trust in your relationship. I dont go through my husbands phone. I do know his pass code but I trust him so I never touch it.
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This sounds exactly like the situation with my ex. The behavior never stopped and yes he’s hiding stuff from you still. My ex is an ex for a reason. Now my husband is a whole different breed 
that man reassured me all the time and we’ve never had any trust issues or phone issues
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Red flag
He’s definitely hiding something.
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If you look thru each other’s phones there is already a level of mistrust.
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It’s a red flag but also one for you. You don’t need to be with someone no matter how long if you feel you need to check their phone.
Nope! I have his passcode and if by chance I’m feeling insecure about something he’ll unlock it and give it to me and vice versa! If there was nothing to hide then there wouldn’t be a problem and if he’s got something to hide, fuck you I’m out! 
I know my SO’s password and vice versa. The only difference is we’ve never hid anything from each other or found anything on each other’s phones (nor have either of us felt the need to “check”/ask to check)… You need to seriously reevaluate what you’re willing to put up with in your relationship because it doesn’t sound like there’s any trust. Goodluck 
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That’s a huge red flag he’s clearly hiding something from you
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We have the same passcode… I set mine up to keep the kids off of it, he then followed and just used mine. I think if he has the need to hide it then he knows it isn’t something you would be ok with.
Run. If I wanted my partners phone or any social media I could have it yet I don’t need to check it but it’s always there if I feel like I want/need to
He clearly has something to hide. I have a pin on my phone only cuz I use my thumb print witch locks it. But my husband knows my pin and can look in my phone anytime he pleases. And I can go into his if need be and honestly it’s the best feeling ever cuz there’s no stress of “oh no what if he sees this” or “I hope I don’t see something I don’t want to” is just better knowing we have that freedom to eachothers phones with no worry.
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I know my man’s, but I don’t go through it. He just hands it to me while he drives and tells me to change the song
We actually have the same passcode.
We don’t have passwords on our phones .what do we need a password for
Man some of y’all woman are super toxic. If you feel the need to constantly look through your partner’s phone bc you distrust them THEN WHY ARE YOU WITH THEM??? A whole relationship is about trust. I have a password on my phone and so does my partner idc if he goes on my phone or even look through it and it’s the same with him. If your relationship is toxic just leave. And going through your partners phone while they’re sleeping is a huge huge red flag 
and it makes you untrustworthy. If you think he’s cheating leave him.
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My friend had the same issues with her husband. Surprise!! He was cheating and on dating websites. U deserve truth, and transparency.
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My fiance and I use the same code to get into both our phones… its just something that happened after a few years of being together
But I don’t even feel compelled to look or worry whats on his phone. If I did. Id have a huge problem
We’ve been married 7 years and I know my husbands code and he knows mine in case we ever needs to use the other persons phone, neither one of us feels the need to look at the others stuff because its private and we respects each others space.
My husband and I know each other’s passwords, but we don’t look through one another’s phone. No reason to though. If I asked, he would give it to me. Sounds like a red flag to me. Good luck!
Red flag my husband is free to look at mine anytime vice versa!
Red flag, I went through that with my ex husband and when I got him to unlock his phone and I saw he was cheating on me, he was out of my life that night and I never looked back. Good luck and be strong.
Red flag my ex I was with for four years did this and would get defensive now I’m with someone we both know each other codes and have each other fingerprints in each other’s phone and has no issue me using his phone no matter the reason
If you are telling him you need to look at his phone to see what is on it that is your insecurity, not his. If you can’t trust him with a phone then that probably means you don’t trust him to leave the house without you. Sounds like you should work on your self worth and insecurities. Also, if you had some trust issues in the past and you forgave him and worked it out you really shouldn’t be using an issue from the past as justification for looking for an issue in the present.
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Because you have found untrustworthy things in his phone before, I’d make DAMN sure you know the pass code from then on. If he’s resistant to you even touching the phone, there’s definitely something he’s hiding. Even if you just want to Google something and his phone is closer, and he’s still resistant? That’s a massive red flag
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A single shared Google account makes the family calendar and address book easier to manage. If a phone is lost, the other phone can find it easily. If the phone dies, I can replace it in a few minutes. My wife and I share a Google account, and my parents share a Google account. I maintain the phones and computers for all four of us. This year we will be married 30 years, and my parents will be married for 60 years. The phones are locked to outside tampering, but we have nothing to hide from each other.
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We both don’t have passwords on our phones if u don’t trust your partner you shouldn’t be together …sorry not sorry
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I went through it. He was cheating.
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I tell my bf all my passwords and he tells me all his. We still have privacy, it’s not like we are constantly staring at what each other does lmao. He’s definitely cheating or hiding something, he wouldn’t make an effort to keep changing it if he wasn’t hiding something. Leave or make him show you.
Nothing should be hidden from one another you should know everything about one another if there sneaky then there cheating
23 years go ahead passwords just mean hiding to me but what do I know 
maybe it’s the old school values of trust
My husband and I both have passwords on our phones but we know each others passwords. I don’t go through his phone without his knowledge and vice versa. I have no interest in going through his phone. If I ask him a question like who’s texting him or whatever, he answers and doesn’t give me a reason to doubt his response. It’s called trust. We went through a rough patch about 8 years ago where I was going through his phone behind his back and that was on my own insecurities. We try to be open and honest… he’s never given me a reason to doubt him. Now if I asked to look at something on his phone and he hesitated or refused; I would have questions. And if he suddenly changed his password or wasn’t ok with me looking at something on his phone, that would be a huge red flag for me.
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Since you’ve already found stuff as you claimed, then it’s definitely a red flag and you’re right to be suspicious. We only use passwords so the kids don’t use the devices whenever they want and we both know the passwords and use each other’s device sometimes.
Okay first off he’s messing around.
Secondly I trust my man enough not to have his password but we have each other’s
Our passwords are literally the same except one number
Completely by accident
My SO has my password and i have his. Dont go through it but if i need to i can. Only reason i have a password is due to our toddler
My ex was like that since he had about 4 dating apps he was trying to hide 
My current boyfriend made sure i knew his passcode and his fingerprint is in mine so he can unlock it. He looks at memes I’ve saved and sometimes I’ll google something from his
My husband nor i have passwords on our phones. Weve nvr asked to look in each others phones either. The minute i ever feel like i need to, is the day i leave.
Huge red flag… what is he hiding??? He should be able to be open honest and transparent…but honestly if you have to go through his phone then honey he is not the one… a real man is going to value and respect you and be real with you… that hiding and sneaking around is for the birds…love your self enough to know that you are worth more than this nonsense
We know eachothers passwords
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12 years with my guy and the only reason we have passwords is so out daughter’s can’t use them lol. They’re all under 12. We know each other’s codes.
My husband and I both have passwords on our phones to keep our kids off of them. I know he’s not cheating and I know he loves me. Been married 13 years in April and I don’t need his password to prove it. It all just depends if you trust him. If you don’t why be with him?
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One word. Divorce 
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He’s definitely hiding some shit. My fiancé and I have full access to each other’s phone. 
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Absolutely! My husband and I share everything. If he didn’t share the password what does he have to hide?
Yah. I was married to it for almost 10yrs then he got my best friend pregnant. Soooo you do what you think is best. I have a bf of almost 4yrs and I know his, he knows mine. I dont go in his phone. I have no need to tho. He doesn’t even have any social media accounts.
I know his and he thinks he knows mine. I go through his phone when he’s asleep and he knows it. He has a bitch fit when I do but it’s quickly forgotten 
You should know his password always. You should also ask to go through it (instead of just snooping) and he should willingly allow you to.
If the opposite of the above is occurring, that’s a huge red flag. There’s multiple somethings on his phone he doesn’t want you to know about.
I get that he’s hidden things in the past but are we all just going for ignore the huge red flag of women feeling it’s necessary to have that much control over their mans life?
Jealousy and controlling behaviour and toxic red flags too…
We both have passwords, we both know each others passwords but we respect each others privacy and DONT go snooping nor do we even touch each others phones unless we have permission. And we only have passwords because we have kids and they dont belong on our phones. I know hes faithful and he knows I’m faithful, it’s a matter of trust… plus he tells me everything even though I dont want to know everything and vice versa.
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So 2 points here…
- you were that distrustful of him initially that you went through his phone without his permission (which caused him to password protect his phone)
- He refuses to let you look through his phone when you ask
Both are huge red flags. If you’re THAT mistrustful, leave, life is far too short for that shit.
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Both me and my SO have the passwords to each other’s phones, however, we don’t go through each other’s phones. If you had issues in the past I can see where that would be problematic, but if you are not willing to resolve those trust issues then y’all don’t belong together.
We don’t have passcodes
If you’re having that much trust issues with him I think you need to stop and evaluate everything in y’all’s relationship. Instead of snooping have you actually sat down and talked to him about why you feel the need to invade his personal space. Everyone needs their privacy. I do agree it’s weird they even when you ask he doesn’t allow you to see it but then again you already broke his trust when you willing went through it in the first place without his knowledge. We’re only hearing one side of things. I just think maybe you should actually take to him about the problem out even going to therapy instead of just snooping through his personal stuff to make yourself feel better and justify your actions.