Kids should come first, not a significant other. If you can’t handle that then maybe you need to move on and grow up a little before you try being with someone who has a child and one he may not see often. It’s been 10 months and yet your jealous of a child, what’s gonna happen in a year or two if your still together?
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Get a grip of yourself, his child should ALWAYS come before you! How dare you knock him for being a good dad! 
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When I first got together with my current, his daughter was 4. I went to TN to meet his family. I had already met his daughter. His ex decided that she didn’t want me around their daughter. So for the whole week I was there, i spent 85% of my time alone in a hotel room with no way of going anywhere. I had only been with him 7 months at this point. I felt the same way at first. And I brought my feelings (in a nice polite way) up to him and he explained to me that his daughter will come before me in any aspect as 1, his daughter was around first and 2, at this point we weren’t sure if we are forever or not. Now, 5 years later, I love that little girl as my own (even if we dont get to see her often) and I understand for myself as him and I have a 3 year old together. My son comes first always.
Point being, just talk to him. Communication is key in a relationship.
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Well his child is not awake 24/7 he could at least text or call it didn’t matter how much he gets her it seems you may be to good for him
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Do that man a favor and break up. He deserves better than you.
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End it now. 10 months in and you already have issues! Dating a man with a child is not for everyone. It will not get better or change I can promise you that.
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Kids come first
Before ANYONE else. Sorry Hun. If u don’t like it find someone without kids.
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When someone hides behind an anonymous post they know they’re wrong!
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Maybe because he wants to give all his UNDIVIDED attention to his child 
I know I can’t text my boyfriend 24/7 & sometimes barely have the time to through a day as I’m busy with my son. BUT I do think he should have Atleast given you a gift 
even if it was later on
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You shouldn’t date anyone with kids if you don’t understand kids come first.
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I hope this is a joke 
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Lololololol what? You want more attention than a child? Grow the fuck up and end it. Hes better off without you
Sounds like you’re jealous of a 4 year old? Like good for your bf. His focus should be on his child especially if he doesn’t have then all the time. It sounds like you shouldnt date someone with kids if you’re going to be childish about them spending time with them and being a parent
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This has to be a joke…
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Leave. He deserves better
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Yes you are his child will always be first and foremost and that’s the way it should be and if you can’t handle that then get out
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Sorry but that is being a wonderful dad to give his child his undivided attention. That is what his child deserves and you are being very selfish thinking you should come first. If you had a child with him you would want him to put that child first also
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Why do adults feel the need to compete with partners kids FFS . If you have a partner like that get rid of him or her … Theyre jealous and or insecure . I had one making my sons life a misery she was taken home and told never come back . On the other foot I despise men who abandon their own kids and play happy families with the new partners kids.
My boyfriend/son’s father gets his oldest son every other Friday and every other weekend and when he has his oldest son I don’t hear from him unless they come over. I don’t get upset bc he doesn’t have his son full time so the time they have together I feel is for them. I enjoy it when he comes over with his son but I also don’t mind that it’s not Everytime that he has him. You should be happy that your boyfriend is such a great father and if you’re going to be so selfish and dumb you shouldn’t even be with that man. My dad used to date women like you who used to always get in between my dad and his kids. And leave that baby alone I can’t believe you’re so selfish to be jealous over a 4 year old. You knew he had a kid when you met him and you knew your ass couldn’t handle it. Smh smh.
You definitely don’t need to date men with children. OF COURSE he’s ignoring you! He has his daughter whom he wants to spend time with. You should understand that. Like wtf is wrong with you! I hope he dumps your ass and finds someone who understands the importance of him spending time with his child is.
End it now… You are not mature enough to be involved with someone who has a child. You sound like one yourself.
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Give him the chance to find someone who understands that his children should come first, and who realizes how amazing it is that he puts them first. So they can have an understanding and loving future
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Kids ALWAYS come first. Go date someone with no children or pets.
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Unpopular opinion- he probably isn’t ready to date if he can’t focus on his kid and send a few texts to you or at least a phone call. You’re trying to build a relationship and if he’s going to take it seriously he has to make time for both of you at the same time. It’s not that hard. My husband has 2 kids from a previous relationship and those kids aren’t at his side 24/7 when they are with him/us even at that young age they werent. He can make time to update you or make a little conversation. Not that hard.
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Sounds to me like your acting jealous over an every other weekend child. The truth is, if you can’t respect the little time they have together, you should just go. Just leave him alone. Props to you dad, don’t ever let some dumb, immature bitch come between you and your babies. #HitTheRoadJack
I would appreciate that quality in a man, it’s not often you find a man who is even interested in being a father let alone being a good one. Try to find things you can all do together so no one feels left out. If he wants things to work with you I’m sure he will work it out. But also think about if the roles were reversed. Your child would mean more to you than any other person, that doesn’t mean neglect your spouse but maybe try to understand his position. If he doesn’t have his child full time I would make the best of that time as well. It’s hard being a parent and men aren’t always intuitive when it comes to women’s feelings. Express to him how you feel, otherwise he is left in the dark.
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Honestly you are being selfish, the child should always come first, that means before you. Some people don’t worry about Christmas gifts, not right to not say at least thank you. Move on.
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Never mind you dumping him I think he needs to dump you, you have his attention when he’s not with his daughter but that’s not enough you clearly want all his attention and that’s not how it works love
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Don’t be with someone who has kids
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You should just leave. You will resent his child. His child should absolutely come first and when he has her his time should be devoted to her. If you have met his child already then you should ask him if you can accompany them on their next outing and let him know that you would like to be a little more involved with her IF he’s comfortable with that at this point.
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Children come first you being really selfish have you tried including your self in activities that they do ??
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Omg… do you hear yourself? Don’t date a man with children.
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Stop saying his “kid”. Its his daughter and she does come first. That’s something to really appreciate and also doesn’t sound like he’s wanting to take things to seriously with you right now and you are. If anything I think you both aren’t on the same mindset of where you’re at in the relationship. For that reason alone you may want to move on. But he sounds like a good dad and not o w of those guys that uses them as a ploy to create an image that he’s a good dad.
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I’m sorry but i would get out now. I met my hubby now when his daughter was 4 and we ended up moving into together by 4 months because we knew we were going to be together. He still did stuff just him and his daughter once a week like to go magic mountain or go out to dinner but it soon became we are a family we do things together. And for the Christmas thing I’m sorry but the first few years most def in a relationship toy exchange ant kinda of gift wether it be a card him and his daughter make or a nice gift.
I’m sorry but if I was you id rather he spent as much time with his child and ignoring me as possible… if he only has his child a few days out the week she deserves his undivided attention!! I mean what do you do when he’s at work???..
As for Christmas… you do understand it’s not actually about presents nor is someone required to get you one in return for you getting them one… how old are you? No offense but you sound extremely young and childish…
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You need to grow the hell up
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I understand your pain. Unfortunately that child needs undivided attention from his father. Do not date someone that has kids. You will be miserable, trust me.
People who react this way are the reason why single dad’s have a hard time opening up and dating and giving 100% of themselves to someone. You need to calm down first of all. Over reacting is a MAJOR understatement. He is being a GREAT Dad by giving his child his undivided attention. He only has his child a few days a week, if he gives you what you want when he doesn’t have his child you need to ask yourself why this is such a problem for you… If you cannot handle a Dad giving his undivided attention to his child you do not need to date a Dad. You are sounding selfish.
Y’all have only been together for 10 months. You need to slow the fuck down and check yourself. He sounds like he’s focusing on his child when he can. That’s a QUALITY trait to look for in a life partner. For all you know he’s trying to take it slow with you because he’s trying to see what kind of girlfriend you can be and how you handle him ignoring you for his child before he lets you around his child to see what kind of mother you can be.
And about the Christmas presents the only thing you should be concerned about is if he APPRECIATED the gifts or the thought of the gifts. If he didn’t tell you thank you, ask why!!!
But honestly I don’t think you’re ready to be with someone with kids. And that’s okay, not everyone can do it!
Kids always come first, he sounds like a good father. The type of man any one would be lucky to have. If you cant get over that his child comes before you it is best you 2 go ur own ways.
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Seriously??? How selfish can a person be to be upset that a father is spending time with his kid?
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Kids first period…get over yourself
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Don’t be with a man with kids if you can’t handle the heat of sometimes being ignored 
jeeze, I’m normally not mean- but I’m a mother of two, I understand how time consuming kids are. how can you even say something like that??? Additionally, I never got a card or anything for Christmas from my bf and we’re going on 5 years. I hope u don’t continue this relationship being jealous of his kids. It’ll never work for u
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what lol… a dad is putting his child first like he should and you’re being ignorant and selfish? get over yourself. KIDS COME FIRST. you shouldn’t get with someone with a child if you can’t accept that.
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No one knows till they walk in your shoes hun, it’s going to take a lot on his part to find a balance, so if he doesn’t respond in the time frame you expect him too, it’s nothing to do with his commitment to you, as you said he pays you the attention you need when it’s just you two. From experience, dating a single parent will need A LOT of
patience. A LOT of space to navigate the relationship and find what works. If you are both a right fit and the relationship is right for kiddo - you will find a way to make it work. 10 months is still very early, very new. Remember it’s not a “normal” relationship where he is on his own. Your doing great though hun to come this far. All the best for the future!
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You’re too immature for him. Move on. My kids would come first before anyone, always.
Yeah the kids are supposed to come first…
You need to grow up and props to the guy. A child should ALWAYS come first in their parents life. Not who they’re seeing. Suck it up or break up with him. That simple
I’d say that you need to grow up and realize that his child should come first! Put yourself in her place, you get to see daddy every other weekend and want his attention. Do him and the child a favor and move on.
Move on. You’re obviously not mature enough to date a man with children
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You are so selfish he needs to dump you
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His kid is more important than you and should be, maybe you shouldn’t date someone with a child if you can’t handle that. You have no place be jealous of the attention a child gets from their parent and certainly no place to request that time or attention from the child.
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Girl move on and date someone that doesn’t have a kid then. You are seeming so selfish. Power to him for being a parent that doesn’t put their new partner before their own kid. You wouldn’t feel this way if it was your kid. Stop being jealous of a child.
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Wow hope you dont have kids … grow up honey
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Can someone show this to the childs mother? I think she should know how amazing of a father he is to give his daughter all the attention instead of an ungrateful girlfriend who would rather have his full attention then see him be a great father
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Children should always be a parents first priority, what would you have him do if you and he had a child? Think on that one!
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Sounds like a good dad.
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You need help. HE deserves better
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I hope he dumps your ass
Jealous over time your boyfriend, the father, is spending with his kid?? Wow, that’s pretty shallow.
How about offer to spend time with both of them? Or how about finding a man that doesn’t want kids so you don’t feel like you need to compete with a child who deserves their father? 
Kids always come first, at least to real men.
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I’m not trying to be rude or anything but come on ur jealous over time with ur boyfriend bc he won’t message back when he has his kids that’s his time with his kids u need to respect that his kids come first
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You re being 100% reasonable.
It’s important to show him how far you’re willing to go to assert your dominance. The only way to do this is to cartwheel yourself into a cactus ditch while screaming “this is Sparta!” Or to deliver a series of uppercuts to your ladybits while staring down his meddling spawn. It’ll work. Trust me.
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Grow up and his kid comes before you
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Yeah go ahead and just move on. Clearly you are not ready for a relationship involving a child. Kids take time… ALOT of time. If you can’t deal with that, stop wasting HIS time for being a decent father just because you aren’t getting enough attention when you want it.
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KIDS COME FIRST BEFORE ANYTHING!! If you can’t handle that leave
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your selfish, and not mature enough to be with someone who has a child. because when that child is around it’s the most important thing in the world to him, not you🤷🤦🙄
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Children come first no matter what! Sounds like he handles his buisness when it comes to his daughter. Although it’s understandable for you to be a bit ignored. I would move on and find a person with no kids😊Kids are first no matter what❤
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His child should always come first, grow up little girl 
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Maybe he is just enjoying the precious moments with his daughter without a cell phone in his hands the whole time. You know living in the moment. A persons child should always cone FIRST! Id say relax and if you cant embrace the child as your own and try to be understanding and not so needy. That would be great! Dont punish a man cause he has kids. Maybe your not ready for a man with kids. Just saying.
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He doesn’t have his daughter full time so yeah he’s gonna soak up every second he gets with her. You’re the type of girl that if my boyfriend and I ever split would end up leaving him because you’d get real tired of me whoopin your ass 
lbvs. KIDS COME FIRST!!! If you cant accept that then you need to find some dirtbag that either doesnt have kids or doesnt pay attention to his kids and has no responsibilities so he can show your little baby ass all of his attention.
Remove this dumbass question
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In my opinion I don’t think you are ready for this type of relationship…
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Gross. Can’t believe grown adults gonna be jealous of babies.
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Kids come first period any good parent will choose there kid over any person.
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You’re pathetic. That’s the end of it. A child ALWAYS comes first in a relationship period. You need to do both of them a huge favor and leave him because they don’t deserve to have to put up with someone so shallow.
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Sounds just like one of my dad’s exes. She would get mad when I would go spend the weekend with them and would hate when my dad would show me attention and not her. It was great to watch her get angry over a father spending quality time with his child. Glad she’s gone
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His child is more important than anyone. Props to him for realizing that his child is more important than anyone!
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His kid should always come first, before you and anyone and everyone else; he’s spending what little time he has with his daughter and focusing on her (as he should).
While I‘ll give you some credit for giving her a gift as well, aside from that it doesn’t seem that you’re ready/mature enough to be in a relationship with someone with a child.
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I’m sorry but get over yourself.
When he has his child with him, he should be contacting you less frequently. He’s being a father, and his child absolutely comes first. If you can’t handle that, split up with him and find a man that doesn’t have kids, because you obviously can’t handle it.
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Children will always (should always) come first if you don’t realize that you probably shouldn’t be with someone with a child
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Props to him! You shouldn’t feel no type of way about this because that’s his child he’s spending as much with her as he can but for you to get aggravated you wouldn’t be with someone who has a child because you’ve obviously not ready
He and his child deserve better
You’re being pretty selfish. Date someone without a child then. Or maybe no one at all since you seem to need all of the attention in the relationship. Have you tried to be with him and his child? Have you tried to bond? Have you tried to give them attention? Let’s be real.
I’m going to give you the benefit of the doubt. I think you’ve led the audience to believe that you are jealous… I hope that’s not the case. If you want to be a part of his life WITH his daughter, you need to talk to him. I’m not sure how long you have been dating but if it’s only recently, then I can understand why he wouldn’t want to introduce you to her. It’s up to HIM …BUT you should also be able to to talk with him about your feelings. He is right to not just bring Every woman he dates to meet his daughter and he’s right to dedicate time to her. You need to find a hobby, or go to the gym to work off that needless frustration… Work out your thoughts and think about how to approach an adult conversation about your feelings. Taking on a life that involves step kids in the future is NOT for the faint of heart and if you have these feelings now, instead of feelings of understanding…you do not need to be involved in this relationship.
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You sound like a chick who dated my ex. Thank goodness he ended it after she tried to make him choose between her and our kids.
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You need to reevaluate what you want in life, because honestly you don’t seem like the kind of woman who is ready for a man who has a child. You should actually feel pretty embarrassed by this post. Him spending so much time with his daughter should make you feel proud to be with a man who puts his children above all else, not feel jealous or neglected… Considering you get to be with him when his daughter doesn’t.
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Do you know how much attention a 4 year old needs? Jesus lady…I can barely turn my back and my 3 year old is climbing mountains or something real weird. Cut him some slack Crazy Pants!
Props to you for looking for an outside opinion. You are overthinking this… and hard as it is, in no relationship should you be expecting 100% of attention, messages returned right away, etc. It is a sign of emotional dependency. I would recommend seeing a psychologist to try to work out why you are so needy, or do some soul searching, because this trait will follow you into your other relationships, and it’s not healthy. Good luck
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Girl bye!!! Date in childless guy and leave that real man who actually take care of his kid alone!
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Do “HIM” a favor and end it…jealous over shared time with a child…smh 
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I see it both ways. My bf of 6 months has 2 children, one a 5 year old girl. She’s the apple of his eye and i understand that. But he has never failed to give me or my own 5 year old attention. He’s involved with all of us equally and was over the holidays. Your relationship at 10 months should have more inclusion and more of a family feel if it is to progress
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Thats the way its always gone be.leave!
Your selfish as fuck!!! His child is supposed to come first!!!
There are two little girls in this story he is giving his attention to the correct one. Sorry child that you feel this way maybe you should let him go. You are not ready for a relationship and defo not ready to be a step mum.
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the poor 4 year old if you stay around –
If you are wanting some deadbeat baby daddy that only talks about his kid when he bitches about child support coming out of his check, then you should walk away. At this point I dont think it would even be gracefully. You should be ashamed that you think you, after dating only 10 months, are more important than his child. I feel truly sorry for the next unsuspecting victim in your dating line.
A gift should be given without expectations of anything in return. His kid should always come first.
If you feel this way you should break it off . His child is far more important for this ignorance
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Girl. Do him a favor and remove yourself. You’re literally being a drama queen because HIS CHILD IS A PRIORITY OVER YOU. Get the fuck over it. Would you rather him be a deadbeat dad and just neglect his child so YOU can get all the attention in the world? She’s fucking 4 years old and probably LOVES her father. God bless his soul if this is your thought process. Because I can bet money if it was YOUR baby, you would want your baby father to pay more attention to his CHILD than his GIRLFRIEND when he has her. You aren’t his wife, you’ve been together for 10 months. You’re fucking irrelevant. His child is more important to him than you will ever be. If you can’t get used to that, then date someone that doesn’t have kids. This is literally the most selfish thing I’ve seen all day.
Yeah he should move on your obviously not mature enough!and any man or woman that put their gf or bf before their child is a bad parent period.! Any person that cant understand that the limited time they have together he is putting in his all. To parent.and when you date a parent you probably don’t realize child support. And entertainment and food for times with his child are way more important than what you were expecting .move on he deserves better
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I was in the same boat as you & its not an easy situation to be in. Yes his child is the priority & good on him for being a man that does his duty as a father in his childs life. Theres alot guys that wouldnt give 2 hoots for their kids but in saying that, the hardest thing is being ignored when the child is around. If you mean enough to him which Im not meaning to rude but, it is only early days in your relationship so if it is too hard for you walk away. If you think it is worth hanging in a little longer give it ago & see what happens. He will either include you in time or continue doing it, at the end of the day it has to be your decision how you deal with the situation. Go with your gut always, if you think you will be his number 1 in the relationship you would be wrong it will never be. It took me 13 1/2 years to say enough is enough, hopefully you dont waste your life on someone & something thats really not for you. GOOD LUCK with your decision, everyone deserves to be happy. Life is what you make it.