His kid is not your competition. How old are you? You sound really young. Maybe just date man without children.
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This just be a jokeā¦
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Sis you are not ready to be in a relationship with a parent. Their children will always come first and thatās how it should be.
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He has a wife move on
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The child will always come first, if you canāt handle that you need to walk away now!
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I donāt think he is invested in you as you are on him. He didnt even give you a small gift? You are a fuck buddy not a girlfriend.
Is this a troll post?!
How can a woman possibly be jealous because a MAN IS FOCUSING ON HIS KIDS?! Iām completely baffled by this. Kids come first. Always. Period. When Iām spending quality time with my son I donāt care who calls me, it can wait, my phone can wait. That man is too good for you if youāre jealous of him being a dad. That is all.
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I agree with the people here. Dating men with kids isnāt for everyone. I have 2 stepdaughters, instead of getting annoyed with him while we were dating and he had his kids, I always reminded him that his kids were first. I never planned anything on those weekends, I waited for him to call whenever he felt convenient. And never tried to compare the love or attention he had for me to theirs.
6 years later, we are married and have full custody of his girls. If you have these feelings now you are not prepared to date a guy with kids. And honestly thatās okay.
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You are not overthinking, you are underdoing. If you canāt handle his child being his first priority, you need to break things off. Or you can encourage him to be a great father and ask if heās ready for you to meet his daughter and if it would be ok for the three of you to have a few outings to a mall or park or movie or whatever during his times with her, get to know and embrace his child as part of your life.
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Somebody buy this woman a Polly pocket so she can feel included for Christmas. 
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Youāre being selfish, should just leave him alone and let him find someone better who respects his time with his child. Youāre obviously not ready to be with someone who has a life besides just you. You need to grow up and mature more. Let him be. Youāre not ready
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He sounds invested in his child, which is fantastic! Although, ignoring you 100%? Not even an after child goes to bed, call? Thatās a little strange. Someone who loves another, wouldnāt just let you sit and wonder if youāre also important enough in his life to warrant a simple phone call, even if just to discuss the days events or whatnot.
He must not be as invested as you are. Put the breaks on this relationship.
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Sounds like he is busy being a parent. Cāmon girlā¦ use your head. Thatās his babygirl you will always be second to her.
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Tibet Harrison thoughts?
Never date a man with a daughter unless your really good at sharingš
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Uhmm over reacting a littleā¦
10 months yes he should have given you somethingā¦but him being so attentive to his child is quite commendableā¦
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Self centered bitch is what you sound like.
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You need to grow up and realize heās doing what he should for his child. Heās putting him first. Also the Christmas thing āI didnāt expect anything back, but he didnāt even get me a cardā, are you kidding meš¤¦š¼āāļøyou seriously need to prioritize your life and grow up and you definitely shouldnāt be with someone who has kids if youāre going to get this jealous and crybabyishš¤·š¼āāļø
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He sounds like a great guy! But I would move on if something as simple as this annoys you. People with children are a package deal and it can usually get quite complicated. I think you should probably find someone who doesnāt have children if you want all of their attention.
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Are you in high school??? When he has his kid YOU are NOT a priority. You need to walk away and leave this man alone to find someone that appreciates that his child will always come first. He is being a good parent by not having his face in his phone and spending time with his child and you are being a ridiculous childā¦
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You should be more attracted and appreciate a man more when he puts his kids first. If youāre upset about a Christmas gift, communicate with him about it? People canāt change or compromise if they donāt know š¤·
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Good lord you sound like a child having a tantrumā¦his child should come first before you and any women would be happy to hear that he is putting his child first esp when they are together. Time for you to grow up! Smh. Or better yet end itā¦ he deserves better then you and so does his child.
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Wow, Iām not trying to be rude at all when I say this but youāre being childish. That man is being a father and putting his daughter first when itās his time to have her. You need to move on and be in a relationship with someone who has no child. He sounds like heās being a GREAT dad and youāre a jealous woman. SHES FOUR YEARS OLD. You expect him to do? Ditch his 4 year old for you?
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You better find a man with no kids then!!! Kids always come first. Donāt care who you are!!!
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I mean when I was dating I tried my best to make time for my dates and I had my kids full time. But since he only has his kid part time I can understand that he is trying to enjoy his short amount of time without having to stop and text or call you
If he put you first instead of his child, heād be a deadbeat.
Iām so glad to hear that when he has his child in his care that his focus is 100% on her, as it should be!
If you canāt handle someone with a child because you arenāt getting āall the attentionā leave, he needs someone better who will understand that his child will come first.
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Date a man that puts you over his kids and u will end up with a man who put some other woman over ur kids eventually
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Heās busy with his child thatās allā¦
You need to learn & understand that. Be his woman. Be supportive. He doesnāt need another childā¦you know what I mean darlin. 
Like you said, when heās not with his child he gives you all his attention. That should be good enough. Props to him for raising his daughter. Be supportive or leave him in peace. 
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Break it off so he has the chance to find someone better than you
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Jealous of his baby? ā¦ Not a good look girl. I suggest you explain that you are a selfish bitch who feels his child should come after you and let him move on knowing he is an attentive father and some WOMAN deserving of him will love him even more for that.
Find yourself a boyfriend who doesnāt have children. You are bugging him. Also as he sounds like he is very invested in his child thank goodness because there arenāt many of those left you will never be a priority.
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Suck it up buttercup, his kid is ALWAYS gonna come before you. Especially since you have only been together ten months, sheās 4 years old. Theyāre not independent yet, and wonāt be for a long time. Heās spending quality time with his daughter, Iām sure he doesnāt want to be looking down at his phone every couple minutes to reply to you while theyāre together. Thatās their time, if you canāt accept that he ignores you while in the presence of her then maybe you do need to end it. Find someone with out a kid, or suggest going somewhere together thatās fun for all of you (if your bf is okay with that). Either way, youāre always going to be second to her and honestly, thatās the way it should be. 
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Please end it with him because you are not ready to be in a relationship with someone who has a kid. Like at all. Do them both a favor and let him find a women who is ready for that because you arent mature enough.
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Sounds like you are too immature to understand his time with his child is valuableā¦and he probably gets thatā¦possibly making you a convenience for himā¦hence no giftā¦you want more than he doesā¦but arent mature enough to deal with a man with a child.
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Find someone else. Those of us who are single parents, our kids come.before everything else and everyone else and we get so focused on our kids that not much else really matters to us. Itās not that we dont appreciate our SO itās more or less we have our own lives with the kids that unless we are sure about someone, we arenāt likely to let someone else fully into that circle. In part to protect the child and also because itās easier to compartmentalize different areas of our lives.
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Girl go find a boy cause your stupid
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You all are missing the point because she brought up the kid 
he made no effort to buy her a Xmas gift nor does he call or text her for days at a time. The guy is either married OR still messing with the baby momma. Otherwise after 10 months which is a good amount of time why would he not invite her to hang w him and the kid.
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My exās last girlfriend was so jealous of the time he spent with our daughter that she threatened suicide and burned our kidās school picturesā¦ you sound like youāre only a weekend visit away from this kind of crazy
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You should definitely break up with him. He deserves someone better than what youāre offering. I feel sorry for him and his child that youāre a selfish and a childish person and only think of yourself.
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He is focused on his daughter as he should be!
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Sounds like heās busy being a good dad. His child is his first commitment, the fact that you canāt accept that just shows your insecurity and JEALOUSY of a child. You have a lot of growing up to do when your angry at someone for caring for their child. Thatās selfish.
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Kid comes before girl friend always no matter what
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Honestlyā¦ that big ugly green monster just showed its face, you are jealous over your bfs kidā¦ like honestly!!! You need to grow up and learn that kids always come first no matter what! If you cant accept that then maybe you should end it bc you are definitely not equipped to have a relationship with someone who has a child
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grow up. Kids comes first for any good parent. you canāt expect him to be at your beck and call when he had his daughter. Thatās her time with him, and him being a dad to his baby girl. if you want to be the focus of your BF, find one without kids.
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Youāre really upset that he gives his daughter his undivided attention when he has her? Thatās a you problem and you probably shouldnāt be with anyone who has kids.
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His child should always come first!
Thatās terrible thinking.
Break it of with him. He has a child and deserves someone who can accept that his kid always comes first, yes, that means before you. Donāt date someone with a kid if youāre insecure and overly clingy.
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He is getting it from the babyās mom. How can you not see this?
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Iām sorry but kidās come first. Always
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What a Pathetic prick u r!!!
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You are not number one priority and you NEVER will be. Sounds like a bomb ass dad to me! You just need to leave him alone and grow up.
Youāre acting like a needy child and if youāre acting like a child you have no business being with someone go has one. 
I said what I said.
This is fake right???
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If youāre jealous of him being a good dadā¦ then you just need to move on bc obviously youāre not mature enough to be with someone who has a kid.
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Wake Up
Heās not that into you
Respect yourself and move on
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Kid comes first. Sorry.
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Only thing I agree on is the Christmas thing. Understanding he might not have been able to buy you a gift but he could have gotten you a card and said Merry Christmas. Everything else though is wrong on your part. His child will and should always come before others. And the fact that heās showing that much love and attention to his kid should make you happy. He is obviously a good father. Wouldnāt you want the father of your kids to do that for yours?
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His child comes first but it is pretty crappy he didnāt get you a Christmas giftā¦ that takes minimal effort
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Grow UP! His child is and always be his priority. If you canāt handle that and feel you are competing with a 4 year old, you have some real issues!
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No offense, but you either need to grow up or date someone without children. Your way of thinking is incredibly selfish and I would never allow my kids to be around someone like you. No one will ever come before my children.
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After 10 months, it seems he has neglected to want you as part of his life when he has his child. If he is determined to keep this part of his life personal and will not include you, you just need to move on. He does not think you are good enough to be part of his life.
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Heās a dad first. Leave him so he can find a woman who understands that.
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Sounds like a good dad
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You should really date someone who doesnāt have a kid.
His kid should come first and you should be way more understanding of that.
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Oh my God your a child arenāt you. Heās a dad first that is an amazing quality in a guy
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The no Christmas gift is a little disappointing, maybe bring it up if youāre offput.
The restā¦girl. Either break up with him or adjust your standards. Personally, I tried dating someone with a child. I couldnāt do it. It takes a special human to be able to date someone with kids and treat them as your own and understand your place when it comes to discipline. So I let him go find someone they both deserved and found someone I was more suited for.
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This is the craziest thing I have ever read
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Waitā¦what!!! You either need to grow up, and quick or end the relationship and find someone who has no life, no kids and no interests.
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I get what everyone is saying that heās with his child but really he canāt send her a text ? Does everyone really spend 24 hrs entertaining there kids ? Iām guessing nobody watches tv either and they donāt send text doing it ? Thereās also know reason for him not to give her a card either. I would think heās seeing someone else or not taken this relationship serious
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Heās spending time with his child, I would be more concerned if he gave you more attention than his own child!! So he didnāt get you anything for christmas, if you didnāt expect anything back then donāt be upset that you didnāt get anything. ĀÆ_(ć)_/ĀÆ
Itās a good thing that he focuses on his child like this. It shouldnāt be a competition for his attention.
Yes your over thinking. A child will always come first. If your not ok with him spending time with his child then move on. You knew going into relationship he had a child. Being a parent you get busy with your kids. Hes an amazing dad and if you cant accept and appreciate that let him go so someone else can appreciate him.
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Shut the fuck up . How are you jealous of a CHILD. please leave him if you feel this way about it , he will be just fine without you .
Do you have a 4 year old? You should actually appreciate he puts his child first. Unfortunately he doesnāt get to see her everyday when he does Iām sure he is so excited. Get over yourself and maybe a hobby so when he is being a parent your not sitting around throwing a pitty party that no one wants to go to!
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As a mother of 4 beautiful babies my kids will and always come first. If you canāt accept that he spends what time he probably gets with his daughter (who is only 4 btw) then you need a reality check. This are the times she will remember the most. Maybe suggest spending time with them together instead of wanting him to divide his much deserved attention with her.
As a single parent , please do him a favor and break up with him. You would make a horrible step parent.
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I donāt even feel bad for you. Youāre too immature to realize that children NEED to come first, not your petty ass. Get over yourself.
Wtf. Give him some time with his kid without butting into three middle of it.
Is this a joke? Orā¦ is it from a teenager?
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Sorry but his child was here 1st. Would you feel the same if your childās dad paid more attention to his new girl of 10 months than your mutual child. You would be up in arms posting about what a pos dad he is for paying more attention to her than your child.
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Iām quite sure his 4 year old is more important than your 10 month relationship, grow up.
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Definitely end it and look for a partner without kids.
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Umm what a good dad , heās a father first. Realize that and understand that he is doing right by his child. Unfortunately after people have children the kid becomes priority (or it should)
My child was always my 1st priority and my boyfriend always came second , he understood that. Then he always put my child first he always made sure she was taken care of thatās how you get in to a single parents 
understand that the child is more important than anything else. if you canāt do that then you donāt deserve him.
My bf and I have been together for 2 years and when we first started dating, he was the same way to a point. His kids live with us, but I understood they didnt know me, I hadnāt met them yet and yes, I expected his kids to be top priority. Not new girlfriend. Now that we live as a family, I put his kids and my kids first. Basically should give things time to fall into place. Let him get to know you before he introduces you to his little one or if you cant handle that, find someone without a child.
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Really?girl, my son come first always, no matter if I am dating Fucking brad Pitt. If you canāt handle that then move on and find a man with not kids. If also you look attention to feel loved then you should learn to love yourself first bc you will always end up disappointed
10 months in a relationship and you except to be his number one priority over his child lol. Wow honesty you are a childish and selfish. If you canāt understand his baby comes before you. Put your big girl underwear on or leave. As for the Christmas gift you didnāt want anything in return but yet your throwing a fit like a child would. If I was him. I leave u because your not old enough to understand. How to act grown. You should date someone who is in your mind age range then.
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If you canāt see that itās not bout you itās bout his kid u need to end it cause u he donāt deserve someone so selfish itās bout his kid he is a dad first u donāt like it to bad itās sad that u think and feel that way really it is and for yāall to think he is doing something on the side that is sad too u ever think he is exhausted from being a single dad?? Iām just sayin
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I understand how you may feel this way but understand that a child needs more attention from a parent than you need from a boyfriend. Especially if you guys have only been dating a short amount of time. After awhile he should be willing to allow you to be part of that time as integrating someone he wants to be and stay with can and would be beneficial. If he hasnāt done that after a while maybe itās best you move on because for me my daughter or son will always come first. Kids are forever bf/ gf arenāt. Good luck
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The children should always be put first relationships second I was a single parent that had to work but my son always came first
What in the actual fuck did I just readā¦on a mommas group pageā¦
do them both a favor a go on your way!!
Y is everyone being so hateful to this girl? She is asking for sound advise, not to be put down for feeling left out. If you are not happy with the way things are going move on. The child will probably always come first and that is a good thing.
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Do him and his child a favor and skip now. If you as a grown woman feel jealousy over time spent by a man with his child there is no hope for you. You are what every fairy tale stepmonster is based on. Get stepping itās not about you.
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I swear some of these questions are made up on here. Common sense. The child comes first before you. Every single time.
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He gets visitation with his kid. The kid deserves the undivided attention of her father while he is there. And thatās what hes doing. He is ignoring you to spend time with his kid. Hes a good man and you dont deserve him. He hasnāt introduced you to his child so maybe he sees that youāre just not the right one. Stop being selfish. His kid comes before you. All the time and every time
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Girl are you fucking serious? Lmao.
Go away.
Heās being a good dad But at the same time it wouldnāt take maybe 5 mins for answer a text or a quick phone call to you. Youāre part of the relationship and should be recognized when the child is around not just when the child is gone. Being a good dad is awesome but being a good partner is just important. Itās not a part time commitment
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You should not be dating someone with a child if this is your way of thinking. His child comes first, and you wanting to take that away from a FOUR YEAR OLD is pretty pathetic. Date someone who has no kids, and can give you all of their attention. Do not ruin the relationship between that child, and her father.
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You sound like a child. Thatās his kid, not just some friend. Kids come first. If you canāt handle that, then do THEM a favor and leave. I would never ever expect my boyfriend to text me back instantly while he has his son. Thatās insane.
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His kid is his first priority as it should be. If you canāt deal with it, end it or youāll keep resenting him.
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If youāre not a mother you canāt understand. He is putting his child first and he should. Perhaps he is concerned about his childās feelings as well. No mention of her mother but thatās not relevant. She doesnāt need a replaced mother figure in her life right now, she is only 4. Ten monthās of a relationship with this man is nothing compared to a life long commitment to his daughter. You sound like you are jealous of her and if thatās the case you need to leave this relationship. I commend him for putting his daughter first, he sounds like a great dad and only a person with a heart of real love and acceptance would understand that!
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