So he’s is doing the right thing and giving his child 100% of his attention!!! It’s women like YOU! Who fuk up a father n child relationship! Move the fuk on to a single man! Because you will never be number 1 in a mans life who has children and you shouldn’t expect to be! So if you’re trying to weasel your way to get more time and attention and feel a type of way because when he has his daughter and gives her all his attention you need to find another man!
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He gives me all the attention I want 
Jesus. You should leave you clearly can’t deal with being 2nd best which is what you will and should always be compared to his child.
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Sounds to me like a good father. You however sound far to immature to be in a relationship with a man that has children.
Maybe an unattached man who can shower you with the much needed attention you crave is more suited.
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I already left my thoughts but I’m staying for the comments.
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Cut him loose so he can find a grown real woman. Go be petty by yourself
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I think everyone agrees that u sld tell him u don’t or can’t handle it because he has a kid.Cause if u can’t handle when she’s 4 what will u do when she gets older and wants to spend more time with daddy.move on find someone that will spend there time worshipping u the way u think they should.
The kid isn’t the problem, the relationship is. Leave now so you both can find the kind of relationship you each deserve.
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Sounds like you need to grow up!!
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That’s pretty selfish of you! Can’t even believe what I’m reading!!! Smh you’re a special kind of stupid!!
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His child comes first sorry 
maybe find someone without children it sounds like you don’t like children anyways! You actually sound very childish 
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Children will always come first. I love my boyfriend but my two kids are my world and always come before him. You sound selfish and like your not a mom. Grow up.
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I’m seeing both sides of this. But bottom line is I think you 2 just shouldnt be together. At the end of the day that baby has been there for 4 years, and with her being his kid, and you being the new girlfriend you wont ever come first. It’s just facts. At the same time if he has his kid and doesnt have u around her he probably isnt as serious about the relationship as you think. But if you aren’t ok being 2nd to someone else’s kid my advice is dont date someone with kids.
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You’re selfish and immature. Grow up and let that man be an amazing dad… she comes before you forever
Deal with it
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I dont even really have to comment! I read a few comments & so far everyone is spot on!! He is a daddy! His daddy role comes first! If you need more attention then a child…you are a child!! Keep on with the good comments! 
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Jesus H Christ women wtf is wrong with you?!? You will NEVER be as important as his child nor do you deserve the attention he gives her… Grow up or at least have half a brain and don’t reproduce!
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Girl bye ! Go find u a man with no kids and no responsibility. You jealous over a man taking care of his child like a good father is supposed too. And if u weren’t expecting anything back after giving a gift then why u even mention it. You too much … you may even need a man who dont work , wouldnt want u getting upset that he isnt texting calling or showing u attention while he was on the clock lol
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This is why people without kids shouldn’t date people with kids 
. Trust me LEAVE !
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His kid comes first, you should be thankful he’s a actual father.
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So while not getting you something for Christmas is shitty it’s not worth leaving him for. All the rest that you said I’m ignoring. The days he has his daughter all his attention should be on her. Especially at 4 years old. Have you met the child yet? If you haven’t then the child probably doesn’t know you exist so calling or texting when she’s around is gonna lead to questions he isn’t ready to deal with.
You have some serious growing up to do.
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How are you even on this page do you have a child how could you disrespect his time with his child get over it move on all children will an should come 1st
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So you want to leave him for being a good dad? Stop being attention seeking. You aren’t ready for this type of relationship. Kids come first.
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You are upset that he is putting his child first … now I’d definitely be upset about the Christmas not getting a gift
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You sound pretty selfish. Kids always should come first. He’s being a great dad by the sounds of it.
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I hope he some joe sees this and leaves your selfish ass. You are really mad because when he has his daughter his daughter is the center of his attention and not you?! Please go ahead and pack your bags and do NOT date people with kids. 
Don’t date a single parent if you cant handle them putting their kids first.I cant even try to put myself in this girls shoes to see where shes coming from.
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You need attention non stop what are you 13.? Get over it
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So you just need a man with no kid or a dead beat dad?
My only question is is why would you ask a bunch of mother’s if how you feel is fair when most of them are dealing with dead beat dad’s?
Like hey you mother struggling to get your baby daddy to not be a shit—am I wrong to be jealous of this dude’s kid because he actually dad’s?
If he only has limited time with his child then let him have that time with her. There are so few fathers willing to put their kids first. If you’re not ok with this then you need to just let go and move on.
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his child is and will ALWAYS come before you, as a child should… if you cant deal with a man who has a child and gives that child priority AS HE SHOULD, then dont date a man with kids… period. he is a good man, let him go be with a good woman who isnt threatened by a man who gives his child the ranking she deserves… youre petty
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He sounds like a good dad and he shouldn’t waste his time on a selfish girl like you.
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Looooool if you want more attention, find somebody without a child. To think that you come BEFORE ones child who was there BEFORE YOU!? Girl get out of here.
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You feel ignored, well, get use to it…sorry it’s true,
one. that’s his child, I give my kids more attention then I do to guys and friends, it’s how we as parents roll, ok,
two. His a male, the males come from a completely different plant to us, so get use to being ignored and your patience being tested.
I think in time, with parenthood and maturity you will understand this man. I hope so x
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You need to leave him. Theta deserve better.
I agree that your relationship won’t work if you can’t accept that his child should always come 1st. However, I’m sorry people are being so mean to you about it. This IS a support group and you’re not getting much of that…wish you the best!
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Children come first. POINT BLANK. So what if he doesnt give you attention when his child is around. Grow up and leave them.
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And this is why baby mommas hate most new girlfriends. This bitch right here 
Smh this guy is amazing in putting his child before any woman…you need to move on because obviously you don’t deserve such a class act.
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Sarah Diveley sorry but you are a selfish bitch… his child should come before you at all times… .you shouldn’t of gotten with a single parent if you cant handle not getting attention
Dating a single parent means falling head over heels for their children, too.
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That’s what it’s like dating a single parent.
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You should be with a man with children. Children trump everything and everyone. Always. A four year old… Well any old child… Takes up every waking moment and the ones the child is asleep… Every thought.
He sounds like a great dad! Full effort and attention to the child when he has it. Which i am assuming isn’t full time therefore even more reason for him to cram in as much daddy daughter time as possible. Children come first. When you have kids you will understand. Especially if you only see the child limited time.
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Wow!! My advice, leave! His child will always come first, God willing! If he’s a good father he will keep putting his child first! You either need to get over it & get used to coming second or get out! Simple!
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Leave, he does not treat you right.
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Just means he’s being a dad and giving his child the attention she needs! Ain’t no man worth more attention than my kids. Even my fiance! My kids want attention I’m all there. They get my attention over other family members, friends, ANYONE! And if nobody can handle that then kick rocks! If you want to be with him then have patience, or maybe try to involve yourself in the time with his child. He’s a packaged deal.
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Girl you are being childish af. That’s his baby and you will never come before her. He is being a good father and you want to whine and complain because you’re not getting the attention you want. Ridiculous.
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I can relate, I married a single dad of 2 and had 0 kids. At first. It was an adjustment, but you have to accept its part of the deal and move forward. I never expected him to not put his kids first. But having no kids of my own, I had to adjust myself.
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You obviously do not have children. The fact you’re basically wanting to be more important than his child is sad.
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Fucking selfish little brat is what you sound like thank god he’s spending more quality time with his daughter then you. Kids come first over self centered bratty girlfriends.
His attention is in the right place. If you’re not happy break It off with him. Don’t expect him to change, he shouldn’t need to
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If I were you I would find someone with no kids. Lol. Any real man will put his children first!
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Omg grow up .i was married 38 yrs and our children comes first always married are not
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Well that time is for his child it sounds like you need to grow up he is being a good father
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What d hell. The child deserves her fathers undivided attention. U plainly stated when the child isnt around u get attention. The child comes first. U need to meddle with a single man with no strings. This man deserves better than a female who jealous of his baby girl. Nobody comes before my kids. Smh Raijak Sammy
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Honestly, there are times when my husband works 3, sometimes 4 shifts ina row and I forget to message him or I get so swept up in the bedtime routine and trying to wrangle the kids that I don’t call to have them say goodnight. Sometimes people get busy and what is immediately in front of them takes precedence. If you can’t handle that, you meed to cut him loose. If you want to stay with him, talk to him about how you’re feeling. Youve been with him less than a year. He may not be ready to start integrating you into her life, and as her father, that’s something you have no say in and need to suck up and deal with. You’re jealous of a 4 year old. Find a new perspective or find a new man.
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Sounds selfish of you. Mans with the closest thing to him. If u cant handle a man with a kid dont date them
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Well kids come first. I personally hate being texted called and I feel harassed by my bf when I’m with my kids. Try talking to him about your feelings but as a parent kids come first. If you need more than your getting you need to leave.
You don’t deserve to be a part of that Childs life full stop.
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If only every man was that focused on his children!
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You’re jealous over a kid. Get in your lane
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That’s his daughter she will always come first if you don’t like it leave him. Sorry if u think I’m being blunt but it’s the truth 
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You’re right, you should break it off with him. He deserves someone who’s not childish.
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Sooooo he gives his baby girl attention and YOU pissy about it? TF?!? 2 words for you: GROW UP
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You’re wasting time. Find some one who thinks of you as part of himself
Sounds like a fking GREAT trait.
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Kids will always comes first before anyone else please grown up and stop being a childish it’s not the little kid fault cause his dad choose his kids over anyone that’s a real good man would wants to be in his child life
Maybe move on and find a guy with no kids. Hes doing exactly what he should and putting 100% attention on his kid when his kid is with him. That’s how all parents should be. So it sounds like you need a kid less guy. Which is ok but its not his fault.
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Wow. He has a child. His child comes first, as he should. You need to take a step back and realize that.
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I hope he ends it
Suggest going out with him & his child. To the Park, a museum, to eat, Chuckie Cheese, a movie… If he wants you to be in his life, u eventually will be a part of his child’s life. If not, you are just there for the moment. If he is your boyfriend, child or not. You should of at least got a card or candy for Christmas. Either he is still involved with his child’s mother, or he is not as into you as u are him… Talk to him, but be prepared to leave him for some1 who will be interested in you whether they have a child or not. Single parents are capable of dating and still be VERY ATTENTIVE time their child
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I agree with a lot of the comments you need to leave his kid is where his attention should be! I would never expect a good guy to pay more attention to his girlfriend.
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You aren’t ready to date someone a kid. Save all three of you the heartache and end it. He and his daughter deserve better.
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He is being a good Dad that a good thing I am sure he will include you into his daughter’s life when they are ready and then you will see a change give it soon time it will happen
It’s his child! You knew he had one going in now stuck it up or get out!
For fucking real? Please leave him and save him and his child the misery. You will never be more or important, or even anywhere close to as important.
Wow. He should be focussed on his child and not texting and calling you. I’m afraid that’s what happens when you choose to be with someone who has kids. You are not a priority in their life. Their child comes first and so they should. If I were you I’d end it now, as you will never be first priority and if you arent happy with that choose to be with someone without children for your own sake and him and his child
If you’re uncomfortable date someone without children. I’m not trying to bash, but I wish my kids dad would even just call. If you’re jealous over his time with his daughter walk away now.
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In the words of my 19 year old with whom I shared this with:
“Yes, you are overthinking this. You are you overthinking your importance. You have only been around for 10 months. His child should come first. He SHOULD be paying attention to his daughter and not his phone. You have not been around long enough to be your included in every second of his parenting time. Your attitude spells out why.”
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Props to him for putting his child before a significant other- That’s how it should be. You’ve been dating for 10 months. If you’re jealous then break things off. Imagine if you were with someone that got jealous of your own child? How would you feel? A parent should always put their child first and I think you sound incredibly selfish. if you need to have all the attention in the world date someone without kids.
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Maybe it’s best if you leave because his attention is where it needs to be. No sense in calling anyone names. Some people just don’t handle it well being childless in a relationship where the other has children.
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Ew get the fuck over yourself.
You are second, his son is first.
Shame.
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I’d love to know how old this poster is because judging by this shes young. But honestly if she cant realize the kid will and should be above her always then shes too selfish or childish to be with someone who has a child.
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When you are dating someone with a child, that child comes first. If you become a parent yourselfor have a future with this man and become a stepmother, you must understand that. That child did not make the choice to be here. Did not make the choice for their father to date you and they are a package deal. If he is an attentive father, yes, parenting is hard and he’s going to have less time for you. You could offer to help him out when he has her. The gift…isn’t Christmas about giving and not getting (coming from someone who does not choose to celebrate personally and got NOTHING from her fiance on that day but spoiled the hades out of them BOTH by choice) ?
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Thank god he’s a good dad that obviously deserves better
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OP is getting dragged harder than a Christmas tree on January 1st
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He owes you nothing. That’s his daughter. If he’s with her, he’s spending all the time that he can with her before she goes back to her mom. He gives you all his attention when he is not with his daughter. What are you complaining about? You want someone’s undivided attention then go out and find someone with no morals and values like this guy
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If he is putting his child first ten that’s a good thing, if your can’t handle the fact that he focuses on his child when he has her then it’s you with the problem. He is being a dad and that will always come first as it should.
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I’m sorry but this is ridiculous! My ex boyfriend had this same issue when my son was with me. He actually gave me an ultimatum to choose between him or my son! Guess what? I dumped his ass so quick it made his head spin! Family always comes first especially my son! No man will ever come before my son!
Seriously? Sounds like you’re the child.
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You will never be more than somebody’s kid!!! Plus, you are a girlfriend!!! Lmao!! Grow the hell up!! Spoiled chick!!
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his child comes first !!! either accept an understand that a parents first #1 priority is their child(ren) if you can’t you should be with someone who doesn’t have kids so you can feel like you have their undivided attention
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I think he deserves someone better than you. In all honesty. Kudos to him for putting his child first. Christmas isn’t about you! My husband didn’t get me anything and I’m not whining. It’s about the kids and it’s awesome you got his daughter a gift too, but don’t play yourself. She Will always be first. If you can’t handle that then find a boy not a man.
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Girl, you need to be alone for a while. You’re a whole sack of issues.
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Does anyone know if OP has kids or if she’s just asking a mother page/group to troll? Don’t know what answers she was expecting but I think they were pretty obvious. This has to be a troll.
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Sounds like you’re jealous of a kid!
Find yourself a man without any kids since you feel like you have to be top dog over a 4 year old.
You will never be and never should of he’s normal. That’s his child!! So selfish.
When my exhusband would take my daughter his new wife would get jealous/mad bc all his attention went to daughter. It got to where she was talking shit on my child and I put a stop to that shit fast. Have u talked to him about how ur feeling? Maybe theres been miscommunication maybe🤷♀️
Kids always come first other half is always second…