He’s being a Dad! You cannot possibly continue in the relationship if you expect to come before his child’s needs. My boyfriend has 2 children from a previous relationship and I understood from the beginning that they get the majority of his time. Now we have a baby together and he devotes time to her as well which I would expect. You won’t be happy in the future if you’re already feeling neglected because of his duties to his child. Maybe just find a guy with no kids, sounds like it would be better for your expectations
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It blows my mind that I’m actually seeing a post about a father spending “too much time” with his child… like are you ass backwards? Idc if i sound mean but maybe you should re-evaluate if you’re mature enough to be with someone who has a child. You should be in awe watching the man you’re with interact with his child.
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Im pretty sure he should leave you. You arent his mom, his child or anything of the sort. Your a girlfriend, dont like that his child has his attention you deserve to be alone. You need a reality check sweetie
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He is a package deal. If you don’t love that little girl and can’t see yourself possibly being her stepmother someday then you need to end it now
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Good! I’m glad he’s putting his child before a girlfriend!! You rock dad!!
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Did it ever occur to any of you judgemental ladies that she probably doesn’t have any kids and doesn’t quite understand how much time kids take up?.. It’s a learning curve to be with someone who has kids if you don’t have your own. It doesn’t mean she’s a bad person. Guys go through the SAME EXACT THING if they are dating a woman with kids. They have to learn that she cannot dedicate all her time to him because her child(ren) come first. Y’all are a trip.
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I participated in Christmas for my bonus daughter. I wouldn’t have it any other way. Family comes first. Try to be more understanding of that. Don’t be negative when a child is involved.
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If you can’t accept his child is priority don’t be with a guy that has a kid. If you feel this way end it now and don’t waste his time
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We need more of those Dad’s in the world.
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Mom or dad, your child comes before anyone… so grow up dear, be happy he actually loves his child and wants to spend time with her
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Well obviously you aren’t his gf…you just the side hoe …kick rocks princess. #dumbass #hischildwastherebeforeyou #selfish
His little girl comes first. Package deal.
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I think you shouldn’t date someone with kids 
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Wow u sound like a spoiled brat u shouldn’t be with a guy that has a kid u need to understand he doesn’t get his kid all the time so when he does he wants to spend as much time with her as possible you ll never understand until u have kids of ur own so do him and his daughter a favor and leave
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Your been selfish. His kid should come 1st sounds like you need a man with no kid.
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Yikes. How old are you? The kid is supposed to come first over texting/calling a girlfriend/boyfriend. If you seriously are that bothered by it then you have no business being with someone with a child. If I were him I’d leave you. 
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Oh dude 
wrong forum to post this in
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I’m sorry but if I were him I would leave you. His child comes before anyone and his time as well. You can’t be patient and understanding you don’t deserve him.
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Good on him.
His kid should come first.
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You have a ton of maturing to do before being with someone who has a child if this is your way of thinking…
- I won’t even entertain the idea of letting my children meet someone before at least a solid year…
- he has the child part time … of course he’s going to be wrapped up and soaking it all in
- you will NEVER and I repeat NEVER come before that child if he’s any kind of parent (which should make you want him that much more not be turned off by it)
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Are you fucking kidding me??? I only read the first few sentences…he needs to leave you.
It’s actually a good thing that he puts his kid first. He’s a keeper! & yes, you may be overthinking it. Put yourself in his shoes and maybe you’ll feel more appreciative of what he’s doing. He may be the future father of your children.
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#1 I think you and he have different ideas of your relationship. Sounds like he wants a more casual set up.
#2. KUDOS for him being a dad when he has his daughter. She should be his priority when he has her. Again, he would not want to confuse her by having another woman around her if there was not a commitment.
#3. It does not sound to me like you are mature enough to handle this situation. You can’t infuse yourself on her time and stake your claim.
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Omg someone smack this person in the face
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Grow the fuck up kids over any bitch…
I did not have kids before I married and my husband did. A person without kids does not understand how time consuming children can be. If she knew the answer to the question, she probably wouldn’t be asking. 
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Good on him. That’s a good father, unlike half of the walking deadbeats pretending they don’t have children. This shows that he’d be a good father to your children. I’d encourage this behavior. However, if I were him, you would of been left long ago. His kids come first. If you’re not ready to come second, date someone without kids. 
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And here I am trying to my kids father to her first. He sounds like a good dad. What are you really worried about here? My kid’s dad’s gf thinks he talks to me too much when he has our daughter and too much about our daughter and our baby on the way when he doesn’t when I just wished he’d go away. If it has to do with the child’s mother I kinda get it but not if he’s just focusing on his daughter when he has her. That’s just extremely selfish and he shouldn’t be with you if you want to take that time away from him.
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Your an idiot 
. What a good dad!
He needs to leave you .
You expect a man to abandon his child for you? Grow up , get a life.
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Seriously… how old are you? His child should come first!
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girl… that’s his kid 
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Break up with him, he deserves better
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His child was there before you and will be there long after you’re gone
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I dont think the child is the issue. I think he is an asshole. it’s not hard to have a child and also pay attention to another person. Get a new boyfriend, this one isnt working for you.
You need to find you someone who doesn’t have a child.
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Yes please end things with him. You are not ready to be in that type of relationship and I’m pretty sure he’s starting to figure that out. Know that you will never be his priority. I can only imagine if you have kids with him, how you’d compare the amount of attention he gives to your child verse his daughter. Do you know what he is feeling right now? Probably guilt for his daughter being raised in two different homes. Guilt not because he loves his ex, but seeing what this little girl has gone through. It’s ok to not be ready to be in this type of relationship. But it sounds like he hasn’t really brought you around his child much and with good reason if you are texting while he has her. Just know you are giving up a great father and person.
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Well I think he needs to have a little respect for you…he could at least text u once to let u know he’s alright and he with his child…and 2 he could have thought enough of u to get u a gift for Christmas too…sound like hes all about getting and not giving …this is my opinion yall had yalls…there should be enough love attention for both if his ladies in his life
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His time with his child is less than his time with you.
Respect it.
He gives you the attention you crave when he can, if you can’t respect his time with his child you need to go…treat it as if he’s at work and cannot respond. Kids demand their own time, it is not malicious to you or even him trying to ignore you…he’s just busy.
The last thing you want is a guy who ignores his child and spends all attention on you…would he do that at work too (text all the time)…if so that would be someone that would have a hard time providing any kind of life because employers don’t put up with that crap…and if he doesn’t do that at work too, but would ignore the child…is that really the kind of person you’d want to keep in your life and potentially do to any children you may ha e with him? I know I wouldn’t.
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Yes, how dare a man prioritise his child
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You are acting like a spoiled brat!! If he spends quality time with his child you should be thankful he is a good father. If you know he is with his child, give him space STOP texting and calling like you need to know every move he makes. Yea that sounds like a good reason to end a relationship!! You ain’t go no problems girl, grow up!!!
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Darling you are too immature to date someone with a child. Let him date someone who has his priorities.
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I wish this was the case with most men. He gave you too much attention if you are jealous of a man and his child.
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Well… first off… a kid is a goat. His daughter is a child. Im sorry, but what you said sounds self centered. What kind of man wouldnt be giving as much time and attention as he can to his child?? His child should be first and if that bothers you, you shouldnt date people with children.
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It is a sad day when you resort to social media for advise. If you play in the big girl league then be prepared to be dished a big girl game. NEVER EVER come between a parent and there child - you can be replaced but that child will always be in his heart. Pull the tampon out and yank up those panties if you want to play with the big dawgs.
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This man has lost his child basically because of divorce. He should 100% protect his time with his child so that he/she feels loved, protected, and cared for by his/her father who is no longer around every day like it’s supposed to be. You need to realize that the child will ALWAYS come first and if you can’t accept that then you need to move on. The only thing that gives me pause about this is that he didn’t give you a card…was that this current Christmas after being together for 10 months or what? And honestly if you guys can’t talk about this stuff to figure out what you guys both want and/or need from the relationship, then it will never work. Again, I stress to you that his child will always come first and you have to be okay with that…if not then say goodbye.
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He is your boyfriend you have not been together that long and his child comes first before anybody else not the other way around his child is his priority not you you are only his girlfriend not his wife. When he is with his child that’s his time to be with his child and you need to respect that you are not the center of his universe his child is and always should be. If he wasn’t paying attention to you at all no matter the situation then I would understand, but this is just childish he spends time with you when he does not have his child when he does have his child that’s his time with his child not you. Being a parent comes before being a boyfriend or girlfriend.
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Is she really mad because he’s taking care of his baby … smh 
the nerve of some people .
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Girl let him go so he can find a woman,not a whiny little girl.His kid should be first,as all kids should be.You should be ashamed of yourself.I wish more daddies took care of their kids.
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Are you overthinking this… umm youre being selfish. Dont date someone with a kid… you should appreciate the fact that he is spending time with his kid not texting your needy ass all the time.
Jump off your high horse and come down to the real world or date someone who does not have kids and can focus their attention on you 100% but that gets old fast. Good luck
Maybe you need therapy so you can cope with him having his priorities in check. His child comes first and YOU need to get over that.
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You are very selfish let him enjoy the time he has with his Child Good for him focusing on what’s really important smh
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Did u meet him before or after the divorce?
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Ahh… you wanna be alpha & main priority in his life… shes his daughter, his blood, his only priority in his life & you’re gonna have to deal with it… you’re selfish… maybe you should find a single guy without kids so you get all the attention you want or need…
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Vague. How long has this guy been your boyfriend? That means a lot in determining a valid response to your complaintX
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Kids come before anything else…they are first priority… always…
Not sure how long you two have been together but if only for couple months maybe all his thoughts were for his children at Christmas…
This man sounds like a great father…way better than my ex
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Your acting like more of a kid then his probably does!
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I only wish my BD gave the attention to our children that your bf seems to give to his daughter. Instead, mine’s totally self absorbed and back with a woman he knows his children can’t stand. Smh.
Give respect to good fathers when & where it’s due. They are few & far between!
You either absolutely accept his daughter & his time with her, or you move on. 
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His child should come first, and he shouldn’t be busy on his phone talking to you when he gets to spend time with his kid. I personally think he should be heading for the hills. You need to grow up.
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Definitely over thinking! The fact that you think he should put you above his kid is what wrong with you.
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You’re acting more his child than his gf tbh 
grow up 
#stage3clinger 
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Move on and find someone else, does he spend any time with you and his child together or does he always exclude you? Its reasonable to be upset with being excluded especially after 10 months. But then again parents do need that one on one time with their children. There should be balance.
wow just wow , girl grow tf up ! you dont deserve him . hes golden
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I’m sorry, but this is what happens when you date someone with a child. It seems you’d better off in a relationship with someone who doesnt have children yet, and thats totally okay!
I know its easy to be selfish when dating someone with kids, been there dont that and its not easy.
Don’t make him choose you over his child, let him be a dad. The world needs more good dads, let him do his thing 
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I’m a single mom & often times I’m too tired to respond to my boyfriend about things, when I have my son.
I hope as long as he’s giving you enough attention when he’s alone, that it’s enough to keep it justifiable in your mind.
He busy looking after his kids😒 do you have kids? some times and alot of the times you dont have time for yourself… he is probably fed up with you calling and texting him all the time
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If this is how you feel while he is parenting than you have no business being with him.
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Mamas uncut, y’all really are sharing some special questions smfh I think y’all are doing this for pure entertainment
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You need to find a man who’ll put up with your…
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Stfu he sounds like a great Dad doing his job, Stop wasting his time and find a man with no kids because your clearly to immature to understand what it takes to be a parent🤨
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I dated a guy like this… It’s your job to respect the relationship he has with his daughter. Don’t be selfish. I would go to my mans later in the evening, spend time with his kid and him and then go home the next day and live my life during the day so they could have quality time. I have kids though and understand the demand of responsibility that comes with them. You will always come second to his daughter and that’s how it SHOULD be. Not once did I EVER think to give a man first priority over my girls and not once did I have a man expect me to do so… If he did then I’d be leaving his ass. I will always put my kids before ANY man. You should be happy that he wants to be a dad to her because there are tons of sperm donors out there. Just goes to show that at the very least, in that aspect he has extremely good character. You need someone that doesn’t have kids.
He should end it with you since you’re immature still.
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Omg leave him alone already🙄
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I swear half the questions on this page have to be fake, this is terrible.
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When his baby is with him ALL ATTENTION SHOULD BE ON THAT BABY! You will always be second in his life to that child and that’s 100% how it should be. More men should be like him. Instead of complaining stop trying to get his attention away from his child. Text him, say hi, good morning, whatever but if he doesn’t text back then get over it. If he only gets every other weekend then his attention shouldn’t be anywhere but with his kiddo who hasn’t seen him in 2 weeks.
Also, you don’t give a gift to get a gift. You sound like a petulant ungrateful teenager.
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If you arent understanding that his kid comes first, you shouldnt be dating a man with a kid
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Kids come first always! I put my children before my husband and he’s their dad sorry not sorry
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You aren’t willing to work with him you’re literally complaining he’s spending time with his child. You’re clearly not ready to date someone who has a child. Their child should always come before you.
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Girl he need to kick you to the curb tf. Kids come.first grow up
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I get im not a mom so commenting is kinda off maybe. But I do have a boyfriend who has a 9yr old daughter. I 100% understand where your coming from. I deal with the same thing i have been for 2 years now. That being said. I also understand thag she was in his life before I was, and that end of the day i will always be #2 in his life and thats how it should be. So many times you see single mothers having issues with the father not wanting to be in the childs life. He wants to be in his childs life LET HIM and accept the fact there will always be someone ahead of you so to speak. What you described happens to me all the time and im perfectly fine with it. I understood from the begining that he was a package deal and that meant certain times his focus will not be on me and thats cool i want him to have a relationship with his child. I want him to have that bond with her. You need to grow up amd understand that you will always take backseat to his child and if you cant do that then your just wasting his time. Maybe find someone who doesnt have children and pray that if and when you do that you dont end up with someone with the same mentality as you because frankly your just being selfish. Again sorry if im out of line not being a mom and all but saw this and had to comment!
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Kids first. If you cant respect that move on for his sake. No one needs someone in their life trying to compete with their children. Smfh
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Leave his ass alone! You need a man with no kids.
He has a kid… that is his first priority.
If his love language doesnt march yours, or you are unhappy in the relationship… rime to move on. The child WILL ALWAYS. Be there
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Damn! Yeah go ahead a break up with him. You’ll be doing him a favor.
Ew you sound toxic. Leave that man alone to be with his kid. Find someone without children who can babysit you. My goodness I can’t even believe what I’m reading here. Of course he will put his child first.
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I hope you do end it. For his sake.
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Julz McQuinn this chick…
I definitely agree with you, your should leave him. Save him the trouble now. YOU should be grateful that he’s actually being a father… Yet you are mad that for the 2 days he has his child you aren’t getting the right amount of attention? Are you joking?
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Wow I hope he gets rid of you.
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His child should always come first. If you can’t deal with it…find someone with no children.
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I agree with all these women. You need to realize that his child comes first. I’m not trying to be rude but you’re being a bit selfish.
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Honestly, you have to be grateful you found a man like him. He’s rare to find.
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Get a fuckin grip lol
If you love him you also have to love his extensions. 
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Regarding The kid thing STOP BEING CHILDISH. The gift thing, only you know what to expect from him.
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You are so childish and pathetic. He has a child and he wants to spend his time with his daughter and your mad at the fact that he doesn’t text you or call you that much when he has her. He needs to break up with you. You need to grow up his daughter comes first before you. You don’t come first before her
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Lilly Straight speaking of obtuse… 
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U need to date someone that doesn’t have kids. U can’t compete with his child and u don’t want it to come down to that because it sounds like he will and always should have his child first.
Plenty fish in the sea! Good luck
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U knew he had a kid and what comes with the package.
Unfortunately baby girl will always come first even if you were with him 2 yrs she will always be first.
He is one lucky daddy to be able to see his child so I am more then sure he is going to cherish every moment he can get when with her so suck it up or leave now.
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All you people giving her shit about her boytiend not messaging her are bitches. Yeah, the kud comes first ALWAYS, but the kid probably goes to bed early and naps so why isn’t he rrsponding then. I’d be pissed too, theres no reason why he can’t find 1 min for a quick hi, and not to buy her a gift after she bought him snd his child one is also bs. Dump his ass, and before you all run your pie holes I raised 3 children alone. She deserves the respect of a text the weekend he has his child.
Why is this chick in a mom group she obviously doesn’t have any kids …
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