The guy I am seeing is unexperienced in the bedroom...thoughts?

how do you explain a man having a huge sex drive like he can’t live without it .liking books and movies like fifty shades of gray. but acting like he has no clue what he’s doing in the bedroom. i mean we’re not talking i’m trying to replicate some fifty shades crap over here but this dude actually makes me feel like i’m taking advantage of him. he’s older than me and yet I feel like I am the dominatrix in the bedroom. This guy literally has no game and I just don’t get it does anyone have any advice for either me or even some I can give him??

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Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. The guy I am seeing is unexperienced in the bedroom...thoughts?

Maybe he doesn’t like women

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Communication is key… Talk to him, not us…

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Is he gay? Have a fetish? Maybe he like to be dominated and afraid to say it. My first thought was gay, he doesnt know how to handle a woman but enjoys the orgasm :woman_shrugging:

He honestly may not know what yo do. You can teach him.

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Talk to him tell him what you like…may take a few times.

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There’s a possibility that you’re his first, he’s gay, etc. :woman_shrugging: communication is a big key factor here.

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Have you tried talking to him? He sounds like he might be the submissive instead of the Dominant too. If he’s inexperienced then I wouldn’t expect much in the way of kink…that takes time to get to know.

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Communicate. Tell him what you like and ask what he likes

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Watch all those movies and more with him maybe he will get the hint and learn something

You can start a conversation with him. I’d really like… from his response, ask what he is comfortable with. He’s either prude, inexperienced or gay. Nothing wrong with any of those but you need answers.

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Sounds like he’s not truly into you

If he’s not doing it for you, why keep seeing him?

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I like how everyone just assumes he’s gay…
Maybe he’s never been taught? Maybe he’s never had a woman explain to him what women like. I mean, some people are just clueless.
Communication will help. Tell him and show him what you like and what you’d like him to do and ask him if there is anything he likes or would like to try.
I don’t think sexuality has anything to do with this

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You have to tell him what you like.

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Maybe he’s shy?:woman_shrugging:t2:

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Does not automatically mean the guys gay…maybe he is just trying to impress you so he acts like he knows more than he’s done…

Girl. This is the best. Teach him what YOU like.

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He’s so teachable, he maybe enjoying the dominance and is feeling he will be judged if he says anything. Have an honest conversation.

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Teach him what you like

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Well, he may be inexperienced with women. You may want to check with him about what he likes and what he’s used to. Tell him what you like and need. It may come out that he’s been gay or bi. Show him what you want. Teach him. I would also use protection.

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Teach him show him what you like. Or get a dude that knows how to please a woman. Idk but talking to him be good.

Sounds like you’re dating my roommate :wink::rofl:

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Definitely talk to him! Tell him what you like! Show him tricks. Otherwise you’re not doing him any good. Everyone had to learn at some point.

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Talk to him and tell him he needs to take control for once

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Could it be he has a kink for the woman being in charge? Some men are too shy to talk about what they want in the bedroom, so maybe he’s just doing it so you do what he likes. Have an honest conversation with him and explain you’re not satisfied, and what you’d like him to do. Then ask if there’s anything he wants to do too.

Y’all need to communicate… Without this being the center of why. Just talk n be open n vulnerable… Most ppl who don’t want to do the work will yell “He’s Gay!!” And if he is that’s ok… Just take every option to talk to the person you love before letting that fill your head n ruin anything.

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It’s a problem if you have to ask us! We aren’t there in the bedroom or know what your relationship is! Some people just like straight forward missionary :woman_shrugging:

Talk to him and during sex give him pointers tell him what you like x

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You guys may just not be compatible sexually. He sounds more submissive then dominate, which sounds like that’s not what you’re looking for.

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Maybe that’s what he is into lmfaooo

I eant to answer he just needs education. As long as he isn’t too awkward or against the situations, it will grow.

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Gotta communicate what you want. Pregnancy has been fun for me, lol, I tell my husband what I want, how I want it, and let him perform. If something doesn’t feel good, I let him know. If it feels good, I also let him know. COMMUNICATION

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Show him what you need, tell him what you need. I dont understand the problem. If you can get naked with him. Certainly you can have an open and honest conversation of sexual desires. Best wishes. Much peace and love ☆

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He’s just inexperienced. Roll with it

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He’s probably not finding u attractive

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He could have been a late bloomer, plus not had many opportunities to experiment. Maybe women faked it with him and he thinks he’s doing an amazing job :sweat_smile:. If everything else is great in the relationship and this is the only hang-up, I’d personally just chat. Communication in a relationship is so important; in all manners… Including the bedroom. Sit down with him and ask if he’s willing to learn what makes you tick, as sometimes you have to do that even when both parties are experienced. Everyone is just not the same :person_tipping_hand:. Good luck :four_leaf_clover::blush:

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Talk it out… Watch movies and say let’s try this or straight up tell him what u like and how u like it!

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Had this before……

You must talk to him and explain that you need more from him. If he doesn’t give it to you, or want to learn what you do like, then it might be best to move on.

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It’s either his kink or TRAIN him girl

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Is he a “40 year old virgin” type? :woman_shrugging:

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All I can say is TEACH him! I had to teach the last one I was with! You let him know how you want it where you want it etc!

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Let him know how you feel without dragging his manhood completely down and let him know what you like or need in bed. Then ask him what he likes in the bedroom. Maybe he likes to not be the dominant one but find a middle for both of you. If that doesn’t work then I would “teach” him and if that doesn’t work then maybe he is fighting in his mind that he is actually attracted to the same sex. That’s ok too but for you guys to have a future then you need to figure it out together. Good luck.

Sock it to him. Sometimes they need a little training :joy::joy:

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Be that and make him do what you like.

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Put a leash on him and walk him. That’s what he wants he wants you to treat him like a dog

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Tell him, show him. It’s all in the approach. That approach depends on the guy. If he is a good sport and a jokester, give him a hard time and correct him how you like it. If he is the serious type, approach him gently and reinforce you are not trying to hurt his feeling, you just think it could more enjoyable if he did this or that.

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There’s a big difference between guys who only watch porn/no actual experience and guys who know how to make love. Some men know how to listen and learn. Others are definitely only and always in it for themselves.

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Teach him yourself, tf you asking us for

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Sounds to be he isn’t turned on maybe :woman_facepalming: if he looks bored both of y’all should be feeling each others vibes and know - Men can’t read minds they don’t think like us tell him and ask him

If you’re going to have this talk, which I absolutely think you need to and should, please do it at a time when you’re not having sex, getting ready to have sex…. Or I’d even say not after…… I’d suggest doing it at a time where it’s separate from activities…. He might feel put on the spot and not want to disappoint so he lets you take the lead…. Make the conversation non-confrontational and at a neutral time. If he is inexperienced, maybe watch/ read pornography to show him the wide world of options… maybe his former partners were inexperienced or not as interested so he had no incentive or encouragement to learn and try different things. Have fun and experiment!!! Good luck and enjoy the excitement of someone’s new experiences and the pleasure it brings you both!!!

Is he maybe on the s side of DS

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Maybe u have had more partners then he has
Train his ass or move on
Maybe he’s playing dum :woman_shrugging:

Lol that shit can’t be taught. You either got it or u don’t :expressionless::joy:

Teach him, it’ll be fun!

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Sounds like you’re both subs :woman_shrugging:

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You’re NOT compatible THATS IT

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You’re not compatible

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Just because u like something doesn’t mean your experienced in it… and maybe he wants u to be in charge… so if your not into that then your not compatible

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Use a movie and act out the scenes

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Maybe he is into you being the dominant one?

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Communicating period

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Show him who’s boss show him no mercy put him screaming for his mama :wink: :raised_hands::dancer:

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Its a two way street ,keep the NO word out of your bed room treat it like a restaurant menu have many selections happy humping

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Teach him…?
He might even be a sub .?
Males can be subs too…
Maybe your not compatible?

:woman_shrugging:

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Men are EXTREMELY trainable in bed. Just tell him what you like, what you don’t like. Honestly this is awesome for you because he’s basically a blank slate and you can train him to do exactly what you want him to do. They don’t get offended when you tell them what you like. they like it. 

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Sounds like a great opportunity to teach him.

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Maybe he just wants you to tell him what you like so he’s sure to pleasure you

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Show him what you like

Sounds like he likes to be submissive. Tell him you want him to be dominant

Talk to him about it. Explain how you feel without being demeaning or accusing. Offer to teach him what you want/like. Communication is key for really any relationship.

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Have you asked him why or how you are feeling about this ? The key to any relationship is talking to each other. It’s a thought

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Tell him. Don’t get stuck in a relationship where you aren’t satisfied sexually! He may get confused, question your sanity, but we all have our kinks and he’s gotta meet you at least half way!

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Why so much intrest in SEX , so much more to life !

He’s a blank canvas! Take him to class! :writing_hand:

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Y’all touching genitals together but you can’t talk about it smh. Just communicate with him.

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Dominant him shit maybe he likes that shit

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It sounds like it’s time to strap on your dominatrix boots and start training you a submissive. :smiling_imp:

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Seems like he wants to be the submissive one…

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They bring it to the table in the beginning if it’s not there its not ever comming. One guy just blew air on it once like it was supp to explode or something based on that :flushed:

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You should embrace the dominatrix side, maybe he wants you to boss him around, sounds like he’s your submissive.

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Just tell him lol I was you at one point lol

Don’t do it to movies, “like 50 Shades” … do it to actual porn and tell him “do exactly what they do” … and vice versa - plus, a man can’t have sex with a woman alone. Perhaps, what he’s doing … the last chick he was with enjoyed :woman_shrugging: that, or lied to him the whole way through if it’s really that bad :smirk: lead the way : if he does something right, tell him to keep doing that; if he does something you don’t like, switch positions or tell him “harder” or “slower” or whatever …

Communication, works every time.

Communicate what is lacking, your preferences and what you like. Sounds like you’re gonna have to teach him what you’d like to have done.

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Teach him …. How else he supposed to learn …. Everyone is bad at sone point. porn is all a guy has teach him the ways of the silk pocket

Tell him and show him oh boy !!! You should be happy.

Which character does he identify with in 50 shades?

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Teach him and build up his confidence.

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He’s being selfish and lazy. He obviously knows what to do if he’s into porn.

This group is funny. So he’s not hitting the spot he has to gay. GTFOOH

Sounds like he’s a little shy. You’ll probably have to take the lead. He may truly believe if he’s aggressive then he’s disrespecting you. Be patient and open with him. Try making suggestions.

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Communication…maybe he’s just not that into sex

It seems to me if you can have sex with the man you can have a conversation with the man and if you can’t do that then you might as well call it quits cuz there’s no point in having a relationship if you can’t have communication.

Read a sex book together. Positions, Kama Sutra, look at diagrams/pictures and discuss what looks like fun for each of you.

Girl!! Show him the way!! :rofl::rofl:

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Teach him,
Tell him yes I like that or no don’t do that.
Teach him exactly how to please you.

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Honey we can’t all be heros but it sounds like here’s your chance. Teach him!

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