Just seriously make sure the other girl that’s pregnant isn’t sour that he left her for you and is trying to ruin you buy saying the babys his id definitely be getting a dna test then go from there I wouldent be fully trusting what shes saying hope all works out for you xxxxx
If its " insanely deep love connection"… Why you questioning? He isn’t bailing cause u had kkds before his. Dont be so petty about it. Step up or step out
It really doesn’t matter about being the person wgp has his 1st kid sounda kind of shallow imo
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On another Group I’m in you posted y’all have been together 6 months. That’s really not long.
Hes still married… and now a baby… it tskes longer than 5 months to get a divorce… he needs to go home… period.
No one falls in love quicker than a guy who needs somewhere to live !
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Would you have gotten with him if the woman was pregnant already if think about the answer to that
Stop thinking that babies are the problem and the answer. Please.
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Grow up please don’t have any more babies!! Smh
I need more info on this situation before I can evaluate. But it more so seems like you need to get - over that you’re not gonna have his first baby and possibly a little late down the rd when everything gets figured out you can. But it also seems like you two just met and barely know each other.
If you have to ask then leave
Mjy English sekha den
Or apni life us k sath e guzaren
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Mommas baby daddy’s maybe think about it.
Sounds like your afraid he might go back to her cause she pregnant
Five months pregnant. How long you been together? Five months if he left her for you. Your still in the honeymoon faze. If he so good with your kids he should step up and help with his child. And if you love him you should be supportive of him.
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My concern is 5 months pregnant but the two of you have been together “a while.” If they co-owned a business, etc., it seems like they had been together for a pretty long while. I’d be concerned that he could possibly be playing both of you. Just my two cents.
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Been together for awhile but shes only 5 months pregnant… that doesn’t add up…
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Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. The man I am seeing got someone pregnant before we got together: Should I stay with him?
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get a dog that will help haha
Sorry to say this but you sounds selfish & stupid smh
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Hi loves you dont wory just love the kid kids are kid .hi cares abouts you
This is gonna come off rude but I’m really not trying to be rude at all. Get over it. He chose to be with you when you have kids so why can’t you do the same? Yea it may hurt a little bit but if you to really care about each other the way you say you do than it will hurt more leaving.
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If you’re so in love get engaged, then married. Build your life together, and he has to do what he has to do for that other child. If the other woman and him do not get along they won’t want to be together much anyways. She may not even want him around! But he should support the child, and her as needed. This is a tough one.
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Just be prepared to be a step mom to this kid. And also if you have kids already… Honestly maybe you can get over the whole you not being the one to have his first baby thing.
Just as long as you dont hold this as a grudge and can look past it… Wouldnt be fair to his kid otherwise.
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If y’all are so in love with each other than why are you questioning it?? If you really loved him you would automatically accept && love his unborn child as it will be apart of him… The same way he accepted your children as his own. So what if you are not the first one having his child?! You had kids before him so what’s the difference?! I could understand if he cheated && got someone pregnant but that’s not the case… You should be fully supporting him for taking responsibility for his child && stepping up for yours!!
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Sounds like you kind of rushed into things. Guys already living with you and your kids a few months after getting with him and you want to have his baby specifically his first… and now your considering leaving him… sounds more like teenage infatuation to me. Only thing you can do if you “love him so much” is to stick it out and see how it goes.
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Girl no need to be upset or jealous and remember the baby is innocent and the fact he loves you and is loyal to you then trust him and give him your support. Stay with him and get married and keep building your life with him. He accepted your children so please accept his baby.
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My two cents. You two will still
Have a baby together. And that will a first for both of you. And it will be special because of the love you have for each other. This other woman having his baby won’t be the same because he has no emotional connection to her. He wants to take care of the baby though and that sounds like a good man. Many men wouldn’t want anything to do with her or the baby.
So, just know your firsts are still coming and will be special.
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This exact thing happened with my now husband when we met. I didn’t have kids but his ex was pregnant. I was 18 And still in high school and he moved in with me almost immediately. Didn’t know how things were going to work but they did and now almost 6 years later his son is mine and we have another baby boy together and I couldn’t see my life any other way.
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He’s went above and beyond for you and your kids, that’s rare in today’s world. Sweetheart I know it’s a hard pill,but swallow that btch and support him in this journey because from what you’ve said I believe if it was you who were pregnant by another man he’d stay n support you 
. This situation is only as difficult as you make it. Stay strong and the best of luck. Hope you guys have a lifetime of happiness, health, and love hard af. You got this Queen
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I didn’t get very far into this but my question to you is why would u leave a man that loves you and your children because he’s having a baby with someone else when u weren’t together. He is helping you with yours why can you not help him with his? I know u wanted to give him his first child but u can still give him a child with a together family something his other chid will not get. You have had children that arnt his and now it’s the other way around. It seems to me that your insecure and honey that’s not a good thing. You need to look in the mirror say I am beautiful, I am worth it and even though this women maybe giving him his first child he wants to be with me and my children.
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If he can love your children that you brought into your relationship, why can’t you love his? He’s supported you through everything you say, and even though yes this is a huge obstacle, you can’t support him through this? He hasn’t cheated, she came before you, would you give your kids up for him? To me, if y’all are so in love, this shouldn’t be a question
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You say he loves ypu and your kids and this woman is knocked up 5 months ago. So within 5 months you have not only let him meet your kids but move into their house too.
Pump the brakes.
Plus if it truly is true love then you need to pull your head out your backside and love his kid. It’s not rhe kids fault or the other woman’s. You have kids so he isn’t ever going to be your first baby’s dad so grow up and get over it. You have kids and now he has one too. Do not let the kid suffer because the grown ups in his/her life can’t be grown up.
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It’s just a bonus child, make room in your home and heart, ask him to have another baby with you, he might be the one to suggest it after seeing his own baby with her! Hopefully she is cool about things, I’m sure if you approach things in a calm level headed manner she will follow suit.
Also I would suggest that he ask for a paternity test. It’s weird she didn’t say anything for 5 months.
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Should he leave u for having kids before him and not being biologically his? Sounds like your childish and need to grow up as long as it wasn’t during the relationship it shouldn’t matter if ur with someone who has kids u will accept them and love them otherwise u don’t need to be with that person
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You have been with him under 6 months he was with someone else’s and shes pregnant you are a grown ass adult stop sounding like a child sorry not sorry but your crying he’s having a child with his ex grow up being jelsous your not having his first child for you and your children this should be a major red flag
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He’s there for your kids and it happened prior to you and so did your kids prior to him so support him the way he’s supported you
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Personally I think if u truelly love him the way u say u do then u stand by him …. He’s made it clear to u how he feels about u and all he’s doing is what any decent man would and taking responsibility for his child …. I no it must hurt him having his first child with someone else but without sounding rude u had children before him an it doesn’t mean in the future u can’t go on an have children together …. Stop focusing on the negatives because that will destroy ur relationship in the long run …… go with it stand by him let him love u the way he says he does just be happy if u dnt think u can do that then u have to walk away sooner rather than later as there are children involved an they didn’t ask to be in this situation an don’t deserve the hurt or disruption x all the best
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Sounds like the main issue is someone else is carrying his first biological kid. Ask yourself this would you rather be the one to carry his first kid or love him enough to try to make things work and have the chance of being the last one to carry his kids? You guys may not have been together long but if its real your heart and mind will agree on whats right
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#1 get a paternity test just to be sure.
#2 you act like you’ve been together for years. It’s clearly only been 4-5 months. There are so many red flags here I can’t even see.
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Sure that’s before you guys got together I would just let that be water under the bridge. As long as he doesn’t go behind you back good luck and many blessings
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My advice is to grow up. You don’t sound mature enough to have kids. They need a mom, not a selfish little girl.
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You truly love him and want to have his children so badly after being together 5 months??? You said you’ve been together for “a while” but someone else is 5 months pregnant with his child. There’s a lot of lust going around, not love. Pump your brakes leave that man and his gf alone. Also sound like you really value being a baby momma, get your priorities together. Stop having children until you grow up!!
Sounds like you need a step back. If she is 5 months pregnant you’re already in love and imagine this beautiful life together? Give it time. The first year being with someone is the time you get to know them and enjoy the new relationship. Don’t rush it. Everything will fall into place if feelings are true and real. It will be a struggle but think positive and work through it. Accept the child like he accepts yours.
Why is this even a question? He loves you, isn’t with her at all now so I would say yes you should stay with him.
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Is this even a question? If you’re really that in love with him you would accept any children that are not biologically yours just like he accepted your children. Are you the only one entitled to have your children loved by another man? You can’t love his children?
- you had 2 kids before him…so why are you upset you won’t give him his first bio child?! It’s ok for you, but not him??? It’s not like he purposely planned it! Get over it.
- you are that in love and it’s forever, after only 4-5 months?? Ok…
- he owned a business, a house, etc with the other woman - they clearly were together for a long time. But he left her and everything for you…and you two are so in love in just a few months. Sounds like a huge red flag. You’re in the exciting part of a new relationship where it’s always love and hearts and flowers and everything is perfect. Maybe after a while, when all that new excitement is gone, well, maybe he will be leaving you for the next new and exciting woman.
There are major red flags with this whole relationship/scenario. Good luck…
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I see a series of bad decisions here. Grow up.
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Why would you leave him? Did he leave you for having kids prior? No he stepped up, Luke you should be doing. I understand it will be hard but this isnt an easy situation
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And he wasn’t the one to father your first baby. Grow up.
Girl you just wanted the cons and pros in your post. If it was before you and your love for each other is as strong as you say, then I would stick by him and love him through this. This is his first child and that in itself is scary so he could definitely use the extra support. I think the 2 of you will be fine just be strong and remember it didn’t happen while you all were together.
It’s always “she’s not supposed to be able to get pregnant “. 
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If you have 2 children before you got with this man,why are you questioning him having one. Don’t understand why people don’t marry then have children. Marriage then sex, if he is good to your children and you, why question. Appreciate.
Dont be a rebound as it might break you and not make you.all the best but relax,6mths?
I think you barely know this guy and you’re in over your head. Take a few steps back and think.
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its too early for this!!! Girl HWHAT?
Stay with him he loves your children why wouldnt you love his.you have his heart his love you are the winner…
Sounds like the show virgin river on netflix, I’d say stay for love 
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Grow up
You have two children. You will love his
Enjoy what you can have.
Maybe he should get a DNA test
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That’s a lot to unpack, but:
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Raise your standards. If you had self love you wouldn’t need to steal off of someone else’s plate, and you certainly wouldn’t accept a man that would have a relationship with you while he was with someone else. Your standards are low, and so is your behavior.
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I absolutely guarantee you they’re still sleeping together.
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Seriously are you this desperate for male approval? I’m not sugar coating this. You need to figure out why this is, because you will set yourself up failure every time if you continue like this. It’s a hard pill to swallow, but it doesn’t sound like your track record is great. Fix. Your. Self. Esteem.
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Is there any way you can speak to this woman? I bet most or all the stories he told are untrue. Hmmmm.
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Girl what? Lol…. all I got out of all of that is that you are a home wrecker. Good luck with that. 
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Sounds complicated- I would be gone
I know this is very frustrating but if you love each other, stay. If the time is right, you guys will have a kid too. This child didn’t ask to be conceived and he seems like he wants to be a good parent even if it means dealing with the mother, going to appointments etc. , which is his responsibility. Either support him and accept it or let your insecurities consume you. It’s too late to turn back clocks and you can’t constantly worry about the things he will be doing or need to. If YOU want to stay, stay but just be kind to the baby who will need the love . Maybe tell him how you feel so he can reassure you about the relationship and the future dynamic ?
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If you truly love him stay with him. Don’t overthink everything or you can e d up destroying your relationship and your kids are already involved with him.
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leave him. anyone that jumps from relationships are narcissists
Sounds like you answered your own question. Read your post again.
Hold up if she’s only 5 months and this was before y’all then you guys have only been together a couple months to 4 months correct? I wouldn’t be planning on anything long term with this man until you guys have been together for a bit longer. Let things go as they are going to go and see how it ends up working for you or doesn’t before you decide on anything long term or permanent.
He didn’t cheated and it happened before you guys got together so no need to get insecure. If he only wants you then that’s all that matters
Why you questioning 
it
You are just selfish and this sounds like a pretty messed up relationship. No one, man or woman, should be giving up everything to be with someone else. Sounds unhealthy. And you sound like a little brat. He wants to man up and do the right thing, and you don’t want him to love anyone but you, even his own child. If HE was smart, he would walk away from YOU. You are never going to treat his child right no.matter what you say.
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Sounds like u are being hella love bombed and this guy is a total narcissist. I think u are completely delusional and full of love hormones and this whole thing is going to end in absolute and total disaster. Start looking at the red flags - I know u don’t want to see them but I know they’re there.
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This is stupid in my opinion. You have your own kids before him and he now has his own kid before you… what exactly does that change about y’all’s relationship?? 
Yes stay this happened before u and if u want a baby with him than have one. Things will get better he changed his whole life for u dont leave him
How are you so in love but only been together 5 months? You don’t even know him for real yet
Kinda sounds like your asking us to tell you to leave honestly like u need permission to make a decision…if u love him that much and your sure he loves you why is this even a question on here ? 
If I was him & saw this post, After everything he’s given up, I’d probably leave you.
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Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. The man I am seeing got someone pregnant before we got together: Should I stay with him?
He accepted ur kids as his own u didnt have his first bio baby dont do that to him
Where do these people come from
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What a shit situation I feel for you!! Xxxx
This is a red flag being shoved down your throat
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If he cheated on her hes cheating on you
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Wow a lot of people are being really mean. First of all you are a human being and your feelings are valid. You’re allowed to feel however you feel. I think the question you ask yourself is: do I love this man and can I see a happy healthy future together? Can you live without him? Can you get through this together and come out stronger & more bonded etc. People make mistakes and shit just happens sometimes. And it all comes down to the fact that, that baby is an innocent human being and deserves the most love and the healthiest happiest life possible, same as anyone else. Only you know the answer to your question. Don’t let other people sway you.
⁰stay together support him like he has supported you. Wait for the baby to come get a DNA, if it’s his child go to childsupport get some visitation rights to the child and move on with your life
He doesn’t have to go to the doctors with her or be there for the birth. Who’s to say it’s even his kid …. Don’t worry until there is a DNA test. He should not communicate with her unless it’s about paternity . He can demand a DNA test before the kid is born
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If hes taken on ur children u should do the same and support him in all honesty its his ex i feel for in this story been left alone then finding out shes pregnant 2 someone who left her for another women
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He didn’t lie to you , you didn’t find out on your own , and you’re happy with him and he loves you and your kids ! You have other kids too! Let it flow ! You think too much lol
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You haven’t been together for a while if she’s only 5 months pregnant unless you were his side chick. Remember what he did to her chances are he will do to you as well. Once a cheater always a cheater.
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She’s 5 months pregnant, got pregnant before you got together, and your relationship has progressed like this? Ffs.
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Not the babies fault. You should except that child of his as your own if you love him. A child can never have enough people to love and care for it.
Sounds like the plot from Virgin River 
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Sounds to me your plan is to emotionally sabotage him by being miserable and sad. You know he loves you to give up everything to be with you. I believe he really got the short end of the stick in your relationship. Either way I pray he has an amazing relationship with his child with or without YOU!!!
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So he loves and supports you even though you have two kids before him, but now you are struggling to stand by him with a baby that was before you?
How about this baby is coming into the world in a broken home. Think about that baby. All I hear you saying is “me,me,meeeeee”. Grow up or end it.
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I wonder if some of these questions are even real? You said he left her for you so were you a side peice? If you were he will probably get another one. You said you’ve been together for awhile, how is that if she’s 5 months pregnant?
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Your first two biological babies are not his. Same thing. Surely you will need to get a paternity test since you can’t blindly trust someone with something this serious, but you’re have been with him less than 5 months and you moved in together, he left everything and you think he’s the one? The one who obviously cheated on his previous relationship with both you and this girl. I think you should get therapy. You nees it.
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So if he owned a home and business with her, and I’m wondering if they were married? Within at least 5 months (unless you’re leaving something out and you’ve actually been together longer) he dropped all that and swore eternal love to you and your 2 children and moved into your apartment? I don’t mean to be rude but doesn’t that seem a bit odd to you? Look I got with my now husband under some less-than-perfect circumstances and we’re great now so I’ll never deny that someone with a strange story is actually in love. Just make sure he’s with you for the right reasons. And if you’re going to be with him that means accepting this baby 100%. As well as having a decent relationship with this woman he dipped out on 5 months ago from a pretty serious long term relationship.
Also my first husband taught me this: People lie. Get both sides to every story.
He’s taken on your kids so you can’t say that you should’ve had his first child, you didn’t have his first child. If you love him then stay with him. How does he know it’s his though? Get a dna test and he doesn’t have to go to appointments. Get that dna test, she could’ve been with other men and he’s the easiest one that she knows would help her. You’re really overthinking and to be honest, it’s not fair to him.
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You’ve only been together for 5 months and have an insanely deep connection. Sounds fishy
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